Moving up to cup bras

Dear PLS,
I'm so afraid to ask my mom to buy me cup bras. Although I'm kinda flat I think it's time I get out of these sweaty and small training bras.

How do I ask her? Please help me.
Signed,
Cup Wanter, 11

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi
I'm 13
I think I need a cup bra but I don't really want one
I wear a crop top type bra ( it's a pull over ) but I really want a triangle bra with clasps
How do I ask my mom for one?
I've had my period but I just showed my mum my pants and was like " what is this ? " so I can't do that know
Please help as I'm going back to school soon and it's so awkward changing for PE
I have to go behind a curtain 😬😬
Thanks
XX

July 21, 2016 at 7:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So, I am 13, I'm a bit older than a lot of you but anyways I'm going into grade 8 soon. Some of the boys questioned if I even wore a bra and I said yes and I do. But like a lot of you people, I too need cups. My mom just decided I needed a bra at 12 (high was later than all of my class) and I only have 3 that I rewear everyday of the week before laundry day. I need cups very much but my mom isn't as understanding - she's not gonna get mad, but he's gonna emberass me I front of my dad and little sister! I don't even shave my legs yet and I'm stuck wearing pants because I'm embarrassed! We haven't even actually had "The talk" yet! But she likes embarrassing me infront of my little sister or something because she'll never ask me something like "Do you shave your armpits?" When I'm alone. No, she's infront of my sister and says "Oh my god, are your armpits hairy?" And that's the stupidest question and I say no, mostly because of my sister. (But I secretly shave them anyways). She emberasses me even with my dad she mentioned my period and just wow. I am NEVER alone with my mom, because if I'm with my mom so is my dad or sister. I can't get away from them to talk with we and I'm scared as Hell because they're gonna annoy me for the rest of my life and my mom may have gone through this, but she was an only child and her dad was never around much so it was easier for her. HELP ME PLEASE!!!! I've been needing a bugger bra ever since she got me the small sports bra with no cups!

July 27, 2016 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the EXACT same problem! PE is super emberassing and I don't know what to say when they ask why I change in a stall. And I'm the only one who changes in a stall. One day my mom just decided to get me a beginner sports bra with no cups but my mom is never alone and my little sisters embarrasses the sh*t outta me and wears it around in the laundry and does the stupidest stuff to annoy me about puberty. And I swear my mom likes to tell her stuff like about my bra and my mom asked me "Are your armpits hairy?" Right I front of my sister and because of my sister I said no. (Even tho I secretly shave them anyways). I wear pants because my mom doesn't even know I have hairy legs and I'm so embarrassed about everything. But getting a cup bra would be a huge step up and I think I just gotta gave the fact that even if she's not alone I have to ask her for one before school starts again. But maybe even sending her a text so I don't have to face her and that's what I did for my period and she totally understood but with things like hair, bras, and deodorant she isn't quite as understanding. So you're not alone, but just ask. Build up your courage maybe at the end of holiday and ask and plan it out.

July 27, 2016 at 7:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am 11 and measured myself as 32a. Haven't got a bra yet so should I. My mum is the type who laughs these things off! It is upsetting but I need one for year 6. How can I ask her indirectly?
Signed,
Anonymous Year 6 Girl

July 31, 2016 at 1:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

After reading this post yesterday I finally decided to ask my mum. We had a nice chat and today we went out and bought 4 new bras! My advice, don't be scared. She's your mother! And the worst she could possible say is no. Don't worry, she'll understand, she went through this too.

August 3, 2016 at 4:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you guys are scared to ask a parent/guardian for a cup bra you need to stop being scared and thinking about it the more u think the longer it takes for u to actually ask. When I needed bras I would actually write notes to my mom and she would reply, since I was shy to talk to my mom too it helped to write it instead of say it to her. Sooner or later my mom bought a notebook for me and her to talk to each other in "private" I guess. One day in the notebook I asked if I could get bras the next time we go shopping because all the girls in my class had them and I was tired of wearing Camisoles under all my shirts (as I would get so sweaty and my friends made fun of me that I didn't have bras yet). So anyway we went shopping the next week and I got bras. But for cup bras (the next "stage") u need to just straight up say that you think it's time for them because you're chest is getting bigger and you are ready. I really hope this helped!

August 5, 2016 at 12:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am almost a cup A and i still have to wear training bras!How embarrasing!All my friends have cups now!Im 10 and my best friend posted a pic on instagram of her with cute cup bra on.Her boobs are even smaller than mine!Help!i am so nervous to ask someone because they might think im tryna grow up too fast

August 25, 2016 at 9:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi
I'm 12 and EVERYONE else in my class has a padded bra... I have training bras but they are just pointless. I have roundish breasts but I don't know how to ask my mom for a padded bra. I don't know what to do!!! I relate to you people on the internet...

