Losing sleep over a sleepover

Did you ever say something that you wish you could take back? Lilly is in that situation. She blurted out YES! when her BFFs asked if she could go to a sleepover, but her parents said no. What to do?

Dear PLS,
i told my best frnds that i would come over to their sleepover but when
i asked my parents if i could go they told me i couldnt!!! ITS SO
UNFAIR!!! and everyday my best frnds call me to ask me if im going i
keep on saying yes everytime. wht am i gonna do now??? i cant tell them
tht i cant go!!
Lilly, 13

I say Lilly needs to come clean and tell her friends the truth. And the sooner the better. As for parents - they can be frustrating. But find out why you can't go. Is it because you have something else to do? Is it because they don't know your friends' parents well enough? Try to solve the problem and set up another sleepover date. Maybe your mom and dad would be OK with your friends coming to your house for a sleepover sometime soon.

Any other advice for Lilly out there?

Think pink!


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Blogger Suzette said...

Hey girl,
I know it's difficult to say no (trust me it happens to me all the time). Although, it would her your friends feelings even more if you told her you were coming, but didn't show up. So it would be better just to tell her now. Once you tell her, you might even feel a bit better. Hope I could help!

April 17, 2010 at 5:06 PM  
Anonymous Myka said...

hey :)
just phone her up and tell her thetruth she should understand but be calm enought to do it, so you dont stress out or anything. after all look on the bright side there will be many sleepover probealy waiting for you soon. And its best to tell the truth right away because if she finds out from a friend or notices you anit there but you said yes , she will be more upset and a bit angry for lieing .
so tell her the truth :)
hope i helped
Maja :)

April 17, 2010 at 7:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should ask your parents why you can't go. if they tell you that they don't feel comfortable having you sleep at someone
's house or that you have something early in the morning, ask if you can compromise.
Ask if you can hang til about 9-10 o'clock instead of sleeping over, so that way you can hang out with your friend even if you can't sleep over.
I did it one time and it worked.
Stay Pink!
Green Girl

April 17, 2010 at 11:12 PM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

You should talk to your friend and say " I'm sorry, but I said yes to you before I asked my parrents. They said no. I haven't had the nerve to tell you so after I promised I could come. I hope you understand." And if she's a good friend, then she will understand.

April 18, 2010 at 2:40 PM  
Anonymous Allison said...

im in that situation alot of times and my only advice is to stay clean and tell the truth. when your bfriends find out you lied there gonna be more mad about that compared to you not being at the sleepover

April 18, 2010 at 4:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know exactly what you mean. It's the meanest thing ever when this girl who never talks to you,Finally... she invites you to this big party that everyone is going to. AND YOUR PARENT WON'T LET YOU GO!!!!!!!!!!

April 18, 2010 at 8:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know exactly how you feel here at sugarloaf my two best friends,Molly and Mackinze hate each other and wanted me to choose sides for who i was inviting to my birthday... I just told them both that they needed to make up and that i couldn't choose between them,and if they could not get over it then don't either of you come to my party! AND GUESS WHO CAME TO MY PARTY???? THEY BOTH DIIIIIIIIIDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

April 18, 2010 at 9:07 PM  
Anonymous lily said...

itd okay i have done that too , just say no and tell why the'll understand.

April 19, 2010 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Kayla said...

I agree with Jemma. The sooner you tell yourfriends the better......And the less your friens will get mad at you! Ask your parents why they won't let you go, but don't get mad. Calm and rational is the key. It might help. If they still won't let you go, ask if you can plan your own sleepover or something else special-hope this helps. Don't keep lying!
Think Pink!

April 19, 2010 at 6:15 PM  
Anonymous Zoe said...

That sucks. Ask your parents about it, it's tyranny for them to say no without telling you why.

April 19, 2010 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Kate said...

Hey Lilly,
I knw how it feels... My parents is always saying no to me wen im askng dem if I could sleep over in my frend's house... Nd I jst tell dem ok... Nd ask dem if u cud hav a sleepover in ur house nd wen ur parents say yes, ask ur frends if dey cn sleepover in ur house instead of ur frend's house nd tell dem so u cn hav fun 2... If dey say yes, hav fun having a sleepover!

April 20, 2010 at 6:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well I think that you should just ask your parents why they said no and then talk about how you really want to go and try to convince them but if you don't have to convince then and they say yes then just jump up and down and Say HURRAY! and if that doesn't work just tell your friends that you can't go because of a family matter!If your friends are really your friends they will understand why you can't go!

April 20, 2010 at 8:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah,I feel so bad for you. You should tell your bff about it quick. And I agree with Jemma. And if your friend gets mad just tell her ya just found out. I think your parents should know that you shold be getting some things you want.

April 20, 2010 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

try to find out why you can't have the sleepover and then try to set up a sleepover at your house! as for your friends, tell them asap. don't give them false hope, things come up and you can't always make it to everything. i hope it works out!
veronica t. 12

April 20, 2010 at 10:14 PM  
Blogger -V said...

Tell your friend that you can't and try to plan another sleepover date. But before you do anything official, check with your parents and your friend's parents to see if it's OK.

