She's in the middle of a big BFF fight

Those of us who are blessed to have more than one BFF will understand this problem. Jade says her two BFFs are fighting and she's caught in the middle.

Dear PLS,
My two best friends are fighting!!! I try to talk them into forgiving each other and none of them would and it's driving me crazy cause both of them wants to hang out with me and if I hang out with one of them the other one gets mad. WHAT AM I GONNA DO?
Jade, 13

Have you ever been stuck in the middle of a fight between your BFFs? Oh my, I guess I'd just do everything possible to get them together to work it out. My advice to Jade is to put her foot down and say: I will hang out with both of you, not just one of you.

What do you think? Let's give Jade some advice to hopefully solve this messy BFF situation!

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Maja said...

Well this happened To me too. I. Said to them why fight over stupid things just think what are you fighting over ? They thought and said sorry try telling them its not worth fighting wasnt it better when they were friends hope i helped
maja

April 16, 2010 at 11:29 PM  
Blogger aris said...

HI Jade. I know how you feel. Let them work it out. If you try to, it wont go as smoothly. My friends try that to, and it doesnt work out smoothly at all.

April 17, 2010 at 12:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry this happend with my pals 2, just tell them that you really hate them fighting and that u dont know what 2 do.tell them u want 2 hang out with both of them.if they shout at u walk away and tell them none of u can hang out with me until u sort this out.hope i helped.xoxoxo

April 17, 2010 at 6:00 AM  
Anonymous Kate said...

Well, I have two just like Jade have. And I have been stuck in the middle sometimes. And all I tell them is "If you two won't talk to each other or work this out i'm going to stay here or i'm gonna eat my lunch with somebody else and you don't want that right?" And they would like start to tell each other they're sorry...

April 17, 2010 at 8:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If they won't talk toeach other or sit by each other, then don't play with them, find a few other people to hang out with for a few days, If they really are good friends, then they'll forget this whole thing for you.

April 17, 2010 at 7:29 PM  
Anonymous Allison said...

the only thing you can do that's fair is commit to going to the friend that ask you first and explain your reasoning to the other friend. if your other friend does not understand, give her some time to think and give her some space. time can heel anything! <3

April 19, 2010 at 6:09 PM  
Anonymous Carla said...

Ok, listen: something similar happened to me. Well, wht i did was goig to the cinema or bowling with both and we became friends again

April 20, 2010 at 10:26 AM  
Anonymous moodygirl12 said...

ok im also in a fight this week and plus my friend courtney called me the b word and this was on 4/20/10 and that made me really mad and she started spreding rumors about me and my friend being gay that made me really mad to but my mom said if she says mean stuff about you walk away

April 21, 2010 at 9:08 PM  
Anonymous Jade said...

haha, cool. my names Jade too! um... i've never really been in a fight like this but i have been in a fight with one friend before! and what we did, was we pointed out what we didnt like about the other and what we did like. then, we pointed out what we know ourselves did wrong. like my mum always says," look at yourself before you look at others" hope i helped!
Give, Live, Sleep
Jade

April 22, 2010 at 8:33 AM  
Anonymous Josie said...

I've never really been in that situation before but I'd do what Jemma suggested. It sounds like a good idea.

April 23, 2010 at 9:38 PM  
Anonymous Beth said...

well i am friends with a really popular girl called jess and because she was so popular she had other friends....me and her other friend started having big fights.....we made life hard from her ( i am not ashamed to say this because i have learnt from it ) but what you might wanna try doing is sitting them down together and say to them how you feel about them constantly fighting....they might sort it out by talking about it but if not then you might want to ask them what they are annoyed with the other person about and dont let the other talk whilst this is happening but let her/him hear how the other person is feeling and then vis-versa

April 24, 2010 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know how yu feel....they will work it all out...what i did was invite them over to my house to chill and hang out so they could finally just get along...sumtimez i wud hav tu stay up til 3 am ovr the one with them on three way trying tu get them tu work it out

April 25, 2010 at 12:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear,jade keep on telling your 2 best friends 2 calm down and give both of them something they both like and when u go crazy crazy tell them we r best friends and u 2 dont start acting like it then this friendship is over then at lnch when u see them being friends i wish u good luck because this is what u call good advice :}

April 25, 2010 at 9:35 AM  
Anonymous Bailey said...

