Is she old enough for a boyfriend?

You know you can drive when you're 16 and vote when you're 18, but how old do you have to be to have a boyfriend? That's what one of our Pink Locker friends wants to know...

dear pls,
im 12 and i wanted to know am i too young to have a boyfriend.. if so whats the proper age to have one?
sonakshi, 12
ps --i love ur site

I say it really depends on what you mean by "boyfriend." I'm in 8th grade and boyfriends are common, but couples don't usually last very long. I had one, for about a week, in 7th grade. He was nice but the whole thing just made me feel weird. And, of course, it wasn't Forrest. (Forrest is my crush of all crushes. Read the book to find out more!)

So what do you say, girls? When is the right age to have a boyfriend? Or is there no right age?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Blogger purenrgfanatic said...

I think 18 is a good age

June 25, 2009 at 4:25 PM  
Anonymous NG said...

I think 16 is the right age.

June 25, 2009 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It depends. Some parents have a specific age they want. I'd say that as long as you're comfortable with being in a relationship then it's ok. And it also depends if it's a serious relationship or just "puppy love" as they call it; a bf/gf thing that really isn't serious. Your choice. Hope I helped! - Erica :)

June 26, 2009 at 1:33 AM  
Anonymous Lizzie said...

15

June 26, 2009 at 9:14 PM  
Anonymous Anya said...

I say the right time to have a boyfriend/girlfriend is when you are ready to commit. In middle school if you are dating do you really think about how you will date for ever and someday get married !! i say start dating when you think that it will lead to something......otherwise if both of you like each other then be friends and get to know each other. and then later when you are ready and think that you guys really have something going then.....bring it to the next level !! <3

June 27, 2009 at 2:43 AM  
Anonymous Mirandaa(: said...

Well, im 12 too, ive been going out many times. My sisters have when they were my age too! But there is a big difference between dates and going out. Yeah, we are kinda young for relationships, usually it wont last too.My parents let me group "date". You go out with a guy with a bunch of friends or other dates, [that you know]!!!its also a lot more fun and you dont have to worry about the one on one. Also, you really dont need to start kissing and making out...yet. Wait a while, see if you make it... all that stuff.

June 27, 2009 at 8:21 AM  
Anonymous Mylene said...

In my opinion - you are never to young to have a boyfriend! Its just that as you get older, things tend to get more serious. My first boyfriend was in grade 5. Lasted a couple of days but we still did the asking out thing so it counts lol. next boyfriend, late grade 5. This one went a bit loopy because i swear we went out more than twice in one week :S. But grade 6 and this one lasted nearly 2 months. Im in grade 8 now and havent had a boyfriend since :( but hey - in grade 2 i was playing kisschase and kissed a boy on the cheek!!! I dont know - it depends how YOU see it. You decide when your ready tohave a boyfriend or not! Hope that helped!

June 28, 2009 at 1:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with the first post. 18 would be good because you are finally an adult. I am in 8th grade and every girl has a boyfriend except me, but I am ok with that because I don't want one. Being in a "relationship" in middle school can cause major drama and cause some poeple feelings to get hurt alot. Plus it can also get in the way of school work too. I have seen this firsthand in some girls who are all A or B students drop down to C students because they were so distracted by their boyfriends. I really don't suggest it becuase some girls especially the ones at my school get way caught up in it and will do anything to please thier boyfriend. So I say you should wait at leas until your junior maybe sophmore year in high school. Or just wait until your parents say you can have one. Remember boyfriends aren't a neccessity and you don't need them to be cool!

June 29, 2009 at 2:50 AM  
Anonymous Jordan said...

I think that you can date as long as you feel comfortable with it and your parents say it OK. But it's all about how you feel. If you don't feel totally ready, then you're not. I really hope I helped!

June 29, 2009 at 9:32 AM  
Anonymous Kayla said...

11 is a good age you are finslly going 2 middle school!

June 29, 2009 at 5:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

12 is too young for a boyfriend. It might seem like everyone else has one but think about it, he will probably become your center of attention and then what are you going to end up leaving behind? and if you don't talk then whats the point. You'll probably be graduating with the people in your classes now so it might be snarter to wait.

June 29, 2009 at 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if you feel like you're ready to date then great! you also need to find out from your parents what they think. also think that you'll be dating more of your life than not. hope this help!

June 30, 2009 at 8:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my first crush was in Preschool on a guy named Matthew.. I will never forget him. My first boyfriend was in 1st grade i didnt really know what it was. When he asked me to be his girlfriend i was like "Yes. what's that?" It was funny. I satyed with him until 4th grade. Then i thought it was time to move on. We both did actually. My first kiss on the cheek was with my first love. My first kiss on the lips was with the same guy. I loved him so so so so so much. But he had told a very big secret a personal one. So i broke up with him. Now he completely ignores me. I say hi he doesnt even look at me. He blocked me on email, and doesnt answer my fone calls!

