Let's hear it for our 10,000th customer!

OK, so by now it's clear that we are just blown away by all the questions and comments we're getting. Thank you, thank you, thank you. And my apologies if you have written in and not received an answer. You are not alone! We have received more than 12,000 questions from girls since late April, when we launched this website.

So the best we can do is answer as many as we can. We also hope the questions we pick are dilemmas lots of girls can relate to. But we picked today's question in a random way. We scrolled back through all our email and picked out the 10,000th question. Here she is!

Dear PLS,
i'm in fifth grade but my crush is in eighth grade. i think if i tell him i like him he will make fun of me what should i do?
Chasity, 10

I love this question. Who hasn't had their eye on a dreamy, but significantly older, boy? I personally think three years age difference is too much if you're thinking of him like a boyfriend. But that doesn't stop you from liking the guy. Why not be friends with him? Since he's older, he probably knows his way around the school. Ask him who his favorite teacher was in 5th grade or ask his opinion about the cafeteria. It's a long way off, but someday you'll be 21 and he'll be 24. Then three years won't be such a big deal.

Agree or disagree? Who wants to help the writer of our 10,000th question?

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Anonymous casey said...

Well yh just be friends with him u guys can hangout together or maybe invite eachtoher to ur houses and ask each other stuff like about school or anything

October 7, 2009 at 11:15 AM  
Anonymous Sunnie said...

I am going through this at the mo I really lk this boy but his 1 year older than me. His one of those boys who everyone lks. Its to embarrassing to talk to him I always stutter and dont know what to say but just chillax it will all fall your way if its meant to be.

October 7, 2009 at 2:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok, i am in 7th grade and i under stand that you Chasity like a 8th grade guy and you are in 5th grae. wel my advice is that you to should just be FRIENDS. you to can hang out and talk. There is a 5th grade boy who likes me. but i dont like him. and a 6th grade boy liked me and asked me out but i said no because i just didnt feel okay about going out with a boy younger than me. also i am taller than him, and i wear make-up. his dad is a cop and i thought what would happen if i said no. but you and the th grade boy should just be friends. just be yourself and mabye something will happen in the furture. <3 :)

p.s. i know you will make the right disiction.

October 7, 2009 at 7:38 PM  
Anonymous emma mae said...

you know i uesed to like a guy in 6 grade and im 9. my friend jordan she said that "if you tell him he'll probaly understand its up to you you can just be friends for a while."so i was just friends untill camp was over. good luck!, emma mae, 9 :) ;)

October 7, 2009 at 9:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel the exact same way. my crush is 3 years older than me as well. I suggest just being friends for now. Bcuz you guys might still be friends in 13 years, then the age difference wont seem like a big deal!

October 7, 2009 at 10:10 PM  
Anonymous Jess said...

im in seventh grade, and i only really noticed i like older guys than me. im 13 and they are 19 up... the question is 'What do i do?' im too scared to tell him, i need your help girls! its harder than you think!!!

October 8, 2009 at 1:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma's right. Get to know him...he'll probably be a big help to you, and don't forget, boys make great friends. Plus, it'll get you LOTS of face time with Mr. Dreamy. :)

October 8, 2009 at 4:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ya just be friends your only in fifih grade you have plunty of time before boys

October 8, 2009 at 8:40 PM  
Anonymous J.T. said...

I think you should frist start off in the friend lane and then make your way in the boyfriend and grilfriend lane after you to have realy gotten to kow one another

October 9, 2009 at 2:21 PM  
Anonymous lee said...

i am a 6th grader and my boyfriend is in 8th grade and when i told him that i liked him he did not make fun of me so if u like him just tell him and hope 4 the best.........................i will keep u in mind and hope everything works out 4 u

October 9, 2009 at 8:08 PM  
Anonymous anna said...

i think u should tell him if he makes fun of u tell a mom or a female teacher about itand then just find another guy u like....................i wish u the best of luck.

