Her BFF has an attitude

Hi all,
Being confident is a strange thing. People say you should like yourself and be proud of yourself. But what if someone acts SUPERIOR to everyone else? Is that confidence gone too far? That's what our friend below is asking today.

Dear PLS,
What do you do if your bff is acting like she is way better than you??
=), 14

What do you think about this one? What kind of advice can we give =)? Seems to me you shouldn't be sooooo confident in yourself that you make other people feel bad. This article on self-esteem - how a person feels about herself - could be helpful.

What other advice do you guys have?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Josie said...

Hi! I'd try talking to your friend about it. And if you're to afraid to do that (I probably would be.) You might just have to wait it out. Hope this helps! :)

March 28, 2010 at 1:52 PM  
Anonymous lacey said...

i think that you should talk to her or try hanging out with someone else

March 28, 2010 at 5:59 PM  
Anonymous sydney said...

I agree with Lacey talk to her or find someone else.

March 29, 2010 at 6:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i had the same problem id say find someone else but it usely depends on how long u hav bin friends!!!!!

March 29, 2010 at 10:20 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

ask her what she is doing!
if she doesnt care, ask ur parents 2 help u!

March 30, 2010 at 9:53 PM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

Tell her next time she acts like that,"I really don't like when you act like this. Please stop." That should fix the problem.

March 31, 2010 at 8:19 PM  
Anonymous Katrina =] said...

you should just tell her how you think that she's acting kinda stuck up. if she keeps acting like she doesnt care and won't agree with you, i say find a friend who'll give you some respect. :)

April 2, 2010 at 1:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

everyone is created equal: don't let her walk all over you. but don't just dump her without an explanation, that would be unfair to her. my advice: find more friends who treat you better but don't leave her hanging. tell her what she's doing wrong, she may not even realize it!
hope i helped -
veronica t. 12

April 2, 2010 at 7:27 PM  
Blogger harrypot said...

If it were me, I would think about how to talk to her about it. Maybe say something like "Why do you always act like you are better then me {in a light, interested tone}? It hurts my feelings. Do you think that we could find a compromise?" Or something like that...

April 5, 2010 at 10:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I also have a friend who thinks she is better than me. Just because she is way thinner than me and has longer hair she thinks she is all-that. Well God said we were all created in his image, so no one is better than you. We are all equal. Also since my friend is so cocky, no one likes her. THats what being like that gets you!

April 7, 2010 at 6:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i had an issue like that once and she was so bossy i had to ask her to breathe in her house (not really but thats kinda how bossy) but there are going to be girls like that. God has made us all equal and some girls don't except the fact and that is their issue.

April 8, 2010 at 8:14 PM  
Anonymous Gurpreet said...

ur problem is almost exactly like mine. My bf thinks she cool and everything because she is kinda popular so she is like taking other popular kids with her and leaving me behind.

April 9, 2010 at 6:25 PM  
Anonymous girl in trouble said...

i have a friend who is my bff but she kept on accusing me in front of my teachers and at the cafeteria, she gave me a tight slap and accused me of stealing her boyfriend(which i so did not!)and took my food and dump it on the floor but when her boyfriend saw it, he scolded her and comfort me the truth is i like him alot but i know that we are not meant to be together. if even we want to be, we still have alot of problems ahead of us. i like him and he like me(beacuse found her too bossy and kept on bugging him)dear pls what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

April 10, 2010 at 7:24 AM  
Anonymous Ursula said...

ma friand is realy annoyin me cos in r school we are put into group classes and me and ma friend r in diferent 1s so we mess around and say stuff lik r group's better than urs and stuff den she fites bac (even though r group is da best) and den makes out dat shes really good friends wif ppl in my group and ders dis boy christie who doesnt no who she is and shes all lik sup christie and all and shes really startin 2 annoy me big time and i dont want 2 say anyting bout cos she has 2nd yr friends on r bus and i dont no any1 apart from ma brother who pretends nt 2 no me unless thers girls around who tik am cute cos am yr8 and der yr11 so if i fall out wif her am left sittin on ma own on da bus and wen we get 2 school r bus gets in 1/2 hour early and ma other bff gets in at 9:00 mostly!

