A kissing question

OK, so we already took care of Emily, see below, who had to kiss a boy in a play. But that was just acting. Today's question is about real life. K.D., 11, has been waiting patiently for an answer, so let's try to help!

Dear PLS,
this is the 3rd time i asked u this and i think its pretty important 4 girls advice!!!!
my bf has had alot of gfs so far and he has kissed almost every1 of them. what if he trys 2 kiss me? im not ready 2 kiss yet but i dont want him 2 think im not in2 him anymore i do really like him! please help pls!
K.D.

Oh, K.D. I think you already have your answer. You said "I'm not ready to kiss yet." I think our hearts and minds are pretty smart and if it doesn't feel right, don't do it. If he wants to kiss you, you might have to tell him the same thing, but in a nice way, of course. What do you think, Pink Locker Girls, am I right? What's your advice for K.D.?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

That happened to me. But I did the wrong thing and let him kiss me. If you're not ready, tell him beforehand that you don't want your first kiss yet. But if you don't tell him until he's about to kiss you, you can tell him then.
Hope I helped!

July 9, 2009 at 3:42 PM  
Blogger Suzette said...

Dear K.D.,
I think you should just tell him how you feel, and if he doesn't understand just tell him "ok i'm into you, but if you try to kiss me just forget about me being your gf."
follow your heart.
truly yours,
Suzette

July 9, 2009 at 5:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

He seems like a player so be careful. If you are not ready don't kiss him, tell him, but say it nicely. If he really cares about you, he'll understand. Don't let any hearts be broken!

-Brittany

July 13, 2009 at 9:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just say no. If he trys to make his move tell him you are not ready.He sounds kinda of risky. If he still trys to kiss you say good-bye.

July 16, 2009 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Evangaline said...

I totally agree with Jemma - its ur body and ur right. You shouldnt feel pressured or forced into doing anything you dont want to do. if he wants to kiss you thats fine - but let him know whether you're okay about it first. If hes a good guy he'll understand perfectly and will have know problem! if he does have a problem, well then it might be worth reconsidering if he has respect for yuor feelings or not. Your body - your choice. Hope that helped! <3

July 20, 2009 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear K.D.,
Jemma's right-if you're not ready then you shouldn't be rushed. a first kiss is something to remember and it should be special, not forced. just do what your heart tells you to. that's the only thing that matters.<33

-Sammy

July 21, 2009 at 11:34 AM  
Blogger Viviana said...

Tell him, your not ready. You could just start out being friends.

July 25, 2009 at 5:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell him your not ready to kiss him, but tell him nicly he should understand.

July 27, 2009 at 2:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if he wants to kiss you, and you arent ready,tell him!
if he breaks up with you for that, hes not worth your time anyway sweetie!

July 28, 2009 at 11:42 AM  
Anonymous jenrules11 said...

I agree. Im ready 4 my first but if your not ready for yours and he trys to kiss you then calmly back up and tell him so! If he doesnt understand, then ditch him and dont look back.

July 29, 2009 at 8:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey K.D

Even though I know i'm ready for my first kiss its okay if your not and if ur bf trys to force u into it just tell him that if he keeps on forcing u to do it you'll leave him or something. I'm sure he'll stop then if he really like you.

-Bella

August 3, 2009 at 4:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

he's ur bf right! so if he can't understand that ur not ready 2 kiss he is not a very good bf .So u should do what u would like 2 do.

August 6, 2009 at 3:26 PM  
Anonymous Aliyah said...

gurls if ur noy ready DONT do it

August 7, 2009 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you dont want to kiss him, be straight and tell him that your not ready. Of course, thats just little me. Do what you want 2.

August 7, 2009 at 11:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if you don't want to kiss him pull away when he goes to kiss you tell him the truth and go with your heart good luck!!!!! love Sam

August 8, 2009 at 8:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well if ur not ready 2 kiss tell him how u feel so he knows wat 2 do instead of making u uncofable and if he does care about u he'll do wat is right and if he doesn't care then he is a jerk

August 9, 2009 at 10:51 PM  
Anonymous Niya pie [[=]] said...

if he lykes u as much as u lyke him he will understand and hopefully back off but if he trys again say no mean no now stop and at that point breakup with him

August 11, 2009 at 1:04 AM  
Anonymous Tals99904 said...