October 9, 2009 at 8:15 PM  
Anonymous Zoe said...

girl if you really love this guy then ask him and if he makes fun of you just say look if your going to be this rude then just forget it my brothers in 12th grade and the captain of the football team works for me everytime

October 9, 2009 at 11:43 PM  
Anonymous Zeinab said...

I understand how that feels! When I was in fifth grade (last year) I had a crush on a seventh grader and he liked me back. How? Because I was so nice and gentle with him...it started out with hi... I kept saying hi and then his name (hi, mohamed)and he would say hi back. Then one day he called my name. Soon we would share stuff with each other he bought popcorn and shared with me. Sadly I got over him.

October 10, 2009 at 8:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just do what i do act like your lost ask him where your classroom is

October 10, 2009 at 9:23 AM  
Anonymous Scarlet said...

Find any boys in your year, if there isn't anyone, make new friends by going 2 dance classes, waiting in waiting rooms or even a new boy might come 2 your grade and u could speak 2 him!

October 10, 2009 at 12:47 PM  
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October 13, 2009 at 12:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Start talking to him.Find out a music he really likes and then start singing it if u are next ti him.that sort of stuff.That is how I am doing.

October 13, 2009 at 5:06 PM  
Anonymous mintchocolate said...

i know what you mean i was dateing a yonger boy and he was embaresed for a while i was too at firt we were just friends but then we got a little more serious

October 13, 2009 at 11:32 PM  
Anonymous kaitlyn b said...

i know we all have crushes some day we will tell them some day but i said some day when we get the help we need to do that.

MAKE THEM LIKE YOU TOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

October 14, 2009 at 7:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

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October 14, 2009 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just give a try at being friends, remember that there is always others that you can turn to!

October 14, 2009 at 10:42 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

Just be good friends with him. I have the same problem...no one in 6th grade is cute and I like a guy in 7th grade so I made my friend tell him I liked him and he said he didn't know me. So I said hi to him and now we talk. You try it.

October 17, 2009 at 9:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im in the 6th grade and im gettting bullyed any coments

October 17, 2009 at 9:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when your alone , explain to him!

October 17, 2009 at 2:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

give it a shot just be friends for a while

October 19, 2009 at 11:55 AM  
Anonymous tomboy tami said...

if you really like the guy , be yourself and hey mabye he likes you! Try to be friends with him

October 19, 2009 at 7:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i dont think you can date him but u can be friends

October 19, 2009 at 8:58 PM  
Anonymous Keyla said...

Try to flirt with him or just try to send a friend to ask him

October 20, 2009 at 5:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had the same problem when I was in year 6 but the guy was younger han me lol! But he liked me but asked another girl out instead! I soon got over him and now go to an all girls school and is soooooo much happier there!!!

October 21, 2009 at 2:49 PM  
Anonymous xpert said...

It's fine to have a crush on older guys. It's all a part of life and it happend to everyone. Sometimes when I go to the middle school for tournaments I think the guy sitting on the refs chair is fit sometimes but its jusr a crush that will pass and there are always more fish in the sea :-)

October 26, 2009 at 4:47 AM  
Anonymous ily2 Colin! said...

awwww! That's so cute! Not trying to make you feel bad here, but he would probably think so too. Trust me!Most grade eight guys are pigs, and only care about what we look like! Trust me, I am a girl in eighth grade, who was lucky enough to find myself a sweet, cute, funny, romantic guy who told me he loves me today! Find another guy, a guy who is your age and will treat you right. You will be happy with this, trust me!

October 27, 2009 at 5:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i knew a girl who was sweet on a 7th grader when she was in 3rd grade. she would yell sweey things at him and he would like it

October 30, 2009 at 9:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i reckon it's alright! My parents have a 4 year age difference. You can't help liking who you like. it just comes naturally. its ok to like a 8th grader. i was in year 2 when i had a crush on the school captain in year 6!

November 8, 2009 at 10:54 PM  
Anonymous ~Amaris said...

I think its best to like someone older than you. He will know more,understand more, and be more mature. My mom and dad are six years apart.

