Tummy Trouble

Today's question is a good reminder that we all can become a little body obsessed. Do you ever look at your body, compare it to other girls or even to women in magazines and on TV? "Not Feeling Sexy" said she's worried that her tummy is not flat.

Dear PLS,
I really really REALLY need your help. Wherever i look all these girls have these sexy flat tummys and figures but i look like Ive eaten a ball.It makes me really embarrassed and Ive tried to lose my BIG tummy but it doesn't seem to work.I really need help and ive asked the PLS before but i dont know where to go for my answer.
PLEASE HELP
from not feeling sexy, 13


First, I'd say there's no requirement that you feel sexy. What does feeling sexy mean, anyway? And I'd admit that there are times when I see myself in a photo or in the mirror and I don't like everything I see. It's hard not to compare yourself to others. Have you seen my friend, Piper?!

But here's what I'm working on - a good resolution for all of us in 2010. I'm going to try not to say negative things about myself, even in my own head. So when I'm tempted to think that I'm too short or my boobs are too small, I'll find something better to focus on. For instance, "I look great in my new green sweater" or "I ran a mile today without stopping."

Also remember that it's OK to be a REAL GIRL who looks normal and not like an airbrushed magazine cover. The truth is that people in magazines are often very beautiful but sometimes get extra help from technology. With computer software, they can erase a pimple or make someone's hips look smaller. So even already attractive people end up looking unbelievably perfect in photos. I like this YouTube video because it shows how lots of girls think about this stuff and what REAL BEAUTY is.

Now it's time to hear from you! What do you say Pink Locker Girls? What advice do you have for someone who doesn't like a part of her body.

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, myself be a bigger girl would have to say that if you keep comparing yourself to other "skinnier" girls or as we call them in my school "toothpicks" you will always see your self as larger than you are. And if in the future you do lose you tummy, you will always see your self as you once were. So try to accept youself as you are becasue god desiged you perfectly to teh way he wanted you and he thinks thst your beautiful, pretty and 'sexy'. And his opinion is tghe one that counts most.

December 31, 2009 at 10:56 AM  
Anonymous NG said...

Your beautiful the way you are everyone is unique.DON'T and I mean do not copare yourself to other girls.

December 31, 2009 at 5:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

aww don't worry! you are an unique individual and don't worry about these skinny girls because they definately won't be skinny forever! i bet you are gorgeous in your own ways and i have the same problem as you and i just try and be confident in my own skin and people learnt to respect that

good luck! xx

December 31, 2009 at 9:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

These girls with the flat "sexy" tummies - they won't be skinny forever! And I know that the old saying is "It only matters whats on the inside" but I know us girls think very differently from that - it DOES matter what we look like, and that's good! But instead of classifying yourself as the "one with the non-sexy stomach", pay more attention to the things about yourself that you love (for example; your hair, eyes, skin complexion, etc.)!

January 1, 2010 at 12:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if you're insecure about your stomach try doing ab crunches or something! you don't have to show off your stomach, wear one piece swimsuits, flowy tops and other things to conceal it if you wish. but i don't think you should focus on the bad, focus on the beautiful girl i'm sure you are! sure i don't like my figure or complexion, but i gotta admit, my hair is gorgous and my smile is better! so maybe your new years resoulution should be to focus on the good things! - veronica t. 11

January 1, 2010 at 4:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i used to be anorexic so i know how u feel.then i saw myself in a photo and i realised that i wasnt fat at all, i was actually starving myself, so i stopped dieting and got back to an average weight. my parents were so worried, but now are both happy. never think ur fat unless ur doctor tells u. i agree that u should concentrate about the beautiful things about you!

January 2, 2010 at 11:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

No matter what you look like and even if you don`t feel sexy you are many others in magazines aren`t as perfect as they appear! so just eat right and excercise but either way your probs gorgous!

January 3, 2010 at 1:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't worry about it that's just the way you are and u shouldn't compare yourself to other girls because your beautiful just they way you are and nothing can change that.

January 3, 2010 at 9:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey chick, you don't have to look sexy! Just pick a good size for yourself (and if it's hard, get a docter's help.) Some girls that make themselves look hot and skinny are COMPLETELY messing up their lives! You don't need that! Hope my advice helps!

