When your friends grow up faster than you...

Hello Pink Locker girls!
Thank you for all the feedback about the book series and the new cover. I've noticed quite a few requests that we should answer MORE questions. Oh, yes we should. Here goes...it's a two-fer for Bridget.

Dear PLS,
A lot of my friends have started getting their periods, and I am just starting to wear a bra. They (my friends) don't seem different, but I feel kind of uncomfortable around them. How do I feel better around them?
Bridget, 11


Dear PLS,
I need help. Please help me. When I was younger, I used to hope so much that I would start getting breasts and my period, but now that I'm starting, I'm really scared. Please help me.
Bridget


OK, so I'm not sure that both of these questions are from the same Bridget, but I think they could be because these issues are related. We want to be like our friends, wear the same/similar clothes and hairstyles, listen to the same music etc. etc. etc. But puberty SO doesn't care.

Some girls develop early and others develop later and it's weird when you and your BFFs are suddenly different in this obvious way. You'll eventually catch up, you know that blah-blah-blah, but what about RIGHT NOW? It's mucho awkwardo if they're all talking about something that you haven't gone through yet.

In my opinion, as a slow bloomer, it would be nice if faster bloomers were more understanding. They should try not to make you feel left out - like they're in the club and you're not.

And taking Bridget's second question, I totally understand both wanting to grow up but also being afraid of these new, um, developments.

Let's give Bridget your best advice. Would be nice to hear from both fast and slow bloomers on this one.

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Lily said...

My BFF had her period, in fact two of them did, but I've found that if you just forget about that aspect in life, you can feel more comfortable around your friend(s)!

June 19, 2010 at 10:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with jemma. but i no how it feels 2. about wanting your period 2 start yet not wanting it 2 at the same time. i still havent got it yet but i am not scared. u shouldnt be scared either. it probably wont wont hurt and it happens 2 every girl!!! i also no how it feels when your friends start talkin bout it and u havent even gone through it. YOU ARENT THE ONLY 1!!!!

Hope I helped
Question Gal

P.S. I also havent gotten answers 2 my questions I REALLY NEED SOME ADIVICE

June 19, 2010 at 10:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was a early bloomer , trust me enjoy as much childhood as you have left. Turning into an adult is not that fun.

June 19, 2010 at 10:26 PM  
Anonymous moaner said...

dear bridget dont worrie getting your pieriods isnt as bad as you think its a sighn of growing up and the best part is you will get to talk about a lot of new things with your friends and about the breast you should be greatful some gils don't get them till like year 10 ps:when you get taller as well as your hips and legs you will need to use body cream every day i learnt the hard way.

June 19, 2010 at 10:27 PM  
Anonymous Marisol,10 said...

hi im marisol and im a fast and slow bloomer because i do have breasts developing but i still don't have my period.I really want my period so much but now i understand that everybody is different and thats ok.My best friend has gotten her period and that makes me want it bad but i can't rush it but its ok because it'll come some day.

June 19, 2010 at 10:27 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

For the first question I think that you should just rember that all of these things will happen to you to!So don't feel uncomfortable they are your friends just try to have fun when you are with them!For the second question, I think that it is very normal to be scared , it really isn't scary, by the time it happens to you you will give other advice to other girls saying that it isn't scary and you will think it was silly to be scared! Good luck to both of you! Hope that I helped!

June 19, 2010 at 10:28 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

hey. dont feel uncomfortable! your friends havent changed on the inside.

June 19, 2010 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my best friend got her period before me and i felt uncomfortable but also good because she trusted me enough to tell me, and i also felt weird around her but then i got used to it and she was still the same person and we are friends and this little thing shouldn't make her diffrent sure in differents places but not in her heart, in her heart your just the same no worries

June 19, 2010 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Hi! Late bloomer here, Don't worry! Enjoy the fact that you haven't had your period yet, neither have I! If you don't think about it 24/7 it won't bother you, that's what I did! (It really does work!)

June 20, 2010 at 4:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just be confident in your own skin. There are plenty of late bloomers, and trust me, it's not like wearing a bra is the most comfortable thing in the world. And seriously, enjoy not having your period while you can. Haha. It's no big deal, it's fine, but it's just so nice without it! :) And don't be scared, because every girl has to go through this and there are always people to help and support you. Once you get used to these new things, it's totally fine. Like learning to ride a bike ;) haha.

