New friend + old friends = trouble (for Alicia)

Friends can make you very happy or ... not. Alicia wants some help with a friend problem.

dear pls,
i have recently become friends with a really popular girl who is soo nice. my old friends are really jealous of me being with her and threatened her the other day and said that if she played with me they would get her or something. my old friends are starting freak me out :( what do i do!!?!??!?!
alicia, 13

Hey Alicia, I'm wondering if there's a way you could bring your old friends and new friend together somehow. If they feel accepted by you and your new friend, maybe the meanness will end? What do you think, Pink Locker girls, am I right?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Jade said...

hey alicia! maybe you could get ur new friend nd ur old friends 2 talk 2 each other nd maybe u guys could all chill nd hang 2gether? besides you really like both sides nd if ur friends really care for u they'll do what u want! u could also try telling ur old friends that this new girl is really nice nd she's just a normal girl like us so y do we have 2 seperate? i hope evrything will work out nd i hope i helped :)

July 27, 2009 at 4:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey! you should definatley talk to your old friends and ask them what's wrong with your new friend. tell them that you like them both and don't want a fight between friends. maybe talk to your new friend too and ask her to be a little more involved with your other friends so they can see the good in her too! good luck and i hope everything turns out ok.

July 27, 2009 at 7:15 PM  
Anonymous Dana, 11 said...

Just tell your old friends that if they were your true friends they would not care who you hang out with. If they continue to be mean just quit talking to them and only hang out with the new friend(s). I hope this helped and whatever you do THINK PINK!!!

July 27, 2009 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you and your old friends are a so called group, maybe your new friend could join. Jade is right too. Be one, big, happy group of friends! Your old friends will get to know her, and how nice she is!!!!!! Good Luck!!!! ::::))))

- Britt

July 27, 2009 at 8:13 PM  
Anonymous jessica said...

u should go up and ask them y they r jealous of u and ur new friend. then they will tell u how they feel and u wont have a problem. remember secrets dont make friends ;)

July 27, 2009 at 8:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell on them

July 29, 2009 at 3:32 PM  
Blogger Suzette said...

hey Alica,
what I think you should do is tell your friends that she's a great person, and if they can't handle it, just tell them that you would rather have her as a friend, then have her hurt and them as friends.

July 29, 2009 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'd say that i would rather be with her cuz she doesnt fight over ur other friends and that if ur not willing to even hang out with her the nice one then yes i'd rather be her friend

July 30, 2009 at 12:02 AM  
Anonymous Emerald said...

tell your old friends to accept your new friend or you will stop being their friends.

July 30, 2009 at 1:22 AM  
Anonymous arianna 10 said...

well if your old friends don't like your new friends then ask one of them alone why they don't like the other one and then do the same to the other friend

July 30, 2009 at 10:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why don't you just compromise and try to get along? I don't know why that is so hard.

July 30, 2009 at 5:20 PM  
Anonymous S.H said...

Maybe you should bring your old friends together with your new friends so your old friends and your new friends would get along together each other but I think that you should talk to them as well.

August 1, 2009 at 6:51 AM  
Anonymous KAC said...

OMG u r in the Xact spot i waz! (LOL) Old BFFs and new BFFs tend 2 fight... :( But handle it bi pulling the old silent treat ment. Tell your friends (the old ones) that until they're okay with your new BFF, u r'nt going 2 talk 2 them. Don't say a word to them until they say "Okay! Fine, u kan be her friend 2" if they won't be your BFs anymore, give up. They weren't really u r fs.

August 1, 2009 at 4:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Friends,
Well i think that you should hang who you want to play with or try to get all you friends together. If they threaten you tell someone you are close with and talk it out. Well thats what i do. Hope this helps.
-Megan

August 4, 2009 at 11:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well if the can't respect who u hang out with then they are not ur ture friends.

August 6, 2009 at 1:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

A True friend wouldn't be mean to a new friend. They would be tottaly cool with it. If not, try to get a moment you guys can hang out together(old and new friends). don't tell them you will do such in such to them if they don't be friends with you.

August 6, 2009 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous Kody said...

Hi alicia
i had a problem just like this!
a new girl came to my class in term two and i wanted to become friends with her so i did. i told my friends about her and introduced them to eachover but my old friends kept saying just ditch her and come with us so i stopped being their friend.
okay that wasnt very good advice sorry
i realised my old friends werent very good friends i think that you should do what you think you should do if your old friends arent being cool about it then there not true friends
good luck!

August 7, 2009 at 9:26 AM  
Anonymous Tals99904 said...

Hey Alicia!!! I experienced something like this once. This year I went to a new school, and I met a really nice girl. The problem was, her old friends didn't really like me much. She tried to include all of us, but when I suggested something we could do during recess, I was answered with snotty looks. In the end, my friend told her old friends that she didn't really want to hang out with them anymore. (She said it in a nicer way though.) We both still try to be nice to them, even though they wouldn't go that far for us. I would take Jemma's advice.
Hope I helped!!!!!!!!
Tals99904-12

August 11, 2009 at 11:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey everyone its alicia,

thank you so much for helping me with my friendship situation. you have all given me really great advice.

leesh :)

August 12, 2009 at 5:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The same thing happened to me last year. If your old friends can't be your friends anymore because of a new girl who is nice then they really aren't true friends. Go with the new girl and keep in mind that you can pick your new friends and your old friends can't pick them for you.

August 17, 2009 at 11:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your lucky you have a popular friend i had who was but it turned out i was friends with a girl who was in a clique

August 21, 2009 at 12:48 PM  
Anonymous hi3334 said...