January 3, 2010 at 10:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey, i have the same problem, so dont worry!! u r NEVER alone!!
Think pink!! Aged 12

January 4, 2010 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey, i have kinda the same problem, but the exact opposite (if that makes sense). I am 2 skinny. i have just learned to be myself and enjoy the life ive got. and everyone should too.
ANONYMOUS (K)

January 5, 2010 at 9:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have the same problem but the doctor said i was healthy so dont think of yourself as fat think of yourself as a pretty young sexy girl

January 6, 2010 at 5:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

feel good about yourself

January 6, 2010 at 5:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Be who u r,not who u have to be

January 7, 2010 at 7:45 PM  
Blogger loulou said...

u r beaTuful in ur own way! :)

January 8, 2010 at 8:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

THANKS ALL YOU GUYS. IT MAKES ME WANNA CRY TO KNOW THAT PEOPLE I DONT KNOW ARE THERE FOR ME THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH. I FEEL MUCH BETTER. FROM NOW FEELING SEXY

January 9, 2010 at 9:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel just like you do all the time. Most of the time i just ignore the little netgitive thought in my head. If you still feel bad how about you try kidshealth.com and click on teen or kid. I am sure you are beatiful just the way you are. My grandmother always tells me " pretty is as pretty does" Remember that.

From,
Feels like you

January 11, 2010 at 3:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your beautiful in your own way. Comparing your self to some one your not is DUMB! Its like comparing a monarch butterfly to a zebra striped one. There both Beautiful butterflies, but a different kind. Their beautiful in there own special way. Remember theres only ONE beautiful you.

January 12, 2010 at 2:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with girl above me ^^ There is only won beautiful u.SO take a chance!! Dare to be different girl!!!! Dont be like those Horribly thing Models Or girls.Just be u and no won else!

January 12, 2010 at 2:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I gained a lot from Eating candy. I can totally tell im fat. I keep eating it anyways.I need help!

January 12, 2010 at 3:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

WHAT IS THE MATTER WITH PEOPLE THESE DAYS?! STOP LOOKING AT THE SEXY GIRLS AND START LOOKING AT ALL THE GOOD STUFF ABOUT U.IT DONT MATTER IF UR SUPER THIN!!! I THINK ITS STUPID WHEN PEOPLE ARE REALLY THIN. SO JUST LOOK AT UR SELF WITH UR HEAD HELD HIGH LADY!!
ps.sorry didnt mean to yell.

January 12, 2010 at 3:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It doesn't matter if your not "sexy". Those people on magazines aren't as beautiful as they look. They have people were that work with computers to make things like pimples go away. A lot of times they take the pictures at an angle where the look skinier than they really are. I'm not skinny either but if you take my picture at a cetain angle then I look very skinny. Now I'm not like 110 lbs but I do wheigh 80 lbs and I'm not sknny or fat. I dought your fat but you may not be skinny. Most kids aren't skinny. While your in puberty you tend to gain weight and look rounder but then you can get read of it once puerty is done for you. For all we know you could look as sknny as those people on magizines.

January 12, 2010 at 8:56 PM  
Anonymous Lay'Marie said...

You dont have to feel insecure about yourself just exercise for 30 minutes a day for a start.Remeber your goal isnt to be super skinny its to loose that access fat no matter what you look like!Remeber this also its whats inside you that counts.

January 12, 2010 at 10:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Feeling sexy means being ur self

January 13, 2010 at 3:12 PM  
Blogger Suzette said...

Hey girl,
I used to have the feeling myself! You don't have to be the hottest girl in school, most of the time too, the girls you feel inferior to feel the same way, or they could have eating disorders too. You don't have to look good either, it depends on your actions toward others. LayMarie makes an excellent point too, make yourself some goals. I hope this could help you! Enjoy every good time or day you have.
-Suzette

January 15, 2010 at 8:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

DON'T COPARE YOURSELF TO OTHER GIRLS!!!!!!! I have a few reasons listed.

1)If you do, you might become bulemic or something because you think your fat or not thin enough. Whatever you do, DON'T GO DOWN THAT ROAD.....

2) each and every one of us is uniqe in our own way. Remember (even if you aren't a Chritchian) that god created each and every one of us with his own hands. He wants us to accept who we are.