November 16, 2009 at 4:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi! i new a grl who was in 9th grade and liked a 3rd grader! he didnt like her back when she asked! idk if tht grl can do it then i think u can ask a 8th grader. i do think its best to star off as friends. and maybe wehn ur older he will see you for the star* tht u r!
luv yall

November 19, 2009 at 2:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i love zac efron. but... he lives in the USA. i live in CANADA. he is 21. i am lO. he is married. i dont even have a CRUSH!!! he starrs in movies. i go 2 school in a small town. he is sooo hot. i am a lO year old blonde haired blue eyed crybaby. i have his poster in my room and i talk 2 it and kiss it. he, well he doesnt do that with me, he doesnt know i am ALIVE!!!
anonymous (K)

November 20, 2009 at 11:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm the same..I like a boy who's 15 but I'm only 13. Like Jemma said, some day you'll be 21 and he'll be 24. You never know!!!

November 23, 2009 at 11:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

me too!

November 25, 2009 at 4:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know what you going through I also have a crush on a boy four or five years older than me and I'm also in sixth grade. maybe you can ask him to help you with homework you don't understand and just be friends.

November 26, 2009 at 8:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have a crush on a boy in my class. i'm not sure if he likes me and all my friends made fun of me when i told them that i like him. he is always giving me my backpack and offering to hold me things and walks with me down the hall and we sit together at the bus line. does he like me?

November 29, 2009 at 9:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel the same way. I'm in 5th grade, just like you. I only like guys older then me, and I used to have a crush on this 6th grader, last summer. I think thaat when you see him, say hi and ask him what he's doing. That'll give ya a clue; he'll tell you stuff about what he recently did. Trust me... I know. If he's in a middle school you know, ask him what it's like. After all, he is leaving next year. He'll probably have a girlfriend soon, so I think you should just be friends.

December 5, 2009 at 5:36 PM  
Anonymous Allie said...

Dont worry.I have a crush on a 9th grader and im in 7th grade.Every one has crushes on older guys.I always say hi to him but he is my friends brother so I dont no what to do about that but i will figure something out.

December 9, 2009 at 8:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My boyfriend is 2 years older than me, so he is real mature so I say go for it girly!!!

December 14, 2009 at 1:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HI!
how would you feel if a 2nd grader told you tht they liked you??? you would feel awkward!
he might feel like that to... his friends might make fun of him because of tht. because to him your a child. the friend rode is GREAT! also you are so young whats the rush to tell him today??? maybe in a few years when age dont matter tell him.... or you will have moved on found some one even better!
love ya!
ps. your not even a teen yet! you have at the most 3 years of drama free life left! LIVE IT GRL!

December 18, 2009 at 1:32 PM  
Anonymous danijoy747 said...

i like this guy whos 15 but im 12 our parents r friends so i kinda no him but i try not to make it to obvious tht i like him. i talk to him as a friend and you should to maybe things will work out idk

good luck!!!

December 24, 2009 at 11:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That is the EXACT same thing for me,but he is my friends brother...i just talk to him sometimes. My friends know so they ask him about me or mention me to him sometimes.We are friends and i dont want him to be my boyfriend but i might want to get married one day!
-Jaimey

December 29, 2009 at 4:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just be friends first. it might work out. Like me i use to like one of my brother's friends and hes 4 yrs. older than me. Just be friends first then see what you want to happen next!:)

January 2, 2010 at 11:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I totally agree! You guys should just hang out with the guy and get to know each other.

from, a friend

January 6, 2010 at 7:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, just like Jemma said, 3 years won't really make a difference when you're older. Just relax, talk to him, don't tell him your age and you might just hook up! Only stop worrying about him knowing your age once you're in a strong relationship.

January 9, 2010 at 10:50 AM  
Anonymous Aubrey said...

You shold just be friends and then maybe you can figure out by that if he likes you. then when your certain he likes you tell him you like him and things may turn out good!

January 12, 2010 at 6:24 PM  
Anonymous Lauren said...

just be friends with him because personally I think you are too young for boys

January 15, 2010 at 4:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i don't think you should worry about telling him anything at this point. Your only in 5th grade...relax!!

