Two girls: Two stories

We are all different, of course, But some girls feel a little extra different. We had two questions recently about that. One friend has hearing aids and the other uses a wheelchair.

Dear PLS,
i am 12 and i have hearing-aids. All of my friends treat me the same.My hearing-aids are not really noticeable but no boys ever ask me out help please!!!!
Advice from Jemma: I don't think tiny hearing aids have anything to do with it. It's the boys, not your hearing aids! Boys are great. I have a lot of guy friends and one special crush, but they just don't talk about their feelings much and some don't really want to be "tied down" with a girlfriend, so I wouldn't worry!

Also, you might like this story by our friend, Kristin. She's older, (graduated from college, has a cool job) and has worn hearing aids since she was a kid. AND, we happen to know, she just got engaged!

Our second question is about what it's like to be in a wheelchair:

Dear PLS
I don't think you can answer my question but I have cerebral palsy and I am sIck to my stomach and I think why do I have cerebral palsy? No one knows why and I don't know why I am the only one in my school in a wheelchair. My question is why do I have cerebral palsy?
A 12-year-old

Advice from Jemma: For this one, I had to ask my doctor friend about cerebral palsy. I didn't know what it was, but I found out here.

Cerebral Palsy

My advice is that I hope you know thousands of people have CP and that you have our support! And girls, if there's someone in a wheelchair at your school, be kind and say hi. Who knows, you could be saying hi to this very girl!

Now it's time for your thoughts and advice. I would love to hear from girls who have taken steps to become friends with people who have problems that make them different.


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a 9 year old who is overweight and developing (if you know what I mean). I am also really smart and good at reading. People make fun of me and I don't like it one bit. How can you help me, Jemma?

June 9, 2009 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My name is Sebastiana and i don't have any friends, until this one girl who is very popular in my school (we'll call her annie, like anonymous) sat next to me at lunch one day and was being nice to me. The next day though, she and her friends just laughed and made fun of me when i asked to sit at their table. Does this mean that it was all a trick to make me feel terrible? Or does annie really want to e my friend and be friends the other girls? I need your opinion!

June 10, 2009 at 3:15 PM  
Blogger Jemma said...

I want to say hi to the two people who posted above. It stinks to feel left out. And I do not like mean people!

Sebastiana, Annie might want to be your friend, but you need an all-the-time friend. Not someone who ditches you. Not nice!

And to Really Smart and Good at Reading, I'm sorry people tease you. Annoying! And wrong! Please tell a teacher or adult. Also ask a teacher if he or she has any friend suggestions for you. I was talking to a teacher the other day and she said there are always kids in class who would love to be friends. You just have to find the right ones.

I bet there are girls out there waiting for a friend just like you two!
Think pink!

June 10, 2009 at 3:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i wouldn't feel so bad your regular girls and people should like you because your you and that's what most important.

June 12, 2009 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i read ur questions and i totaly understand in fact i hav a freind who has hearing problems. i never notice her ear piece though as i no her so well and i can tell u dat she has had more boyfreinds dan me. she dosnt let it get in da way of her life and right now she is goingto Taipei this year for da deaflympics as their youngest member. im so proud of her and i no dat u should be proud of who u r. u can change ur looks are anything like dat nomatter hard u try so b strong and dont let it ruin ur life!

June 12, 2009 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

For the first question only:
I am 14 and have never been asked out by a boy! You shouldn't worry about it. It may not even be the right choice for you to have a boyfriend so young anyways. Maybe you'll find the special guy at an older age.

June 12, 2009 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im 10 and im the most overweight in my class. My mom said that i shouldnt worry about my weight. Even though i exersize, I the stay the way i am.I feel left out because all of my friends are smaller (skinny) and all boys adore them!I dont know what to do.HELP!!!

June 13, 2009 at 1:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What is CP exactly??

June 14, 2009 at 10:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If those guys can't accept the whole package, then just forget about them.

June 16, 2009 at 12:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Girls with cp if you feel left out cuz your differnt talk to sum 1 and were difernt what would be a world if were all the same

hope u get help or talk to sum 1

luv ya!

June 21, 2009 at 5:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i red ur story i feel so bad wish i could help <3 luv ya!

June 21, 2009 at 5:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To question 1, Don't worry about being asked out, you're only 12. when you are older there will be plenty of guys who don't have a ton of hormones and don't know what to do with them so they focus on girl's outward appearance. (like a bunch of 12 year old boys)Someone great will come along.