February 14, 2017 at 6:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the same problem?!!!! And I measured myself and I got a 33B...... Me and my mum r going to get a new training bra but I'm gonna ask if I can go up a size (I'm the largest size in the kids ones....14/16) because they really r getting quite small. Hopefully she'll say it's time to move up.... Hope it all works out 4 you guys and 4 me!!!

March 15, 2017 at 3:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi, I am 12 and still wear training bras. I don't know my breast size, but I do know that they are very small. A couple of weeks ago, I asked her for a cupped bra and she said that I don't have anything to fill it yet. I feel that I am ready. I don't know how to tell her. Someone please help me.

May 28, 2017 at 6:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi guys!
So I'm 11 and I don't know if I'm ready for a cup bra yet, but I KNOW I'm ready for a soft cup bra. So I went to one of my friends house and they don't have a lot of money so her sister gives her hand me down bras. She doesn't fit in them yet but we tried them on and they all fit me! Even the ones that were CUPS!! And a few days later I was with my other friend and I tried on her soft cup bras and they fit, I LOVED THEM!! So I was in the car with my mom and we were near target and this is what I said
Me: hey mom can we run in to target and get me some soft cup bras
Mom: I thought u already have some
Me: no, can we get some?
Mom: Sure!
I think this is a great way!

May 31, 2017 at 10:24 PM  
Anonymous Helpful Advice Giver said...

Okay, everyone, I know how desperate you guys want cupped bras cuz i want some too. It is not because everyone in your class has a cupped bra that you need to get one. After reading all the comments, I figured that everyone's breast growth is different. Some breasts grow faster than others. If you know everyone in your class has bigger breasts than you its ok. You've got to stay in your old bras until you feel that there isnt enough support in them or your breasts feel heavier. Just be yourself and let your breast growth tell you what bra you need. Do not try to get a bigger bra before you mature into them. This will not help anything. Hope this piece of advice helped! :) P.S. If you feel shy to ask your mom, just remember, they've been through this once and will understand. You can start a conversation in any ordinary way ;)

June 24, 2017 at 11:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a 28aa because I measured, but I don't know how I'm going to ask my mom. Probably when I am going back to school shopping with her. (Which will be in a few months) I can't wait I'm 11 and I want one sooner. Please respond how I can get one sooner. My family does not talk about puberty things because they make me feel awkward on purpose just to joke around. I can't ask!! I have an idea though, I could just "accidentally" lead her to the bra section, make eye contact with the bras, make eye contact with her, and take one off the rack that I think fits me. Then, I will turn my position to show her the bra and politely ask: " do you think I am ready for this?" If she answers no, then I will simply tell her that my old ones are starting to get uncomfortable ( my training ones), and I want new ones. If she answers yes, I put it in the cart. If she answers: " why do you think so?" Then I will explain to her what I had explained earlier. If she answers no, and says no even after my explanation, I may just not be ready. Your mom knows what's best for you and it's never too late to grow up. Please answer if I am ready for one!!!! I'm sort of exited.

-Elise the cup wanter

June 30, 2017 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

l am 10 and am in stage four for development and l need cup bras but lm to scared to ask my mum what should I do? Really need one

July 3, 2017 at 2:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

For a lot of training bras there are cup inserts that come with them when you first buy them, so as to not show your nipples😉 Try one of these, and if not, just tell your mom when you are already at a store that you like how soft one of the bras is and ask her to let you try it on

August 8, 2017 at 10:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think I'm ready for soft cup bras now but my mum thinks my breasts are too small. What do I do?

September 20, 2017 at 10:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am 13 I am going through some trouble see, my mom and Dad split up and I live with my dad and step mom. I don’t want to ask my dad or step mom cause taht weird I want my mom but I barely see her. I have actually resorted to taking some of my cousins bras, Help me I actually am developing and I don’t know what I’m going to do when period time comes around HELP ME

November 10, 2017 at 10:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am 13 I am going through some trouble see, my mom and Dad split up and I live with my dad and step mom. I don’t want to ask my dad or step mom cause taht weird I want my mom but I barely see her. I have actually resorted to taking some of my cousins bras, Help me I actually am developing and I don’t know what I’m going to do when period time comes around HELP ME

November 10, 2017 at 10:52 PM  
Anonymous XellaX said...

Help!!! I have no sisters and I’m not that close with my aunts or teachers what should I do. I don’t even know if I need a bra becasuse I really want one and I feel like I need one but I don’t want her to say yes then when I go get measured face the disappointment and embarrassment of being told I don’t have big enough boobs. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t wear a bra. I am 12 and 1/2 years old but I’m still really flat. Almost all of the people in the year below me already have really big boobs compared to me. Please help me. If I do ask my mum, my younger brother will be around and I can’t text her because he always reads the texts before her. Please help! Thanks
XellaX

November 15, 2017 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just use a string that wrap around yourself, make a mark where the two ends meet, and lay it on a tape measure or yard stick. Hope this helped!

December 29, 2017 at 11:17 AM  
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