June 30, 2009 at 11:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 11 i have a boyfriend.we went to my graduation dance together and he gave me a necklace. i'm an A student and i'm still an A student.all my friends have had boyfriends since forth grade. even if you dont want a boyfriend tellyour crush you like him. just because you both like each other doesnt make you boyfriend and girlfriend. my bff was going out with my boyfriend about a year ago and of course they broke up but their still very goo d friends. Hope this helps.

July 1, 2009 at 4:28 PM  
Blogger lachelle said...

I'm only 10 but I haven't gone out with anyone yet.I don't think I've found the right guy yet.So I guess all I'm saying is it depends on you if he's the right guy and you both like eachother thats great.Although when it comes to having a boyfriend keep in mind you have other priorites besides him.

July 1, 2009 at 9:38 PM  
Blogger Anna Banana said...

i'm 13 and i don't think i'd want to!!!

July 2, 2009 at 9:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it just depends on how you feel about it. if your going to be mature about it and you can make good decision then yeah but if your not going to and you want to be a total drama queen then no.

July 2, 2009 at 3:21 PM  
Blogger Hannah said...

i think that is people trying to grow up 2 fast(no offense) i have made this mistake and want to correct it bcuz your bf will probably not do anything except hug you when in fact u can hug your friends!! :) hope it helps!!

July 3, 2009 at 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think when youre mature enough ...

Maybe youngest about 11 and from then on upwards!
Ask your Mom she might not want you to hang around boys too much but then again ...

July 5, 2009 at 12:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i thinks that there is no age just when you feel that you are ready for a commited relasonship which can be at any age up to 14 and up

July 5, 2009 at 6:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At my school people have been dating since kindergarten and it annoys me! I haven't had a bf yet and I'm happy. You should have a bf (or gf) whenever you think you're ready, but just don't let it get to your head. Hope it helps!
~Anonymous Fan of PLS

July 5, 2009 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think the age should be 18,(you can have crush before that:) but it matters more on the person you want. like it doesn't mean that you're 18 and can't find a boyfriend,then forget it then, love can't escape.......you'll be married in a couple of years :-)

July 6, 2009 at 1:07 AM  
Anonymous bridget said...

I think that you can date at age 12. I am 12 and my parents will not let me have a boyfriend. if you have a crush, instead of straight up asking him out you should ask someone to ask him if he likes you. A good person to help you is another boy.
hope my advice helped.
:)bridget

July 6, 2009 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous Riley :)-- 12 said...

I think you should wait till your 13. I'm 12 and i had a boyfriend for awhile. It was awkward for me and he ended up being really immature outside of school. So i'm waiting till I can find a mature boy when im 13 :)

July 6, 2009 at 10:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Theres no right age really, but if your looking for a real age my opinion would be 17. Cos the younger you are the less complicated it is, and you dont really "love" eachother when your like 12 or 11 and ages like that. I`m just saying 17 cos I`ve heard of a lot of girls get hurt and stuff. Not hurt like the violent way hurt like the shouting way. I think if a relationship with a guy lasts like 2 years or longer you can continue with it but most relationships last like a month. What most guys want today are just skinny and popular girls. They dont always really care if your nice and friendly, and successfull and smart. I`m not saying all guys are like that, there are lots of guyz out there who do only care about ehats on the inside and not on the outside, but there are just as much guys out there who only care whats on the outside and not in the inside. I think if your older you`ll be able to handle stuff like this better too.

Hope this advice helps!

July 7, 2009 at 10:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that a good age to have a boyfriend is when you think you are mature enough to handle the responsibilitie and willing to be apart of being called "boyfriend" and "girlfriend". Having i realationship is hard so i heard but keeping through the summer or break is even harder so i heard again
-M.D.

July 8, 2009 at 4:57 PM  
Anonymous anna said...

um, i say wait, i also say when your about,say,15,16, i am 11 i steel have about,um, 4 5 years to . but i gess you can have ia school boyfriend. i hope this helps

July 8, 2009 at 10:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i think its all on maturity! if you think you ready to have a boyfriend than thats fine but if u think its weird to be dating than thats fine too... listen to your parents also because you may think they just dont want you to have a life but thats not true. there are reasons parents dont want girls to have boyfriends. and remember that if u think ur old enough then maybe you should

July 12, 2009 at 2:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 12. I don't have a bf either. Yes, there are some cute and nice guys. A lot of guys are jerks so just be careful if you do date. If you are very responsible, then find a guy who is not just hot, but sweet on the inside. Make sure it is someone who really cares about you.

Go ahead and have a bf! I think I am ready!

-Brittany :)

July 13, 2009 at 10:20 PM  
Anonymous Just The Girl Expert said...