Hey K.D.!!!
I think your bf should understand if he really cares about you. If not he really isn't worth spending time with. If he doesn't understand just tell him your sorry but you want someone who cares. But if he doesn't understand and you really want him to still be your bf, telling him what I just said in the previous sentence might get him to try harder for you.
Hope I helped!!!
Tals99904

August 11, 2009 at 11:11 AM  
Blogger kalista8 said...

i'm 10 and i haven't had my first kiss yet my friends always tease me. HELP!!!

August 12, 2009 at 5:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey KD, If he trys to or askes you to kiss him just tell him i am not ready for this stage right now maby soon if you ell better with kissing him. And if he dose not like that then that showes that He only cares about kissing you and not really caring for you! Then that is when you dump him! you shouldn't be treated like that !

August 13, 2009 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell him the truth and he will understand. But if he doesn't thats his loss cause I'm sure you are a great person.

August 17, 2009 at 11:52 AM  
Anonymous Kat13 said...

I think you should tell your bf you're not ready and if he understands you know he is cool, but if he doesn't not olny is he dumb but he is losing an fantastic girl I'm sure:)

August 18, 2009 at 9:25 AM  
Blogger Jen said...

jen age 14
i have had a kiss before actully 6 times before. i know how it feels and it is actully pretty nice if it is with the hottest guy ever ( awesome feeling ) . My advice go into a coner alone somewhere mabey after school and talk to him and calmly say that you think he is an awesome guy very funny attractive and very smart and just say that you are really not ready although say that it would fell great to kiss you . also you can mabey ask him to an upcoming dance and mabey you will be ready then . ( at our school the bf and gf kissing place is at the far fire hidrent, cool huh)well so you know now that i have kissed alot of boys already and have been throught this situation before so i know alot about boys.one tip if you ignore a boy they will want to get your attention but you have to laugh at all there jokes and if they keep looking at you just look down and kinda make a half smile and half straight face then look down to the side then look at him again then look down and to your friend beside you and start talking again. hope this helps
jen

August 18, 2009 at 5:44 PM  
Anonymous PrincessKate said...

Tell him exactly how you feel. Nothing else matters except if you are ready or not!

P.S. How do you kiss a boy?

August 22, 2009 at 3:10 PM  
Anonymous Kissinger Grl91 said...

You go crazy! Ahaha, naw, naw thats not it.. You close your eyes and you just do it... Ahahahaha I crack my self upp..... Lol

August 22, 2009 at 6:14 PM  
Anonymous PrincessKate said...

Dear Kissinger Grl91,

Please don't be sarcastic... I know what you are talking about!! Please!? Does ANYONE have ANY advice on how to kiss a guy for the first time?! ANYone?!

August 23, 2009 at 12:18 PM  
Anonymous ThE GiRl NeXt DoOr XxX said...

if your not ready to kiss then dont kiss him ..... wen he trys to make his move tel him this: "look, i like you and all but im just not ready, i hope you understand " trust me been there done that and he understood it took a few months but we felt more comfortable together and we desided to take it to a higher level but you dont have to dont get pressured into this

-Lucia x x

August 23, 2009 at 2:52 PM  
Anonymous Beth said...

Look here, if he tries to kiss you and you've told him not to, then he's just using you. Break up ASAP if that happens! Then when you get your first smooch (and your ready) it'll be the best feeling in the world!!!

Beth, 12

September 4, 2009 at 1:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

in like the first grade, my bff was kissed! not lip lock, but a kiss on the cheek! it was this kid named jeremy (not his real name, im trying to protect his indentity even though he moved away in the second grade.) anyways, he swooped her down like the way people do when theyre doin the tango and kissed her on the cheek. he also said that she should never ever tell anyone but her loyal friends (thats me) about the kiss. he was so into her he gave her so many presents that i think i might have one cuz she didnt want one! rotflol! lol lol lol!!!!!!!!!!!

