Her crush moved away

Summer seems like a romantic time with all the starry nights and crickets chirping, but some girls are writing in saying they feel kinda sad. Why? Because they like someone and they haven't seen him since school let out. D.G. has it even worse. Her crush just moved away.

Does anyone have advice for getting over someone who's gone away?

Dear PLS,
This is the third time i've asked this question!!! My crush moved and i was really close to .I've been crying. What should i do?
D.G., 11

Awww...D.G. I'm sorry you've been so sad. I'd say wipe your tears and find something to keep you busy. Take on a project like planting in your garden or taking up a new sport. Tennis, anyone? It doesn't mean you won't miss your crush, but I think it helps to be out and about when you feel bummed. What else, girls? Any advice for D.G.?
Think pink!


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Anonymous NG said...

It's OK just keep yourself busy avoid thinking about him.Spend time with friends.

June 26, 2009 at 5:41 PM  
Anonymous Lizzie said...

call him...or email him!! Or write him romantic letters!LOL!!

June 26, 2009 at 9:13 PM  
Anonymous Anya said...

i think you should just forget him !! its just a crush right ?? but if you have been crying then mabey its more then a crush ?? i agree with lizzie.. try emailing him if you have his email address if you don't ask one of his buddies if he has already moved away...you can always stay in touch ! if that does not work then yes, you should try some fun activities especially hanging out with your friends !! there always the people who can also give you great advice !! i dont know about you but im the cheerful girl who can always make someone laugh, smile, and help them when there down ! also try talking to your older sister if you have one (especially if you guys are close), or your mom if your close with her to ! eventally you will realize that there are other guys who are just as cute and great !

June 27, 2009 at 2:37 AM  
Blogger Suzette said...

This has happened to me to. If you know were he lives you can write to him. But here's my question "Is this boy you think you would get married to someday?", if the answer is no, then you could be a little less upset about it. And think of this to, you will meet other people someday too.

June 27, 2009 at 7:45 AM  
Anonymous Kelsie-Lauren said...

I agree with Anya, you should just forget about him move on see other people.
Theres plenty more fish in the sea.
Just have fun, hanging around with friends.

June 27, 2009 at 8:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

eh my god i know how you feel X X X i wouldn't worry about it too much, because at this point there isn't much you can do. just write a list about everything good about him, and refer to it everyday, and try and keep in touch with him by sending him letters, to let him know that you still care about him

hope you recover soon


June 27, 2009 at 8:42 PM  
Anonymous Lizzie said...

could you tell us wat happens?? like post wat happens

June 28, 2009 at 2:23 PM  
Anonymous Jordan said...

Well, I just moved away from my crush. But think, if they moved away, it just wasn't meant to be. Besides, I found someone even better!

June 29, 2009 at 9:28 AM  
Anonymous Jenna said...

Try not to cry because you can always call your crush or you and your crush can get together on the weekends and hangout.

June 30, 2009 at 12:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

itll deffinitlly take time to move on, honestly i have been in this situation to, like everyone else said, try emailing him or even texting him. When i started emailing my cruch that moved away, we actually became really close friends. Everybody needs to cry it out sometimes, so just cry it out. But dont let him moving away ruin your fun and your summer, you deserve to smile :)

June 30, 2009 at 7:22 PM  
Blogger lachelle said...

I understand how it feels like to have a crush than them moving away.Although you're only 11 you still have a lot of time to live.I predict you're gonna have more crushes and some people may crush on you so there isn't much to worry about.If you still miss him just avoid thinking0 of him.

July 1, 2009 at 9:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if u can't call him or email him, don't worry! maybe u should try to get ur mind off him. do other things! spend time with family and friends! go places! and what ever u do, don't obsess about it! cuz really, ur only 11!!!!!

Ayla, 15

July 7, 2009 at 10:31 AM  
Anonymous M.G said...

stop crying some guys are just not worth it and you might find someone even better

July 8, 2009 at 2:56 PM  
Anonymous S.S. said...

Don't be sad, you can find another boyfriend or you could ask one of his buddies for his email address. If that doesn't work don't worry u r only 11!

July 8, 2009 at 3:12 PM  
Anonymous Megan said...

Thats sad but when someone moves away you can just email,aim,meebo and theres many more techonology to keep in touch. And proboly you to werent meant to be. Keep believing in anything you put your mind to maybe you can have a long distance realationship.
Hope everything turns out well


July 9, 2009 at 1:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maybe find out if he is thinking about you too. Did he like you too?

