Friends no more?

Boyfriend break-ups are one thing, but what about when your BFF breaks up with you? Really upsetting. Let's try to help out Olivia.

Dear PLS,
What to do when your bff acts like you're not friends anymore and gives back your friendship bracelet?

Olivia, 10

I think the solution is to talk to that friend and find out what's going on. Did you have an argument over something? Maybe she's upset about something but hasn't told you? So give it your best shot at trying to work things out. But if she won't talk or is just being mean, accept that this friendship isn't going to snap right back into place. Maybe reach out to other friends so you don't feel alone, Olivia?

What else, pink locker girls? How should Olivia deal with this tough situation?
Think pink!


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Anonymous Ari:) said...

OMG!!! First comment! HEHE!!! But back to Olivia. I think you should talk it out with your friend and think of the possibilities of things you might have done that might have turned her off. Whatever it is, try to talk to her about it in a way that you guys don't start a fight. Talk to her and find out what's wrong between you and put that friendship bracelet back on! Im sure everything will turn out OKAY once you guys talk it out! And believe me ive been in plenty of fights and arguments with my bff but we always turn out to stay bffs together forever! I hope this helps and I'm really sorry about your trouble with your friend.

March 14, 2010 at 10:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Olivia trust me I know how you feel and I've been through this before. Sometimes it might not be your fault, like maybe something crappy happened to her and she's taking it all on you in which case you need to be supportive and tell her that taking it on your frienship is hurting your feelings. Other scenerios might be that it is your fault. Ask her what's wrong and promisenever to do it again. Maybe she's jealous of you for some thing you got and she didn't tell her that she's good at many things too. If she's doing this just to be mean than forget about her 'cause I'm sure she's the one missing out on a fabulous-bonafied friend in deed.

March 15, 2010 at 5:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well, my bff is giving me the cold shoulder right now too. maybe see if she wants to hang out with you and plan a day together, just the 2 of you. drama sucks, but in the end we come out stronger!
love - veronica t. 12

March 15, 2010 at 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Jaylee (Jesus girl) said...

Hey Olivia, my bff had been doing that to. But what I did was just be nice to her. If she said something mean I didnt talk back I just smiled. If she doent want to be talked to just let her be to herself. Help her in times of need, say hi when you see her. She will come around, trust me my bff did.

March 16, 2010 at 3:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear PLS,
My friends are not paying attention to me anymore, they always leave me out, and I never had done anything. This really rude girl is friends with my friends but she seems to not like me! I do not know what to do! I tried to talk to my friends but they do not listen! What should I do? Help!!!
From, Lonley girl.

March 17, 2010 at 8:12 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Hi Olivia, I wouldn't worry too much. Just give her some space right now and wait. In a little while you could go right back to being BFF's!

March 17, 2010 at 8:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just hang in there. if she's a real bff, she'll come around. dont think about it too much but don't ignore her completely.
btw, cool name! it rocks.
and question: what do you think is harder: bff break ups or bf breakups?

March 17, 2010 at 11:39 PM  
Anonymous aLLiKaTT <(**<) said...

Yola Olivia!
Well, usually what I do is I'll talk it out with my friend and see what upset her. If she doesn't want to talk to me or anything, I'll just give her some space. If she really is your friend, she'll come back. Hope I helped!

March 18, 2010 at 7:12 AM  
Anonymous Dana said...

Just ask her why she doesn't want to be your friend anymore. I <3 Waffles!

March 18, 2010 at 5:44 PM  
Anonymous Beth said...

I have a very strong connection to your problem Oliva.At my tenth birthday (i'm twelve in one and a 1/2 month) i went to club kidz then had a sleepover with my Best Friend.We were at the sleepover after and when it was like one o' clock in the morning and we went to sleep and she was cying in her pillow and she sounded mad and sad so I tryed to help her.She throwed pillows at me and i tryed to make her think of something else by starting a pillow fight.But now we're not friends anymore.Sometimes I missed her but after that night,I realized she was selfish.Now she never talks to me and I used to talk a lot and so natrually.So,ask to speak with her privately.If that dosen't work well you tryed and if she dosen't want you reach out to other or new friends.

March 18, 2010 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous haley said...

Dear Olivia,
I know how it feels. I have been through it a lot. Give her time and say nice things to her. You might not of done anything. She might think you did something. If she says, say your sorry don't argue and just say your sorry.

