When you look "drama" up in the dictionary, it says stuff about "a literary composition to be performed by actors blah, blah, blah..." But when I think of drama, I think of all the stuff that goes on in school and out of school, involving boys, friends, family etc.

Too much drama! That's what a lot of girls say who write to The Pink Locker Society with questions. But how can you tone down the drama in your own life? I, for one, have found myself whipped into a frenzy over stuff and I did not like the feeling one bit. Does anyone want to be the girl who busts into tears at school over a boy or a fight with a friend? I think not!

So I got this advice from a pretty smart person. (She's a mom but she's not MY mom.)

1. Try to keep a cool head if some drama is going down. Maybe your best friends are fighting or there's a tussle over a boy, or someone made the field hockey team and someone didn't. Whatever it is, know that you can always step back for a moment. Step away from the drama!
2. Unplug and chill. It takes two to have drama, so it's perfectly OK to set aside the cell phone and just let the situation settle down. Maybe the fighting friends will make up. Maybe the boy issue will get better. You don't have to participate. If you want to express yourself about it, you might write in a journal. You also might talk to someone who's not directly involved like your older sister, cousin, or grandma.
3. Take care of yourself. Have you ever noticed how little kids get really cranky if they don't get their nap or they're hungry? We're all a little like that if we don't get enough sleep or we haven't had enough healthy food to eat that day. Or maybe you've been really stressed out because you've been studying a lot. Or there's a family situation at home. No matter what's going on, you'll be more in control if you feel strong and rested.

I hope that helped. OK, Pink Locker girls, what are your best tips for avoiding drama?
Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

If your friends are fighting and say stuff that you don't like about the other friend tell her to stop it 'cause your not about to get into the middle of this stuff. You already have enough drama going on with school and your own life so just tell them to leave you out of it but if the want advice and advice only then say the only advice i'm giving is that you TWO started it so you TWO end it. plain in smiple
i hope i helped stay pink

August 13, 2009 at 3:42 PM  
Anonymous Naomi said...

my suggestion to avoid drama is don't start any! don't talk behind your friends back, call people names or anything else that might cause it! i know it's hard to refrain from gossip but you might want to try that too! think pink! Naomi

August 13, 2009 at 6:05 PM  
Blogger alisha said...

I agree with naomi but well some people get carried away and start lying.

August 14, 2009 at 8:35 AM  
Anonymous katie said...

which is very annoying...! oh and whatever you do, DON'T PICK SIDES! that's the worst thing you can do!! you end up losing at least 1 friend! okay well hope these tips helped!

August 16, 2009 at 11:17 AM  
Anonymous Naomi said...

it's terrible that people have to lie to their friends to impress them or something, because if people are your real friends then you should just be able to be yourself around them. i so agree, alisha. Naomi

August 16, 2009 at 11:20 PM  
Anonymous Cassie said...

I'm totally with ya'! I'm never the type of girl who's always involved in drama. But two of my friends don't get along, so what I did was trick them into forgiving each other. Mari, said she would sit wherever I would seat and, so, I sat close to Ana (they don't get along) and somehow ended up about forgiveness. TA-DA!!! Problem solved.

August 17, 2009 at 9:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Every girl knows that if there are boys there is drama! Sometimes friends change emotionally during puberty and when they like boys. What I do is when my friends have mother natures monthly gift I bake cookies and bring them in! All girls go crazy for chocolate chip cookies! Remember to bring enough for each friend or other people to have one! In experience girls sometimes nitpick on other girls because their crush may like you or they think they are the 'cat's meow'! What I do is I write in my journal to express my feelings about my day because sometimes you can’t tell your friends or your parents how you truly feel. I try my best not to talk bad about girls behind their back. For one what do you gain from someone’s self-esteem being shot and another, if you talk bad about a girl to your friends it will leak out! When I was in 6th grade, there ways a boy who picked on me about my acne and size. Then, I had a few blemishes and I was a model.(He called me fat) One day it got really bad when we were waiting for our teacher to get in the class, he was making fun of my face size and personality. I began to cry in front of the whole class because all of my classmates and my friends were laughing with him. By the time my teacher came in I had the little bit of mascara I wore, was running down my face! I felt horrible. But from that experience I have learned that people gain nothing from being mean like that and if you are mean to someone no one will like you. Now, boys boys boys!!! All girl drama somehow some way revolves around boys!!! What I do is I avoid the couples with groups of friends that force each other to kiss. In my opinion it is lame and is a big sign of peer-pressure at a young age!! I also stay away from the guy crazed girls. All they talk about is boys and how cute they are! There is no point! Now I am not saying you can’t be friends with them, you should be kind to everyone, but don’t change for anyone just to fit in. When you like a bout remember you are what you want to be and if a boy dose not like you for who you are then they aren’t the right one for you! Find sports and activities you love to do and always be your self around everyone!