If you are allowed on youtube (or iTunes) Ihave a few songs you can search. This band is christian based, but they are great songs, especially if you are going through tough times in your life. Barlowgirl sings these songs: Mirror, Let go, I need you to love me, 5 minuets of fame, Never Alone, No one like you, Average girl, Grey, and More than enough. I have them all on my iPod, and listen to them often. Hope you enjoy them!!! :)

January 17, 2010 at 2:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey i am one of those girls that has a hard time dealing with her weight. my weight is 135.5 pounds and i am only 12 years old! But one thing that i learned that i will NEVER forget is you are unique and one day the weight will come off because your body is changing and growing in many different areas. So if you are like me just remember that you are unique and if you are selfconseous around guys and feel like they will never like you or thing your cute, just remeber that guys are weird :) and may not show how they really feel. Plus these guys are just crushes one day yuo will find the one you were ment to be with! :)

January 25, 2010 at 10:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm wasn't happy with the way I looked for a long time, I starved myself and had to put in the hospital, so don't be like me eat right and stay active everything will turn out fine!

January 26, 2010 at 4:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

THAT'S SUCH A GOOD ADVICE JEMMA!

January 28, 2010 at 1:04 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

I myself am a girl with a not so cute belly! but your biggest judge is you! I have had lots of people who openly teel people if they are pretty or not tell me i was skinny! you just have to love yourself and one say you will find a guy who loves you for you, not your body!

January 31, 2010 at 5:12 PM  
Blogger Mollie said...

Hey girls out there stop worrying stop sucking in your belly.you ya I am talking to you you are beautiful.If a guy or a girl or you're BFFL(best friend for life)calls you ugly,fat or even chubby.they don't deserve you.You are better than them.So stop being someone else stop people like yo for you not for beauty now go out and have F-U-N FUN!!!!!!!!!!!

February 11, 2010 at 1:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have a HUGE butt and thats the only thing boys like about but i go to addmit that my stomach is not the best!

February 13, 2010 at 1:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i dont have a flat tummy,i have some stretch marks too.I do compare myself and sometimes it really hurts.some boys say i have a nice chest and butt,but that doesnt boost my confidence about

February 14, 2010 at 12:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am overweight too but I don't let it bother me so she shouldn't let it bother her even if someone says something about it.
From Maricia120

February 15, 2010 at 6:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just like yourself for who you are and just try to ignore what other people say.

February 15, 2010 at 8:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You are beutiful in every way even if you dont think you are. I am someone who also has a weight problem and that is what everyone tells me.

February 17, 2010 at 12:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i realy dont feel beatiful when i compare my body to a models body. i feel completely uncomfortable when im at the beach with my swimsuit. most of my friends have a great body and i feel like an outsider.

February 17, 2010 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry im going threw the same thing so dont feel alone it will just make you feel bad ive been threw it before.If you are having trouble with making friends because of it just do what i did and find someone who liked you for you or make friends with someone going threw the same thing

February 20, 2010 at 4:58 PM  
Anonymous shelby840 said...

well i have the same problem and i just dont think about it and i keep on rock n but some time i feel "chubby" but i say to my self dotn let it bother you so its ok just chill.

February 23, 2010 at 1:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the girls you see are air brushed the have makeup and hair coloring just think if they didnt they would look bad and you look better.so show your true inner and outer prettiness

February 23, 2010 at 1:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey i am in the 5th grade an i feel that i am really big i am really strong and there is one girl that is bigger than me but i want to loose weight my mom said i cant go on diet so i work out try to eat healthy but i dont know i feel diffrent and i try to hide my my tummy by wearing a jacket but my mom found out and i dont know what to do now. do you have any advice at all please let me know i want to be like my friends

February 25, 2010 at 9:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i feel just the same as you. but i focus on my good things you also could i try not to worry about my tummy out and about but what helps is playing out with friends maybe just walking around you will lose some weight just like me!! xx

February 28, 2010 at 1:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just because u dont feel sexy, doesnt mean u r not sexy.just feel confident in urself n everyone is unique in their own separate ways. dont forget:BELIEVE IN URSELF N BE CONFIDENT.

March 7, 2010 at 6:00 PM  
Anonymous Livi***:) said...

BE WHO YOU ARE!!!! Those girls on magazine covers may look good but it's probably just computer magic that makes the look 'perfect'. if you want to feel & look sexy just be yourself!!!

RoCkEtS,
Livi

March 9, 2010 at 8:15 PM  
Anonymous Jazmin :) said...

Just try to be yourself! :)

March 11, 2010 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Kj said...