- Brittany

July 13, 2009 at 9:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey i know how you feel. im crying here in my room. and dont worry i mean i really liked a boy named carson but hes moving so i just thought i had to move on and i know this isnt goo advice but

July 20, 2009 at 12:53 AM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

My crush moved away to Japan. He said we can video chat,e-mail and even call each other. We we're so close to be together. But, when I try to he never answers. Do he still like me?

October 17, 2009 at 9:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey! I had a crush in public school. Now i am homeschooled. UGH! I want to get in contact with him but idk how. My friend says hi to him for me every now and then. What should I do? JENNA PLEASE ANSWEER MY QUESTION!!! I BEG OF YOU!!!

October 21, 2009 at 1:33 AM  
Anonymous maddie said...

this is for you taytay,
i know a girl who is homeschooled and she still plans movie nights and stuff at her house with her old (boy and girl) bff's. how about YOU plan a movie night at ur house!(or the movies) just write notes and invite your old bff's and crush (and dont forget to invite his friends too!) you can give the notes to your friend and tell her to give them to the people! hope it helped!
P.S. dont forget snacks and at the end of the night dont forget to say "we should all hang out again sometime" and just try to have a nice time because if u have fun they will too and chances are the people u invited probably miss you!!!!!!!!!! i wish u good luck taytay!

October 30, 2009 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi DG, these are 3 tips for any one I've learned the same way as you are going to learn now:
1)If you really were serious about him, try keeping in touch with him thru the net or or meet up every once a while if he's in town.if you become friends that way, you definitely can't lose him!
2)If you are shy or its impossible for you two to be together,don't think of him(it was just a crush!)and ask your friends to help you keep him out of your mind by getting involved in a lot of activities or a new skill.
3)Forget him!It's a huge world of guys out there and very soon you will find some one else! GOOD LUCK!!!! Saasha

November 4, 2009 at 9:35 AM  
Anonymous Amber said...

yeah,same thing happend to me,cept I moved away.i was really sad but then i started to like my bffls bro....hes 9th grade im in 8th grade,its rele awesome cuz he likes meh to.

November 19, 2009 at 2:03 PM  
Blogger T98 said...

I had the same problame-o, but it was when I was in third grade. The guy was sooooooo sweet and he would stand up for me. It was sooo cute. Then right in the middle of it, he moved away. I've missed him ever since, but I just don't let it bother me anymore. Just try and look at the bright things in life.

November 22, 2009 at 12:19 AM  
Blogger battynora said...

when your crush has moved away do something don't sit in your house and think about him do something you like whether it's gardening or pottery do something to take your mind off him after a while you won't miss him and probably get a new crush it is a bit hard to understand now but after a while you'll understand

December 3, 2009 at 7:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Even though ur crush moved away it doesn't mean it's the end of the world. think of things 2 take him off ur mind. u can always find a new crush 2.

December 6, 2009 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well when i was in first grade i had a crush but in summer break i moved and i still do misshim because i dont think that i will like any one more than i liked him but life keeps going and you have to go on with it right now i have a new crush but i wont ever forget my firt crush and mabe some day you may see him again.

December 12, 2009 at 12:22 PM  
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December 13, 2009 at 4:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well, i know how that can be. my crush and i used to have the exact same schedule. the prob was, that he was super smart so he took the more advanced classes and skipped some of homeroom. unfortunately, it got in the way of too many other classes and he changed schedules! i still see him but i'm still sad. so it's got to be torture for you. it'll feel like you'll never find love again. but maybe in a few months you'll find out that you're better off without him. that's what happened with me. i can shine in class now without my crush getting called on every question. think about the possitives of him moving. don't drown in the neggatives. find somebody that was close to him and knows a lot about him. they'll be just as sad and you can hang out with him/her and have a new crush and a new friend!

December 19, 2009 at 1:16 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've recently lost my best guy friend and ive been IN LOVE with him for over a year and a half. It's complicated... We have always been really good friends but ive always loved him. We met on my birthday last year on msn. A friend was at my house and she already went to school with him so i was meeting her friends on msn,because I would be going to that school in the upcomming fall. I liked him alot. But little did I know what I would be falling into. We became best friends but he had a thing for my best friend and my enemy. It seemed like everyone but me. Because we were best friends he would tell me about the girls and ask for advise... And stupid me I just went along with it crying all the time. We would talk all night long litterally. Whatch tv over the phone. Sunsets over the phone . Hang out. Go to hockey games . Everything. It was like a farytale/heartake. then as the year went on.. we started to drift a bit because I couldn't take it anymore.. And I do sports and he dosen't. He told be he would be moving over the summer so I made him a magnificant scrapbook and he ended up not moving.. I got a bit ANGERY! But never said anything. School started again and we were still pretty close. He was going toi "move" over Christmas break. I tohught it was just a lie again so i didnt really take it serioustly.. He saved me the last dance at the dance and told me that I was the one he wanted to dance with that day. That was the last time I ever saw him, How can I give him up? What should i write him in an e mail?