February 27, 2010 at 2:54 PM  
Anonymous BigM said...

I like this boy who is 15.I'm 11.He is a girl on my basketball team's brother.He and I have never even talked or been next to each other.I am very mature.I am VERY tall for my age.What do I do?

March 5, 2010 at 8:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should wait. Eighth graders are a WHOLE other level. If he likes you, go for it. I really think that you should WAIT though.

March 7, 2010 at 8:19 PM  
Anonymous Irene :] said...

Hi Chasity!
I completely now how you feel. I'm in the 7th grade and I used to have a crush on a 10th grader earlier this year. I tried to befriend him,but somehow everything got wrong in the middle of things and he stopped talking to me. I wasn't sure what to do,but I soon got over my confusion.
Last year,when I was in the 6th grade, I used to have a crush on some OTHER guy (>.>), but he was in the 12th grade. I became friends with him and everything turned out pretty good, and we're friends now. I even decided that I didn't have a crush on him anymore, but we still talk.
But I think you should just wait until you're a liiitle older. I don't want you feeling confused then getting your mind blown IF your eighth grade crush somehow crushes you, like what happened to me. You should just wait & we'll see what'll happen. But after what happened with the 10th grade guy, I decided I wouldn't try so hard to befriend an older guy I fancy. I should just wait and see what will happen & what God's plans between my crush and I are.You're still pretty young to experience heartbreak and strong emotions.
Hope this helped! Good luck! :D

March 9, 2010 at 12:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey there chasity!
i totally agree with irene. you should wait longer before deciding on your feelings. i used to like this guy too, but then now i don't feel much anymore. if you make too hasty a decision, you might get hurt many, many times. besides, it's fun knowing that you actually do crush on people! some of my friends still think guys are total idiots and i know people who never crushed on anyone before. your future is in God's hands, just sit back and let Him take the reins!:)

March 10, 2010 at 8:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well, maybe u should become his friend first. and kinda do things that u think he might like or something..

March 16, 2010 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous BigM said...

Girls like older boys because girls mature faster than boys so would like to be with someone mature.Boys are immature so they like younger girls because they want to be with someone who is not as mature so they can have fun and just be silly.

March 19, 2010 at 10:40 PM  
Anonymous bfmbridge said...

i am in seventh grade and have a crush on an eighth grader and a ninth grader.
my advice is become friends with him, then find more than one crush. if you have more than one crush you wont feel as bad if he says no.
hope i helped

March 24, 2010 at 9:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Does he have a sister? If you become friends with his sibs then everyone's happy!

March 27, 2010 at 10:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i like this boy who is in grade 9 and i am in 6 grade. he likes a girl in my class but she does not like him. what should i do?

April 12, 2010 at 1:24 PM  
Anonymous Zekeyra said...

OMG! I am in the 6th grade and my crush is in highschool. He has a girlfriend and I saw them kissing on the steps on my way to gym class. I never got over that and how much he hurt my feelings.

April 15, 2010 at 8:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't think you should tell a guy you like especially if he's like 5-6 yrs and older that you like him because 1: he could make fun of you. 2: I think you should just get a guy when your at least 14 and he's like 14,15 that's it on my limit only 1-2 yrs apart or if your an adult maybe 3-4 yrs apart. That's my opinion about boys.

May 8, 2010 at 2:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should wait until your at least 14 to think strongly about boys because if your like just an 10-11 yr old you shouldn't get your heartbroken that early in life. That's my advise Chasity, hope it helped and just talk to him and be friends 1st then see where it takes you in about 4 yrs.Hope it helped!
P.S. You might not even have strong feelings about him within even a yr maybe!

May 8, 2010 at 2:20 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

My grade has something where a lot of people are dating people in the lower grade. I know someone who is dating a girl two years older. So it's okay. But sometimes 8th graders are mean and will make fun of you. So I wouldn't tell him. Because that would mess things up.

March 4, 2012 at 5:42 PM  

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