I think you should think of like a funny plan that you are sure they will fall into. Also you could play some fun games and they might forget what they were even fighting about

April 27, 2010 at 6:57 PM  
Anonymous shay said...

stand up for yourself and say something like "I am friends with both of you and i dont prefer one of you over the other even if you dont want to be friends i do so i will hang out with both of you without the other one getting angry or jealous" Good Luck Jade

April 29, 2010 at 6:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well im gonna tell you how to get out of this first you invite both girls over but make sure to tell them the other one is coming over to because its not nice to lie. then you explaine how you feel and get them to tell the other one how they feel and if that doesnt work talk to a guidense councerlur their for a reason to help you so dont feel embarresd to go see them

April 30, 2010 at 4:12 PM  
Anonymous lyssie said...

im kinda in the same situation. my friend just walk away one day and no when i try to hang out with her she says not if we're with my other friend and now she is the only freiend i can see outside of school so its akward

May 8, 2010 at 2:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have had the same exact problem! It is really hard is'nt it?! I say just try to stay as neutral as possible.

May 8, 2010 at 8:50 AM  
Blogger allietrocks said...

this has happend alot w/ me and my friends just what i would do is say i will not hang out w/ ethier of you until you stop fightting w/ so and so but i do not know if yall's friend act that way but mine. hope i helped to anyone out there

May 13, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Lollie said...

Let them work it out!
Don't lose sleep trying to solve someone else's problem.
It's best not to get involved at all - don't sweat it!

May 15, 2010 at 3:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell them that you won't hang out with them untill they solve they're problem. If that doesn't work just lock them in a room together untill they figure things out! PS. Just kidding about the room thing! ^-^

May 16, 2010 at 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OKAY GIRL I HAVE SO BEEN THROUGH THIS! So I have two best friends and they both played in volleyball. One is rich and the other is not as rich. Anyways, my friend Ally called my best friend a brat. Then my best friend found out and called her fat. My best friend then apologized and my friend Ally kept a grudge on her. Me and Ally are not friends anymore because of this and Ally's best friend told her not to be friends with me. I can't stand Ally now. If one of your friends holds grudges I would not recommend being friends with her. I have had two friends not be friends with me. I know its hard, but you'll look back at it for advice for a situation.

June 4, 2010 at 9:53 PM  
Anonymous isabella@cmg310.com said...

Dear Jemma My friends Daisy me and another blogger on here aris we are all fighting witch is hard to resolve today daisy got to the point were she was gonna scream because me and aris are fighting i think what should i do ): isabella

June 4, 2010 at 10:31 PM  
Anonymous isabella@cmg310.com said...

Bella said..........ahhhh me and my bff's daisy and aris are all having a really bad fight and we dont know what to do please tell me what to do jemma love bella ):

June 4, 2010 at 10:35 PM  
Anonymous KATHERINE said...

u know u should really try to solved it but if it doesnt work try to have a really nice talk.

June 6, 2010 at 5:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i had that fight once i just said i wont hang out with any of you if you keep fighting because it really hurts me and they stopped. good luck

June 6, 2010 at 7:06 PM  
Blogger lala said...

wel don't sweat it gurl just let themhave some time to them self

June 7, 2010 at 8:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i'm so sorry to hear that r u ok?

June 8, 2010 at 9:42 AM  
Anonymous emily said...

don't talk to either of them until the fight is over if they are good friends theyll stop fighting. or u could ask them why they r fighting and try 2 solve the problem

June 16, 2010 at 4:24 PM  
Anonymous Shannon said...

I've went through this plenty of times, and what I did was, I told them that I don't want to get in the middle of the fight and they shouldn't pull me into it. I also asked why they were fighting and it was for a stupid reason, I kept ignoring that they were fighting and talked to both of them and a couple of weeks later they were talking to each other again.