June 20, 2010 at 11:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know how you mean im 11 and i was wishing to get my period and start developing but now i only am starting growing boobs and all my friends are developing fast and are close to getting there period and im the second youngest in my class so i know exactly how you feel

June 21, 2010 at 11:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i'm not sure how old all the other poster are but i know tht some of my m8s have started their periods but i haven't and i relly feel tht i am ready to start my period. it feels like somethings always comming out from down there but every time i look its just regkar wihitey yellowey discharge. So annoying. I hope all you girls reading this start their periods soon if you want to and if you don't want to weel donbt worry it happens to every one.

June 21, 2010 at 2:57 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

Hey, I am 11 too and all my friends have developed. So I know exactly how you feel. It's hard when they talk about stuff and I am not included but I also hear all the bad things they say and am gld I am not there yet. Good Luck! :)

June 21, 2010 at 9:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im a slow bloomer and i totally understand.I don't even wear a bra yet and sometimes my friends make fun of me for it. :( but I think that what can help you is just try to change the subject when they talk about that stuff. sometimes in this situation its okay to lie, i mean how do they know if you have started your period!
P.S. you don't want to grow up so fast, I mean think about when you get your period and you have to tell someone! wont that be hard

June 22, 2010 at 9:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i just started puberty and my one my best friends started too while my other best friend didn't.

June 22, 2010 at 3:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my friend maddy is in 4th like me and she was my best friend in second grade she thought having a boyfriend would make her popular i didn't think so and when they grow a little more faster u kinda get jelous im 9 and i will be in 4th grade

June 22, 2010 at 4:05 PM  
Anonymous hannah said...

i think that your friends growing up shouldnt make you want to grow up so fast. i have my time of the month now and i thought it would make me grown up but now its a pain in the neck. trust me you are lucky that you dont have it yet and dont be uncomfortable because you will do it someday too

June 22, 2010 at 8:39 PM  
Anonymous Hayley said...

I get how she feels. Wanting your period, wanting to grow up with your friends, but not really sure you're ready to take that huge step forward. I mean, with everyone all "You're a woman now!"

Just relax and try not to think about it. You can grow up when you want to. It doesn't have to be now.

June 22, 2010 at 10:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

on the bus there was alot of fourth graders and fifth graders and im in third and so there was alot of talk about puberty. my best friend turned in to a MONSTER.

June 23, 2010 at 8:42 AM  
Anonymous Veronica T. 12 said...

I'm an early bloomer, I've been developing breasts since 4th grade and I got my period when I was 11. But I used to worry that I'd be a late bloomer, and I discovered that it's not such a bad thing. You don't have to lug pads and tampons around all the time, you don't have to deal with the cramps and you don't need to worry about wearing an umcomfortable bra all the time either! Be happy with who you are, and remember: your friends are the same girls on the inside, even if they're changing outside!

June 23, 2010 at 11:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i really want boobs and to go through puberty

June 23, 2010 at 3:40 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

I think you should calm down and not care when or how fast you go through puberty. I am going into fifth grade and I am already starting to get boobs. I don't really care.

June 23, 2010 at 4:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ihts mahd annoyinq when you qet it so.. dont rush it .! :]

June 23, 2010 at 9:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel. Im almost 13 and I still haven't gotten my period most of my friends have theirs. I just want to get it over with *sigh*. :?

June 23, 2010 at 9:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know exactly how u feel! all my friends wear bras and stuff. I'm a late bloomer too. But hang in there, you'll go through puberty when ur ready.

June 24, 2010 at 2:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

PLZ PLZ PLZ ANSWER MY QUESTIONS I DONT NO WHAT 2 DO!!!!!!!!!
I REALLY NEED ADVICE...

Question Gal xoxo
P.S. My answer 2 this question is 2nd

June 25, 2010 at 5:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Bridget....the first Bridget....feel good that you don't have your period yet and stuff, cuz when u get your period, u might hafta wear a tampon, and I wore one 4 the first time 2day AND ITS NAWT FUN. b happy! :-D

June 25, 2010 at 6:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

late bloomers,
dont worry. your time will come soon, and youll b wishing you didnt have to deal with it. dont stress!

June 26, 2010 at 2:27 AM  
Anonymous Jemma said...

