Talking to Mom/Mum about your period

Hey there. I went to summer camp and when I came back - whoosh! - I was overwhelmed with your questions. Keep them coming and be sure to remind me if you have asked more than once. That's what R.H. did and I'm glad. I put those on the top of the list.

So without further delay, R.H. wants to know how to talk to your mom about IT, also known as your period. Here's her question. Notice that she calls mom "mum." She must be writing from the U.K. Awesome!

Hi Pls,
Good book.But i have started my period and am not sure how to talk openly with my mum about periods? Please Help!
R.H., 14

As everyone knows if you read the book, I do not have my period yet. But I have talked to my mom about other possibly embarrassing stuff, so here's my advice...

1. Find a good time to talk, like when it's just the two of you in the car.

2. Be honest and to the point, like "Hey mom, I got my period and I have questions. Can I ask you?"

3. Branch out, if you want, and also talk to older sisters, older friends, cousins etc.

What else am I missing, pink locker girls? What's your advice for R.H.?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't do it at a time that she will get mad or she is distracted. Maybe do it just the two of you at dinner. Think pink!
-Jemma

July 30, 2009 at 5:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i aggree with jem. dont do it when shell get destracted. but know how 2 start. "hey,um mum? iz it ok if i talk 2 u about female stuff?" shell probably say "wat kind ov stuff?" say it straight. "periods." if she says its not a good time, say ok.

July 30, 2009 at 7:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you come out slowley me and my mom aren't that close so it took some time but it really helped because my best friend helped me talk to her and what to say.

July 31, 2009 at 12:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok i talked my mom about it in the car. she's like seriosly? ya i said.she took it well but you have to take chances. she had some protectionin the bathroom so i used it. anyways, just say it,BE STRONG! and think pink!-Yvette

July 31, 2009 at 10:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was at the mall with my mom and dad when it happened! How embarassing!!!! I said that the last trip to the bathroom was interesting and she said why. I told her and she got all happy. So girls..... don't be embarrassed! If anything your Mom will be overjoyed!
-Rachel

July 31, 2009 at 4:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it is not very embarassing because it is just life

July 31, 2009 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous NG said...

Try to do something alone with your Mom and ask her then!

July 31, 2009 at 7:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thnks for all your advice.I have told her and she is fine with it all.R.H

August 1, 2009 at 12:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

talk to nher when u r alone. ask if u guys can go out to dinner or something.thats what i did when i wanted to talk about puperty with my mom.

August 3, 2009 at 12:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your mum really wants to talk to you and help with any questions. When I taled to my mum about periods, she was really honest and answered almost all my questions.

August 3, 2009 at 3:59 PM  
Blogger Kiara said...

I think you should do it when yall our out away from home or in the car because at home she might think my little girl is growing up or in the car you might say it before you get somewhere you will be embrassed afterward so if yoou say it while yalll are at a store so yall can go ahead and buy them see my mom would not belive me she always say you are still a little girl and stuff like that

August 5, 2009 at 11:54 AM  
Anonymous Bubbles said...

I think you should maybe ask your mum when it's just the two of you privately. You could say something like " Mum I need to talk to you about something private." Your mum would probably say sure what's wrong or it's not a good time. If it isn't bring it up again later. Hope this helps!

August 5, 2009 at 11:35 PM  
Anonymous jenny said...

I just got my period 15 minutes ago I'm so upset my kid days are over.

August 6, 2009 at 3:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well all i could say is she is ur mom and she went threw it already so shes the best one 2 talk 2 when i got mine i told my mom and she was real cool 2 talk 2 adout it so tell her as soon as she could talk.

August 6, 2009 at 2:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its ok i talked to my mum about it. and she undersode the whole thing!!!!!!!!!!

August 6, 2009 at 6:52 PM  
Anonymous Lily said...

What I did was:

Step 1: Plan what you want to ask, then practice saying it.

Step 2: Pick a GOOD time for both of you. When your mom is on the phone is not a good time for her even if thats when you have a burst of courage.

Step 3: Let your mom know what advice you need. If you say ' mom I'm scared of getting my period.' Thats not as good as 'mom I'm scared of getting my period because [blank] can you give me some advice?' If the advice she is giving you is not want you meant, say 'mom thats not what I mean really it's more like [blank]. sorry'

Step 4: End with a big hug and thank her for the advice and ask her to keep it between you and her and can you make up a code word for when you have more questions.