Any age. People are different and they may get that special feeling for "him" anytime! "Love can happen anywhere, anytime,any place"

July 24, 2009 at 10:32 AM  
Anonymous Aditi said...

I think anywhere between 14 or 15 and up is a good age....that really is the PROPER age

July 24, 2009 at 3:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It depends what you mean by 'boyfriend.' In middle school, a lot of people "go out" without actually going anywhere. You ask someone out, hold hands in between classes, maybe give each other pecks on the lips, and break up soon after. Which is fine and perfectly normal. But when you're twelve you don't need to be actually going on dates, because you're young and still finding yourself. Once you enter high school (and hopefully know a little more about who you are, even if you're still changing) guys become a bigger part of your life. So at 14 dates and actual relationships come to play a lot more. Guys at that age, though, do have their mind in the gutter a LOT, so I wouldn't get very serious with one until about sixteen when you‘re more mature and ready to handle those kinds of things. There are different stages to dating and even though you may want to skip over one and dive straight into another you can't because you have to learn as you go and it's much, much better to make mistakes with a crush early on than a guy you really like (maybe even love) when you're older. So don't jump into things too deep or too fast! You're young and before you know it you'll be ready for a real boyfriend! (And you don't need an exact age either, mine were just estimates, everyone goes at their own pace)

July 27, 2009 at 5:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's whenever u want to, but it gets more popular in 6th 7th and 8th grade

July 27, 2009 at 8:41 PM  
Anonymous bubbles said...

I think 15.

July 28, 2009 at 2:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have already had 8 boyfriends. but they didn't last long. no matter what age you are you can have a boyfriend. i got my 1st boyfriend in 6th and im goin into 7th. (as you can see 8 bfs in 1 year they didnt last long!)

July 30, 2009 at 12:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's when you are ready to commit. There isn't a specific age for dating. I think it is when you can feel like you can stay with that particular person for a long time. That does not mean two weeks or a month.

July 30, 2009 at 5:26 PM  
Anonymous Beth said...

Id totally depends. Think of what i call the three P's. Do you like him cause he's "pretty"? (cute) than no. Popularity? depends. if he's pop because he's smart and likeable, sure. Personality? absouloutly! go 4 it. oh, and if he's more than one of these things, that's cool 2. but bware, know what u r going into.

August 1, 2009 at 4:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well....it depends.really u should talk to your mom or someone really close.if your muture enough its ok to have one.i think the proper age would be at least 15 or 16.

August 5, 2009 at 11:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 15 is a good time to have a boyfriend

August 6, 2009 at 1:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 13 and I don't want one. I'd say wait until high school.

August 6, 2009 at 5:46 PM  
Anonymous Kody said...

Hi!
i dont think theres a right age at all
but the thing is you have to have proper feelings for them
DONT RUSH IT!
hope it helps

August 7, 2009 at 9:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 12

August 10, 2009 at 12:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think around 12 or 13 is a good age but it also depends on yor parents.

August 10, 2009 at 4:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 11

August 10, 2009 at 8:42 PM  
Anonymous Niya Pie [[=]] said...

if your parents say you cant have a bf but you think or know you are ready tell them dnt b scared.When ever you as yourself are ready and feel its comfortable to have a bf but be4 u go up to your crush and get all googly eyes talk to your parents about how u feel and that you are comfortable and that you wont cross the line or let him cross the line.Later in your relationship talk to your parents about goin on group dates or just private dates or maybe him staying for dinner so they can safely chaperone the "date".Have his mom call yours or the other way around.But if you want to go steady make sure this a choice you nd your beau are ok with, when you make your decision you dnt have to tell anyone if you dnt want to but dont rush date when your ready.!!!!!!!!!!!!*********!!!!!!!!!BIG TIP IF YOUR CRUSH ASKES YOU OUT AND YOUR NOT READY TO DATE OR CANT TELL HIM THE SITUATION!!!!!!!!!************!!!!!!!

August 11, 2009 at 1:16 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

around 14 to 15 years old

August 12, 2009 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous Nadine said...

14 to 15 years old

August 12, 2009 at 7:41 PM  
Anonymous Sam said...

Well, my mum won't let me date until 16 but any age is ok for a bo.

August 12, 2009 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think u should be in middle school. boys can be very immature and u never know what they'll do, that's why u have to be mature and know how to handle a bf.... trust me, its really tough with boys. but talk to ur parents when U think UR ready.

August 18, 2009 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 12 as well, and I've had 3-4 boyfriends =) I say it's ok to date unless you both really like eachother, and you take it seriously, not just dating a boy for popularity, or just because you want to know what a boyfriend is like. Anyways, if you did want to know what a boyfriend is like, then you should like the boy you try it with. Hope this helped =)

Kaiters

August 21, 2009 at 3:11 PM  
Anonymous Samantha said...

