Fighting rumors

Before middle school, I really didn't understand rumors. Now, I do. Rumors are basically when people say stuff that isn't true about each other. Our friend, Isabella, has this kind of problem.

dear pls,
my best friend is spreading bad rumors about me and now many people hate me. Besides this, she's also being very mean to my other good friend. Now i'm very lonely and sad. please help!
isabella, 9

This is a hard situation. I know from experience that you can spread rumors very easily and you might not even mean to be mean. You hear something and repeat it even if you're not sure it happened. "Oh, did you hear that Megan said she's the prettiest girl in our class?"

But rumors are bad news for the person who you are talking about, especially when she did NOT say she was the prettiest girl in the class. Or sometimes, she might have said something on the topic, but not exactly that. Rumors can be like that game you play at parties when you whisper something in someone's ear and they whisper it to the next person and so on. It's never the same sentence because everyone hears something slightly - or wildly different.

Then we have the worst of all worst kind of rumors - ones that are COMPLETELY made up just to hurt someone. Or when someone who you thought was your friend starts telling the world stuff you told her privately.

I think Isabella should ask her friend why she's being so mean? I also think Isabella should join forces with the other friend who has been hurt. I also think everyone can be better about not repeating rumors they hear. Just think: How would I feel if someone was saying this about ME?

Have you had experience with rumors? What did you do and what advice would you give Isabella?

If you want to learn more about gossip and rumors, check out this article: The Scoop on Gossip.

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Anonymous GrammarGeek said...

Yeah, talk to your friend and find out WHY she's being so rude. Then, Figure out a comprimise. If she dosen't like some of the stuff that you say or do, than talk to her and figure out what you can do and what she can do. You may also have a situation where you might need to give eachother some space for a little bit.

August 30, 2010 at 11:49 AM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

This happened to me. I asked my friend how she would feel if I said that to her. She said 'I wouldn't do anything, why are you being such a baby?' And I just stopped being friends with her. If a lot of people don't like you, try explaining to them that you didn't start the rumor. If they're nice, they'll understand. HOPE I HELPEEEEED!

August 30, 2010 at 4:39 PM  
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August 30, 2010 at 5:45 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

First ask her if you did anything to offend her, and that's whay she's being so mean, then you could apoligize, if necessary, and it always helps to get advice from a grown-up!

August 30, 2010 at 7:31 PM  
Anonymous GrammarGeek said...

Like Grace 12 said, some people just aren't good friends to you. TRUE friends are willing to believe, trust and forgive.

August 31, 2010 at 11:54 AM  
Anonymous Maddy said...

As Many of the girls above have said, no real friend would ever do that to you! I am agreeing with Grace 12 and GrammarGeek, These rumors will go away and keep your head held up high and ignore the rumors it doesnt matter what anyone else think! Maybe try and tell them its not true! someone might be a real friend, and to the firl who is being mean to your good friend tell her to be nicer and to leave her alone! you can stand up for you and your friend! just believe in yourself!
-Hope I helped

September 2, 2010 at 10:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My friend was mean to me and was talking about me behind my back for a while. I just tried to ignore it but it hurt. Talk to your friend before it's too late, I realy wish I did.

September 6, 2010 at 6:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I Understand a girl said that I was spreding rumers about her to this one girl then she blamed me. The one girl blamed me.

September 19, 2010 at 8:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

a true friend would never do snything like that!just ignore it or confront your friend and ask her nicely if you did or said that offend her.. if shes a true friend she will forgive you...
ask advise from an adult!

September 22, 2010 at 7:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just ignore her and dont be her freind anymore. its stupid for you to still be her freind she's just trying to make you look bad. Teach her a lesson!

October 18, 2010 at 8:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

try to calm ur self and make urself busy so that u wont have any time to think abt her

October 19, 2010 at 7:11 AM  
Anonymous swimmer 4 life said...

this happened 2 me yesterday. heres wut happened. me and my bffs were making somethin 4 skool and it wuz a video war thing and we wer the last 2 people in it. this time we had to pick a theme so we picked jersey shore. well the other team copied us and picked jersey shore as well. but one the the other teams actors got in a big fight with them so he came to us. so he got to be pauly-d. the characters were sammi, deena,jwow,snooki, a tutor and some other ppl. well one of my so called bffs was sammi and she wanted to be deena, and i was deena. so she asked me 20 times to be deena but i said no so she started talking about me behind my back. then at the end of the skool day she said "i would do anything to be deena, and if it means to loose a friend, i will not care." this made me cry. she has started to be a brat all year but she has never gone this far. i said "i dont wannah be friends with someone who always has to get their way" since then we havent been talking and she still hasnt apologized(nicely anyway. and wut i mean by that she just starts screaming "im sorry!!!!!!!!forgive me now or else!!!!!!") i guess i shood just stay away from her....

March 31, 2011 at 9:18 PM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

@swimmer 4 life wow that is sooooo not a friend ditch her leave her shes sooo not worth the trouble. like the kind of candy that tastes good but so hard to chew and then it gets stuck n ur teeth .

January 2, 2012 at 9:10 PM  

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