My name is Jemma too!

June 26, 2010 at 10:35 AM  
Anonymous Jessica,11 said...

Hi Bridget, I know what its like to not want ur period to come, but I try to think of it like "the sooner u start the sooner u can stop worrying about when it will come" thats just how I think of it to stop me from wanting to pull all my hair out with stress.Haha. Maybe u could think of it that way too! Hope I helped!!!

All the best Jessica xoxo

June 27, 2010 at 6:04 AM  
Anonymous Shopaholic said...

I agree with Jemma, I was sort of and early bloomer, so fyi, you would feel uncomfortable if all your ur friends haven't yet. It doesn't really matter what stage ur @ there will always be some uneasiness about it.

June 28, 2010 at 8:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't worry about it.. I feel the same way & it IS awkward.. but if they were real friends, they wouldn't care about your looks or you being a late bloomer... Think Pink! :)

June 29, 2010 at 5:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm so a late bloomer, and to tell you the truth, I'm happy about that. I mean, bras don't seem to feel like velvet or anything soft! And unless you get a tampon, you can't go swimming when you have your period. I also like being a late bloomer because I really hate the idea of tampons, but I'm a gymnast (so I have to wear tight leotards) so when I need a pad, it might show! Or worse, make some crinkly noise! For me, it's kinda like trying to get a new skill.I know I'm going to get it eventually, so I'll let it come when it's ready. But that not to say I'm not jealous of the way boys look at girls who NEED bras... :) I <3 PLS!

June 30, 2010 at 10:13 AM  
Anonymous Jeanette said...

Honey.
I sooo know what you mean...But you were lucky!I got my period at eight, and it was very uncomfotrable and terrifying.So I was in the same/exact opposite as you...But you should just relax, as your mom/aunt/sister/cousin was probably in the same situation.

XOXO,
And stay pretty in perfection!

PS.Yes, you are perfect, and remember this:
You are perfect because God made you and loves you still.

June 30, 2010 at 12:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear PLS,
I'm 9 years old and I started developing breast at 8.I feel a little down about growing up and, I just started getting acne.Please help me I don't want to start my period.

July 2, 2010 at 6:08 PM  
Anonymous Amber said...

I dont shave but all of my friends do, i dont have my peroid but most of my friends do, i am moving to a place that i dont ven know anything about, but none of my friends have to, we are losing our house, but most of my friends are not. Nobody ever told me life was going to be easy or that life is fair. It looks like a terrible life, but really im exited and love my unperfect life, just the way it is!

July 3, 2010 at 1:32 AM  
Anonymous moaner said...

don't worry most of the time i first period is the worst and don't worry when ya get to 40 or 50 ya never get periods a gen

July 3, 2010 at 9:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm a late bloomer and all of my friends have their period while I'm still trying to hit my growth spurt. Things have their own course so I try to treat it as no big deal. As for hanging with friends it's easier to stay off the topic unless nessesary( don't know if I spelled that right).
Live LIfe
Greengirl

July 4, 2010 at 7:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm going into fifth grade and almost ten, I think the next two years lots of girls will start developing. I already wear bras and have 5 pimples on my nose! But I haven't started my period(and no one has that i know of.)I just don't want to be the first to get it and i also don't want to be last.

July 4, 2010 at 3:11 PM  
Anonymous Smiley Anna said...

Hi Hi Bridget,

My best advise, and I am really sorry if it does not help, is that if you forget about the fact that your friends are getting older and all the rest and just have some fun with them, then you will enjoy yourself alot more, just remember that, we are all different, and all grow older and start to grow up at different times.

I hope I heleped!
Anna

July 6, 2010 at 3:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ahh, anouther person with the same look at puberty. Yes, puberty can seem weird, strange, and yes scary at first. I even don't have my period yet. But it's natural and normal and it's your body. When you start to mature and get older, you'll get more used to it. If you still don't wanna think about puberty, then don't! Just think about friends and family, and try not to grow up so fast. PEACE OUT!!!!

July 6, 2010 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous anna said...

im going into fourth grade and i most likely will have the biggest boobs in the grade because i started in late third grade.so what im sayin is don't complain.enjoy your child hood wile it lasts.

July 7, 2010 at 7:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Bridget,

I'm such a late bloomer. I'm going into 6th grade and haven't even started to grow boobs yet and i want them so much because all of my friends have them. so I totally know how you feel.