August 7, 2009 at 7:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hate this.Help!!!-kiko

August 9, 2009 at 2:39 PM  
Blogger kalista8 said...

me and me mom ready had "the talk" now just waiting for the other talk

August 11, 2009 at 8:43 AM  
Anonymous Samantha Rae said...

if your also to talk openly,write a note and put it in her dresser or somewhere she looks everyday that someone else doesn't.When she reads the note your mom can right a note back.That way you never have to talk directly to her

August 17, 2009 at 1:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you want to make it really the right time to tell your mom, make sure you too are all alone, like, maybe when you too are in a car ride or in a room together. And also remember, it's always okay to talk to your mom because she went through it herself!

August 22, 2009 at 2:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi! I know I have the sorta same problem too. I didn't get my period yet but I want it REALLY BAD because most of my friends have it! My mom and I have talked about all that stuff openly and honestly I'm comfortable with that I just don't know how to tell her that I just want to have pads/pantiliners in the house. School is starting very soon and I would like to have them to wear everyday just incase I get caught off guard. Please Help with that and also tell me how when I do get my period I can tell my mom.
Thanks Alot,
Scared to Ask Mom

August 23, 2009 at 6:05 PM  
Blogger Holly said...

I agree with Scared to Ask Mom. I actually have the same problem, but my mom already knows I want them. I just want to know when I'll get "IT". But I have some advice for girls: Don't be afraid to ask Mom. I am not lying, as she was once in your position,
and she's been through it too. Think pink!
-Simone

August 23, 2009 at 10:42 PM  
Blogger Simonie Macaroni said...

I am going to school soon too and I like to be prepared for ANYTHING (hint hint). I would advise talking to your mom when she is doing something like the dishes or folding laundry. If you're scared, I cannot stress it enough: TALK TO YOUR MOM!!! I do when I get curious about anything. I really hope this helps you. Think pink! :D -Simone

August 23, 2009 at 10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks Alot! That really helped me. I'm still a little scared but not as bad as it was. I think I'm gonna ask my mom when we are out shopping in two days. If anyone has anymore advice or problems please ask me I would be happy to help!
Thanks Again,
Not So Scared to Ask Mom Anymore (Now you can just call me SmartGirl14)!!!

August 24, 2009 at 3:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey i was just like her i want to tell my mom about my period but i dont feel right talking about it.But i told her and she was ok.

August 30, 2009 at 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am scared ,too!

August 31, 2009 at 4:15 AM  
Anonymous health advisor said...

stop being such a chicken and just tell her
she wont mind!
heres what to do if you have started and dont know how to tell her...
burst into tears and when she asks you whats wrong then say mum i have something to tell you
then tell her and shell feel sorry for you because you have been crying

September 1, 2009 at 11:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You c whats wrong with this advice...SOME GIRLS JUST CANT. I'm not comfortable talking to my mum about that sorta thing {so sad} so what ELSE can I do...AARRGG

September 3, 2009 at 2:49 AM  
Anonymous jazzy said...

i think you should start talking about it if she brings it up. or if you don't wont to wait that long so ask here something like this mum im just wondering when did you get your period like how old were you, try to say that at a time when only you and your mum are together.

October 7, 2009 at 3:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just get it over with and say it or wait for the right time say in the car when its just the two of you.First you should practice saying it to yourself and be comfortable with that cause if you cant say it alound to yourself you cant tell anyone else.So get comfortable with the subject before you talk to your mom about it.Take a deap breath everything will be ok.

October 7, 2009 at 5:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well I talked to my mom and I haven't gotten my "" yet so what I do is when I'm on a ski lift or in the car, or just walking down a street with my mom I say something like- do you always get cramps or do periods hurt.

But if you got your period I'd just say, I got my period today.

My mom said that if I get it at school I can just tell her when I get home or something. You could also talk to your teacher or friend...

October 14, 2009 at 9:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whenever my mom is around my dad and brother are too, so it's kind of hard to talk to her alone! If you're like me and you need to talk to your mom about "girl stuff" you should write her a letter with all your Q's on it and leave her a space to write the answers! I did this once and it turned out perfect!

