Alex says: I did something mean

One word I'm hearing a lot this week is "drama." Girls say there's an awful lot of it in middle school. I have to agree.

Sometimes, with feelings running strong, we create our own dramas. Say something we shouldn't. Do something we know is not right. Get ourselves all upset and out of whack.

Alex is in that spot and she'd like some advice. Here's her question:

Dear PLS,
I did something mean. I made this girl in my class break up with her boyfriend. Everyone in my class keeps judging me. The truth is I liked him first. Now everyone knows. I found out that she broke up with him because they kept getting talked about in the whole school and the big kiss they had after school. I can't go back to school with them thinking its me to blame.
Alex, 13

I say she should be honest and apologize to the girl, and maybe even the guy. Maybe then other people will stop blaming her?

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Blogger danna said...

alex,
exactly the same thing happned to me
i liked a boy called ryan but my bestie
liked him too so they went out and ever
sinse she didnt talk to me bt i emailed
her and told her that i am sorry i had to
get iinvoled and she said its okay that
she hated him all along and now we are
best frinds again

May 29, 2009 at 8:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Same happened with me too! I suggest you just go to school and try to staighten this whole mess out. Why don't you and your friend both promise to not go for that guy. Friends aren't worth losing over a boy.

May 29, 2009 at 1:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

alex,
i had this happen to me to. what happened is my freind really liked this guy and so did i so i told him a dark secret of hers and he told EVERYONE he saw. and she got sooooo mad at me she didn't talk to me for about a month so i apoligized after i had enough of that not talking to me and we never fought about a boy agian so we kool now

May 29, 2009 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

alex
i bet if your honest and apoligize
then it will blow over soon enough!
good luck!
loveeKS:)

May 29, 2009 at 8:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I totally agree. My school is filled with day to day drama and friend fights. One thing I've learned is just always apoligize. Hope it helps some of you.

May 29, 2009 at 8:31 PM  
Anonymous MIRANDA said...

IT HAPPENED TO ME TO SO DONT WORRY JUST SAY SORRY AND GO BACK TO SCHOOL AND STRAIGHTEN IT OUT AND IT WILL BE FINE

TAKE IT FROM ME ......

May 30, 2009 at 6:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i KNOW YOU SHOULD APOLIGIZE BUT ITS REALLY HARD!! so because like you dont want to look like some dork or say somthing dorky so just say "well im really sorry and i dont want to sound all weird and mushy but i truly am sorry

May 31, 2009 at 12:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi alex,
im a 7th grader an ive been through the same thing, so if u r to embaresed to say youre sorry just go up to the girl & say you are very sorry and u did not mean to break you to up!!!!
DONT WORRY ULL BE OKAY ALEX

May 31, 2009 at 1:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everyone makes mistakes just say sorry to both of them and forget about it get rid off the drama its so stressful keep on trucking!!

May 31, 2009 at 7:57 PM  
OpenID idastar9 said...

I know you probably have had relationships that happened in the past, but the most important thing is to apologize and forget what happened because if you don't apologize, everyone will keep blaming you even though you did make your friend break up with her boyfriend. The point is to APOLOGIZE. It's the only. AND tell the truth. It might hurt to your friend, but its going to be off your shoulder once you tell her and her boyfriend.

June 1, 2009 at 7:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the same thing happened 2 me i made my friend break with a boy so i could go out with him

June 2, 2009 at 12:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just forfget about. It's only a boy

June 2, 2009 at 6:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Apoligize That Is The Best Thing You can do, Alex. Give them a litte Gift to say your sorry. And be strong, Dont let other kids get to ya. Remember the saying "Sticks And Stones My Break my bones, But Words Shall never hurt me." Good luck alex :)

June 3, 2009 at 12:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just be urself lol good luck just apologize to the girl and u will feel heaps betta
luv A

June 4, 2009 at 9:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Alex,
I think you ought to apologize to both of them. Even though you maybe did like him first, it's not fair if you tear them apart because of you were first. It doesn't matter who was first--what happens happens. I can only say this in the most simpliest way,

"deal with it."

And even if they don't, or nobody does not forgive you, hey, no problem. What can you do? You've apologized already and if you know you were truly sorry, that's enough. If nobody sticks up to you, you can and will. And so will the people of PLS and me.=]

June 6, 2009 at 6:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Listen, give your friend some time to cool off. Then let her have the guy because quite honestly, relationships like that won't flourish at all. It's better to have a good friend for life than a boyfriend for a month or so. If people are being mean and ignoring you, try and find someone to talk to. Usually teachers will try and get you involved but try yourself. Join some clubs and make friends with people!
Hope it helps,
S

June 7, 2009 at 5:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, all you have to do is call her up, and tell her how you really feel. Things will work out I promise, if she's the kind of best friend to have she'll forgive you. Don't sweat it, you've gotten two months for her to get over and that will definately be enough time for her to to get well over it and move on to someone else in her life.
Best Wishes & Hopes,

June 7, 2009 at 2:03 PM  
Anonymous Snuggles said...