March 19, 2010 at 4:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Lonely girl:
wow, thats tough. but dont worry...if your friends r true friends, theyll realize ur rite. if they wud rather hang out with her, theyre not rly that great. good luck! p.s. its always great to have friends. u can find some by: joining a new club or after-school activity, look for some new neighbor friends, or look around school. there mite be a girl waiting for u!
and to the question: both are hard....but i would say bff breakups. especially if theyre reallyyy great. having a friend move or moving away from a friend is one of the worst situations. and...if a guy breaks up with you, if u have rly good friends, theyll help you out.
XD, cya's!

March 19, 2010 at 9:34 PM  
Anonymous brittany said...

try and talk to your friend and see what happens

March 20, 2010 at 9:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Olivia the same thing happened to me it is hard but remeber just move on or talk to that person the thing happened to me but my ex-bff was being the worst but whatever happened make sure to go threw it with another one of your bffs and then you dont have to do it alone even if they have a friend with them on there side at leased you have friend on your side too then if it gets too hard talk to someone about it.

March 21, 2010 at 3:50 PM  
Anonymous amalia said...

i have some problem like you, just ask her is there something not right or there are some problem with you

March 22, 2010 at 9:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my bff was being a brat and was really rude to me 1 day, emailed me saying that it was my fault she was mad, then completely ignored me for a week. she called me l8r and asked me if i wanted to hang out, acting like nothing ever happened. i talked 2 her when we had a sleepover and asked what the deal was. she was having family issues and she decided 2 take it all out on me. she should be mature enough by now to know that u shouldnt abuse someone just because ur having a problem. the best thing 2 do when a friend is being mean for no apparent reason is just dont worry about it. take a break from her till u think youre ready to talk then ask her whats wrong. a lot of times theyre having problems that dont involve u but feel like they have 2 take it all out on u.

March 22, 2010 at 2:43 PM  
Anonymous Sashi said...

I think that the best thing to do is to talk to her and ask what's wrong. Maybe she's going through something at home and is acting funny. One day my BFF started cursing at me because she was mad at her parents for getting a divorce. But, if your BFF dosen't want to talk you can always talk to your school counsler

March 22, 2010 at 8:41 PM  
Anonymous Erica ,10 said...

well i've had that same prob with alot of my friends just write 2 her and say why wont u tlk 2 me or y r u acting this way

March 23, 2010 at 10:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my ex best friend keeps sending me message and curses me out she wont stop i tried cooperating with her but she wont listen what should i do

March 24, 2010 at 6:00 PM  
Anonymous Akanesi said...

dear olivia you know i had the same problem all you have to do is ask your friend why she isn't your friend and then ask her how you can make it better

March 24, 2010 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry im sure alot of girls had this problem. just talk to her

March 24, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear olivia i know how you feel i had the same prob all you hav to do is call her ask her wht is wrong tell her that u want to be freinds again and make up i hope this addvice helps!

March 25, 2010 at 3:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

anonymous is right!

March 25, 2010 at 7:26 PM  
Anonymous Ellie said...

well first of all, talk
maybe she has new friends
and after all
you cant be friends with someone forever

March 26, 2010 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Olivia. First i think you should talk with your bff. Ask her is she is alright and if you did anything that upset her. i know how you feel i had a fight with my bff and once we had talked it over everything was fine. We are still best buddies today =) Good Luck!

March 27, 2010 at 2:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Olivia! Friend break- ups can be tough. I've experienced it first- hand. Try sending your friend apology note, though she may not accept it. Yeah, my friend did it. She may be a bit snotty when your friendship ends and she may accuse you of things you have not or would not EVER do, such as steal her new glitter ball. Good Luck!

March 28, 2010 at 12:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi! braking up with friends is not fun. but to work it out you have to work together. first try asking why she's upset. if she comes with an answer like "you know why" then really press her. its not fair if she doesnt help. after talking work out whatever happened talking is better than silence or shouting.
hope this helped!!

March 30, 2010 at 12:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maybe your friend is just going through tough times you should give her/him there safe and time if your friendship is reall officially over dont let it get in you way there are many people that arehilling to be your friend.

