Her boyfriend likes another girl

Hi all,
We're really getting close to The Pink Locker Society's big day - September 14. That's when Only Girls Allowed will be available online and in bookstores. Exciting! In the meanwhile, I wanted to get some advice for Brianna. She just got some bad boyfriend news.

Dear PLS,
HELP!!!!! I found out my boyfriend likes another girl!!! What should I do???
Brianna, 12

I wonder if this is one of those situations where you can't really DO very much. Yelling at him or something would probably just make him like the other girl more - agree? My mother would probably say they're are a lot of fish in the sea, but that never helps when you're interested in one particular fish.

What's your advice, pink locker girls?

Think pink!


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Anonymous MacKenzie : said...

Dear Brianna,

While I am not an EXPERT on dating, I would say this is a tough case. Yelling at him would only make him like the other girl more. You ave 2 decisions:
1) Break up with him and move on, therefore letting him have the other girl
2) Put yourself in that girls shoes, act more like her for a while and get him back, then slowly start to act like yourself again so he gets attracted by how you can change.

I personally would choose 2 just to challenge myself, but you might find it easier to do 1.

I hope this helps!!!!!!!!!!!!!

August 31, 2010 at 12:27 AM  
Anonymous GrammarGeek said...

You should probably talk to him and find out how much he likes the other girl. Try a scale on one to ten. Then find out how much he likes you on a scale to ten. If he likes the other girl more, than find out what makes the other girl more lovable.

August 31, 2010 at 11:51 AM  
Anonymous Grace said...

Hi brianna! I think that if ur boyfriend likes another girl that you should talk to him about just random things that will make him like you even more. Just think what type of things does my boyfriend like? If you think of anything just try it. If your boyfriend likes basket ball , then maybe ask him if he wants to play a friendly one on one game. That is an example. I hope that every thing works out OK.

August 31, 2010 at 4:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Confront him and ask why he's interested in the other girl. Not if she's prettier but why he's flirting with her when you two are already going out. Explain your feelings when you see him with another girl and if you have to, break up with him. If you do have to you're gonna go thru a lot of breakups this being one of them.

August 31, 2010 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

First, I'd ask him if it's true, because if someone else told you other then him, it might not be true. Then listen to him, if you think he's lying, (I'd) dump him, and if he isn't, just let things blow over.

August 31, 2010 at 7:54 PM  
Anonymous Evie said...

Hi Brianna, I was sorry to hear about your problem that is probably giving you a few sleepless nights at the moment! Whatever happens I hope you and your boyfriend work something out and you stay good friends. My suggestion is to quietly and calmly ask him if this is true and tell him what's been on your mind. Make sure you are nice about it (even though you'll probably be fuming!) and also make sure he is by himself when you talk to him. I hope the problem gets sorted out soon. Think pink! Evie

August 31, 2010 at 9:22 PM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

Sorry, but at 12, you probably shouldn't even be having a boyfriend. I'm 12 and I REALLY like this guy and I think he likes me but I don't want to tell him. Anyway, since you have this problem, it's no use yelling at you about it. (My mom always punishes me for doing something ON ACCIDENT that she knows I'd never do on purpose, so what's the point when it's already done?!!?!?) So, your boyfriend. Try talking to him. Ask him who he's been hanging out with lately. Ask a bunch of questions that dance around the topic you're getting at. He'll probably crack after a few!

PS. I've already asked a million times! PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTIONS!!!!

September 1, 2010 at 8:02 PM  
Anonymous lil_miz thing said...

hi brianna,
my advice is tell him how you feel about him likeing a different girl.But first ask him if its true.if its true break up with him because it does't help just being sad and not doing anything.

September 2, 2010 at 9:13 AM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

Hi Brianna,
Ask him if he likes her more and wants her to be his GF instead. Whatever you do, don't cry at him, don't yell, and don't make him feel bad. Also, if he keeps up this "I like her and not you" thing, then end the relashionship. And who knows? Maybe he LIKES her, but LOVES you!
Good luck!
-Chloe :)

September 2, 2010 at 9:56 PM  
Anonymous Maddy said...