October 17, 2009 at 9:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know how you feel and it is hard thanks for the advise i will try it

November 8, 2009 at 12:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thanks so much!! i did the letter thing and it worked!!
xx

November 14, 2009 at 11:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my mom did all the talking way ahead of time and wouldn't stop talking, I didn't even ask for any information!

November 16, 2009 at 2:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

me and my mom are super tight but i still get nerves when i ask my mom about aunt flo but after i say it i feel alot better

November 27, 2009 at 5:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

She is in your family and she knows that every girl eventually get it. Its not like she will tell the whole school or start getting like "My little sweetums is getting her first period!!!" She will take it seriously.

December 2, 2009 at 8:59 PM  
Anonymous mary-ann said...

dont stress about it your mum most likely knows a lot about periods and she probaly was nurvous to talk to her mum too i was horrified to talk to my mum and avoided it untill i coulden't any more and i sooo regret it i wish i told her right away and my mum is pretty cool about it she is always open for discussion and your mum may be too remeber open up she will eventualy find out any way <3

December 28, 2009 at 2:40 PM  
Anonymous Gymgurl103 said...

All of our moms have their periods, so if you are WAY TOO SCARED TO TALK TO YOUR MOM, then look under her sink for a pad and keep it in your locker, just so you can relax. If you have questions about "it" but ared scared to talk with your mom, don't forget about those older sisters, aunts, friends, cousins that are out there who know exactly what you are dealing with!

January 2, 2010 at 2:49 PM  
Blogger Ishita said...

me too i also havent got my 1st period till yet same pinch!

January 6, 2010 at 12:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should just be like um mom there are some things happening like changes and i am sure she will understand cause i bet the same thing happened to her hope this helped

January 20, 2010 at 8:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If You Just Started Your Period Then First If Your Scared To Tell Your Mum Then Go To an Older Cousin Or Sister Like Jem Said . See If You Can Borrow Pads Or Tampons For a Couple of Days . Then Wen You Feel Like You Should Tell Her Have an Private Conversation Because Remember She Experienced Her First Period Too !

January 22, 2010 at 7:49 PM  
Anonymous Emily said...

Hey this isn't about the post above, but I wasn't sure where to ask Jemma my questions as I am new to this website. I wanted to ask What could I do to really cheer up my Mum?

My Mum is divorced and she works really hard and I wanna do something for her that will really cheer her up. I make her cards and pictures and buy her the occasional chocolates or gifts. I wanted to do something really different that she would love, any ideas? (I'm not very good at cooking though) Thanks x

February 18, 2010 at 11:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my friend is always following her friend.They tell each other secrets and they tell me to wait where i stand.my friend and I were best friends,but my friend's friend ruined our friendship.What could I do to get my friend back?

March 31, 2010 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm really really nervous about telling my mom. We have a good relationship but the subjects just really awkward. What am I supposed to do be like right out of the blue and say "mom I got my period." It's just so errrrr.

April 11, 2010 at 1:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when i turned 11 my mum asked if i knew i would be getting my period soon (when she had explained about periods to me and my sister she had said "laidies" have periods) and i said i did so we just talked about it for a while.

May 9, 2010 at 8:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm scared. we have a big family and my mom would tell sis. sis would bring up at dinner and the subject would get social. honestly the internet is where i get info on periods and stuff not my mother. she'll prob. be like

Me/can i talk to you about something private
Mom/what?
Me/Period stuff
Mom/Your to young.
Me/but i'm 11 turning twelve in Nov.
Mom/I don't care, your just a kid now you don't have to worry about it.

So i'd rather ask my sister.

May 20, 2010 at 8:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i just got my period today and i havent told my mom so when she gets home from the vet with the dog i ll tell her.I was gonna when she first woke up but i got nervous.Maybe she noticed the pad wrapper in the garbage can????

June 22, 2010 at 9:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

SO here is what I did:

I saw some blood in my undies after peeing, so I cleaned myself up and went into my mom's bedroom. I looked for boys, no sight of my bros or my dad, so I said...

Me: mom, I think I got my period.
Mom: really?
Me: yeaah...
Mom: How do you know?
Me: because I saw blood in my underwear, in the front.
Mom: Yep, it sounds like you do! Was it a lot?
Me: no. just a little I guess.
Mom: Ok, well go get a pad out of the bathroom and put it on your underwear, if you need me call me in.

