Megan's Mom Question

Dear PLS,
I need to talk with my mom about stuff, but I'm to embarassed, I just wanted a way to start the conversation I need to have. Any ideas?
Megan, 13

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Anonymous anna said...

well if your talking to your about you mom about starting puberty you just have the courage and the right time.that goes for any conversation.

July 16, 2010 at 11:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just say mom, listen girls have been talking about periods at school and i just want to know about these things, so I came to ask you can u please help.

Here is another tip:wait till u are alone together

July 16, 2010 at 11:39 AM  
Blogger sarah said...

well maybe u can bring up the subject alone...and start with something causually like bras.

July 16, 2010 at 2:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, Megan, it would be easyer to answer your question if we knew what the conversation you need to have, is about. Please post what the conversation is about.

July 16, 2010 at 4:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Find a time when you are alone, NO BOYS ALLOWED!!! And start with something smaller like bras. Then you can move on to periods!

July 16, 2010 at 10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Catch her at a time when it's just you two, like if she tucks you in before bed or while driving home from the grocery store. Just ask if you can talk about girl stuff. If she thinks it's boys just say "No..." and I think she'll get what you mean.

July 17, 2010 at 12:12 AM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Don't be embaressed, just come right out and say it, and do it when only you and her are around!

July 17, 2010 at 4:40 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

Think about this:
1. Your mom went through the exact same thing as you, she probably talked to her mom also!
2. It's your moms job to talk to you about this stuff, she should expect to have this conversation with you.
3. Whats the worst that could happen? It's not like she'll tell the whole school what you and her talked about.
Hope it makes it easier to talk with her knowing that!

July 18, 2010 at 12:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if your 2 embaressed 2 talk 2 ur mum just write down wat u wanna say on a piece of paper and leave it on top of her pillow and be4 she goes 2 bed she will see the note and come talk 2 u or u could ask her (write) 2 write on the note and read wat her advice is. hope it works

question gal xoxo

July 18, 2010 at 2:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont be embarresed to tell your mum stuff after all shes your mum and shes probably been in that situation before too so you might as well tell her and see how things turn out

July 18, 2010 at 6:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

TALK 2 HER WEN U HVE AN HOUER OR 2

July 18, 2010 at 5:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell her sominthing small first

July 19, 2010 at 1:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you can talk to your mom any time she will always help you. remeber she was your age once too.

meg,11

July 19, 2010 at 11:48 AM  
Anonymous Chelsi said...

Just start by saying something like "Wats up mo can we have te birds and bees talk(she will know what it means)? Then go from there:0

July 19, 2010 at 7:27 PM  
Anonymous Mia said...

Catch your Mom when its just you two and tell her you need to talk "Girl Talk". Whatever you ask her in this category she'll understand and will help you.(Trust me she knows more than you think)Good Luck! :)

July 20, 2010 at 2:24 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry she'll understand if you feel more comfortable you could talk to an older sister.
you could even say to your mum you know my sister when she was my age she started her peiord or something like that might be easier.
Hope this helped xxx

July 20, 2010 at 4:15 PM  
Anonymous Estera said...

If your mom is stay-at-home, like mine, you probably have a close relationship with her. Just tell her that you need to talk to her and go to an empty room so you can talk in private. If what you want to tell her or ask her is about growing up (e.g.: crushes, periods, e.t.c.), just take a deep breath and tell your mom.

July 21, 2010 at 1:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just talk to your mom in a private place and start. Your mom might even know what u might going to talk about anyway. Which makes it a whole lot easier. If it's puberty or periods, start talking about tampons or something. It will be ok!!!! :)

July 21, 2010 at 7:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hmm... Personally it is so much easier for me to write something than to talk about it in person! I would write her a note or text her... Also if you want to actually talk just subtly mention things along the line of your topic, then eventually the convo will work itself up if you try :)

Love, Kaylee :)
Ps.Hope this helped( I learn from experience)

July 21, 2010 at 11:43 PM  
Anonymous Tori said...

