Brothers + bras = ?

Hi PLS,
I have only brothers for siblings, no sisters. And I'm nervous about when I need to wear a bra. Will they respect me, or will they make fun of me? They were raised with plenty of manners, but I'm filled with worries!

Thanks for all of your answers; they help a lot.
Perfectine, 11

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im sure u dont need to worry. Most boys know that girls wear bras and like u said. If they have manners then im sure they wont make fun of u. When i got my first bra i was worried every 1 would know but they never even noticed! Dont worry u and ur bros will B fine!!

August 18, 2010 at 2:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

they'll probably respect the fact your statrting to become a ' women '

August 18, 2010 at 3:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It really depends on how old they r. If they r younger they will tease u but tell them would you like being teased if u had 2 were 1?
If he is older he might just joke around about it a tiny bit but he will understand. THERE IS NOTHIN 2 WORRY ABOUT!!!!
HOPE I HELPED!!

Question Gal xoxo

p.s. I should no I have 2 were 1 (a training bra though) and I have 2 younger bros 1 younger sis 2 older sisters and 1 older bro my older sibs dont tease me (neither does my younger sis) but boy do my younger bros do!!! But I just tell them would they like being teased if they have 2 were 1 and then they stop for the rest of the day. HOPE I HELPED

August 18, 2010 at 4:03 AM  
Anonymous Cali Gurlz said...

Well, with what you've said, I think they should respect you, but if they don't, try to explain to them you're going through your changes just like they will/have go/gone through theirs. It's something girls just have to face sometimes (why does this world have to be so messed up?? lol)

August 18, 2010 at 1:15 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

I wouldn't worry about it. Just act the same, and if they notice, they notice, and if they don't they don't! But if they start making fun of you, be sure to tell your parents.

August 18, 2010 at 5:09 PM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

Do your brothers have to know you wear a bra? You can try to hide it, but if they do notice, they're your family, aren't they? They should respect you enough to not go on about it. If they're older, they'll know you'll be going through these changes about now. If they're younger, they probably won't know or care. If younger sibs ask, get your mom and you can explain it with her. Don't worry. If they hurt you, your mom will sort them out.

August 18, 2010 at 5:50 PM  
Blogger Stew said...

I have 2 brothers and I wear a bra they really do still respect me. I think u will be fine.

August 18, 2010 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous cupcakes=) said...

i have a brother too, and he doesn't go in my drawers looking for my pads and bras. So if ur brothers were raised with manners, i think they would know not to go in your stuff!!! if they do just hide ur bras

August 18, 2010 at 7:31 PM  
Anonymous Perfectine said...

I have one brother who is a teen, another who's close to being a teen, and the youngest brother who's about half my age. The only reason I'm worried is because my youngest brother is always trying to go into my drawers (because I have things he would like, such as, coins, and other knickknacks), and if he asks me what it is once I get a bra, I don't know what to say. Another thing I'm worried about is my two older brothers are often doing the laundry, and if they see my bra in the laundry while I'm in the room, I would feel like I was so embarrassed, and I would just have to try and stay calm, but that's hard, you know! I mean, when you're just starting. And then if the tease me, my mom is probably going to explain to them what I'm going through, and that'll humiliate me even more! Thanks a lot for your advice, girls.

August 18, 2010 at 8:13 PM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

perfectine, your brothers are your brothers. They'll be going through changes too. But, since your brothers go through your drawers, get your mom and have a talk with them about your boundaries. If you talk to them, they probably won't listen. If you need to, lock your door when you're not in there. Hope i Helped!!!!!!

August 20, 2010 at 9:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my brother is 19 and he makes fun of me so i got my mom to talk to him and he kept doing it so i just ignored him

August 21, 2010 at 10:16 AM  
Anonymous Perfectine said...

Dear Grace,

I'd love to lock my door when I am not in there, but since my family is "close", everyone has something in there. For example, my soon-to-be-a-teen brother has his games in there, and he is always playing on the game console. Another example is my oldest brother's reading books that he keeps in there. Sometimes he needs to get them if he's going to the bathroom. So, yes, you helped. But I was wondering if they was anything else I could do about my youngest brother going in my drawers.