June 18, 2010 at 2:30 AM  
Anonymous Sanjana said...

see, mostly your friends fight over stupid stuff, and then they ditch you, and you fight wid them. so it's okay. it doesn't last.

June 20, 2010 at 9:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

okay first of all if you think that 3 girls are going to be best friends than you are so WRONG! The reason why your two BFFs are fighting about stupid stuff is because they are really fighting over you! odd number groups of girls never work out unless you take charge and have a pack leader type personality and you also need to treat them both the same so they don't feel like you like the other oner better. Maybe if you do like another girl better but you still love your other BFF then try to get another girl in the mix that could be her BFF so you and the one girl you liked more can hang out and not feel like they are leaving anyone out. Trust my advice I have tried having odd number groups of friends and it never works out unless one of them has other friends she an rely on and not feel left out! GOOD LUCK!!!!

June 22, 2010 at 10:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think you should just say im tired of this can u guys work it out or i wont hang out with you i'll find other people if u guys dont wanna hang out with each other

June 22, 2010 at 4:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should just let them work it out and until they do, tell them you don't want to hang out cuz you are getting stressed out

June 29, 2010 at 10:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my friends have all fought before but over me I just leave them alone until they can all work it out and after a day if they are still fighting stand up to them and say if you guys dont stop fighting we will never be able to be friends again so its your choice. then just walk off.it has worked alot for me before.

July 4, 2010 at 3:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey jade i understand i went through the same thing its hard i know but just hang out wiht other friends and let them blow off some steam they may come around and tell them that their fight is hurting you too! and tell them that they should talk about it so they can work things out.

July 9, 2010 at 12:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have some friends that when ever they came over they would start a big bff fight!then i broke up with one of my bffs!

August 4, 2010 at 8:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have 4 super bff and one day two of them decided they would start to fight over something that happeded about a year ago. So me and my other bff just put our foot down and said that we weren't taking sides. The other two just didn't talk for a few days and then the had a big emotional making up scene with crying and hugging and apoligies and everything went back to normal. I hope everything works out for you x.

August 4, 2010 at 8:45 PM  
Anonymous Aria said...

Ok well for me I have always had 2 bffs and we have all been friends. Whenever I have an issue with them I tell them. If your friends aren't being friendly then tell them that you wont put up with it and start looking for some new buds. If you cant do that then remind them of all the good times that you shared together.

August 9, 2010 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i know what u mean kinda me and my bff were fighting cause she told every one i was a les and no girl ever wanted to be with me in the locker room so i told her to knock it off and she did abit but still it wasnt the same and we made our other bff cry and it all started cause i was about to hold hands with my bf for 1 time and she got mad just one day i wasnt with them that she did all that and at the end we both relize what we made our friend go through so we made up and ur friends r good then they we rilize it to

August 12, 2010 at 11:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok,that same thing happened with me and my BFF but it was over a guy {like i really cared} turns out most of our classes{we were in seperate homerooms} got caught in the middle{OUCH!!!}!!! But then again it happens EVERY YEAR WITH US so no big shock

September 1, 2010 at 2:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Jade! The Best Thing To Do Is Make Them Meet Up And Sort Out Their Differences. If That Doesnt Work Make Them Meet Up With One And Other Without Knowing And Force Them To Be Friends Again. Or If That Doesnt Work Find Out Why Their Fighting And Solve That Problem. Or If That Doesnt Work The Last Thing To Use In Only Emergencys Is Not Talk To Either Of Them.

November 10, 2010 at 2:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

jade,you should tell your friends to stop fighting over you.if they really cared about you,they would stop fighting.

January 22, 2011 at 7:10 PM  
Anonymous Kaelah said...

I would say," I am sick and tired of being in the middle of your arguments. Sorry but I'm not taking sides." If it gets worse, tell an adult. My friends were mad when told them how I felt but they understood and stopped.
Good luck,Jade
(P.S. I had a BFF named Jade but we broke up over a silly argument. Don't let that happen to your BFFs.

July 15, 2012 at 11:30 PM  

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