I wait until it is me and her like when we go to the grocery store and are on our way home.
Then I will be like mom I need some more bras.
Then you go into more serious stuff.
Most of the time they will want to hear your stories and wait till the end and tell you their suggestions.
Just be patient the right time will come.

July 22, 2010 at 12:34 AM  
Anonymous aoife said...

just bring up the subject casually when you are alone(not in the garden siblings and fathers have a tendency to listen) hope it helps!!!

July 22, 2010 at 10:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just ask to speak to her in private then ask her what you needed just ask her she has been through the same things you are going through, boy trouble, puberty, anything like that she will understand just work up the courage to ask her whatever you need and just ask her. hope this helped-It'll be okay no matter what!

July 22, 2010 at 10:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Talking to your mom about certain stuff is hard. When I had to talk to my mom about my period, it felt a little embarising, but wonce it was over, I felt happy I told her. Be confident and be brave. Hope this helped.

July 22, 2010 at 9:04 PM  
Anonymous E said...

It might be hard to bring up the subject, but you'll be glad that you did. You have to remember that your mom was probably in the exact same situation at one point. Hope this helps!

July 23, 2010 at 12:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Try to find a time when its just you and your mom.it also depends on the subject you want to talk about.For example:puberty.i know this might feel awkward to talk about but your mom has been through it already, and she has advice from your grandma.You can talk to your mom about anything.No matter how embarrassing it is your mom will understand.

July 23, 2010 at 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Mickayla said...

I talked to my mom about it last year, even though I was 9 years old! I waited till it was just me and my mom in the room. Then I said "Mom, I noticed that my breast are starting to grow so I wondered if you can take me to Target to get some bras?" and she said "Of course! But how about we start with TRAINING BRAS first? I don't want you growing up TOO fast!" then we both laughed! On the car ride there i asked her to tell me about what a period was and how old she was when she had hers. She said that she was 14 when she got hers. And my dad started puberty when he was 10 so I'm expecting mine next year! It was embarrassing for me but once I asked, I felt a whole lot better and I was glad I brought up the subject and I'm pretty sure you will be to! I hope this helped!

July 23, 2010 at 10:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think you should just talk to her and tell her whats on your mind

July 25, 2010 at 8:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

start small then build up to it

July 27, 2010 at 5:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey girl just start with normal stuff like home work and school then just start it slowly .she is your mom she would also have gone through this so just be self confident. be sure that you talk when no one's around

July 30, 2010 at 1:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's okay you can be emmbarresed but she is a woman she a girl as well you will have to do it sooner or later

July 30, 2010 at 6:03 AM  
Anonymous indya said...

you should probably start your conversation by saying: "mom, im starting to grow up and i need to know about things.
what should i know about?"
then she'll most likely ask you what do you want to know about and you say what you wanna know and she'll tell you

July 30, 2010 at 10:00 AM  
Anonymous sarah said...

i had the same problem. just say exactly what u wonderin, but if it's about puberty, dont giggle or b inaproppiate. if its about boys, dont be shy to tlk. some moms dont like it when u tlk bout them, but it's a phase in puberty.

July 30, 2010 at 1:10 PM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

Ask her if she wondered about that stuff as a kid. This will give her the hint to start the much needed talk.

July 30, 2010 at 11:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell your mom that you've started developing and tell her that you would like to go shopping for bras.

July 31, 2010 at 5:12 PM  
Anonymous Abbigail said...

You should try what I did. I went to the library and I got out a book called, The Period Book and said "Mom, why wasn't I told about this?" and she said "I don't think kids your age can get periods." Your mom may have gotten it later than you. I am 10 and my mom got hers around 12 so maybe that was why.

