Samantha's secret, imaginary boyfriend

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Now for today's question. Our friend Samantha has a bit of a boyfriend problem. But it's not the usual kind.

Dear PLS,
I lied to my friends that I have a boyfriend and they actually believe me what should I do to tell them I don't?
Samantha, 11

OMG - a pretend boyfriend? In one way, this is a genius idea. I mean, how great would it be to never have to say you don't have a boyfriend, which is me, like 99.9% of the time? But on the other hand, it's not honest and, eventually, someone will say, "Hey, where does your boyfriend go to school? Can we meet him?" And then you might get yourself on a roller coaster of lying, which is absolutely NO good.

So I say come clean and tell the truth. Just tell your closest friends you're sorry. Or if that's too hard, just say "We broke up." In a way, you will be breaking up with your pretend boyfriend. Will he have a pretend broken heart? Just don't get back together with him!

Other ideas on how to resolve Samantha's imaginary boyfriend problem?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell them that your were just joking then if they still dont belive you just say if your a true friend you would belive that i said i dont have a boyfriend.

May 7, 2010 at 7:40 PM  
Blogger hannah said...

I think you should tell the truth and say I just wanted to impress you and tell them your sorry because they will find out soon so it is better to tell them now then later.

May 7, 2010 at 11:21 PM  
Anonymous Kyra said...

I agree with you Jemma. You should tell your friends you were just joking:)

May 8, 2010 at 1:08 AM  
Anonymous Kate Coleen said...

Well, the best thing to do is tell the truth. DON'T LIE. It's only gonna get worse. And when they asked you why you lied tell them your reason. Did you lie because you wanted to fit in? Tell them. It's the best thing to do.

May 8, 2010 at 3:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell them that you broke up
.........or you could be dramatic and say he had an accident and had to leave the country instantly (they probably won't belive you though...)

May 8, 2010 at 4:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i would not tell the truth (even though its right) cuas they would probebly not talk to you tell then that he brock his arm and is blaming you so you brock up

May 9, 2010 at 12:14 AM  
Anonymous Grace said...

Tell the truth , take it from me i have been in this situation before. If you tell them the truth and if they were real, true friends they would believe you and sooner or later you will lauh about it with your friends. Everything will be fine!! :-D

May 9, 2010 at 11:42 AM  
Blogger Spatula Burgers said...

Yes. Just like what Grace said. If they are REAL friends then they'd understand and they would accept you and forgive you for telling the truth. True friends don't lie to eachother..Or they at least don't lie about boyfriends...Not saying that that's a bad thing though... I'll just stop talking now..

May 9, 2010 at 4:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Either fess up or say he moved! It's the easiest way to get out of it because about the only Q your friends will ask is, "Where did he move to?" So make something up and tell YOURSELF that you are kidding!

May 10, 2010 at 2:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

who needs a bf they pointless take my advice and stop pretending!
with love,
unknown voice

May 10, 2010 at 10:03 AM  
Blogger darian said...

well you should not have one because it could seriously mess you up when you get older so you better stop while you can...

May 10, 2010 at 10:03 AM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Just say: "We broke up," and move on.

May 10, 2010 at 9:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

DONT WORRY EVEYTHING WILL BE FINE!!!

May 11, 2010 at 8:11 AM  
Anonymous dania said...

dont worry eveything will be fine!! best of luck!!

May 11, 2010 at 8:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should tell a trusted and good friend your problem they'll understand. hope it works.:)

May 11, 2010 at 12:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

stop wasting you time with a fake bf.God created people that will really love you.

May 12, 2010 at 9:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah. I have a boyfriend. Everyone teases me. I'd just say u don't. ignore them and they'll stop. they just want to make u fired up. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!! :^)

May 12, 2010 at 4:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry about wut they say be ur self

May 14, 2010 at 8:17 PM  
Anonymous The AWeSoMe OnES:)!!!!!!!!!!!!! said...

Hi Samatha WE think you should tell the truth and if your friends don't forgive you for being yourself then their not your true friends.

