Kaity's Boy Question

Dear PLS,
i like this guy and we are really close and everyone thinks he likes me too but i dont want to ruin our friendship what should i do?
Kaity, 12


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Anonymous anna said...

just poke around his brain a little.ask him things that don't make him uncomfortable. don't make things obvious or else he might not want to be your friend any more.

July 16, 2010 at 10:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i agree with anna, except for don't actually poke his brain. that would probably ruin a friendship

July 17, 2010 at 8:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm in the same situation with a boy too, we even went on a date but it turns out he was just stringing me along because he has a girlfriend! So my advice is, just stay friends because being in a bf-gf relationship will only complicate things.
Hope I helped -
Veronica T. 12

July 17, 2010 at 4:28 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Just be his friend! There's no point in dating at this age anyway, still be his friend, and have fun!

July 17, 2010 at 4:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

whatever you do, dont write him a letter telling him how you feel. You dont know who will see the message. Even your best friend might peek!

July 17, 2010 at 7:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that's exactly what happened with me. everyone thinks he likes me but I'm afraid he's not gonna be my friend cuz he doesn't like that talk.

July 18, 2010 at 3:35 PM  
Anonymous Roza said...

im in the exact same situation too, but the best thing to do is show a few signs at a time to show ur feelings he'll eventually get the hints, or ask a friend that's close to both of u to ask if he likes u or not.

July 18, 2010 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ask him if he likes you. if he says no just drop the subject completely and act as if it never happened. but whatever you do don't act akward

July 18, 2010 at 6:22 PM  
Blogger Theresa said...

just be his friend. Trust me a just ruined a really important friendship cause we were dating.

July 19, 2010 at 6:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you really shouldn't be dating. Sorry to bust your bubble. but the truth is just be friends and HAVE FUN!!!! Be footloose and fancy free girl!!!! Have a soda! Because you don't need a BF! yahoo buckaroo!! sorry.

July 19, 2010 at 7:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was in the same situation. I told my friends i liked him and they was all saying omg you guys with look so cute together. So if u guys are really close, ask him who he likes. With me the guy said "you" and i said me too. then he asked me out. We went out for a while. Then he cheated on him with one of my friend and kissed one of my best friends playing "spin the bottle"....i hope this helps. just you have to know that you have the right guy and wont go telling ppl that u said that

July 19, 2010 at 10:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have the same problem but he is really fun to hang out with.


July 19, 2010 at 11:43 AM  
Anonymous Ali said...

Hi i had the same problem it didnt work out well but never mind that. Tell him that people think we like each other and ask him what he thinks if he says kids r really dum just be friends if he says yea i know or something like that he likes u but DONT ask him out. I know this from experience. hope this helps
Ali 12

July 19, 2010 at 1:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just tlk to him ,dont freak him out or anythin but tell him tht u kinda like him snd if it doent work out then who cares u can still be his friend .some guy in 1st grade loved me and we broke up now were like best friends.

July 19, 2010 at 11:25 PM  
Anonymous Mia said...

Talk to him about it, see if he actually does. If he doesn't just keep being good friends, if he does you can ask him out if you want your friendship ruined, but seriously DON'T GO OUT WITH HIM it might not end so well, I know from experience. Good Luck! :)

July 20, 2010 at 2:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you should talk to him and just ask a few things but don't make it seem as if your trying to ask him out, just ask a few things without causing suspicion. and maybe you should say" I don't want what i am about to say ruin our friendship but do you like me? and if he says no just say that you just wanted to know because the way he was acting but just tell him you two are still friends- hope this helped.

July 20, 2010 at 9:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I kinda have the same problem! But the other way around(he likes me, but I want to be friends).
Any way, if you like him a lot, tell him how u feel! He's a friend, right? But i don't suggest dating til your older! Hey, if this doesn't work out by telling him how you feel, tell him you still wanna be friends!

Hope that was a good idea!!

Bob (I am a girl, I just like to be called Bob!)

July 21, 2010 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

My best friend really likes a guy and I keep telling her he likes her, but she doesn't want to hurt their friendship. If you're such good friends, he wouldn't mind you asking him, and try not to blush or amile, and look him in the eye, talk to him like you normally would, ask him if he likes anybody.

July 21, 2010 at 8:20 PM  
Anonymous aoife said...

OMG I have exactly the same problem i like him i think he likes me but i'm sticking to my rule Wait for the boy to come to you

July 22, 2010 at 10:10 AM  
Anonymous Grace said...

Stay freinds, but don't tell him you like him or he will be shy.