April 21, 2010 at 10:10 PM  
Anonymous Jade said...

hey Lilly,
maybe if your friend(s) keep asking you if you can come then maybe they know that your paents told you you cant go. So i think you should just tell them you cant. if they really are your friends, they'll accept it and maybe even plan a different activity that you could all do together!
Give, Live, Sleep

April 22, 2010 at 8:30 AM  
Anonymous Zeinab said...

It's alright! My parents don't let me have sleep overs either! It's OK! Just tell your friends the truth! Try asking your parents if your friends can sleep over YOUR house!

April 22, 2010 at 6:56 PM  
Anonymous cj said...

just plan another date!!!!!

April 22, 2010 at 8:53 PM  
Anonymous Aimee said...

What Happened to the "Haley's Gone Veggie" post?

April 22, 2010 at 11:23 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

That's a real bummer. Just tell your friends the truth, if they're real friends they'll understand.

April 23, 2010 at 9:47 PM  
Anonymous Estera said...

don't worry. just tell your friends the truth and why you can't go. they should understand. then talk to your parents and ask them why you can't go. maybe you can work something out.

April 26, 2010 at 4:37 PM  
Anonymous Aimee said...

I'd say to just come and tell your friends. Also figure out why you can't go. But remember, there will ALWAYS be other parties (with boys too!) so don't treat it like it's a big deal!

April 26, 2010 at 6:04 PM  
Anonymous malaviga said...

i know wat u feel like coz the same happens at my house. I do get upset but i get over with it . just tell ur friend the truth . Wen i told my friend i couldnt come she didn't really mind.

April 28, 2010 at 7:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the first thing you do is call your friend and tell her the truth and make diffrent plans for another time but the second thing you do is go say your sorry to your parents. i hope everything goes well go luck

April 30, 2010 at 4:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell your friend the truth, she'll understand, you never know maybe you could have her come over for a sleep over at your house, If youre panents say that it's okay that is.

May 4, 2010 at 10:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

U should calm down and tell them the truth.I know that can be really overwhelming. but the truth sets u FREE!!!

May 14, 2010 at 8:22 AM  
Anonymous Lollie said...

Don't worry - if she truly is a friend she'll understand. Honesty is always the best policy.
Arrange to do something else together that you are allowed to do, maybe a shopping spree or you could go out for lunch?
Have fun!

May 15, 2010 at 3:05 PM  
Anonymous Allana said...

Ok I think you Lily ,should tell them straight out that you can't go because you have something else to do like,going to a homeless shelter and serve food to them,or tell them something that your doing to do that day.Also ask your parents why????

June 1, 2010 at 7:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, what I think would be best is you just tell them that something just came up with family and you arn't going to be able to make it. Hope all goes well!

June 5, 2010 at 12:08 PM  
Anonymous Avery-Beth said...

Don't worry lily, just tell them that your parents suddenly said u coulden't go if u don't want them to get mad at u 4 lieing. But its probably in ur best intrest to just come clean!!

hope it works!!!

June 6, 2010 at 7:13 PM  
Anonymous zoey said...

just tell 'em the truth and thats the best thing to do... and I have a prob, can any of u help me?? I've been single for long and i really need a boyfriend. But all the guys in my grade only like hot girls with big boobs and my boobs are not that big. How do I make my boobs appear bigger and how do I act hot without making it too obvious? I really need a boyfriend!! PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!

June 15, 2010 at 1:13 AM  
Anonymous emily said...

tell them you have other plans and might make it and might not then beg ur parents,hopefully theyll under stand and remember next time...ask first.

June 16, 2010 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

zoey what you need to do is be yourself! Try to get the nerve to talk to them! If you wanna wear make up then ask your parents if they say yes then have your mom help you.Make sure you wear it to wear you can't tell that you have GLOBS of it on just wear enough to wear it makes you look pretty!!!!!!!Try wearing your hair long and kind of curly or straight.with hoop earrings (if you have ur ears pierded)Or wear your hair up in a braid!! If u got short hair flat iron it! Wear ballet flats a tank top or short sleeve shirt and jean shorts!!!! Hope that helps!!!! oh for the other question just tell the truth to your friend!!

June 16, 2010 at 6:49 PM  
Anonymous Katherine said...

ask them to see if they want to have it at your house, then MAYBE your parents will let you. But if they say no, then just tell your friends politely, and apoligize, and say maybe you guys can do it another day/night.

July 1, 2010 at 12:22 PM  
Anonymous christina said...

just tell her your parents said no and that your sorry if shes your real friend she'll understand :D

July 5, 2010 at 12:21 AM  
Anonymous brooklyn said...

hey maybe your parents hav a suprise planned for u that day relatives coming out going on a trip maybe they hav there reasons for not letting you go.. just call your friend up and say hey im sorry i told you that i could come but i really cant if they forgive you u hav a true friend if they dont dump her

August 13, 2010 at 3:43 PM  
Anonymous purpleROCKZ! said...

trust me on this,i do that all tha time;) just tell her u couldent go Bcause u hav stuff planed 4 that day. then try to plan a time wen your parents could talk or u can plan to have your BFFs over at YOUR house:) :) :) :) ;) ;) ;) ;)

August 10, 2012 at 7:43 PM  

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