June 22, 2009 at 10:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

For both of these questions don't keep thinking that having CP and a Hearing aid is a bad thing. I have read books about both of these things before and it isn't something that you can control. About having a hearing aid, don't try to hide it, you need it. Try to be with a group of girls and boys who are willing to look past your hearing aid and make a new friend. As for having cerebral palsy, so what if you have a wheel chair. There is only one boy in my school who has to use a wheel chair, no one is mean about it. He can't walk without it. I know you've probably tried this already but look in to Cebreal Palsy, read and do a search on the internet. :)

June 29, 2009 at 6:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know what you mean i have a friend just like that she was out 4 a week. Because she was embaressed. People picked on her 4ever un'til shr said it dose'nt matter.

July 30, 2009 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know how it feels 2 be left out or hurt by how others treat u so i think u should find a true friend and talk and tell s/he how u feel and everything ,ur true friend is out there some where u just have 2 look for them.

August 6, 2009 at 2:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry about what ppl think about ur hearing aids. My best friend has hearing aids but in spite of that she's one of the most popular girls in our grade!
if guys dont like u cuz of ur hearing aids then they rnt worth it, but hopefully some lucky guy will see past the hearing aids

September 20, 2009 at 5:56 AM  
Anonymous haylee said...

Those boys are so mean, don't let anything they say get to you it doesn't matter what's on the outside, its what's on the inside that counts

November 20, 2009 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 11 years old every year when i get a best friend the same girl steals them away from me and im sick of it i miss having fun with the girls that were my best friends. it all starts when she asks if she can hang out with us and if i say no i will feel really bad about because i dont want to drop down to her level.

February 20, 2010 at 5:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

kk i am so short
and i am bout 13 years and i am only 4.11

March 10, 2010 at 10:57 AM  
Anonymous Ari:) said...

To the girl with the hearing aid problem, dont worry, a boy is not gonna like you for having hearing aids or not. He'll like you for who you really are! He probably doesnt even notice the hearing aids!! And to the girl with CP. Im really sorry for what you have and I understand you wanting to know why you have CP. I know this girl from school that cant talk. Shes not in a wheelchair but shes always alone. And the woman that helps her out is kinda mean. I always wave at her and ask her whats going on. she answers me with nods and signals and i understand her just fine. Its nice to give her a smile and see her wave back. And when her mother picks her up from school, I give the girl a wave and her mom gives me a smile of compassion. Dont worry about what you have and dont feel alone. Youre not the only one out there.

March 10, 2010 at 4:57 PM  
Blogger Jemma said...

Three cheers for Ari for being such a caring person!
Think pink!

March 10, 2010 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous Ari:) said...

Thanks Jemma!!!!! It's so exciting to have you say something like that :)

March 11, 2010 at 6:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am 12 and my mom says I need a bra but when were in the bra section she say "OK time to go home" Wut du i du!?!

March 11, 2010 at 11:30 PM  
Anonymous Ari:) said...

To the anonymous before me: Just tell your mom, "Mom I think I need a bra, could I try some on?" while your in the bra section. If not you'll never be able to tell her that you need a bra! I mean if she told you you need a bra then say " mom didnt you say I need a bra?" She'll say something!! She might say "oh yea, go try some on" If you dont tell her then she'll keep saying its time to go home. I hope this helped! Good luck!

March 13, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Annalise said...

Im 11 and im developing faster then lots of girls in my class it feels sort of awkward to change and they can see my bra somtimes some girls who have not started developing yet tease me about my bra what should i do?

April 12, 2010 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

To Annalise.First of all, I hope you no that u r not alone I have the same problem.If somebody teases you then let them no that it doesn't matter what you look like on the outside it only matters whats on the inside!!I hope that shows them!!!!!!

June 17, 2010 at 12:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know what you mean. my sisster leaves me out with her friends and they leaves me out i know it is cazy.

July 19, 2010 at 8:17 AM  
Anonymous Annie said...

I get looked at weird a lot, but i don't care. I just tell my parents and advice for me and you: Just ignore it. If you make a friend, and it's a good friend, i'm posotive they will stand up for you.

February 18, 2011 at 8:08 PM  
Anonymous tameka said...

hi,my cousin has hearing aids so when people joke her I help her a lot. If U dont have a older sis maybe you can ask your parents i hafe to tell my parent about a bully one time.Somtimes I do it by myself.

November 3, 2011 at 3:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have Cerebral Palsy aswell. I am 12 and I always felt so bad for myself except for today, I changed. I visited my friend who is 11. She also has CP. I can walk, fortunately, but she cant. She told me all she wants to do is walk. I feel SOOO sorry for her. Also, her speech can be hard to understand at times. Last time I ever feel sorry for myself!

June 26, 2012 at 9:32 PM  

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