July 13, 2010 at 8:43 PM  
Anonymous lilly said...

ello briget
im 11 and in p7 and dont have breasts or started my periods.so dont get to worked up
i wear cropped bras to look like i have some!and to cover my self up.im not bothered some of my mates have stared but im not botheres

ps enjoy not having them!you wont need to go through all them problems of getting bras and so on...
xx lilly

July 14, 2010 at 12:27 PM  
Anonymous lilly said...

this is bnothing to do with this but what should i do if i have hairy legs at 11?

xxlilly 11

July 14, 2010 at 12:29 PM  
Anonymous lola said...

dear everyone

ive been getting sore stomache and hav to lie down and it goes away and feeling like im going to be sick but dont.

is that a sigh of starting ur period??

ps please help!!!
its not pain full just alittle sore but its bugging me!!! help

xxx lola

July 14, 2010 at 12:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am getting cramps and my lower back and sides hurt.my family [girls of course] said that i might be getting my period or will be soon! is that true?
is that a sign of me getting period?

July 16, 2010 at 3:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok, so I know that everyone wants to develop, I know I used to... but it kind of just happens and the first few times it kind of stinks but after you get used to it its easy and not a big deal...don't be nervous, we all go through it and if all girls can make it through so can you :]

P.S. its not as bad as everyone says it is

July 18, 2010 at 3:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Lola,
yes getting cramps is part of starting your period. it may seem like its your stomach but its acually your uterus making that unconfortable feeling.
PS. it will end after your period!

July 20, 2010 at 11:17 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

Gosh, I want to have my period so bad already. My best friend already got hers and it is really bugging me that I still don't have mine, I am probably a year from mine so I just live with the fact that I don't have it yet.
Sophie out PEACE!

July 21, 2010 at 12:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Late bloomers.....
Don' wish it upon yourself it will come fast enough.

Tori

July 22, 2010 at 12:56 AM  
Anonymous Moll said...

don't worry. there are plenty of girls in the world that feel like you. I do, and I have friends that do. my friends' friends do, my friends' friends' friends do and on an on an on. At least a third of the population of middle school-high shoolers in america feel exactly the same way. No worries!

July 24, 2010 at 7:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At our school nobody is open about that kind of stuff everybody makes jokes about it and doesn't really take it seriously (although we are in 7 going it 8th grade in a few weeks). Anyway nobody will admit they have their period, during swimming lessons everybody has letters for the teacher but makes up a really lame excuse about ear ache. I have breasts now but don't have my period and everybody thinks that I do but I don't yet I think I probably will soon but everybody is so immature about it.
xxfxx

July 24, 2010 at 1:15 PM  
Anonymous Madi said...

I say since I have mine DON'T wish you have it. They stink. Plus it's really icky. The Girls that tease people about it are just trying to make you feel bad.

July 24, 2010 at 4:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

everyone grows at their own pace .....i'm sure you will reach a time in your period that you wish you would be the same little girl

July 31, 2010 at 5:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's okay to start early. It's a natural process.

July 31, 2010 at 5:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just dont worry, its completly natural and dosent hurt, it means thet some day you can be a mum.

hope that helps!!!

alahna

July 31, 2010 at 8:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 12 & i started my period but have no breasts...how is that possible!?
u are complaining...im not normal!

August 4, 2010 at 2:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 12, have boobs and my period. before all of my friends. They are never uncomfortable!!!

August 10, 2010 at 11:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 11 and my friends are developing faster then me because they have they're period and boobs sometimes guys make fun of me and my friends 2 and sometimes I get mood swings why is this

August 12, 2010 at 7:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Okay, ALL the girls who have commented on this post:
Chances are, if you haven't started your period, you want to, right?
Please don't think that. It's terrible. Don't believe commercials or media that tell you otherwise because it's not glamorous. It's a time that will have you constantly worried about whether or not there's something on the back of your pants, it will put you in a bad mood, you won't feel good and your stomach will hurt.
I'm NOT trying to freak you out, but my point is that you shouldn't HOPE for your period to come. Cherish the fact that you're still free from some of the worries that come with your period. And also, bras are uncomfortable, just saying. Ha :)
Don't grow up too fast, I promise you'll miss it! And if other girls are being mean to you about having started their periods when you haven't yet, ignore that and change the subject. It's much easier to have a good time when you're talking about something you ALL have in common!
Hope this helps, girls :)
-Georgia