You should talk him and tell him how you feel, he may understand! Sorry thats all the advice I can give! Good Luck!

September 2, 2010 at 10:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

put yer mad/evil face on and teach him a lesson...dont hurt nobody!! just get real mad and end your speech with WHAT WOULD YER MOMMA SAY!?!?!?!? (and brakeup)

September 3, 2010 at 11:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear pls i have a crush on sum1 but theira grade higher im real sad bout it and i cant see him cus hes in middle school but wer friends.... what do i do?

September 3, 2010 at 11:24 PM  
Anonymous OGO said...

Talk it out with him, if he truley does seriously like another girl, you are going to have to dump him, other wise, you will be waiting for him to be all yours forever!!!!! Hang in there :) :) :)

September 6, 2010 at 10:33 PM  
Anonymous KayCee said...

Hey Brianna! I am SO sorry to hear about your problem.. I hope it get's sorted out soon! But anyway, I only have 2 suggestions for you..
1. Is ask him what He likes in a girl. And then act like one.. And if he starts noticing you more now go back SLOWLY to your old self OR
2. Confront him and if he says he likes the other girl more then dump him. But don't cry ok!? Because it'll only look that your hurting and he'll probably like that. So turn around while head held up high and start walking away.

But I like my first suggestion. So that way I can still have the guy!

September 10, 2010 at 5:34 AM  
Anonymous Alexis said...


September 10, 2010 at 7:13 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

1st i would ask him if its true and if it is thank the person who told you for possibly saving the suprise factor and heartbreak. 2nd if it isn't true tell the person who told u to possibly keep rumors like that to them selves unless there 100% sure of the gossip.hope this helps xx

September 10, 2010 at 1:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ur acting like she goes out with him too only you do(i hope) so only if a friend tells u this girl goes out with ur guy thats when you should be concerned WoW...:Amirah

September 10, 2010 at 9:08 PM  
Anonymous CaliforniaGurl101 said...

i think you should talk to ur boyfriend and say "if you like her that way then maybe she can be your girlfriend!"

September 19, 2010 at 7:47 PM  
Anonymous rut row! said...

I AGREE WITH GRAMMARGEEK!FIND OUT HOW MUCH HE LIKES THE OTHER GIRL.THEN,WHEN YOU FIND OUT,ASK HIM WHEN HE STARTED LIKING this girl and if you had a fight when he did.also,find out the reasons he likes the two of you,and if he comes out with"shes nice","shes cool","shes beautiful",,or,"she wears cool clothes",dont sweat it! he likes you more!

September 19, 2010 at 10:45 PM  
Anonymous taylor said...

hi here is what i would do like if my boyfriend did that which i would do this since HE LIKES SPORTS if he likes baseball and you know how to play just dont want to mess up in front of him i do that and if its like my problem the other girl might be really mean so watch out just in case but all i could tell you is just try to get close to him and try to keep the other girl away from him but if he is more HONEST TYPE OF BOY than just ask him and if he loves you he will tell you the truth

September 21, 2010 at 6:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, I'm Ella..I'm 13 years old and this has happened to me before!
Firstly, do you know this girl who your boyfriend likes? If you do, maybe you could talk to her. That way, you can find out for definite that it is or isnt true.
If it is true, carry on like nothing has happened, at our age, everyone goes through fazes and this will not las long- i can promise that.
If you are angry with your boyfriend, either get him to like you more- kiss him! or make him jealous and then he will know what it feels likee...

Overall, your pretty young to have a boyfriend, the most sensible thing to do would be DUMP HIM. Then he will realise what he's missing out on and come crawling back.