July 22, 2010 at 6:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When you have a crush and people say that he likes you and you wanna know if it's true, here's what is good to do. 1:Ask him if the rumors around are true and tell him to be hounest, or 2:You don't have to ask, and just keep being friends and mabey he might tell you that he likes you. I think that choice 1 is the best, but you decide.
Hope this helped.

July 22, 2010 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous aoife said...

Mia has a point about not going out with him 'cause it might end in disater but it may not happen to you so look at the situation and think what's right for you!

July 23, 2010 at 10:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well i think you should continue just being friendly and maybe flirt a little but not too much in case he really doesnt like you but if he tries to flirt back just keep going and maybe he will confess his feelings for you.HOPE THIS HELPS!!!

July 23, 2010 at 4:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry about someone who says that because your just freinds i have a boy that is a freind and they thought we were going out but i just told them were just freinds so dont worry just dont listen

July 24, 2010 at 4:44 AM  
Anonymous Mickayla aka Scared for period said...

Go for it girl! The worst he can say is no! And you may never know what could've happened if you don't try! I highly doubt that it will ruin your friendship with him if he doesn't feel the same way about you!

July 24, 2010 at 10:16 PM  
Anonymous wynter said...

Just be friends even know tht u guys are close ignore those other people u will have a good relashoship even know if other people say mean stuf to you ok :)

July 25, 2010 at 11:03 PM  
Blogger julia said...

u should tell him that u dont want anything to change. but maybe u should make sure he feels the same way. im in this situation too

July 26, 2010 at 7:50 PM  
Anonymous annarose19 said...

I'm am in a situation like yours.i wanna know if he likes me or not,but not let anyone know.i like the guy a lot.i don't know how to ask him cause i wont be able to during the school year and not this summer cause he doesn't answer messages on facebook. its hard,i know whats even harder is im 9 3/4 and going into fourth grade 4.someone,anyone, HELP ME!!!!!

August 5, 2010 at 9:53 AM  
Anonymous kennedy said...

Hey I'm Kennedy and I completely understand,I totally have a huge crush on my best friend. Everyone says he likes me but, I'm still nervous. Truthfully I wouldn't know what to say. So I guess I'm not the best person to ask but my point is I know what it's like.

August 8, 2010 at 6:25 AM  
Anonymous BrentwoodBengalAdviceGirl said...

What i would do is i would txt him if you have his number and start asking him about stuff lik who does he lik and if he asks you who u lik then tell him that u lik him. thats how i told my friend that i likd him. but he doesnt lik me back but we still tight. so i hope i helped a little.

August 11, 2010 at 6:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well i think i would just start out maybe going to dinner with your parents or the movies. I think on all relationships you should you should introduce him to your parents. But it depends on your age to go on dates alone!

August 12, 2010 at 9:14 PM  
Anonymous lily said...

im in the same situation just act ur self dont act fake to impress him if he dosent like u for who u or u hes not right for u just stay freinds

August 14, 2010 at 8:57 AM  
Anonymous Kiako said...

Hey, well you could stay friends, or try dating. If you don`t like it, you could stop. Just keep in mind that things won`t be the same afterwards.

August 20, 2010 at 5:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was in the same situation Katie. But i did tell him i liked him, and he said he liked me too. Although the next day, he asked out my best friend. So if i were you, I wouldn't ruin your relationship as friends. Sorry if it doesn't help.

October 5, 2010 at 11:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok. Don't ask him directly because some boys get freaked out with those things. My ex boyfriend he dumped me but my friends are telling me that he's always talking about me, so ask one of your girl friends to ask him if he he likes you. let them say something like this. I have been seeing you watching ______. Do u like her? Hope it helps.

October 31, 2010 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can understand your situation. Be like you are now, because obviosly he likes you the way you are already. Dont freak out every time you see him. Good luck, and Im sure he likes you, too!!!

December 13, 2010 at 4:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey kaity! look, i'm 12 also, and i think we're too young to date. don't get me wrong, i want a boyfriend, but it would be kinda awkward....this same thing happeed to me a little while ago, though. there was this boy i was friends with, and we ended up telling each other we liked one another. we weren't bf-gf or anything, and it just kinda faded away. now we're just good friends, and nothing is awkward even though i know he still likes me. so my advice: just chill and be friends until you guys get older, or he's the one that makes the move.

February 10, 2011 at 5:50 PM  
Anonymous OtakuGirl99 said...

Don't get too ahead of things. If you THINK he likes you, but are not all that sure, then just go on with life. But if he actually confesses, then just "friendzone" him, or in other words, tell him you just want to be friends. Nothing more. I'm having the same problem with a guy liking me. And don't try to date at your age, I'm the same age, and I'm also an eyewitness to the fact that dating at a young age only ruins reputations. Trust me here.

January 4, 2012 at 10:24 PM  

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