It really depends what you mean by boyfriend. When your little everyone's your boyfriend, you know? But you don't really know what a boyfriend is. When your like 10-14, your boyfriends aren't serious, you don't go on actual dates, but you text eachother and talk on the phone etc. I think when your 15 you start to act more serious about boyfriends, but remember boys mature at a different age. I think a boyfriend you hang out with at school is fine at like 10-14, but actually going out or having serious relationships depends on the person and the maturity.

SORRY IF I BORED YOU TO DEATH LOL!!!

August 23, 2009 at 1:54 AM  
Anonymous hi3334 said...

I think school is the number one priority, and that if you are able to handle a boyfriend (one that likes you for the person you truly are inside!!!) it's fine to hang out with a guy. But I wouldn't suggest it to middle schoolers. Usually (trust me I've seen this happen; I was in grade 8 last year) people who are boyfriend/girlfriend tend to be very dramatic (this is middle school bf and gf) and they hook up just for the attention/popularity. I decided that I'll have a boyfriend that is smart, outgoing and fun to be with, AND! that cares about his grades. I have to maintain the 95 average in high school (as best as I can lol) in order to achieve the stuff I want and to get the scholarships that I am aiming for. I can't let an immature popular boy get in my way of reaching my dreams!!!!!!!!! :)
Just remember-
NO RUSH!!!!
lol
-hi3334

August 26, 2009 at 11:45 AM  
Anonymous rei rei25 said...

i dont think there is an age for that kind of stuff. i mean your 12 you should date if you really like this guy. this kind of stuff is serious. but never be afraid to date. i think thats cool!you should always chase anything you belive in!!!!
-rei rei

August 29, 2009 at 10:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think as long as u like them startin in 3rd grade u could

August 31, 2009 at 4:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 12 is too young im 12 and all my friends have boyfriends i dont think i need one , boys are ok but im not in love with them but i think its ok to have asecret crush!!

September 1, 2009 at 1:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 11 and i have had five boyfriends and just got a new one it should be fine

September 2, 2009 at 1:47 AM  
Anonymous jeni11rules said...

Boy friends are a complicated matter.If I were you,I'd take some time to see if your ready and then make your decision. trust me. I know what Im talking about.

September 4, 2009 at 10:42 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

I vote on like ummmmmmmmmm... maybe 13? idk. im 12, and a bunch of friends have had boyfriends. my guy friends had girlfriends, but they r mostly a year older then me.

September 6, 2009 at 10:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ANY AGE!!!!! LOVE IS LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I HAD A BEST GUY FRIEND AND ONE DAY WE WERE SITTING TOGETHER ON THE BUS AN THE BUS WENT ON A BUMP WE WERE BOTH ABOUT TO SAY SOMETHING TO EACH OTHER AND RIGHT WEN WE TURNED AROUND WE ENDED UP KISSING ,OH BY THE WAY IM 11, AND AND WE BOTH FELT A SPARK OR SUMTHING AND WE ARE NOW GOING OUT MY PARENT HAVE MET HIM AND EVERYTHING! KEEP LOVI'N AND STAY LOVI'N!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 6, 2009 at 8:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

any age... my mum had her 1st boyfriend in grade 5, around 10 years old!!!!

September 12, 2009 at 9:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'd say when you graduate, but that's my opinion. Your school is out of the way, you might have moved out, and you need someone to support you while your'e in Uni. My dad said I can have a boyfriend when I was 52, I know he was joking, but I could tell he'd preffer that.lol.
I have never kissed a boy, never gone out, never had a boyfriend, AND I've never ever held hands with a boy. Even in Preschool I rejected being close to boys, in that sort of way. I have pretty good grades I guess. I've had crushes on my best friends, and it really is annoying. I have best friends that are all mostly boys, and they know I act more like a boy then a mushy girl. One of my friends called me a boy one day. It annoyed me but I guess it taught me that I was more playful and aggressive than boys.
I just realized some of this had nothing to do with the question hahahh.

September 14, 2009 at 7:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

heyy, i think you should have one in and eighth grade or above i am in 7th grade and i recommend that you do not go out with anyone just to be popular. becareful when you choose your guy, make sure he is nice sweet and respects you. also make sure he respects himself witch means he does not go to school and talks back to teachers. you never want a boyfriend to be a trouble maker.

September 19, 2009 at 8:37 PM  
Anonymous jasmine said...

haha i am nearing 15 n i still dont have a boyfriend but my friends had boyfriends since dey wer in 5th grade

September 21, 2009 at 4:33 AM  
Blogger blank said...

I BELIEVE IT DEPENDS ON U AND UR HEART! DO WATS RITE OR WAT U THINK IS RITE AND SOMETHING DAT UR PARENTS WUD AGREE WIT! THATS JUST MI OPION! i'M 11 AND BOYS IN 7TH GRADE LIKE ME AND SAY AGE IS JUS A #! BUT AT TIMES I'M NOT SURE! DEN AGAIN THEY ARE MORE MATTURE!
XOXOXOX,
MOODDA(NOT MY REAL NAME FOR PRIVACY PURPOSES)!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 24, 2009 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous PrincessKate97 said...