Yeah, this happens to a lot of us, Alex. The main ting is just try to be friends with the girl and apolojize to them both and tell them that you were having a tantrum ad then they will augh and you guys could be friends. :P :) :D

June 7, 2009 at 4:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If i was put into the situation i would apologize 2 the girl and guy then set the record straight with anyone whose blowing u off or giving u the cold shoulder over that. If they do not believe u then u should get the "couple" to explain that it is not exactly ur fault.As u said they broke up because they were being talked about. There fore i wouldnt actually say its ur fault more along the lines of a whole group of kids. U were just an easy target by the individuals in this situation and u took it and it made u guilty. just hang in there and stay strong! (^=

June 10, 2009 at 5:35 AM  
Anonymous taya said...

i have hade the same thing happen to me one of my bffls startyed goin out wit my biggest crush yea i was a little jelous but i evntuewally got over u shoul just apoligse and beg for forgivnes and mabey just mabey she will for gie u

June 11, 2009 at 11:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

say sorry to the girl and boy and hope it all works out if it doesn't you must have other friends that will support u and stand up to the others u will be surprised how happy u feel around friends who care about u

June 12, 2009 at 3:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

once i had a freind and i told her who i fancyed, the very next week she went out with him. i felt hurt but i didnt want a boy 2 come between us so i told her that even though she had hurt me i still wanted 2 b freinds instead she told the boy lies about me, this made him hate me. i never forgave her 4 dat and hav nt spoken 2 her since. even though this is slitly different u should still say sorry or u might regret it and lose both of them. if that happens, ur worse of than u started which means non of u lot win. so think about it and make da right decision. ok?

June 12, 2009 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree that you should apologize to both of them and tell them how you felt and why you did it.

June 12, 2009 at 11:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think Alex shouldn't be scared of what people think she knows she didn't do it and after a good summer vacation they may forget and if they don't who cares they think the couple broke up know you didn't do it and so do you it doesn't matter what they think it's only what you think

June 15, 2009 at 2:44 PM  
Anonymous 6gg said...

just say sorry it will be fine the same thing happened to me! believe me!

June 19, 2009 at 3:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That happen to everbody in 6th grade everbody liked one person its okay from a 8th grader

June 22, 2009 at 9:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I did something mean too. one day i was really mad at this girl cause she won almost every contest and i never won any plus when i met my bestie friend it seemed like she was trying to take her from me. so one day i was on the phone with the girl and told her some "things" that my other friend said to her but she really didnt but anyway they broke up their friend ship and after a day or two i felt horrible about it. so i apoligized to her and my other friend and now every one has forgave each other and we became best friends. so my advice is that u should apoligize to both of them and their will be some heat at first but after sometime it will all cool down.

June 24, 2009 at 1:07 AM  
Anonymous Lachelle said...

Alex,

I guess you should talk to her about how you felt about him.Then what you should do is apologize to both of them.Then explain that you didn't want them to break up afterwards.Give it until the next day to see if they cooled down.

July 2, 2009 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Alex,
Just clear everything up with them.
HOPEFULLY they will forgive. If people are still blaming you then just IGNORE it!

July 31, 2009 at 10:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i would frist tell my best friend and boy sorry and try 2 make things better for all of us.

August 6, 2009 at 2:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Say sorry to your bff and the boy. Explain what you did worng.
Good Luck.

September 12, 2009 at 1:58 PM  
Anonymous Stephanie said...

Just be strong Alex everything will be ok once you talk to your bff and that boy

September 15, 2009 at 1:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this happened to me too! My bff liked someone that i liked but i let her have him! a friend is more than a boy!!! Alwayz remember thAT ALEX!

October 5, 2009 at 8:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should talk with both and explain, its the better way. You should talk to the other people in your school and apologize to those 2 guys

December 9, 2009 at 4:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Alex,

I would apologise to ur friend somehow or email her and explain ur feelings. Its not worth losing friends over. Just ignore the people staring at you and concerntrate on whats important. You'll get through this....think happy!

December 22, 2009 at 7:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should really apoligize 2 those 2, and tell all ur friends 2 not tell anyone else, and have them do that 2.

March 19, 2010 at 9:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry... its not your fault.. i mean, this happens to every girl one time or another... i'm really drama prone so i know what to do... go one with your life, just be yourself and don't let people judge you and tell you otherwise! hope this helped!
~~cdd

September 6, 2011 at 3:13 PM  

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