HoPe SoMe Of ThIs WoRkS! Xoxo

September 23, 2010 at 6:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Brianna this happened to me before to.At first I was mad but then I let him go as if i didnt like him but i wus dieing inside.Eventually he told me he liked me better and its all good now.Try that a boy always pays mor attention to you when you forget about them. It doesn't have to be for real though. Hope this works girl!!!!!! ;)

September 23, 2010 at 8:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey brianna this sort of thing has happend 2 me aswell he tell's me he likes me but then walks off.i would sugest having a chat with him to see whats going on and if he likes somebody else say lets have some time apart. it will work for sure....... hope it all works out for u

September 24, 2010 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Talk to him. Ask him why he likes this girl to much. Maybe even get cloer to him, but don't be CLINGY or NEEDY. being cingy and needy is bad, BAD, BAD, BAD.
Hope this helps.

September 25, 2010 at 5:18 PM  
Anonymous Genesis said...

I think you should dump him then flirt with anotther guy like friend then he will see ans realize what he lost and he will beg for you back!(:

September 26, 2010 at 1:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow this is tough and I know how you feel.
My boyfriend liked another girl while we were dating. I talked to my mom about it and she told me to talk about it with him. We talked and I found out he really does like this other girl. I wasn't mad but I did break up with him. God didn't want us together. Don't hold a grudge against him or the girl. There's someone much better for you .

September 27, 2010 at 2:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well...thats so tough.If it were me than I'd dump him,but seeing as you like him,try telling him how you feel,but fast and simple,it can make people lose intrest in the conforsation if it's a long sab story.If he does somthing like not be serious,or imature,I guess you should be known as "just friends"

September 27, 2010 at 5:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

personally i think you should go to him to talk about it then if he doesnt care break up with him.

October 2, 2010 at 5:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is a big problem, if i were you i would break up with him because i know i deserve someone to love me the same amount i love them.. i saw the first answer saying to "Get in the girl's shoes and act like her"(because the girl wants to challenge) DON'T do it because this is not about challenge it's about the best/right decision...if your boyfriend likes another girl its because of reasons and it means that he has no feelings or care for you anymore don't try to get him back like the other girl said... because love is from the inside not pretending so you can have someoen if you did that it's never gonna work out for you and you're going to have to pretend to the rest of your life.. you want someone who loves you for who you are ..from dep inside from their heart that they would never trade you to anyone els.... so if i were you this would mean its over no matter how much i love him..but before it's over i would talk to him first then decide..i would ask why he likes her? and if he likes me i would ask a lot of questions :) ....because maybe its because of something i do so i can fix it in my next relationship..relationships don't work for a reason and we learn from every new one over all its fun thing to do and you'll eventually get over him..but before you make any decisions ask him why..have a talk with him about it..don't get mad or upset because thats not going to change anything ok? take a deep breath face him and talk to him and see if its worth it...it might not even be worth being with someone who doesn't love you the way you love them and it might be worse if you try to pretend just to make them love you..you want someone that loves you the way you are..you know what i mean?.. good luck girl..and don't put too much stress on it ..its life :) we all go through heart breaks...sorry about speelings :)

October 3, 2010 at 9:43 PM  
Anonymous XxXDayummZoeyyy:)XxX said...

AWEEE, Brianna! I am a year older but i had the same problem and he was my first...... guys are all animals in my opinion i think you should talk to him and if he cant respect how you feel he is not worth your time because I am in love with him and i threw myself at him and the next day he left me....... i feel like their are so many guys out their and still two years later well their not like Tyler!! Its first love i think....... well i think the best thing you can do if you can have him come over and watch a movie but talk about it first... talking always helps it but dont just try and make him like you more:) simply say your my boyfriend and i really care about you adn i want to be with you and when you flirt with her it upsets me and i would perfer if you would get who you want straight cause its not fair to me when you wan tot gurls in yer life and i dont want that for me.....:)

October 9, 2010 at 11:20 PM  
Anonymous eylysha said...

i have a simmaler prob.there's this cute guy in my english class who is very nice to me.if anything i would love to be his gf.but he already has a gf!but i have a plan....