Disney Channel is giving a very bad example for lil girls! On the movie: Jump In, the little sister is eight and has a boy friend! Wow...... Soo duumb

September 27, 2009 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well im 11 and i have bf but in 6th grade it feels like everyone has a bf but if u dont want one its not madatory but ure realy never too young too have one it depends on how searious u r.

October 4, 2009 at 1:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 15 and i thought i was ready for a committed relationship but when i had a boyfriend i realized i wasn't ready for commitment and we broke up. Enjoy being single now you're still young:)

October 5, 2009 at 9:34 AM  
Anonymous Teal :) said...

it depends if you feel ready to HAVE a boyfriend or not, do you feel ready at 11, 13, 16, 18 or even 22? it all depends on the mind!

October 7, 2009 at 10:20 PM  
Anonymous Holly said...

well when your young you just say your a couple but do u really like hold hands or go on dates or make out i dont think so 15 is a good age were you actually feel something

October 18, 2009 at 10:57 PM  
Anonymous Cheyanne said...

12

November 2, 2009 at 11:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

idk im ten i want one but idk i had one win i was nine it was horrible

November 12, 2009 at 6:45 PM  
Blogger clarissa said...

i m 9 last year i had a boyfriend lots of drama but it wasnt bad drama.it depends if you have time and if you really like the boy.

November 14, 2009 at 6:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im 13 teen and I have a boyfriend but I switched schools. But we still call each other and still text. And he gave me a necklace for our love. So i think 13 teen is a good age to have a boyfriend as long as it is okay with your parents.

November 17, 2009 at 1:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 14 is the best age for a boyfriend

November 19, 2009 at 6:48 AM  
Anonymous Amber said...

16 is wat my mom says....girl above me^^im 14,im deeply in love with a 17 year old.Hes my bffls bro....hes waaaay to old.so i act like i hate him!

November 19, 2009 at 2:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HI!!!!!!!!
im 13 and i have won! HES AWESOME!!!!!!!!!! lol so far any ways! i think 14 is probly the right age ...... but if the guy likes u and u like him id GO FOR IT GRL!
luv yall! sassy grl1
ps. most parent say 16.......

November 19, 2009 at 2:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 10 and i think 14 and up is da best...10 is way to young,becuz ur to immature.when ur 14 u no ur self better.thats juss my opion

November 19, 2009 at 2:37 PM  
Anonymous Raashi said...

HI!! Nice question btw!
Well, I guess, a boyfriend is , for any girl, a BIG thing so he has to be with you at that age when you can really enjoy each other's company and be together without parents or your gut feeling screaming NOO!!
I also think you should have a bf only when you really think that HE"S THE ONE (at least for until your next bf!) So, hope I helped! Gud luk! Raashi

November 20, 2009 at 12:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ive dated cince i waz 5!

November 27, 2009 at 3:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think 11 or 12 would be an ok age for a group date with a guy you like if It's supervised by a parent, for a real relationship I think about 14 and up would be a good age to start. :)

November 27, 2009 at 7:36 PM  
Anonymous Jay said...

Ummmm......... not to be all good girl and everything but the appropriate age to have a boyfriend is about 15/16. Thats the best time to have a real relationship and thats when most of your emotions are under control. lol :)

December 3, 2009 at 4:23 PM  
Blogger battynora said...

it actully depends on you i know people who are 13/14 that are have a boyfriend for a week and the next week they have a new one but some people can like a guy and go out for months even years it really depends on the person

December 4, 2009 at 11:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jay is totally right. that s about the age when u should have a boyfriend.

December 5, 2009 at 12:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think 12 is a bit young, but if you date, here are tips. Don't kiss or anything that personal. Hold hands and stuff, but take it slow. Date people who you like for real, not who you think is cute. There was this kid named brian in the third grade and he was kind of cute. Once I told him he was cute he got obsessed with me and claimed we were "dating". I didn't even know him that well, and he won't stop liking me 2 years later! So date a boy who you like for real, and who you trust. Hope this helps! Choose wisely.

December 5, 2009 at 6:06 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

Theres no age!!!
Just, dont kiss if you have less than 15 years old. If your parents are OK, you can. You´re so lucky if have boyfriend. I havent got one yet!

December 10, 2009 at 1:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 11 and in middle skool and my parents wont let me date till high skool and i really want 2 date wat do i do

December 10, 2009 at 6:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well it all depends if you feel comfortable and if your parents let you.hope i helped.