:)

August 21, 2010 at 5:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dont worry i started to wear bras when i was in grade 5 and i was freaked out it was like that guilty type of feeling. i was like what if my dad or my brother find out. Then i told my mom how i felt, she said it is okay to have that type of feeling. This means that you are a young women now and wearing a bra means that your bodt has decided to move to the next level. GOOD LUCK:)

August 22, 2010 at 12:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It should be fine. Even if your bros do the laundry and see your bra, they'll probably just put it on your pile or whatever. I have 2 bros and a big family and no-one ever teases me.

August 22, 2010 at 9:13 PM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

How old is your brother? If he's really young, you can tell him there's a monster in your drawer.

August 23, 2010 at 11:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

even when mom told me to wear a braw my dad was giving me a hug felt my braw and yelled braw right next to my neighbor it was so inberousing

August 23, 2010 at 11:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its ok to feel embaressed i have 4 older brothers and 1 little 8 year old brother and they didnt make fun of me they congragulated me and also on starting to shave my legs your bothers will probally be the same way hope i helped

katy 12

August 26, 2010 at 8:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have one half-stepbrother whose my age then a half-brother who is 20. my older brother has noticed that i wear a bra, have my period, shave my legs etc. and he does nothing about it! once he even asked to borrow my shaving cream :) and with my half-stepbrother we actually discuss it. once we had an hour long conversation about tampons. it's not awkward at all, just don't worry about it!
hope i helped -
veronica t. 12

August 30, 2010 at 12:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh! This is the same case with me! I have a sibling he is a boy and all my cousins are also boys! My brother tries to interferr in my personal issues... What can I do? My only help are my friends and my mother.

August 30, 2010 at 4:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the same problem but for me its brothers+bras+plus pubic hair. AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH

August 30, 2010 at 12:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i only have 1 younger sis (she's annoying)when i get mine she'll prob'l not even notice. same for u prob'l . don't worry!

August 31, 2010 at 8:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it is normal for you to grow up and if they make fun of you just say "i don't care i'm a young lady" and walk off in your room

September 10, 2010 at 7:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry, dont worry, i try not to be rude, but just last week in my grade, i saw people in tank tops end they had other straps... also somone new to the school sounde nervous and i asked why. she said and i quot "first day of b-r-a" I WILL NOT SAY NAMES!!!!!!!!! besides, im alsogetting it in this year probs. just CALM DOWN and i am youger than you. abd i am sure you wont wear a shirt saying "HEY EVERYONE! I WEAR A BRA!!!" well good luck

September 19, 2010 at 3:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel but im IN the situation right now :(
I need a bra now but im super worried about my sister and dad making fun. My sister and mum talk about me behind my back and im worried they will talk about me+bra.
I am constantly worrying because i want a bra now but everyone says i dont need one when i do need one!
Good luck to you!!!

September 20, 2010 at 11:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well sorry to say , but i went through this too . Both of my older brothers teased me about it alot , but maybe that won`t be the case for you . Your brothers may be a little freaked out by the fact that you are and won`t say anything at all . But they`ll get over it eventually : )

Good Luck :)

September 20, 2010 at 3:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

waahhhhhhh i feel ur pain but it's not that much of a big deal apart from the fact if u have a younger that u can still pick up then thats a big deal.my little cus in she almost 2 and when i pick her up she pulls the straps it hurts like mad and then she laughs so i put her down and the her wants you to hold er again it quite cute if u look at it the right way but..............if u have a cus that is about 6 or 7 she tortures u ..... she says to me u have a bra hahaha and say well myes but means im older and that means i can do more things alone but u cant... dont stress just say well yes but that means im more mature and can do things alone and u cant.


hope it helps
buh-bye

September 24, 2010 at 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't tell them. And if you don't leave them lying around or blab to them like saying "Hey. Don't look in my underwhere drowre. I have bras now." or anything like that, they should never find out.
Hope this helps, it worked for me and myne are younger.
Lots of love to yall!

September 30, 2010 at 1:56 PM  
Anonymous Mickayla said...

Hey im IN the SAME situation right now! I'm 10 and i wear a bra and i have been for about 1 year and a half now and i only have a older 12 year old brother. He still hasn't found out yet. The actual situation for me is brother+boobs+bras+pubic hair+ armpit hair+pantiliners+pads! But your going to be fine and just ask your mom to talk to your little brother about your personal privacy. Oh and your big brothers prob wont tease you and if they do tell your mom that she prob will have to have the same talk about your personal privacy with them to! Hope I helped!