JenJenNJen, age 10, in the fifth grade, illinois

September 5, 2009 at 5:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have a couple crushes at school, but i dont know why i like them! one is a crush ive had for a couple of years know, one isnt a crush, just someone im friends with, and the last one is a boy that just started going to my school! the new kid already knows that i like him becuz some blabber mouth had to tell him! now he acts all luvy duby to me and i wonder if any of you teenage crush veterans could give some advice on who i should chose and why the boy is acting this way to me!!!!!!!!!!

JenJenNJen,10,fifth grade,illinois

September 5, 2009 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell him your not ready. He should resepct that. He may be a player. They always try to do that. Good Luck!

September 6, 2009 at 4:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my ex-boyfriend was a player and had many gfs before me but he was my first bf. He tried to kiss me but i said no and he was okay with it.. for a while but after that he just gave up on me. im 15 and i haven't kissed a guy before (on the lips)and i am proud of it

October 5, 2009 at 9:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi

October 13, 2009 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

How old do you need to be to kiss? My parents don't allow having a boyfriend.

P.S. I'm in 6th grade
Thanks!

October 17, 2009 at 9:49 AM  
Anonymous no boyfriend ):( said...

I am the exact opposite to the original question. I really sooooooooooo badly want to have a proper first kiss but my last boyfriend didn't really even say hello to me cause he was to shy so I dumped him. I've never kissed someone help! Its hard to find someone my age (10) who is willing to go out with anyone let alone me WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

October 25, 2009 at 5:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

why dont you tell your bestfriend 2 tell him that you like him and if he dont like you keep trying:)

November 2, 2009 at 4:11 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

Watch lots of romantic films. See how they kiss!

December 10, 2009 at 1:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i don't know how to kiss and i am nervous that i will mess it up and hurt him, what should i do?

December 20, 2009 at 6:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This comment is for "no boyfriend ):(" and I know you posted about 2 months ago but I've got some advice for you. I'm in 6th grade (I'm 11) and kissing is something people usually do when they are older. I think you should ask your mom. Some moms won't let their kids date until 8th grade or high school (aka my mom). If your mom says you can have a boyfriend or kiss a guy this while you are this age, then go for it! If mom says "not until high school" then you have to wait.

December 22, 2009 at 1:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you're not ready for your 1st kiss than just tell him that and if he stops being friends with you than just ignore it because the most important thing about a relationship isn't kissing.OKAY

December 23, 2009 at 8:30 PM  
Anonymous S M said...

I thought i wasnt ready either but one night me + my bf and some friends were playing tig in the dark and he grab me and we just kissed once you've done it once then you do it all the time.
Dont be nerouse about it just go with the flow and if he makes a moved on you then just tell him wait am not ready for this yet and if he really loves you then he will under stand
Hope this helped
Good Luck
x x x x x
S M

December 25, 2009 at 11:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I made a mistake my bf tried to kiss me and punched him in the face, and he hates me:(

January 27, 2010 at 3:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my boyfriend cheated on me with a 12 year old and she was very pretty but he always said I was the only one for him, what a liar

January 27, 2010 at 3:20 PM  
Anonymous toly said...

Well if u r not ready just tell him no sry i'm not ready if he still trys to then tell him goodbye coz he didn't understand u so it means he doesn't care about ur feelings.hope i helped.
b.a

February 12, 2010 at 8:56 AM  
Blogger Mollie said...

i soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo want my first kiss

February 14, 2010 at 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Piper said...

If u r ready go for it! But u said u didn't want it yet... so don't worry. If you go ahead and tell him it will be OK but if he gets mad just remember....It's part of growin' up!
Hope I helped!

February 18, 2010 at 11:28 AM  
Anonymous Juliet said...

i kissed my bf it was cool, but i wsnt ready 4 it. dont make the same mistake i did

February 24, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear K.D,

If you really don't want to kiss your bf don't.When a person isn't ready to do that it makes it a mistake and not good. Follow my advice and don't do it. If he get mad forget about that. Just do what you think is right!