October 30, 2010 at 4:14 PM  
Anonymous XxXDayummZoeyyy:)XxX said...

what is ur paln eylysha

November 8, 2010 at 6:49 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

Dont get angry Just ask hi do u want to be with me or her you choose play cool i know you like him its his choice. There has to bee someone else you like now or probaly in the future

November 17, 2010 at 3:09 PM  
Anonymous soph said...

DUMP HIM!!! 'Cause I know you're probably a really sweet girl, and you don't deserve that kind of respect. But I think it okay if a guy likes another girl as long as he doesn't flirt with her or anything.

November 20, 2010 at 2:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Talk to the other girl and see how she feels about it. Then you two can make a decision on what to do with him.

November 20, 2010 at 10:48 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

Break up with him he's a loser. When the other girl dumps him then he'll be begging for you to be his girl friend again.

November 21, 2010 at 5:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should ask him on a date, or a personal night out. Then, maybe you can kiss or something, and he'll realize how cute and awesome u r!

December 19, 2010 at 7:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi brianna!
i feel so sorry 4 u that ur BOYFRIEND likes SOMEONE ELSE!!! I would be SO furious. anyway, if ur really upset with him and theres sadly no way to stop this, then i'd recomend u to break up with him.
if not, then heres some tips:

1. act REALLY sweet towards him
2. NEVER EVER rub in the negatives of the girl he likes- he will think negatively of YOU then!!
3. just try and get his mind off the girl
4. be really friendly. maybe he'll decide that ur WAYY more awesomer than this other girl (which i assume u definitely ARE!!!).

i hope these tips help u, brianna. if u r breaking up, heres some nice things to say and do:

1. Arrange a time at school just to talk to him. (if ur parents don't know about ur boyfriend, then talk to him at school, if they do, arrange a time somewhere nice, like at a park).

2. say something along the lines of 'Look (whatever his name is), i've been realizing some of the changes that's been happening recently. we've moved on in life and i've come to know that maybe you aren't the right person for me. I'm really sorry if this is hard for u but can we still be friends? (oh yeah, if u r angry at him and u dont want to do with him anymore, don't say that last bit).

3. I recommend doing it on a Friday- why? because you'll have two whole days and an afternoon to cool off about the matter. you'll be happier then since u have cooled off.


If you dont know HOW to cool off because ur in like SO much stress and ur upset, heres some tips.

- Read a book (preferably not a love book or else u will be thinking about ur boyfriend)

- Watch a funny movie!! This'll make u laugh and have a good time

- Talk to ur friends online or call them. Don't discuss what you have done or else those bad feelings will wash over u again!

- Get some rest. Don't keep up in the night thinking about how he was so mean to u blah blah blah! just think of something nice and put urself to sleep.

Sleep will make you refreshed in the morning for ur benefit. Also, make sure u find those hidden lollies in the pantry to snack on!! :)

Now that Monday will be super hard to cope with. You'll see him and think OH NO...

So avoid looking at him dreamily (or furiously). If he did agree to just be friends, let him talk to u.

if he didn't, avoid him at all costs escept when he wants to talk to u.

if ur REALLY mad at him and u dont want him to talk 2 u, dont run away and ignore him!! its really mean, even though he likes another girl.

if he says something mean about you right in front of you, u should tell a teacher or an adult. if u think that u big enough to handle it, then do so! besides, we girls are tough!

so if he says something mean, just simply say 'Look, dude (it's a more casual way to put it). I don't want to get into an argument so if u dont have something nice to say, forget it'. then if he says something else mean say 'Didn't u just hear me? I said to back off and leave me alone now or u'll be trouble'.

I really hope this helped you Brianna!!


~A Pink Girl~

March 19, 2011 at 3:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know what,if your boyfriend has his eyes on another girl thats his loss our way better than him.

March 21, 2011 at 11:23 AM  

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