Let him down gently

Let me start by saying this is a very POPULAR question. I think it shows how caring and sensitive girls are. The question is this: What if a guy likes you, but you only like him as a friend? How do you tell him? Here are a few girls who are asking this question:

From Mel, 12
This is the 3rd time i've sent this and i've still had no reply!!! PLEASSEE HELP!!!!!!! A boy at my school lyks me and i don't lyk him back!! i don't want to hurt his feelings what do i do!!!

From CH, 12
If a boy asks you out and you dont like them and you dont want to hurt there feelings what should you say?

From Clueless, 13
What do i do if a boy likes me alot but i dont like him and he wont stop trying to contact me and i dont want to hurt his feelings?

Notice how everyone is trying not to hurt the guy's feelings. I, myself, have not had this particular problem, but I think this article has pretty good advice. So girls, what do you do when you need to tell someone you don't like them in a mushy-gushy romantic way?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just say, "I'm not looking for a relation ship right now. But I would love to be friends." Or, " As flattering as that is, I don't see us that way."

June 23, 2009 at 2:15 PM  
Blogger Alexis said...

when boys like girls it is more important then girls liking boys because us girls start liking boys before boys are out of the she has cooties stage.

June 23, 2009 at 3:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Mel,
Maybe while your texting, ask him who he likes. If he says you, say who you like. After you say that boys name say "But I think your really funny though, and cute too." Something like that.

June 23, 2009 at 6:13 PM  
Blogger Suzette said...

I've had this happen many times before, and all I said was "I'm not looking for a relationship right now, but I still like you as a friend" or with boys who are annoying you can just say "Sorry I'm not in a hurry to have a relationship, but It would be great to get to know you!"

June 23, 2009 at 6:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've never had this happen to me before so i don't know if i can help, but tell him you just want to be friends an your not ready to have a relationship.

June 24, 2009 at 9:07 AM  
Anonymous Annamarie said...

If I was in this situation I dont think i would do anything to be honest. If its awkward being around him, he always follows you...etc, then dont ignore him because that WILL hurt his feelings. it might be best to just joke around with him once in a while to lose the tension but not too much because you dont want to be sending out the wrong signals. But if you cant get him away from you, going off with your friends might be best but do not make it obvious you dont wanna be with him. Either way, you might wanna be careful u dont send out the wrong signals. Too friendly can seem that you DO want to be more than friends. Not friendly at all could possibly hurt his feelings and you clearly dont want that to happen. Hope that helped - sorry im not the best advice giver. Thats just whati would consider and do If i was in that situation.

June 24, 2009 at 1:59 PM  
Anonymous Annamarie said...

Also, if it comes to the point where he actually asks you out - boys hate the same old excuses so dont go making stuff up! Let him down smoothly and it would be a good idea to say that you just wanna be friends.

June 24, 2009 at 2:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just act like your friend likes her and he mite tell u who he likes.

June 24, 2009 at 3:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i like cheese and bye the way you should tell him you dont want to have a boyfriend now and say you need to focus on a certain subject in school. it might work. it did for me!

June 25, 2009 at 1:09 AM  
Anonymous Lizzie said...

Just say:

i know that i am NOT going to find the perfect guy..at this age. but i know that ive found the perfect fren in you!!

June 28, 2009 at 2:28 PM  
Blogger lachelle said...

Tell him that I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship yet, and I dont want to hurt your feelings so can we just be friends.

I'm just too young to have a relationship and my last one didn't end well.I sill can't get over it.
I have a lot of stuff on my mind and I think we should just start off as friends.

July 1, 2009 at 9:52 PM  
Anonymous Kayla said...

ive had this happen to me. HE BROUGHT ME A BOX OF CHOCOLATES ON VALENTINES DAY!!!!!!! but then he started likeing my friend.
hehe poor brooke.

July 1, 2009 at 11:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a boyfriend and he went on hliday,and this other boy that I didn't like came and sed that he wants to be my boyfriend! but I sed no.

July 2, 2009 at 1:06 PM  
Anonymous Megan said...

Hey just wanna give advice about this situation ts cause this is also happening to me too before we let out to the summer. All these guys like me in class and it gets so annoying but just ignore it if you really dont like it but if you feel concerned then talk to him and make a conversation about this.

Hopes this help. Good Luck!!! :)


July 9, 2009 at 1:11 PM  
Anonymous CaliforniaGurl101 said...

the same thing happened to me. just say u want to b friends

September 19, 2010 at 8:21 PM  

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