Love Ya,

Think Pink! =)

August 18, 2009 at 2:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

omg---oh my goodness

August 18, 2009 at 9:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Follow my friend's and I's guidlines:the three R's.
Remember: to not get dramatic
Respect: respect other kids to begin with and a lot of problemos are prevented
Relax: after a fight;and just keep your cool!
Think Pink!
P.S. Nice advice, mom!

August 20, 2009 at 6:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just do what u think is right.

August 21, 2009 at 6:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

a big thing that causes drama is gossip so try and make yourself a dead end for gossip, once it comes to you don't let it keep going, just don't spread it! so steer clear of drama and gossip hope i helped!:-)
p.s. don't meddle either.

August 26, 2009 at 9:50 PM  
Anonymous Courtney said...

ok alot of girls at my school get very jealous about boys!! it is ridiculous...you shouldn't fight over boys at all cuz most of them arent worth it. boys are very very sneaking, trust me i know,they tell you things that you want to hear. but they talk about you like your a conquest, or a prize, or even a piece of meat lol but anyways, its really hard these days to find a godd guy to like but your friends might like that guy also likes. my solution is to like a guy from a different school. so you can avoid the drama with your friends. but dont go & brag about it to your friends because that could also lead to total mega drama!! you dont want that to happen cuz if you do you willl end up losing a really good friend!! well i gotta go TTYL PEACE, LOVE, & HARMONEY....pls rules

August 26, 2009 at 9:56 PM  
Anonymous Caroline said...

I have loads of drama in my family. It is OK to get upset once in a while. But not all the time!

October 5, 2009 at 5:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I hate drama it is just like a dog because dogs don't stop barking and drama doesn't stop coming...
There is soo much drama at our school and i think drama is like a annoying mosquito bite it doesn't go away unless you put itch cream on it JK LOL well you get what i mean!!

October 15, 2009 at 9:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that the best way to avoid drama is by being careful with what you say. You should think before you speak. And by doing this you will avoid many problems.

October 20, 2009 at 6:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok, drama is worst(as we all know ) and you got to say : stop it drama!!!! Believe in yourself!!!!!

October 20, 2009 at 6:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its hard to avoid drama. in todays world drama seems to come as naturaly as breathing.
the best way to avoid drama is just dont start it ( like they all say) also dont become bored. when ppl are bored they look for ANYTHING to do ( they also be come irritated) and some times starting drama is the answer.
DONT LESTEN TO GOSSIP!!!!! most of the time its lies to get back at a person. if the gossip is about you... dont get fired up. if its not true and ppl ask you about it look them in the eyes and say " no, tht didnt happen." ( or some thing like tht)
if your friend started it ( we all know that would hurt) DONT start any thing about her or try to get back at her. you will only make it worse. talk to her in privet and ask why she did that. try to work it out.
another way to avoid drama is to avoid boys. in todays world a good guys hard to come by. if you and your friend are fighting over a guy... ask your self this.... " is my friend or this guy more importent?" in the end who do you think will be there when you cry?

December 18, 2009 at 1:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Drama is awful. Two of my friends from the 4th grade (good thing there isn't any drama between them 2 years later) would get in weekly fights over really silly things. The best things to do if there is drama between two others (not including you) are:
1. Stay out of it! I haven't been involved in any drama that goes on between the two of them because I stayed out of all of their fights.
2. If someone is trying to pull you into something you have nothing to do with, stay away.
3. If you were friends with someone but they got into lots of fights with others, don't be friends with them anymore. My two friends from two years ago aren't as close as they used to be because I didn't like the way they fought.

December 22, 2009 at 1:38 AM  
Anonymous Lachelle said...

OK so my advice about drama is stay away from the people that cause it and it you're one of the people just think about how the person you're 'against' feels.

January 9, 2010 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

just tyr 2 stay out of everything, if u get envoloved, then tell ur parents, and/or maybe ask an adult at school 2 help u

April 3, 2010 at 9:00 PM  
Blogger Samantha said...

I think the only rule you need to know is: Think twice (at least) before you say ANYTHING.

Most fights happen because someone said something that was offensive or uncalled for. (You should know what makes the person you're talking to mad or frustrated)

Then the other side gets frustrated or mad.

And, then, people start arguing or fighting about what the first person said.

Sometimes, more than one person gets involved, when it's CLEARLY none of their beeswax.

Sides are taken.

Hearts are broken.

Offenses are taken.

Good friends are lost.

All because of one person who didn't bother to think before they said something.

June 30, 2010 at 3:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

drama is fun at times but it is bleck at most times

July 10, 2010 at 1:28 AM  

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