I think that everyone is beautiful in there own way.Girls in magizines arnt really pretty computers make all the little changes.Some girls in magizenes are as pretty as they look but they have a diffrent lifestyle you pretty for who you are dont think diffrent.

March 11, 2010 at 9:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just exersice don't eat that much food i'm under waite for my age i'm 84 though i have to be 90 for my age thats why you exercise you will get in shape dont worry =(

March 14, 2010 at 10:43 PM  
Anonymous maria said...

hey girl im also big and i have friends that are like "sticks" what i would do is try not to eat to much.somethings when im at school i see girls wearing this short shorts and tank tops and i see how skinny they r and feel bad that im so fat but then i remind my self that i dont have to be skinny to be popular or be pretty. i can use my actions and if you have a pretty face or have curves or have pretty eyes you should show it off!!! and when u feel fat to remember that there r other girls that feel fat to and that ur not the only one

March 20, 2010 at 5:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey iam layla yea i no how u fell cuz iam over wieght by 19 pouns i am in 5th grade an wieght 119 so dnt worry iam with u

March 25, 2010 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i also think that i am fat but my friends say that it doesnt matter if ur fat or not b cuz i have other personalities that r beautiful like my eys and smile sometimes i try not to eat to much and do excercise wen i can but remeber be urself and forget about the negative

March 27, 2010 at 3:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know that almost everyone posting these comments has said it but you aren't alone because like almost everyone else here I have the same problem. At the moment I'm once again trying to lose weight and for maybe about the 5th time and finally probably for the first time I am doing it successfully. But I have also realised over my many years of being overweight that I really like my eyes and so do other people, I really like my hair and so do other people, I am a nice person and other people think so to and I also have discovered that although i don't exactly like sharing my size with everyone I like going shopping with my friends because I know that when I go out wearing something that we bought together that they think I look nice and i think i look nice and i get a big confidence bost!

March 28, 2010 at 2:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm not fat but i have HUGE hips! now tell me that isn't embarrassing! I have had a weight problem before and trust me i hated it. Who doesn't?! But you always have to learn to love yourself. If someone doesn't like you for you they are jerks and you don't need them in your life. Nobody is perfect. Those skinny girls you see on t.v are as beautiful as you are. YOU SHOULD NEVER COMPARE YOURSELF! Size is nothing but a number. You have to show others that u ARE beautiful and nobody will ever take that from you if you don't let them.:) its hard but believe in yourself and stay strong!

April 7, 2010 at 4:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have a different problem im in fifth grade, five and a half feet, and weigh around 70 pounds. A lot of my friends are relly jealous of me but they call me anarexic which is areally big world for way to skinny for your body. My doctor told me i need to eat more to. So it isnt always a good thing to be skinny!

April 11, 2010 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i need sone tips on how to lose weight!!

April 17, 2010 at 5:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To lose weight all you have to do is keep a well balanced diet. That means instead of eating a half a bag of cookies ONLY EAT A FEW! You will not only feel better about yourself you will also be noticed in a good way by other people. Hope I could help. :]

April 18, 2010 at 4:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It okay to be a few pounds over weight. Depend on your ethnic group you might be slightly heavier or lighter than the standard. Simply find a fun sport or hobby to get you moving and yotry to slowly eat less. Plus if you taller than most girl your age and about the height of a small woman you be as heavy as a small woman. YOUR YOU AND THAT ENOUGH TO BE BEATUFUL. DON'T COMPQRE YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!!

April 18, 2010 at 7:19 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

you know what you are who you are and you know what? you don't need to have a "sexy"stomach to feel good.don't try anything dumb that can harm your body either. you are unique and you should be proud. ignore your stomach when it comes to looks. not to hunger though!!lolz:)

April 24, 2010 at 9:28 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

I also have a tummy, like my mum. I want to lose it also but I eat too much and i cant. Some clothes are good for me but other clothes are... I dont wear them because of my TUMMY!! Well, actually, that is my body type, says my mum. I believe her but i dont like my body, i also want to lose it. The summer is really close and i want to wear ``bikini´´. What can i do??

April 27, 2010 at 3:48 PM  
Anonymous Kat13 said...

I am bigger then most kids in my class, and i was really imbaressed and became very self concious. But I talked to my mom and we did research and found out I'm the normal size which made me feel so much better and now i am no longer self concious.

April 27, 2010 at 5:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I really liked that video. It made me feel so much better about myself.