December 12, 2009 at 12:28 PM  
Anonymous Emily said...

the question to ask are... do you really like this guy? how does he feel about you? would you feel okay if your friends teased you about having a "boyfriend?" are you allowed to go out with a boy or a group without your parents? i asked myself these questions and well the answers were no, no, no, and no. so no i am not ready to have a boyfriend

December 15, 2009 at 11:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 14 is a good age becuz mi friend nd her bf are almost going together for a year amazing rite true love so to me 14

December 18, 2009 at 3:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think at least when your in middle school/high school so at least 11.

December 21, 2009 at 1:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It really depends on what your parents think and what you think. My mom said "not until you are in high school" so I have to go along with it. I think you really don't need a boyfriend outside of school. I have an inside-of-school "boyfriend." You can talk with a guy at lunchtime or during times in class where you are doing absolutely nothing. Also, if there are any school events, ask him to go! The guy I like went to a school basketball game with me (although it wasn't a date because his dad was there) and we'll also be going to the school ice-skating party. Hope this helps!

P.S. Sorry it was so long!

December 22, 2009 at 2:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like a 4th grader but I'm a 5th grader what do I do PLS?

December 22, 2009 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous Stephanie :) said...

My teacher ( who's really cool, fun and popular cuz she's funny -our General Studies teacher- she's really close 2 pupils and even adds me on Facebook -LOL ) said it's 17-18 .... we had a chapter about dating .... but I think its 15-16

December 22, 2009 at 11:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My dad dosen't want me to have a boyfriend until I'm 16 but my mom thinks around 14...what do I do.

December 23, 2009 at 5:02 PM  
Anonymous Sarah said...

Many people have "boyfriends" that are mostly just friends who do stuff together. I think your age is reasonable to have one of those, but not a serious one 'till high school.

December 24, 2009 at 11:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I AM 12 AND I LIKE BOYS BUT DONT TELL FAMILY CAUSE I AM AFIRED TO TELL THEM IT MIGHT BREACK THERE HEART BECAUSE I AM THE ONLY LITTLE GIRL IN MY FAMILY FOR 62 YEARS HOW DO I TELL THEM

December 31, 2009 at 11:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was ten but he was very pushy.

January 26, 2010 at 10:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i dont know it really depends on what u mean by boyfriend. if it means just sitting together at lunch then 12 but if more serious then maybe 15

February 9, 2010 at 9:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 11 and i have a boyfriend . its not that bad to have a boyfriend at 11 but i dont think at 11 you are ready to kiss

February 20, 2010 at 4:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should be a teenager at like 16+. Some parents prefer older. But you don't want anyone to get you ignoring school and your studies

February 28, 2010 at 1:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think the age is any age. because you might really like or love that person.

February 28, 2010 at 11:53 AM  
Anonymous layla said...

i'm 10 ( nearly in comprehensive school-british way of saying middle school- can't wait !! )and i've had made mistakes about boys i know it sounds a bit weird but i would say 13-14 cus then you know what boys are like.

hywl fawr ( goodbye in welsh )

March 3, 2010 at 2:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Im 11 and I've had a boyfriend. It didnt turn out well and we broke up super fast. I think You should wait until your in eight grade, but if you want one then I think its ok. But it wont last long. When your older the relationship is much more serious so its like REALLY having a boyfriend! Good luck with your choice! :)

March 12, 2010 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous BigM said...

Girls usually like older guys because girls mature faster and want to be with someone mature.Guys usually want to be with younger girls because they are immature and want to be with someone less mature.

March 14, 2010 at 2:36 PM  
Anonymous Gothic Chick,13 said...

i think it depends on how u feel but if ur parents say u cant have a bf until ur 15 or 16 watever u do dont have a bf behind there back b cuz sooner or laater they r going to find out i hope that this is good advice
ps:if u like a guy and he asks u out u should tell ur parents b fore u say yes

March 27, 2010 at 4:30 PM  
Anonymous Telugu News said...

In my opinion i think 18 is the best age.

April 2, 2010 at 2:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think 13 is O.K... I mean you have a boyfriend when you wana have a boyfriend or whenever your mom and dad think its good. Now alot of girls get mad when there parents say that and trust me i am one of them. BUT our parents no alot more then we do and they no what boys are capable of. Not all boys are like that but your parents want to make sure you NEVER get hurt and they really want to keep you as there little girl. i know we dont think its fair but who knows BEST.? PARENTS :))

April 7, 2010 at 4:43 PM  
Anonymous KEJC said...

I THINK THAT 12 IS OK AS LONG AS IT DOSEN'T GET TO SERIOUS (EX MAKEING OUT ) I HAD A BOYFRIEND (STRICTLY SCHOOL) IN GRADE ONE

April 13, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ask your parent or go to a religoius friens like a pastor or a priest. Also think about if you really like the they guy and he nices or if it just because of peer presure. I think from 12 to 16 you can hang out with a boy at free period and in between classes and call him your "boyfriend" but when your about 16 or 17 you can have a real realtionship.