January 10, 2010 at 10:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is 4 Rachel:
Don't be worried about him forgetting you. I mean, it must be soooo busy and complicated moving all the way to Japan! if he liked you enough to suggest keeping in touch, then he probably intends to. he'll e-mail you or something eventually.

I hope this is helpful!

January 17, 2010 at 4:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

awwwwwwwwww sorry ihope u feel better

February 12, 2010 at 4:30 PM  
Anonymous April said...

Dear D.G:I have a situation like this one all ready.I had have a crush on this super cute guy who was one of my friends on the school.Finally when I was up to tell him That I had a crush on him he move to another school.Iwas sad for months but then I forget it.He dont deserves that I cry like that for him so I forget him and when I find him in some plases I act normally.
hope my comment help

February 27, 2010 at 10:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry. I know how you feel. The boy I loved moved away almost a year ago. After a while your gonna have to move on. Try hanging out with your friends it should help you get your mind off of him.

March 29, 2010 at 11:23 PM  
Anonymous Ishmily said...

kk...now take a deep breath i EXACTLY how you feel cuz my crush/bff is moving in 2 weeks and we've been nieghbors since we were 5ish! Ugh i'm so sad myself i'm not even sure how to deal with it!!! We are really close and we've alway have been...he knows i have a crush on him and we joke about it...still i wish we would go out the thing i suggest for you is to stay in contact with this awesome sounding dude you never no what could happen!!! I love Britton so much and i hope you love your crush as much as i love mine. P.S. Britton gave me the nickname Ishmily (my real name is Emily)so if you have a nickname that he gave you then you could always remember him that way!!! I hope i helped!!!


May 26, 2010 at 8:47 PM  
Anonymous kp said...

i would write him a letter, call him, or just go to his house

June 19, 2010 at 1:23 PM  
Anonymous ana banana said...

something similar happend to me but instead i moved away and left him! i suggest you email him and keep in touch. after some time the "pain" will start to wear off, i know it hurts but..
good luck :)

June 22, 2010 at 10:07 PM  
Anonymous Prue said...

stop thinking about him. you can do it girl!!!

June 24, 2010 at 10:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel!!! One of my best friends just went on to high school and i miss him so much! trust me though, once you start to get busy during the summer- summer jobs, hanging with friends,etc, you start to feel a lot better! and think about it this way- he just moved out of the area-you can still call him and talk to him and stay in-touch! hope it helps!

June 27, 2010 at 12:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know how u feel my best friend moved away 2 years ago and i still cry for her and miss her and wish to be adopted by her family so sorry for u to

June 27, 2010 at 6:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

aww i want to read the whole book online but it would only let me read a chapter ahhhhhh

June 30, 2010 at 5:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i never really had a crush so i dont make it a big deal i a guy moves away that is in my grade

June 30, 2010 at 5:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my crush moved away and idc he just a boy u can see boys every day and like a new one

July 1, 2010 at 5:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im so sorry... but mabey u should try to move on such as doing things u love... sports hang with a BUNCH of people laugh live your life now to the fullest add some colour to your day!! do something that u havent done! and dont worry there will be more around the corner

July 3, 2010 at 12:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It happened to me too this summer. my crush moved away. He was my neighbor but he never knew i liked him. I was wondering if i could have some help too.

October 6, 2010 at 12:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The same thing happened to me!! I was even going to tell him I like him! He moved away, and I couldn't get over him for like a YEAR, then I met this other guy, and I THOUGHT I liked him, but then I saw something that made me think of my old crush, and I nearly started crying. I still love him, and I have no way of contacting him. I'm still looking around, but even though I know a lot of guys my age, I only consider ONE of them my ALMOST friend. Just keep looking, and hoping. Maybe he'll come back someday :)

November 12, 2010 at 3:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that happened to me last summer and i cryed my eyes out. but since were best friends. i talk to him 24/7 and we hang out sometimes but my friends helped mee get over him n now i just refer to him as a friend. if you get a chance to hang out with him then go for it. im sure he misses you as much as you miss him especially if you too were friends

March 21, 2011 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just moved, but my crush and I..he liked me. And I didn't know it until it was too late.

December 22, 2012 at 9:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

D.G., remember that in the future, YOU are somebody's future wife, that means everything to somebody. That situation happened to me. One of my teachers asked what middle school he would go to, and he said, he would be moving away. I tried to prepare for when he moved, but when I tried to move on, he was always there.

May 28, 2015 at 9:19 AM  

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