Should Kelsey ask him to the dance?

I think we've all been in Kelsey's shoes. She likes someone. There's an event coming up - in this case, a dance. And she wonders if she should be brave and ask him. Here's her question:

hey pls,
i need help i am scared to ask this boy to dance if he doesnt ask me at the 7th and 8th grade dance i really like him and i dont know if he likes me bac people say we would b the greatest couple but i dk if he likes me how do u tell if he likes you?? and how do u ask him to dance?? without being desperate or embarrassed if he says no??
kelsey, 12

What we need here is a Magic 8 ball to tell the future. Will he ask Kelsey? Does he like her? Will they have a good time if they go together. But alas, my Magic 8 ball is just a toy and doesn't REALLY know what's going to happen. No one does. So I'd suggest Kelsey go to the dance with a bunch of friends and hope that her crush is there, too. Do you guys really need to have dates? Keep it casual and maybe you can figure out how he feels at the dance.

What do you think Pink Locker girls? Agree with me or do you think Kelsey should be bolder?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well u should tell him how u feel because he may like u back I told this one boy how I felt and he didnt like me back but he was surprised that I told him.

August 9, 2009 at 10:46 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

(I mostly agree with Jemma)

Another idea would be: if you see him alone, all by himself... go over to him, say "hi", and chat a little. When the next song comes on, casually ask him to dance. I guess it should work!

August 9, 2009 at 11:07 PM  
Anonymous NG said...

You should ask him before he slips away trust me.

August 10, 2009 at 12:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wait, are you wanting to ask him to dance or ask him to a dance?

August 10, 2009 at 12:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should go for it! If you really like the guy why not take a chance? If he says no at least he knows how you feel and he will porbaly think about it and maybe ask you out next time.
I've been in the same situation, twice! The first time I didn't ask him and turns out he liked me since forever! (I found out that after though)
The second time I took a chance.
I asked him and he said no but I still like him and I've got a feeling ( and so have my friends) that he likes me now.
I guess I'll find out soon.
Take a chance girl! Be pink!

August 10, 2009 at 4:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Kelsey

The same thing happend to me a few months ago..... exept I didnt do anything about it.....
Turns out he did like me but I found out too late :(
Tell him how you feel or get a guy friend too tell him and see what the reply is.... if he doesn't well then he's just not the one!
Good Luck ;)

August 10, 2009 at 7:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well kelsey i told are boy how i liked him and he liked me bk so if u realy want 2 know ask him somewhere the 2 of u are alone and if he does like u.U can ask him 2 the dance.

August 10, 2009 at 11:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thank you guys i still dont kno i dont want to be embrassed

August 10, 2009 at 11:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

but wat do i say when i tell him i like him

August 10, 2009 at 11:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i've been in your situation before and i was a little afraid at first. but then he got another girl to go out with him and i lost him. all i have to say is if you don't ask him, be prepared to lose him.

August 10, 2009 at 7:32 PM  
Anonymous mkbet1 said...

well i told him him and he thought i was gross so he picked another girl ;-(

August 10, 2009 at 8:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

bin there done that...i just would have a convo with him around his friends and bring up the dance and see if he's going or his attention is drawn to u. then be like well if your going you'll have to meet me on the dance floor cuz i'm a non-stop party girl. if he shows up at the dance playfuly say see i knew you'd come to see me dance my heart out why don't you join me

August 12, 2009 at 2:13 AM  
Anonymous leah said...

if she really likes him and if he'll say yes then yes but only if she knows that he is going to say yes

August 12, 2009 at 8:38 AM  
Anonymous Kojo said...

I think you should go to the dance with friends and see if your crush is there(like Jemma said)and "accidentally" bumb in to him and then ask him to dance.

August 12, 2009 at 5:21 PM  
Blogger Hannah said...

well i think he knows that everyone crushes, so she should ask him and he should understand and if he likes you back he'll say yes if not he'll think youre cool cuz you had the guts 2 ask him!!!!!! keep it pink!! :)

August 12, 2009 at 5:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just like asking to have a drink of water. Be cool and chill out. Boys Like that.

August 12, 2009 at 6:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Try writing a note to him and leave it somewhere like in his desk, or locker, or something telling him, and asking him if he likes you, and to go to the dance.

August 13, 2009 at 10:31 PM  
Blogger athenianlady said...

casually strike up a conversation, and ask him if he is even GOING to the dance (even if you know he is)If he says yes, then just say, then would you like to go to the dance with me? and give him a million dollar smile. if he says no, ask why? if hes busy, that stinks. if he just didnt feel like going, ask him if he would want to go if it were with you.