May 3, 2010 at 5:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everybody says I'm too skinny. but it's better when u think good about yourself.

May 11, 2010 at 12:23 PM  
Blogger allietrocks said...

THINK NICE ABOUT YOUR BODY YOUR HIGHT AND WHAT NOT BUT WHEN YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOUR SELF THAN YOU WILL LOOK BETTER PLUS I THOUGHT I WAS BIG AND HATED MY WEIGHT BUT THAN LOOKED FOR WHAT MY BMI( BODY MASS INDEX)WAS AND I WAS SO HAPPY OF THE RESULTS AND NOW I LIKE MY BODY MORE THAN I USE TO.

May 13, 2010 at 7:47 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

dont think of your stomach when it comes to looks. try doing curl ups

May 19, 2010 at 7:25 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

your stomach is just where you take in food. why should that be a sexy part of your body? try doing curl ups and run. dont think your not skinny

June 1, 2010 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

no matter how those other girls look,u r always beatiful

June 6, 2010 at 4:43 PM  
Anonymous Chrissy said...

Every girl has inner and outer beauty! Whether they're padded or not! You are and will be the Queen of Beauty!

June 13, 2010 at 3:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it doesn't matter what you look like people re friends with others because of there personality. be yourself but be happy!

June 16, 2010 at 4:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just don't compare yourself 2 others!!! If you really wanna lose a tummy just ecsersize and eat healthyly!! And remember that every girl ( and guys) are VERY SEXY in your own unique style

Hope I helped
Question Gal xoxo

July 5, 2010 at 10:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i use to have a tummy too!Then after a while i really noticed it. my mom said to join a thing called PILATES. it works! it helps your abbs or tummy whatever the word is. but i only did it once a week for 10 weeks and it made my tummy flat after like the third class!!! but i did some of them at home because i got bored

July 10, 2010 at 1:20 AM  
Anonymous lilly said...

im 11 and weigh 4st 9lbs is that heavy for my age???

i like the body im in and look thin

PS
just asking!!!
XXlilly

July 14, 2010 at 1:17 PM  
Anonymous lilly said...

if you hav a wii
get or use the wii fit/plus wii fit/plus is about £/$20-£/$30

this is what i do on then fii fit plus:
go on my routines and make up a routine of:
jackknives running cycling more jackknives and then some yago and then some muscles workouts and do one of my favourite things then finish of with deep breathing

if you only have the wii fit do this:
jackknives running balance games boxing more jacknives and then yoga and muscles workouts and then finish of with deep breathing.

if you dont have the wii fit then do the jackknives this is how you do it

1)lie on the floor
2)put your legs in the air
3)then touch your lower leg or toes what you fing easyest
4)then lower your self to the first poistoin.
5)keep doing this for 2-5 mins everyday when you like!

ps hope this helps!!!!
xx lilly

July 14, 2010 at 1:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

be you dont worry about your apperance

August 15, 2010 at 11:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Some people have a high metabolism and that is why they are so skinny. Evantually there metabolism will slow down and they will not be so skinny anymore. The important thing is that you eat healthy. Also some girls gain alot of weight before they have a growth spurt and then you grow and you even all out. :-)

August 16, 2010 at 11:54 AM  
Anonymous Little Miss Singer\Actress said...

Ok,bare with me on this one!I had this same problem. But then, my Doc told me to not eat sweets and no pops,juices,or any thing of the nature.IT REALLY WORKED!!! My tummy looks better than ever and the comments really make you feel good! BTW,I look better in more outfits now!!!YAY!!

September 1, 2010 at 2:56 AM  
Anonymous Bernieeeeeeeeeee said...

hey me my self being quite big i went to the doctors and i found out i had this thing called under active thoyroid

September 12, 2010 at 7:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't worrie about what you look like just be you

December 19, 2010 at 10:33 PM  
Anonymous Maddie said...

those people u see walking that have flat bellies and that stuff well they might just be anorexic. anorexic is when someone starves them self because they think they are fat and not fit. so dont think u r fat because u r not. everyone has a little bump for there belly and if they dont they might be starving them selves. dont think ur fat and dont believe anyone who tells u u r ( which u r not) believe what the doctor says.

January 2, 2011 at 12:06 PM  
Anonymous annoyed said...

I don't wear bikinis, because of my muffin top. How do you get rid of it?

September 4, 2012 at 11:07 AM  

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