P.S. everyone makes mistakes in life!

May 15, 2010 at 8:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should tell the truth OR just say that u broke up (like Jemma said) OR say that u have just pranked them or somthing like tht

May 16, 2010 at 3:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do like I did! If and when they ask his name, say Bob.
"Who's Bob?"
"My thumb."

Sooner or later they get it, and if they get mean about it-like the awesome ones said-they're so not good friends.

May 16, 2010 at 8:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just say that you broke up with him and that you and him are not goin out any more

May 22, 2010 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that's the worst feeling isn't it? How about u put the thought of a imaginary bf. you'll forget about it and so will the people who r teasing u. Ignoring helps too. GOOD LUCK. :)

May 24, 2010 at 5:08 PM  
Anonymous totally-all-over-soccer-players said...

u r in a pickle! so here's wat u can do. just tell ur friends im sorry that i lied and i dont have a bf. if theyre really ur friends they wont make a huge deal out of it but dont expect them to be all happy and cheerful and its ok they might be mad but theyll cool off if they are all happy and cheerful then uve got urself some great buds!

May 26, 2010 at 4:54 PM  
Anonymous Simone said...

That really is the worst feeling, I had a friend that tried that we said just asked her why she told us that lie she said ahe wanted to seem popular u should just come right out and tell them why a nd the truth.♥

May 26, 2010 at 6:16 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

Oh just tell them! I bet/think they'll understand. Just say Im sorry I lied to you or something, OR, you could say we broke up or something, and make up a fake story about it, but that's probably not a good idea....

May 28, 2010 at 10:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Lying is not going to get you anywhere in life, so don't! Just fess up and tell them that you are sorry about saying you have a bf. I know how you feel, you were just trying to fit in. I I hope this helps you! :]

May 30, 2010 at 4:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you tell them it's a lie, they'll probably be a bit cross with you, even if you guys are great friends, and you dont want to start a fight, maybe, next time they ask about him say, " oh no, i broke up with him last week, i didn't get to see him because he lives so far away, im sorry i didn't tell you, i was a bit miffed. "

May 31, 2010 at 8:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well since u lied already you should tell. don't lie in the first place because it will get you caught, ok?

May 31, 2010 at 8:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

U could say that you broke up... or you could get "upset" and say he's movin to another state. (Not out of the country, that's not believable.)

June 3, 2010 at 9:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I did this to my friend and told her i was just messing around and the next day she told everyone and txt me and said "hey liar"!!!

June 5, 2010 at 9:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should follow jemma's advice but if you're too shy just say "i haven't seen him latley" and drop the subject. if your friends keep asking and you just cant lie say the truth.

June 6, 2010 at 7:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well if you dont wanna seem like ur a liar (i'm not calling u one either!) say YOU broke up with him cuz he didnt seem like ur type!! hope i helped!

June 6, 2010 at 11:10 PM  
Anonymous Bridget said...

HELP ME!!! I like this boy a LOT but whenever it comes to talking to him, everything I wanted to talk about flies out of my head! It even happens when I'm with my friends and he's around. How can I talk to him right and keep my head when he's around?

June 10, 2010 at 7:24 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

I think that you should focus on what you want to tell him. Try not to be nervous.

June 11, 2010 at 11:08 AM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

Hey Bridget! I've had this problem before. Just try and think of an activity or something going on. Then say what you think of it. Example: "I really liked the movie. How about you?" It might be hard at first, but practice makes perfect. Tip: Try and stay positive. Guys hate to be complained at. Also, if he doesn't seem interested, just walk away and find something else to do.

June 11, 2010 at 9:18 PM  
Anonymous Bridgit said...

OMG, OTHER BRIDGET, I'M GOING THRU WUT UR GOING!!! I'd take Chloe and Rachel's advice put together!