August 14, 2009 at 12:29 PM  
Anonymous anna said...

well, let me see. i think dont tell him you like him, well i coud not i don't know about you thogh. but i hope this helps.... talk with him a little bit and if he dosn't ask wait tell the next song that you love well atlest a song you like and i love this song and mabe he well ask you to dance, the is what i think but what ever you think is best you do

hope this helps

August 14, 2009 at 3:10 PM  
Anonymous Kryatiana said...

well i agree with Jemma. But if you really like him then face your fears and ask him. Maybe you can ask him if he has a date to the dance and if he says know then ask him to go with you.

August 17, 2009 at 11:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i understand how you feel, i really wanted a boy to ask me to the middle school dance last year. but he didnt sadly.:( so when it was the very last slow song of the night, i asked him to dance with me. and he did and he didnt make fun of me or anything. he never even brought it up. and then we started dateing. cute ending but bad start.
i hope i helped a little bit.

August 28, 2009 at 7:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the same problem. Im a sophmore and our first dance is on the 11th of september the sadies howkens dance at that and I really like this guy and im not sure if he likes me. i was going to ask him today but i chickened out but im going to do it tomarrow FERRSURE! Expecially after what I have heard. Thanks guys:) BE PINK ;)

September 2, 2009 at 12:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i think u should ask him if he likes u i mean u have nothing 2 lose right?
and if he says yes good if he says no oh well there are other fish in the sea!
good luck!

September 2, 2009 at 7:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, I think you should go for it! If he says no just say ok and go dance with friends!! Good Luck, and have Fun!!!

September 4, 2009 at 1:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just go with your bffs. and dance thats how my sister does it. Have fun Good Luck!

September 6, 2009 at 3:58 PM  
Anonymous michaela said...

i no im havn da same prob i really like dis guy (who i have liked 4 2 years) n we r both in 7th grade and our first dance is coming up n i really really wanna ask him o by the way me n him are close friends!!!! plz HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

September 12, 2009 at 9:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just go to the dance with your bfs. you will have alot more fun if you do that

September 14, 2009 at 4:32 PM  
Anonymous brianna said...

just ask him.he will proboly say yes.

September 16, 2009 at 2:35 PM  
Blogger Inayah said...

dont worry kelsey every1 has that problem sometimes i had that problem it didnt work out but at least the boy knows the truth ... u should defo tell him

u neva no .... the boy i had a crush on 4 years said we could go out soon !!!!!!

September 17, 2009 at 4:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just be friends at the dance ask him to dance with u

September 18, 2009 at 11:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey,I'm not what you call popular,but I really liked this popular dude.I asked him and surprisingly,he said yes.So you should go for it.If an overweight girl gets a popular guy,you know you can get him!

September 22, 2009 at 1:01 PM  
Anonymous Lee said...

Dear Kelsey,
If you like him go 4 it because it worked 4 me i wanted 2 go out with this boy and just asked him i was very nerves 2 but i knew that Jesus was their with good luck.....i'll pray 4 u.......just be strong

September 24, 2009 at 9:23 PM  
Anonymous treazur said...

if u like him y not tell him and if he say no find another boy that u like and ask him out and ir he say yes go with him

September 26, 2009 at 9:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You should ask him.I mean its not like he's just gonna read you mind and just ask you.

September 27, 2009 at 3:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should ask him. Make it casual though.

October 2, 2009 at 11:55 PM  
Anonymous sOpHiE said...

Take a chance and ask. you'll never know until u try.

October 3, 2009 at 7:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i would go for it i mean he may like you just ask him when your alone and he is alone.

October 14, 2009 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous zarz said...

I agree with Sophie.But don't just ask him straight on start a chat and keep cool!

October 17, 2009 at 4:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sure he likes you just ask him!!

October 29, 2009 at 11:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo u never ask a boy the boy always come 2 u remember u r the bait so he should have no problem asking u ps tell your friend 2 act like u don't know that u told her 2 ask him 2 dance so he can come up there :]

November 8, 2009 at 12:13 PM  
Blogger Kara said...

of coursed u should ask him to the dance. If he likes u or u think he like s u just ask him never dought yourself. Ask him to the dance and u will feel confidentt about youself and don't feel bad about yourself

November 16, 2009 at 12:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

he probly likes you so take a chance and ask him to the dance im dealing with the same problem

November 16, 2009 at 1:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i agree with amanda!!! go girls!

November 27, 2009 at 3:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when you tell him you like him and he likes you 2 then

a.ask him to go out with u and he will then most likely ask YOU to the dance.

b.ask him to the dance THEN ask him to be your bf

or if he doesnt like you then forget about him he dosent know what hes missing out on!!! go girl you can do this!!!!