August 14, 2010 at 5:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my on and off freind (we fight and make up ALOT) was the first girl to have her period in my class, i asked her how it was. she said "sometimes you get headaches and stomach pains, but everything aside from that is ok". a few days later, my mom said "it wont be long before you get your period, you know?" and i was like "yeah...", and the weirdest thing happened, a day later, i got it. i was really scared to tell my mom, but i though to myself, "you know what? i need to ask her to buy me some pads right now!" so i did, and now when ever i get it, im not scared because i found the right ones.

PS: sorry for the long comment :)

August 15, 2010 at 8:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thats happening to me too. I never got my... well you all know. But really. I'm not looking forward to growing up at all. I want to be a kid as long as I can. Even when I'm 60 I will be the crazy grandma dancing in the parking lot :)

August 25, 2010 at 2:03 AM  
Anonymous Little Miss Singer\Actress said...

OK,that TOTALLY happens too me but you gotta remember,God built us all DIFFERENTLY.I mean on the bright side,YOU DON'T have to go through the cramps yet{ME EITHER}!!!

September 1, 2010 at 11:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm a slow bloomer too. I don't wear a bra yet and I'm always temped to compare myself to my friends. I remember that God made us all different and that my body will do whats right for me. [Whether I like it or not =]

September 5, 2010 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am the oldest in my group of friends yet 2 of my besties have had their periods before me at first I was shock and keep thinking y they have had theirs and I haven't. but now I don't even think about it!

September 12, 2010 at 4:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I so understand how u feel because all my friends are early bloomers by far and older than them so its realy awkward plus im at a small school. And i'd like to get my period soon but not to soon cause you have to enjoy life without worrying about if youre bra strap is showing.

September 27, 2010 at 8:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got a small sports bra.That was a big deal for me because none of my bffs have any thing.I was frightened but when my mom brought me their I saw a girl from my class and she is on real bras we started chatting and now were best buds!



P.S i don't know how this is going to help but know I'm OK about going in to Puperty

November 10, 2010 at 11:43 AM  
Anonymous Hannah x said...

I havent started my period yet, but i hvae breasts, all of my friends wear bras, im only 11 , but i wear one becasue i need to, allof my friends wear a bra because it makes their breasts look biger! It doesnt, it makes them look fake! I ahvent started my period yet though, its a bit weird, I feel like im growing up too fast. But too slow?

December 3, 2010 at 3:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Pls help me! I'm worried bcuz I am 11 and I wear sports bras but I dont have vaginal discharge...at least I think. I'm not quite sure what it is.
Am I slow? I want my period.....
I'd really appreciate any help.
Thnx!
Ellie

September 11, 2011 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous Michaela, 11 said...

Hi guys, late bloomer here! All my friends have padded bras and one even has her period! When I don't even have "them" and I'm not even close to having my period. So I know exactly how you feel!
Michaela, 11

January 6, 2012 at 9:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey girls, being an early bloomer is no picnic either. Carring around pads/tampons all the time, missing out on things like swimming and you sometimes even get cramps. And for bras, and padded bras are no different than others! They just have a different purpose. No worries! Everyone grows up at their own rate!

January 7, 2012 at 11:48 PM  
Anonymous purpleROCKZ! said...

im really jelous of my BFF Bcause she started puberty in 2nd grade!! +every1 in my class has boobs, even if there small, every1 has them… xpt me :( '-' :( '0' :( '-' :( '0'

August 10, 2012 at 1:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm a fast developer. I got my first bra at 10 and my period at 11 and 1/2. I completely understand wanting to be like your friends but also understand that once you start developing it will just be one more annoying thing to deal with the rest of your life. Not that it's horrible but just remember that you'll have the rest of your life to enjoy these things. Also to fast developers remember that your not the only one going through this and pretty soon everyone will be there with you. Then you can give them advice on everything!!
ViolinistAtSoul :)

February 10, 2013 at 11:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a slower bloomer. I wear a trainer bra. don't worry I might be getting me period soon too. I hope i move up to a cupped bra soon! Do the people have to measure you?

July 8, 2014 at 9:55 AM  

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