June 12, 2010 at 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Lilyan said...

oy, Samantha! come out clean and tell the truth. one of these days, you'll meet a boy on a lorrie!!!!!! (i live in Great Britten!!!)
Lilyan, 12

June 18, 2010 at 7:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I actually did the same thing,I went so far that I used a picture of zach efron from when he was my age and sent it to my friend.She got sooo jealous and tried so hard to get a boyfriend.I only thought it was fair to help her get her own boyfriend.So I told her ERIK (my "boyfriend")moved to canada.Then,I got my friend her own boyfriend by hooking her up with my brother,who she had a MAJOR crush on

June 21, 2010 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i got a magor crush on a boy name brandon
i told him that like him so so much he is really cute

July 1, 2010 at 7:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The best way would be to tell them you're sorry and why you lied to them.If their real friends they will understand the situation.But to tell the truth if I were you I would ask a close guy friend to help me out.Hope that helps!:)

July 4, 2010 at 8:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'd say u "broke up w/ him" and if they ask 4 details tell them u don't like 2 talk about it.

July 5, 2010 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Kat13 said...

Just be honest. They shouldn't be to angry as long as you tell them why.

July 9, 2010 at 1:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think it is best to tell your best friends that you and "your boyfriend" broke up. if they ask why, just say you and your boy friend never got to spend time together so u got unclose.Or you can make it dramatic, say he was cheating on you so you broke up with him. witch ever you choose is good.Hope it works out!

July 10, 2010 at 1:08 AM  
Anonymous the sleepover girls said...

i think u can just tell your friends the truth, because if they r your real friends they will not laugh and understand y u did that.

July 10, 2010 at 1:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

TELL YOUR FRIEND THE TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!

July 16, 2010 at 11:02 PM  
Anonymous aoife said...

if you never lied to them before tell them the truth if not the break up idea is best!!!

July 22, 2010 at 10:20 AM  
Anonymous Grace said...

Well...just tell them the truth! I'm sure they will understand!

July 22, 2010 at 6:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Okay well the likely-hood is telling them the truth is gunna be way more dramatic than looking really upset, walk into school and give your best friend a hug tell her he broke up with you, if she asks about it just say i dont wanna talk about it x

July 24, 2010 at 1:51 PM  
Anonymous Madi said...

TELL them the truth. hopefully she will forgive you!

July 24, 2010 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Come clean and tell the truth it is the best thing to do and they will probaly understand and tell you sometimes they did somthin like that! :)

July 29, 2010 at 9:43 PM  
Anonymous Mickayla aka Scared for period said...

as the person above said come clean and tell the truth. or if that's 2 hard like 4 me just tell them that u guys broke up.

Mickayla aka Scared for period, age 10

August 5, 2010 at 2:50 PM  
Anonymous erin whos not even 11 and has her period already said...

tell them hes anonymous because your relationship is a secret, but that you dumped him.

September 9, 2010 at 8:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell them that he dummped you

September 28, 2010 at 5:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i dont think u should tell them he dumped you because that would probably just cause more problems. Tell them the truth. If they are real friends they will think about it and then just drop it.

October 5, 2010 at 10:36 PM  
Anonymous nihal princess said...

that happened to me before but i just said to my friends that i was kidding and wanted to see what their reaction would be like!and they said its ok and thatit wasn't such a big deal.

December 6, 2010 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Sienna said...

maybe you should tell them because if you want to be friends with them you shouldn't have any lies.or you should say '' you believed me i thought you knew i was kidding''...... but it can work;)

December 21, 2010 at 10:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i would say tht we broke up but u dont like to say tht bcuz u rly liked him

January 17, 2011 at 10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wassup if u got a fake bf,tell ur friends he fell off a skateboardand is in the er and wont come out until a month and will move after dat incedent

February 16, 2011 at 6:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that you should just tell them the truth about what happened and maybe tell them you felt left out because they might understand what you went through.

January 11, 2012 at 4:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do you think I should do that to make a guy i reallly reallly like jealous? Do you think im horrible to say that???? I'm sooooooo sorry!

May 13, 2012 at 2:57 PM  

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