April 6, 2010 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my friend has a big fight that almost split the class into either you join me or her kinda was not fun.but they became friend back and fight back and friend back. They just forgive and forget. Maybe you should talk to your BFF if if you have hurt her feeling or something.:)good luck

April 9, 2010 at 5:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell her to go get a new bud if she is acting like a relly big brat and if you want her back then go up to her and say "I would like to know whats going on"

April 9, 2010 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

OMG!! Thats terrible, that didn´t happen to me ne-ver. Well, but if i were you, i would try to be with her all the time possible and if that doesnt work try with this: if he has boyfriend(I dont think so because i think that she is young) , talk with him and maybe he talks with her. Another option is to insist with it and maybe she finally accepts. The really important thing here is ¿why doesn´t she want to be your friend anymore?
However, if anything of that works...BEG HER TO BE YOUR FRIEND!!!

April 27, 2010 at 3:43 PM  
Anonymous shay said...

this same thing happend to me try to work things out cuz i figured out that apparently i was stealing her spotlight maybe just try and talk to her think about something you might have said or done to upset her Good Luck olivia

April 29, 2010 at 6:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

first things first dont be mean just ask her whats is goning on i thouthg we were best friends but remeber dont be mean when you are saying it or then it will make you look like the "bad guy" good luck

April 30, 2010 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ask her what is wrong. maybe she is upset.

May 4, 2010 at 6:15 PM  
Anonymous liz said...

never put your self down she might be mad for a rumur

May 6, 2010 at 3:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have had that problem too. Sorry coz i Know how it feels. But dont worry.. U will soon get over it. N of couse we can make plenty more friend, afterall, were worth it!!

May 7, 2010 at 3:16 AM  
Anonymous shay said...

this same thing happend to me try to work things o... this same thing happend to me try to work things out cuz i figured out that apparently i was stealing her spotlight maybe just try and talk to her think about something you might have said or done to upset her Good Luck olivia

May 7, 2010 at 10:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'd just try to be nice to her. Or u can take her somewhere private and see what's going on. If she doesn't tell u, u could send her a note. she'll come around just give her some time. GOOD LUCK!!!!!

May 15, 2010 at 9:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just try to be nice. she's probably going through that BFF "phase" my bff did the same thing.try to send her a note or somethin' she'll come around. HOld in there GIRL!!!! good luck.

May 18, 2010 at 2:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Me and 2 of my old friends (my bff's)and I got into a fight about 2 months ago. Now just walking past 1 another starts a fight. My new group of friends never let me talk 2 them about anything. Then when i come home my mom doesn't care about how my day was and my brother says all i ever do is tell him about things that gone on at school. I don't have anyone 2 talk 2. All this happened with my friends because I went 2 another freinds b-day party and didn't go 2 her sleep over. Then we went 2 the counslers office and said we didn't want 2 b friends anymore. several days ago i told them that I was sry and i thought that we made up. The very next day eveything was back 2 normal fightin and being unwanted by my new freinds. Also 1 of them kept asking me personal questions and i don't no what 2 do. I don't want 2 b there friend I just want them 2 leave me alone. i don't know what 2 say 2 them even if they were being nice 2 me.

May 22, 2010 at 10:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so sad .ihav no advice.i just got mine.(crying big fat tears).

May 23, 2010 at 9:06 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

olivia then she is not a real friend . i bet you can try to talk to her and maybe figure out why she did that.

May 27, 2010 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

she really hurt you i bet. why dont you talk to her and get to the bottom of the problem. if she doesnt cooperate or ignores you, then write her notes. if she ignores that too, then talk to a teacher and have her and you meet up and talk. that should do it. i did that once

June 1, 2010 at 7:27 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

I call this type of "friend" the off and on friend. A lot of the time, the friendship does not work out. It was really hard for me to live with an off and on "friend". If you feel ready to take on the challenges of an off and on "friend", keep being friends with her. If it too hard to live like this, then admit to how you feel.

June 11, 2010 at 11:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i feel for u girl friend

November 2, 2010 at 7:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi my name is olivia to and 10 and haveing the same problem too. i say just forget about her it happens to you lots of's ok don't feel bad it happens allllll the time

December 3, 2010 at 6:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi olivia
I know how you feel I used to have a best friend but we argued and she said that she doesn't want to be my friend any more and has a stupid loser as a friend called Lucy

August 28, 2014 at 9:02 PM  

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