April 17, 2010 at 8:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 12 and i have a boyfriend. We aren't really serious or anything though. I would say you should have a boyfriend when you feel like you are ready for one.

April 20, 2010 at 9:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You can have a boyfriend when you are old enough to get married.

April 28, 2010 at 3:17 PM  
Blogger alexis said...

i really think u should date when ur around 18 17 or maybe even 16. but 12 just seems to be WAY to young right now especially at ur age and all..... im im on ur side because im goign to date when im 18 making sure nothing goes wronog and i have my own decisions and my own faults now that i am a fully young adult and all.... peace out!

April 29, 2010 at 11:01 PM  
Anonymous rh123 said...

I'm 11 and I date an older guy...my mom doesn't know though

May 10, 2010 at 6:07 PM  
Anonymous rh123 said...

I think that you should have one when your ready...:)

May 10, 2010 at 6:08 PM  
Blogger BrandyB47 said...

have a boyfriend when your ready and always remamber there is no age just try not to get pregnant at an early age

May 16, 2010 at 12:29 PM  
Blogger BrandyB47 said...

dont listen to any one else have one when YOU are ready

May 16, 2010 at 12:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 14 or 15 is a good age but i can hardly say anything as im 13 and have had lots of boyfriends and kissed alot of boys !!

May 16, 2010 at 2:53 PM  
Blogger BrandyB47 said...

it dosent matter wen or who you date it all relise on wether ur happy or not

May 17, 2010 at 1:47 PM  
Anonymous Tasnim said...

Dear PLS,
I have some serious trouble. Some people found out about my crush and told him. He replyed by telling one of my freinds to tell me thjat it's never gonna happen. I stopped liking him a long time ago but I still have feelings for him. But the way he replyed really hurt. And almost half the 4rth grade knows about it. I already asked this on the other page but got no reply. I really need your help of what to do and say.

Thanks,
Tasnim,10

May 23, 2010 at 5:35 PM  
Anonymous missdiva said...

Im 11 and i like someone but i just dont want to go with him his cusin is my bff and she said he loved me and wanted to go with me but i did not belive her and still dont but we do hug and say wats up.but not bf ,,the right age is between 12- any age you would like!!

May 24, 2010 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Probably about 12.

May 28, 2010 at 5:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, it depends, if u want a serious boyfriend, probally 15, but a boyfriend, who is well, just for the namesake, whenever u feel like it. There is no age limit 4 that.

May 31, 2010 at 2:53 PM  
Anonymous Taylor said...

Im only 10 and my mother in courages me to have a boyfriend so talk to your parents about it and if they say no just go with a friendship with a guy and wait for the next year!

hope this helped

May 31, 2010 at 4:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't have a bf but I certainly like a guy! I'm 11 (well I will be in July) and going into 6th grade. I don't think I want one though! I like keeping crushes secret but one of my bestest friends has had a few boyfriends and she's 11. One of them doesn't go to our school so I think they're going to date next year in middle school. My best friend in the entire world's rents said she couldn't date until she was 18. I've never brought up the subject to my rents though because well I don't really want to date. But I think any age is fine to do "in school dating" if you really like him!

June 1, 2010 at 5:09 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

Your fine, a lot of my frendz hav BF's, and they're only 10 mand 11. So why not you, I mean your 12, and your asking this, and my 10 and 11 year old frendz already hav BF's and GF's.o yeah, hav a BF.

June 1, 2010 at 5:18 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

Most girls have "puppy love" while they are young. They acually start going on dates around 15 or 16. I think it's ok to have a boyfriend at your age, but don't get to serious about it yet.

June 2, 2010 at 3:02 PM  
Anonymous onyx said...

honesty i think 13 is good for puppy <3 luv......and 14 is a right age for a boyfriend its` all depends on if you are ready for one. I am 14 [just turned 14 on june 5th] and i`m ready i think im stuck on the flower petal thing -am i ready, am i not, am i ready, am i not- but im still waiting for my prince charming to ride up on his horse in armer and rescue me from my castle surrounded around lava with a pink mean dragon and beside you only get a first time kiss and first time boyfriend so make sure it`s perfect and special and let him meet your parents i know it might seem wierd to tell but it worth it trust me it worth telling and prince charming is worth waiting for<3 xoxo=-)

June 10, 2010 at 12:20 PM  
Anonymous sarah said...

i reaaly like this guy bu hes in gangs and stuff but when hes with me hes more mature and sweet we have been going out for 3 months but my mom hasnt know becuz she doesnt let me date and am already 13 wat shld i do

June 11, 2010 at 2:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think 13 is a good age

June 11, 2010 at 2:46 PM  
Blogger Madeline said...