October 1, 2010 at 11:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I started wearing crop tops my brothers didn't mind. They didn't really notice them. If they are teasing you tell your Mum or older sibling(older than sibling teasing you) and they will tell them to stop. If they carry on just try to ignore them.
Hope this helps,
Agony Aunt

October 8, 2010 at 3:15 PM  
Anonymous soph said...

I think you should just take your mind off of it. I have bras and my brother doesn't mind.

October 17, 2010 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous maudie said...

I just asked my mum for some money for private stuff and just bought them myself and also you guys are all saying younger brothers tease you but my younger brother is 8 immature and a bit arrogant and he has never said anything even though he knows very well that i wear one! If they do tease you just give them a look and let them know it's not on, and they will stop. Hope this helped x

October 29, 2010 at 5:14 PM  
Anonymous olive 101 said...

u should not let ur brothers stop u from growing up!!!!!

November 2, 2010 at 6:38 PM  
Anonymous Uzi said...

I'm sure they will not tease you because you said that they have manners. And if they do.........just say that- you're becoming a woman.
Hope I helped, Sweet.

November 13, 2010 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

Do you have a mom to talk to about that because normally moms can help if you know what i mean. Or just ignore them if they do that. I know that im the worst at ignoring just you know you could be better than me or tell them that your going older and your going to start needing like they were raised with manners, right

November 17, 2010 at 3:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you know, it depends on your brothers. some bros might walk around with bra over their chest, but if that happens, then tell ur mom.

December 5, 2010 at 5:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

lol! brothers dont need to be on this website eithier!

December 22, 2010 at 9:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had that same problem I have only brothers too they wont even notice you wearing bras

December 26, 2010 at 10:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey! It really depends what age your brothers are. Younger brothers might tease you but genulary older brothers wont. Dont worry about needing to wear a bra. You get used to them and become part of your everyday clothing. You can always wear a crop top if you find bras uncomfortable. Hope this helps.

January 3, 2011 at 7:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i wear bras and my mom actually told my two brothers who are 8 and 9! They didn't make any fun of me! Don't worry about it. If they start talking about you and your bras change the subject to some guy stuff that they like, like a football game or something like that.

Hope this helps!

January 11, 2011 at 6:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well depends how your bro is like. if ur good friends with ur bro then he probably wont say anything. if its anything like my bro (we dont like eachother) he mite tease u or pull at ur strap, or if u and ur bro like to play around with eachother then he mite tease u playfuly for a minute then compleatly forget about the subject.


hope this helps! good luck! :)

January 17, 2011 at 10:38 PM  
Anonymous CHL said...

i have 4 brothers and 2 sisters. talk to your sisters (if you have any) sometimesits easier then talking to your mom. and if they give you trouble? prank your brothers! bwahaHA! im evil. i kno. SORRY

February 28, 2011 at 10:36 AM  
Anonymous Little Red said...

Haaha, I just started wearing padded bras, and my brother said "wow, have you been working out? your chest looks so strong!" LOL I said, "no." and he said "really? Then why is it sticking out a little? Are you wearing two shirts?" Omg I laughed sooo hard and said "______ I am an 11 year old girl! Those are my boobs!" HAHAH!!!! Omg! They shouldn't bother you but if they do, just say "you better stop making fun of my bra/boobs or when you go through puberty then I will make fun of your voice!"
Or, just tell your mom or older sister if you have them.

March 4, 2011 at 12:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It will be fine they will respect u. Good luck on the road of puberty!!

September 18, 2011 at 9:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey!!! i have exactly same problem. i have younger brother and a dad who sometimes does the laundry and when they hang out to dry they might tease me ??? also brother could tease me and then mum dad and bro might gang up against me ???and i dont think that if they did this then they would understand that they were hurting \annoying me ??? brother is oblivious to my boobs which is kind of stupid because he wants to wrestle ??? maybe he would come more aware ??? we are close as a family but i still wouldnt want to talk about this with them. maybe only with mum
sorry about long answer : ) see ya
xxx becki xxx

June 5, 2012 at 4:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My dad hugged me too and he was like is this a bra? Is it your mothers? I was like yes...no... it was so awkward
-Pinkadink

July 29, 2012 at 10:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My brothers always enter my room without permission, I do not know why!
They always make fun of girls,
Every time they see one of my bras they say what is that? And I say either a singlet or undies, I am not sure if they believe me!

July 4, 2017 at 11:51 PM  

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