August 1, 2010 at 9:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i nover got a chace to talk to my mom about gril stuff but i thinh you shold

August 1, 2010 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell her. You have to get the conversation rolling. Maybe ask her about something that you want to talk about and then tell her.

August 2, 2010 at 9:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i write a note bucuz i think its easier to write my feelings then to find the confidence to say them:) hope this helps<33333333

August 3, 2010 at 1:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

one day when it's just u and ur mom at home. tell her u need to tell her something. that always works for me.

August 5, 2010 at 9:58 AM  
Anonymous Taylor said...

Well it depense on what the topic is Like you could be like i hope you dont take this the wrong way or something like that

August 5, 2010 at 3:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its your mom she will understand im sure she had the same questions as well

August 8, 2010 at 4:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have 4 older brothers and it took me a long time to talk to my mom but for me i just found a time when we were alone took a deep breath and started talking? i think u should try this caz once it waz over i waz really glad i didd it!! :)

August 10, 2010 at 9:08 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

I think that u should say mom u know im growing up and there are some things that i would like to talk to u about but i feel a little bit embarrassed. Hope it helps

August 12, 2010 at 8:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just say that u are kinda embarrassed to say it and she will probably ask wats wrong... then u could just come out and say it... but tell her not to say anything to anyone about your conversation

August 12, 2010 at 8:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I emailed my mom asking her 2 cum and talk 2 me. She understood and when we were going to the store we started talking! It was embaressing at 1st but then it got easier. Hope this helps and good luck Megan!!!

August 14, 2010 at 6:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i havent yet reach my period but i would leave a note on her pillow and ask her to write a note back

shayla 10

August 17, 2010 at 4:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel i had that same feeling when i wanted to ask a question about periods. What i did was think to my self this is for a good reason so i was brve enough to go up to my mom and ask. GOOD LUCK:)

August 22, 2010 at 12:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey I just went up to my mum and said
"Mum can I have a bra or something like
a crop top?"
Then I asked about periods and that
and that's about it!!
Good Luck!=]

August 27, 2010 at 6:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't feel bad! I felt very embarresed about this too! Then I read book called The Care and Keeping of You. It tells you all about that kind of stuff. You should try reading it and maybe that will help you start a conversation with your Mom.

Good luck!=]

P.S Leaving your mom a note or e-mailing her makes it A LOT easier!=]

September 5, 2010 at 7:39 PM  
Anonymous berrycherry99 said...

hi im 11 and i got my first period about 2 days ago i was so afraid to tell my mum so i just left my bloody knickers ontop of the laundry basket so she could find out for herself what was going on the next day she went the super market and came back with pads for me and she started to tell me how to use them then she showed me this website :D hope it helped !

September 13, 2010 at 7:01 PM  
Anonymous CaliforniaGurl101 said...

i think you should talk to her about it when your alone(car rides,b4 bed,etc.)
best wishes!!!!:)

September 19, 2010 at 8:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry all women hve been through this i mean ive already had the talk but i didnt say anything.... my school also did a g@d session(growth and development)2 tell u the truth it wasnt that bad actually u should suggest it then u can be prepared. hope i helped

buh-bye<3

September 24, 2010 at 6:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how this is. I went through the same thing with my mom. I saw this idea on a website. Try leaving a note on or under something that she will see everyday. Write your question or whatever it is you need or want. That way you don't have to face her face to face.

September 29, 2010 at 9:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Step One (If you want a bra) : First don't be shy, every girl went through this including your mother.Step Two:If you have siblings or your dads around a lot don't talk to your mom about it then!Wait 'till your alone in a room to talk about it.Step Three: Just say mom (or mum) I've noticed I'm growing and I'd like a bra. Suggest some stores like Justice or Target.If you want to talk about periods and growing up just do this.....

Step One (for growing up) Ask her what you want to know. And if she thinks your too young go to kidshealth.org.

Hope I helped!!!!!