So I did. When I came out of the bathroom...
Mom: I can't believe this! You are growing up!
Me: I know.
Mom: I can't wait to tell nana! (her mom)
Me: really?
Mom: Yes! We are taking you out to lunch, just you me and nana!
Me: Awesome!

Now, when you get your period, just be forward and tell her. She went threw the SAME EXACT thing!

April 7, 2011 at 8:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Girl who said: I'm really really nervous about telling my mom. We have a good relationship but the subjects just really awkward. What am I supposed to do be like right out of the blue and say "mom I got my period." It's just so errrrr.

Yes, you are supposed to be like that. Because a lot of times girls feel like they get it "right out of the blue" Try saying something like this: "Mom, how old were you when you went threw puberty?" and she will probably say "I was __ why?" Or she might know why your asking her, and just get the hint. but if not say "Because, I think i have my period."

April 7, 2011 at 9:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got my period today at school and didn't call home so I'm just probably leave a note in her dresser. The big problemo is that my sister keeps on bugging me to tell her personally. Annoying!

Sincerely,
Bugged by sis

P.S. Getting your period is actually not that scary.

April 11, 2011 at 6:15 PM  
Anonymous Periods are no joke said...

My friend is 11, she got her period at school, (ugh) and she didn't have anything with her, so it started leaking out every where! Moral of the story: always keep a just in case kit with you!!

My other friend is 12, she is very afraid of blood, so when she got her first period, she fainted! No joke, I know it sounds weird and your probably thinking "yeah right she (me) just needed a story to tell!" but nope, it's true.

So, yeah, periods are a little scary, (really scary to my friends) so always be prepared!

April 14, 2011 at 9:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advise!

April 19, 2011 at 4:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sure your mum will understand. I'll admit I am kind of in the same situation as you, except I am still debating on whether it is my big P or not. What I am planning to do (once I am sure it is the big P) is say to my mum, (or mom) "Mom can I talk to you about something?" and go on from there. Good luck if you are still trying to figure this out! :)

April 19, 2011 at 8:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i should have my period in about 2weeks and i have discharge in my undies but i would think mu mom would see it cause she washes but nothing... i want to tell her how i know it is close but she said "you are only 10 you wont get it for awhile". i try and try to tell how i know i just leave out the part about my discharge. i say i ahev cramps,and mood swigs,and as jumpy as i usally am. but do you think i should tell her about my discharge or not?!!!

May 24, 2011 at 6:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

a couple of days ago i asked my mom if i could keep a couple of wips and pads in my backpack she said okay but only take 2 pads and then at school your nurse will give you some i knew that but then i babysit and i know this is nasty but they follow me into the bathroom and when i have to change it then what?!!!!!! they are 7 and 5 they are to little to even know what period/puburty is so know that i am alot older im going to put my foot down and make this stop but my grandma will yell at my what do i do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

May 24, 2011 at 6:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im scared to tell my mom because me and my mom arnt that close. I don't have IT yet but I need infromation.
-Eileen.

June 6, 2011 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

shelly said...
well eileen you came to the right place we will all help you get info about you period and how to feel comfatabale wit talking to your mom about it!!
good luck getting all the info
your friend,shelly :)

June 8, 2011 at 9:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got most of my information on the kidshealth website.i am ten and my mom or mama or mommy or AAAHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!never mind but i asked my mom for supplies and nothing happend .

November 3, 2011 at 4:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My period is started and my mom has pads so I don't know whether to tell or not???

Mwaka,10

January 23, 2012 at 12:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Started mine today going to tell her when I get up tomorrow I'll use the bathroom come out and tell her it will be me and her up so no one will no

July 15, 2012 at 1:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ummm im 11 and once wen i went to the bathroom to pee,i saw 3 dros of blood then it stooped.WHAT IN THE WORLD IS THAT????

December 12, 2012 at 8:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I need to tell my mom about my period! I just barely tried but got really nervous. Me and my mom are pretty close.... but its just so awkward! Well, I have to tell her soon!

December 28, 2012 at 1:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just got mine today, and I'm REALLY scared to tell my mom. I just tried but I chickened out! what do I do???

February 21, 2013 at 5:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is getting discharge, mood swings and headaches a sgin that ur period is coming?

March 30, 2013 at 8:41 PM  

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