November 27, 2009 at 3:43 PM  
Blogger battynora said...

this happens all the time you don't know if he likes you he doesn't know if you like him you don't know whether to ask him out and he doesn't know whether to ask you out just be their friend and if it goes to bf/gf good you will both be fine with it not embarass or upset (i hope this helps)

December 4, 2009 at 12:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Take a chance if you don't ask you won't know. Tell him right out you think he's hot (or cute whatever the case may be) . Be fearless. Fearless doesn't mean you don't have any fears,it means you have lots but jump any way!

December 4, 2009 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't think you should ask him ask your best friend to ask him, and tell her to say no if he asks HER. Do this if you know you can trust her. Then if your friend says he's going alone or with his friend, now is your time to ask him. Still ask him if he doesn't think he'll go(not if he's sick or something). If he is going with another girl, find out who she is. I trust you from here... good luck!

December 5, 2009 at 5:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think you should ask him to the dance. I asked a boy out he said maybe then a week later he is my boyfriend. Weve been a couple for about a month. now i heard he is cheating on me. :(

December 8, 2009 at 9:40 AM  
Anonymous Carla said...


This is what I would do:
First, I should investigate if I like him. Then if i like him, i would ask him of going to the dance with me. The boys are not the only ones who ask the girls. We are strong! We are girls!!!!!! Thats OK

December 10, 2009 at 1:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this is samia and i would ask him to the dance.

January 24, 2010 at 3:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well im in your grade as well and my school has dances. i really know how you feel. i have the same problem all the way down to the cute couple part. but at the moment we don't have a dance... but tomarrow im allowing a friend of mine to ask as him if he likes me. make sence? get a friend of your and his to do the asking if he likes u part. if he says no than she can say she was just wondering. he wont suspect a thing.

February 10, 2010 at 8:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should ask him before he asks someo ne else...From Gemma From Canada!Yay!!!! :) :D :)

February 26, 2010 at 2:32 PM  
Blogger harvey said...

Trust me I've been torough the same thing,in my case he likes me alot! Well here's some advice:
Does he talk to you alot?
Is he always teasing you?
Does he talk about you at his house,to his parnets/siblings?
Does he like being your partner at school?
Is he talking about girls (if he is that's a huge red flag)?
And finally does he always say your the best,or is he sayng that your his best friend forever?
If u answer yes to at least 1 question it's good! Now dont go to far in asking him to the danec,just tell him you dont have a partner for the dance and need one! See his reaction if it's a smile ask him very quickly like 1 minute after. If he shrugs his shoulder dont even bother!

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

March 25, 2010 at 6:21 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

just ask him! You'll be okay!

April 3, 2010 at 9:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

take a deep breath and ask him. if you're still nervous try to get to know him better. it'll be ok!!!!! I didn't know if this boy liked me but it turned out he did!! Now he's my boyfriend!!! GoOd LuCk

May 15, 2010 at 9:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

go to him and look in his eyes.[not too close]. then ask him if he wants to go to the dance with you. Trust me it will work. Not a single guy [except the rotten ones] can hold back.

May 29, 2010 at 4:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

she shoudent be shy just ask him dont be scard girls is better then boys

July 1, 2010 at 5:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

go for it trust me!! go dance as friends i believe he won't refuse

August 6, 2010 at 7:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

trust me this has happend 2 me 1ns ant i went over 2 him nd said can i borrow u
i dont no how long its gonna take but i awww i like this song even if u dont like it nd say do u?if he sais kinda just say i luv it and then ask him do u wonna dance maybe nd he might say no but if he doesee say no just say kk i just luv asking people if they wanna dance lol nd just say im goin 2 a friend nd tlk 2 him her
thts wat i donn to the boy i always luved

August 7, 2010 at 11:05 AM  
Anonymous Bekah said...

You should say in a friendly way, "Hey I'm thinkin bout goin to the dance, u gonna do the same?" If he says yes, say," Well, I'd love to be your escort. Are u interested?"
It's the best way. If he says no, it won't be awkward as u saying, "Will you go to the dance with me?" in a really nervous way.

October 10, 2010 at 7:31 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

My advice is for the first half of the dance to play hard to get. Wait for him. If you feel him watching you, separate from the group. Walk a couple paces away, fake yawn or rub your eyes (don't if you have eyeshadow on), and turn around. Look surprised to see him there.
For the second half, if he isn't asking you, it's time to ask him. Don't make it like a big deal. Ask him at the beginning of the song so he isn't taken.

March 4, 2012 at 5:47 PM  

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