November 6, 2010 at 7:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey!
Well, it's not really hard, but I know what your getting at. Last year, I was in the shops with my Mum, stepdad and my 2 big sisters. They were looking at bras, and I just said to my Mum quietly "Mum, can I get one too?" And we did. Another time my sister was like "Mum I need some tampons/pads" And I was like, what are tampons/pads?! So she sat down with me and we talked.
All you have to do is quietly pull her over, and say something like "Mum, can I talk to you in private?" She'll get the message. Or if you just CANT bring yourself to talk to her in person, send her an email or note. =]
Hope I helped you!!

December 1, 2010 at 2:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i totally agree with question gal xoxo, about leving a note. i've done it lots of times with my mom. she'll bring up the topic to you, and make you feel comftorable, so it'll make everything a lot better.

February 10, 2011 at 6:01 PM  
Anonymous Annie said...

I have the same problemo!!! My best advice would be to just bring it up to her. make sure NO BOYS ARE AROUND because they'll make fun of you.

February 12, 2011 at 2:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aw, I have the SAME problem, if you need a bra here is what I did:
I was up in my moms room just hanging out with just her, and it was a day after I went to the doctor for lumps under my nipples, and the doctor said my breasts were developing. So I said to my mom "mom, when I wear a light shirt, you can see my, nipples and it looks weird, I am 10 now." She said "well, maybe it's time for a bra." and then we kind of giggled, the next day we went and picked some out! Hope I helped!

February 17, 2011 at 8:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Here is what I did:
I was at Target with my two older sisters, they said "hey mom we're going to get some bras" and I said, "mom, could I get one too?" she said "sure, but let your sisters help you pick one out." So I went over and got one! If it's about, Aunt Flo, this is what happened to me: my sister, she had black pants on and had her period,(i didnt know yet what it was) and it leaked, and I said "uh sis, did you pee your pants!?" and she said "OMG! No! I have my period! AH!" and I said "Mom, whats a period?" and she told me, then my sister said "mom! do you have any pads or tampons?!!" and I said, "mom whats a tampon? and whats a pad?" and she told me of course. then my sisters both bought some pads and tampons, and I said "mom, could I get a box of pads in case I get my period at school?" and she said sure.

February 18, 2011 at 6:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you need a bra say: "hey mom, I noticed that I am kind of starting to get breasts, could I have a bra? "

If it is about period say; "hey mom, I think I have my period, can you get me some pads?"

If it is about boys say this: "mom, this is awkward, but, I kind of like this boy. Am I to young to date?" now, if she says your to young RESPECT HER! If you fight with her she will probably think you are to immature and won't let you have a boyfriend for a LOOONG time!

I hope I helped!

February 19, 2011 at 5:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your Ma/mum/mom/mommy was a tween once too! ;)

April 15, 2011 at 1:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey there! Well, since I've started (Well, not yet but I will have) my period later than her, SHE always brings up the subject. She's always saying stuff like, "You should start soon, so keep some pads with you" and bla bla bla. And when we went to Kohls, I was joking around about this tiny bra, and eventually I got my first two REAL (cupped) bras. My mom also started the period discussion.
If you are opposite of me and want to ask her yourself. She was once a teen or tween, and she'll know exactly how you feel! Write a note to her and tell her you want to talk to her about something but you're too embarrassed. Then eventually she'll start the conversation. And it will get easier talking about girl stuff. Hope I helped!

July 8, 2011 at 2:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just take a breath and when u and ur mom r alone tell her that u have something to tell her and u can also say that it is kinda embarrising. She will probably guess what u need to talk about and try to make it less embarrising for u and she'll try not to freek out or anything

June 15, 2012 at 4:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My mum just tells me randomly, I don't have to ask, she will probably notice and tell you before you ask. (I spent 5 months trying to tell her I needed a bra, then on the day I was going to tell her, she noticed and I didnt even have to ask. All that work for nothing. lol)

August 15, 2015 at 10:38 PM  

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