12 or 13

June 13, 2010 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think there is no set age. However I think you should need to be at least 15. Dating isn't something that you do for fun. It's done to find who you will marry and spend the rest of your life with. If you aren't ready to fully commit yourself to that person and take the realtionship seriously then you are too young to date. I see 10 year olds walking around with boyfriends! News flash...THAT'S NOT LOVE!

June 25, 2010 at 2:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

deoends who you are lioke no a days kids are hooking up at really really young a ges like 10 i thinks it is youn gbut like nce you hit 12 i think it is pretty good time to have one cuz n=most people will have one then

July 10, 2010 at 1:38 AM  
Anonymous Bailey said...

If you want to go right ahead

August 13, 2010 at 9:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My parents say 16..... but i think thats a little tough. i would say, when your mature to handle this. meaning, he doesnt interfere with the things thats matter most, friend, family, school, etc.
im 11 and would love a boyfriend but, im not going to obsess over it at this time in my life.

October 6, 2010 at 12:27 AM  
Anonymous amanda the fox said...

I'm 10. I had one-I fell in love again when I thought he didn't love me, and when I realized he didn't want to be seen in front of our parents-I later asked him if we could be back together, but-at that point... our mom's are saying "you're just 10. you don't need a boyfriend" and he's 13-so that adds to it. But-whenever I think about him-I cry. I'm even writing a song-and it's basically saying: "we can be together, we can be Romeo and Juliet, please-I still love you!" well that's the main message. I love him, I have since I was about 8. But now-my life is ruined. I made a wish necklace, hoping my wish to be with him will come true. My parents never actually said the "appropriate" age, so I don't know. but if you have any suggestions, please write back.

February 20, 2011 at 9:55 PM  
Anonymous danielle said...

am 10 and i would like a boyfriend but my family says i am too young so i realy think it is up to you and your pearents to decide when you are old enough but i wish it would be 11 but you know boy are rude and sellfish i you have a boyfreind he would probaly give you up for eny-thing if did not LOVE you so you are probaly better off staying friends and then when you get older then you guys might what to be freinds buut not right now and plus you do not what him to break your heart so i think it the appropriate age for a boyfriend is maby around 14-17 maby.

April 12, 2011 at 4:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well... I suppose everyone has different opinions. I am only 14, and don't really know much, but what I do know, is that 7th grade is probably not a good idea. In 8th grade, both boys and girls start to mature a little more. By 9th grade you're almost ready and in 10th grade you are much more mature then you were before. I started liking a guy that liked me halfway through 7th grade. We were stupid. And all of my friends were stupid too, and they made fun of us, so I got mad and "broke up" with him. Eventually I told him that I was sorry and it wasn't his fault. We have been together since January 8, 2010, and now we really really like each other. But if you take it from my point of view, I think that we should have waited until 9th grade. We will be in 9th grade next year and i think we are both very excited. We've definitely matured a lot. Another thing is, i don't recommend going very far until your much older. I don't believe in kissing when you're 12, 13, 14, or even 15. I'm sorry but i don't like it. A very wise person once put it, "That guy that you kissed when you were young will always flash into your mind when you're married to someone else." It is not a wise idea to kiss that young. I recommend waiting until you have graduated high school. My parents say that you should wait until your wedding day, but we are Christians and have different views from all of you. However, I think that you can have your first kiss when you are engaged, that way, you'll only think of that person when you kiss him. Holding hands might be more appropriate when you are a junior or senior, but if you're in 8th, 9th, or 10th grade, i don't recommend any physically contact (excluding shaking hands and high-fiving). Well, this is what I have to say on the matter. Just my opinion/advice. I do have experience and i say you should at least wait until you are in high school. However, if you think you're mature enough in 8th grade, go for it. Just make sure that you really want to be with this guy for the rest of your life.

July 2, 2011 at 6:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i mean it depense if you really want one... i do and i'm only 12... well i've been crushing on boys since kindergarden :P teehee. anyway, i think 12 is old enough... i mean you have to start somewhere right?

September 6, 2011 at 3:06 PM  
Anonymous Fairythunder said...

It all depends on how you use the term 'boyfriend'. If you mean just a hang out at school, I'd say 9+ yrs. If you meant first kiss, I'd say 13+ is the age. If you meant go out and date, I'd say 16+.

November 17, 2011 at 1:07 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

I sooo agree with Fairythunder. She's right.

March 5, 2012 at 9:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think 18. Because your boyfriend might go TOO FAR in a relationship.

March 28, 2012 at 3:29 AM  
Anonymous I_Luv_My_Pitbull said...

I date and im 12 i dont find anything wrong with it and neither does my mom. But when he goes too far i tell him and if he still wants too go too far i tell him to hit the road well not really but kinda

May 3, 2013 at 2:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

are the pls books actually stuff that happened in your real life, 'cause , no offence, but they sound pretty unrealistic.

August 23, 2016 at 1:09 AM  

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