Hey alicia!
This situation sort of happened to me 3 years ago...
I wanted to play with a friend that I hardly ever played with because, after all, we were pretty good friends but we hung out in different groups... so I told my old friends, and they were all fine with it EXCEPT for one friend. I told that friend that she could play with us too, but she had a problem with my other friend.(go figure!) So I told her I still wanted to play with that friend and that she was welcome to join anytime. Well... then she became incredibly rude to me, started to tell me that I was super mean and... she told a goup of "popular" girls how mean I was (this was in grade 6 by the way) and that group came up to me (that was like ten people against me!) and they told me in my face that I was so rude and mean to my old friend. :O I was really shy in elementary school (and everyone knew that) and they made me cry (the group of girls and my old friend). I consider that as bullying because I can play with whoever i want as long as I don't exclude people. I didn't exclude anybody because i invited my old friend to play with my new (ish) friend. So, when your "friends" control your life, so much that you can't choose freely without feeling sad or torn appart, they are not your friends. at least not anymore. if they give you or your new friend (who is very nice and courteous to everyone) a threat, then they are bullies and you should tell an adult immediately.

HOPE THIS HELPED!
:) hi3334

August 26, 2009 at 11:20 AM  
Blogger Jemma said...

Wow. Thanks for that great comment. I love that you are an includer, not an excluder. Stay pink!
Jemma

August 26, 2009 at 3:04 PM  
Anonymous RR said...

Hi Alicia!
I have gone through a similar problem so I can understand.First try and see if the prejiduces your friends have for each other can be overcome. Encourage atleast one side to be nice and try to sit together,plan time together but give each of your friends some time alone with you.If this is not possible, try and see if you can spend time with them separately and if not, well, perhaps you shouldnt let your old friend/s control your life BUT before letting go of them, see how special your new friend ids since thold ones were there for you right from the begining.After all,(I am quoting the lines of a REALLY old song...)
Make new friends,but keep the old,
One is silver and the other gold! ;)

August 31, 2009 at 8:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Alicia they thretend her, maiby you should just talk to your friends and hear there side of the story i don't want to alarm you but this sounds bad you should talk to a parent/guardian every thing will be
okay i promise.

September 28, 2009 at 9:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Listen closely to your old friends. They might be trying to tell you she really is not that nice after all. I almost fell for that trap. Your new friend can be a great and true friend but don`t become clingy to her. Then your left with one friend. Take things slow with her and maybe you will become best friends. Who knows?

October 14, 2009 at 5:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I AM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THINGAS ALICIA!!! BUT I HATE 2 ADMIT IT, BUT ITS ME AS THE JEALOUS BFF.

HELP!!!!
ANONYMOUS (K)

November 2, 2009 at 5:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey its alicia,

thanks for the comments but, i got dumped by my new friend:( i guess she was embarresssed to be around me or something because whenever she was with her friends she treated me like dirt....

November 15, 2009 at 11:57 PM  
Anonymous Sawyer30638 said...

WOW,thats wat populars do!I had a friend like that...we used to have our own group and than,she became popular.....she still talks to me.I used to wanna be popular,but than i saw waht they did to her.i dont wanna leave all my friends,the way she did

November 19, 2009 at 1:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it is ok to make new frends only if there are nice to ur old

November 22, 2009 at 12:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think thatt you should talk to your old friends and see if your neew friend and them can hang out some timee, they could turn out to become good friends

November 28, 2009 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma is totally right. PLS rules!!!!!!!!!!

December 5, 2009 at 12:11 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

Hey!!!!
That also happened to me. This is what i did:
my old friends were angry with me because i was talking and singing all the time with the new friend. Finally, i told to my new friend and she understood it, now i play with all my friends!

December 9, 2009 at 4:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi my name is alicia and i dont get this part but idk and yes it happened to me to

December 10, 2009 at 6:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey wut i would do and wut i have done is bring them together and sit them down and tell them to say wut they like and dont like about eachother if they say i wont say well if u guys cant be friends im not gonna be friends with either of u till u work it out im not a tugga rope.and i really want to be ur guyses friends please work it out we all have a good friendship.

January 3, 2010 at 4:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whatever u do, do NOT choose sides. That could hurt the other friends' feelings, making her think that u might think she isn't worth anything anymore in your eyes. It could also just make the problem worse and get u stuck in the middle of it all. I had 2 learn the hard way!! Not fun!!!!! Therefore, I know exactly how you're feeling right now! Don't worry, though, things should start 2 clear up soon enough! :) @--->-- (rose) @@@@@ (cookies)
Best wishes!!! Hope I helped you out. Love y'all!!!! :D

~Caligurl

January 18, 2010 at 11:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know the photo in the question above is in this commercial that they show when you go to the movie theaters?! Its the same girl in the same chair and classroom except shes smiling! I just thought Ill point that out since I went to the movie theaters yesterday and saw the commercial! LOL! and good luck to Alicia with her problem!

March 13, 2010 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

same thing happened with me. But this girl was way popular. so I told my friends what was going on and they said okay.

April 19, 2010 at 11:33 PM  
Anonymous houda said...

i think that u should try to make them all friends and if that does not work and there still threating tell them that u will not talk to them and tell. if they are going to be friends then u should make a club (: STAY PINK LIVE PINK LOVE PINK!

P.S IS THAT PIC REALLY U ?

P.P.S ITS PROBLY NOT ):
BYE PINK pink PINK pink PINK pink !!!!!!!!!

May 13, 2010 at 11:51 PM  
Anonymous Kayleigh said...

Throw a sleepover,secretly invite your new friend and your old friend.Get them to hang out a bit

June 4, 2010 at 3:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Have a sleepover

June 4, 2010 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

talk to a councilor or tell your firends if they are going to be like that tell them to stay away from you for a while until they let you hang with her without jealousy. your firends arent being fair

June 16, 2010 at 7:05 PM  

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