April 11, 2010 at 5:32 PM  
Anonymous Sarah said...

hi i had a friend like that once whenever we competed even if it was somthing little she would always say she won she was way to competitive with me i got really upset so one day i sat down and talked to her and she didnt even relise how competitive she was being and how she was hurting me
hope this helps!!!!!

April 12, 2010 at 8:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

me and my bffl have known eachother for 10 years. Now she hung with some snotty girls and guys and she acts like she barely knows me at skool but then after skool shell ask 2 hang but i do but it feels like she is drifting away from our friend shiip wat shall i do?

April 13, 2010 at 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

well of someone thinks they're beter than you they might want to think twice. Either that or think about everything that is good about yourself

April 13, 2010 at 6:44 PM  
Anonymous Alexia said...

Hey people im new in this blog thing so ya do u guys have anything on self esteem im really low and need a refill lol

April 13, 2010 at 8:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my best friend was outside with me and i turn my back for one minute and then she was cuddling with my boyfriend

April 14, 2010 at 12:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have a friend like that too...i didn't even do anyting to hr and she is acting like she is better than me. im starting to doubt our friendship, but there is no one else to hang out wit,wat do i do

April 16, 2010 at 6:03 PM  
Blogger aris said...

We have had too many issues like that. You just have to deal with ittttt. But tell her that you feel she has an attitude. Aris and Bella. ( Caramel and Chocolate )

April 17, 2010 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

i had the same prob. dont try to talk to her if she is going to act the way she is. find someone new to talk to. i bet you are better than her in a way

April 24, 2010 at 9:30 PM  
Anonymous Krista said...

well this is how me and my former bff started "breaking up" i dont wanna get you down but if youve had other issues like this its not looking so bright for your friendship for example my BFF we just joke around like lol thats soooo cool and being sarcastic and stuff (did you know most californians dont have a good sense of humor but im from cali but my mom is new york-an so she's the one who taught me sarcasm but my little bro totally doesnt get it so he has a fit over everything he doesnt understand) anyway your friend probably isnt good enough for you maybe you should try to get closer to one girl in your circle of friends

April 25, 2010 at 2:35 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

You know? My friend always acts like she is more important than me, right? For example, in class the teacher asks us for things that we should have studied. She asks me and I answer very good, but then, asks my friend and answers better than me and I say her: ``You are ''creída''´´´(Sorry about that word, is because Im from Spain and I dont know how to say it in English, please forgive me, translate it so you understand)
So I say her that and he says to me: I know. Its annoying but I still being her friend. We often argue but its ok.

Hope this helps you!!!

April 27, 2010 at 3:36 PM  
Anonymous malaviga said...

i think you should tell her how u feel. Then she can change herself and learn not to be too confident. i have to admit that i was over confident myself. My friend told me that she didnt like my acting that way and i have learned a lesson. Dont shout at her though or be too harsh to her because it doesnt feel nice.

April 28, 2010 at 7:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its as easy as pie to solve this problem just tell her how you feel and if shes a true friend she will understand good luck

April 30, 2010 at 4:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think Lilly should try and find all the negative and positive things. If Lilly's parents say a NO, then Lilly can cheer herself up by finding the WHYs and all the good things about not going to the sleepover.

May 15, 2010 at 9:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

='-^= Maybe you should talk to her. She might have had a bad day and if you talk to her about it maybe she'll lousin up.

May 16, 2010 at 3:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell her, "Hey, I've got to talk to you about something." Then go on explaining how you feel about what she's doing and how she's making you feel bad. If she just says something mean back, then I guess she's not your true friend. But if she is your real friend, she will apologize and stop. And you guys will be back to normal. I hope this helps! :D

May 17, 2010 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The same thing happened to me! Tell her about it, but nicely. If she is still acting like that and gets mad at you for telling her, then mabye she has something going on at home and you need to keep trying.

May 21, 2010 at 9:55 PM  
Anonymous Mary said...