March 7, 2010 at 3:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This happened to me!!!! He was going to kiss me but i turned my head around and instead he kissed my cheek. We broke up 2 days after........but I still love him!!! I shouldnt have broken up with him!!!! What should I do now? Ive asked this question to the PLS and no answer! Anyone here can help?

March 12, 2010 at 5:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

oh kd. my friend had a "surprise kiss" idk how but she knew about it, and told him not 2. so just say um, im sorry (his name) but im not ready. and i think hell understand

March 16, 2010 at 7:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey girl- if you don't want to kiss-DON'T!
I- for one- would like to save my first kiss for my husband at the alter...... I think that would be so cool, and it would make that special him feel really special!

April 5, 2010 at 5:59 PM  
Anonymous Samii said...

Hi
just tell him how you feel he will understand and if he doesn't then he isn't worth having as a boyfriend!

April 7, 2010 at 6:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the same thing happend to me and i tlked to him and i told him that i wasn't ready to have our first kiss yet...most of the time they will listen to you but if they get mad at you justbeacuse you dont want to kiss him yet then theres no point in being with them if there not going to be patient with your decisions..
its not only up to them on what you guys do as a couple

April 13, 2010 at 8:36 PM  
Anonymous rh123 said...

I'm 11...I have a bf and we've kissed. (Actually we just started) It's been a year since we've been dating. If you don't feel comftorable kissing...thats fine...just tell him...if he gets mad or something...hes not worth it!!!

May 10, 2010 at 6:43 PM  
Anonymous rh123 said...

I was nervous when I first kissed...(cause I didn't know how) but then I got used to it...btw Im 11

May 10, 2010 at 6:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would wait till ur ready. tell him u'd like to but mabye later when ur more ready.

May 15, 2010 at 9:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi,i wanna know how dus it feel to be kissed i like this guy and i wanna be ready if he wants to kiss me
Pleas i don't wanna feel like a idiote

May 17, 2010 at 9:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't kiss if you're not ready yet, if he want to kiss you, give a good reason why you don't want to kiss him.

June 9, 2010 at 11:01 AM  
Blogger lala said...

well it's your lips and if he wants to kiss you like on the cheek than that's o.k. just nothing else like if he kiss you on the lips then you should tel him i don't want to just yet.Good Luck!

June 10, 2010 at 8:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

same problem! ok so i went out wit him for a month on the second day he asked if we shood kiss that day or later i said later and afte a while i wood say no nbut a couple times at recesse he wood go in for the kiss and i wood just turn my head it got him mad but he got over it and he found out tht i never kissed anyone before then he sorta understanded more but remeber this. if u kiss a guy and he breaks your heart it is harder to get over him because you kissed him if u dont then it is a lil easyier to get over him

July 10, 2010 at 1:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kissing is soooo ridiculous. I don't like all this smushy lovey-dovey stuff. who wants to kiss anyway. if u don't wanna kiss the guy don't do it. slap him. lol jk.don't kiss.

July 19, 2010 at 7:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You should save your kiss until you are at least engaged or if this is the guy God tells you that you should marry (or if you don't believe in God, that you are very sure you will marry). I'm sure your first kiss is very wonderful, i've never had one before. I probably won't till I find the guy I am sure I will marry. If you want to kiss but know you should save it (like me) ha ha ha you could just kiss a mirror or something!! lolololololololol!!!! JK but you can practice on a mirror!!! Or something else. Like a wall. In your room, of course.
Just don't do it in the bathroom mirror! When someone takes a shower it fogs up and you can see the kiss marks. It's embarrassing :) lol

July 7, 2011 at 10:54 PM  
Anonymous Fairythunder said...

If you're not ready to kiss or get kissed, tell him just that: "I'm sorry, but I'm not ready to be kissed yet." If you're too shy to confront him directly, try something like this: If he tries to kiss you, just take a step back and change the subject. I haven't had a first kiss yet, so I'm not sure how he'll react.

November 17, 2011 at 1:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just say- im sorry, im just not ready to kiss anyone yet! but you can give me a little smooch on my cheeck! or a buttery fly kiss! (just rub ur noses quickly together for like 4 seconds)

September 12, 2012 at 7:13 PM  

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