This is also what has happened to me with my best freind and her and me decided to take a break for each other and get to know other people.This is a common thing for friendships just because,by the way this is not exactly true, but this happens because especially when your are best friends you probaly tell each other everything and once you know everything about each other you get not exactly but kind of sick of each other.That is why it is always good to keep open friendship contacts and get to know other people but still be friends with your best friend!Hope this helps!:)- Marisol <3

May 25, 2010 at 6:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey this is soooo weird but I'm in the exact same situation!!!! My bff is bragging all the time about herself. she's acting as if she's totally better than me. Try to talk to her and tell her what she's doing. She'll come around. I promise!!!! It's working with my bff. GOOD LUCK

May 26, 2010 at 7:34 AM  
Anonymous alexis said...

I had the same probem with one of my friends.It took like 3 days for me to speak to her again.So basicly just tell her how u feel hopefully she'll r understand,and she will be u BFFl!!!!(hope this helped!!!!)

May 29, 2010 at 6:32 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

she is probably trying to fill an empty gap in her life or trying to get attention

June 3, 2010 at 8:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that you should stand up for yourself and tell your friend how you really feel. If she does not understand, and keeps on being mean, don't be friends with her.

June 7, 2010 at 7:50 PM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

well, if you don't really want to tell her to her face, say,"Hey, why don't you check out the blog on Pink Locker Society.com? You should really read'Her BFF Has
An Attitude.'" Once she does, she might get a hint.(; Hope this helps!

June 12, 2010 at 2:33 PM  
Blogger Jemma said...

Wow. That is a clever idea!
Think pink!
Jemma

June 12, 2010 at 2:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im not sure if i have that prob my bestie sort of treats me sometimes like an actual dog she one time told me to heel!!!! We are like total friends though and she doesnt do that to get in with the popular people either but she's super nice to me any other time and it like sincere nice not fake

June 15, 2010 at 6:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that if your BFF treats you like that you need to take some time away from her. Hang out with another group, your other friends etc. Maybe she'll realise what's happening. If she asks what is going on, tell her straight out.A best friend should treat you with respect and kindness as you should back. So remember to be a good friend and your friends will be loyal friends back.

June 30, 2010 at 3:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

most friends do that to me so i just act like their friends. i really only have 8 friends at school and in my street if it makes you feel any better

June 30, 2010 at 5:53 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

I have a similair problem with my best friend but now she hangs out with some new friends of hers so the advice I have is tell her quickly, don't hold back, tell her exactly how you feel but don't hurt her feelings in any way!

July 3, 2010 at 12:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

talk it out.Ask her.talk to her and if she has a reason, great if she doesnt that happens to eveyone and im sure that u have LOTS of friends so its fine...

think pink!

July 3, 2010 at 12:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ask her to stop. if she doesn't, make new friends while possibly remaining friends with her

July 18, 2010 at 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Tanya said...

Girl I have a friend just like this and I tell you what I do be nice to her unless she calls you names or puts you down then if she's not really better than you tell her that your better but that might get you in trouble so be careful on what you tell and make sure it's nice so she won't get hurt to bad and you can still be friend only without her being all I'm better than you thing that probley get annoying sometimes!

Hope I helped,
Tanya

July 24, 2010 at 6:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If she's really bugging you then don't waste your time around her. Same thing happened to me. It doesn't upset me it just annoys and pesters me. Find new friends only that can be hard in a small school of 90. Live it out. She's probably not worth your time. Don't let her see that your upset about it (in case you are) It proves that she's got to you.

September 1, 2010 at 4:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know how you feeel. Please take my advice. Tell her how you feel. If your friend keeps acting like shes way better then u after u have a talk then dont worry about it. Your special, unique and just dress funcky and show u can be cool. If she starts bugging u say u have a head band and she says "thats so umm babyish" or somethng mean just 1 dont hang with her 2 say something to her like Well i like it and its my style so it dosent matter about what u think, its about what i think and i like it, 3 just have another talk to her

February 22, 2011 at 2:19 AM  

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