Question Gal: Is it OK to like an older boy?

Dear PLS,
I really like this guy. We r like besties but he is 1 year older then me. Is that ok? How can I tell if he feels the same way?
Question Gal xoxo

P.S. This is the 3rd time I have asked PLZ HELP ME!!!!!


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Anonymous Grace said...

It is alright to like an older boy in my opinion. It shouldn't matter how old you are! If it is more then three years then I think you should wait until you are older. Plus you are friends with him so you already know each other!Good luck with this boy situation!

August 17, 2010 at 8:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that is perfectly fine but you shouldnt tell him. at least not yet. wait until you guys grow better frends.

August 17, 2010 at 11:14 AM  
Anonymous cupcakes=) said...

i think it's okay, and if he only a year older i say go for it, go to a restaurant or something and just talk and when there's a silence ask him if he likes u hope i helped =)

August 17, 2010 at 2:16 PM  
Anonymous Maddy 11 said...

well I would guess it is ok to like him, but you guys are besties so i wouldnt tell him yet because he might not like you back or it might just be a crush like when you were little so try to find out if he likes you and you do not want to ruin a good friendship, ut its ok to like him hes just a year older its not exactly a big deal
-hope i helped

August 17, 2010 at 4:02 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

I think it's fine to like an older guy, and he's only one year older than you, that's not bad. I don't know how to tell if he feels the same way...

August 17, 2010 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

I like this guy who is 2 years older than me and we are besties!!! It is definately fine to like someone older then you!!! if you want to know if he likes you be honest adn ask him!!! then while he is answering if he looks like he is faking then you know!!! Hope this helps!!!

August 17, 2010 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Vanessa said...

It's okay to like an older boy about 1-2 years older, But if older than 3 years than i think you should wait until you are older.

To tell; Talk to him about stuff you like and if he looks like he is paying close attention then he is probably interested in you (likes you).

August 18, 2010 at 2:34 AM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

Dear Question Gal,

My parents are one year apart, and they still like each other. Being besties is sometimes hard when trying to start a relationship with one of them. Now, if you want to take baby steps, you can ask your other besties if he looks at you in a "different" way. But, if you don't want your besties to know you like him, you can try saying, "I like your hair." Or another compliment like that. If he replies by saying, "Thanks. I like your shoes." Or something like that, then he probably likes you because that's just "guy talk" for I like you, or so that is what most guys say.

-Love Story

August 18, 2010 at 4:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My parents are 5 years apart there is nothing wrong with likeing an older guy, but make sure he isnt to much older ;) He is your friend, if he really is he will understand. :D best of luck!

August 21, 2010 at 12:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you shouldn't tell him untill you're older. I would wait untill highschool.

August 21, 2010 at 3:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's cool to like and older guy, (i do) but make sure that you know it's possible that it's not possible.

August 22, 2010 at 5:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you will do fine by telling him.I mean, a year isnt huge, right? GO for it!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!

August 25, 2010 at 5:47 PM  
Anonymous jokerface2.0 said...

i used to like an older boy,so if i can then you definetly can

August 28, 2010 at 7:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

wat if u camp friend is 11 u r12 and her older bro is 13

August 28, 2010 at 9:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it is TOTALLY normal to like an older guy, because boys tend to mature slower than girls, they usually start to catch up after 1-2 years. my best guy friend (and secret crush of 18 months) is a year and a half older than me, and we get along just fine!
hope i helped -
veronica t. 12

p.s. seriously though, if your besties it's best not to tell him about your feelings right now. probably wait for a couple years!

August 30, 2010 at 12:50 AM  
Anonymous PLS Gal said...

Ok, no offense to all you Justin Bieber dislikers, but he says that in his case, who ever he likes [in particular,fall in love with] then it just happens.Don't feel down Question Gal!!! I have hope for you!!!

September 1, 2010 at 2:23 AM  
Anonymous Sunny said...

I think it is fine to it a guy older than you but when I asked the guy I liked if he liked me (he is 1 year older than me) and he said that I was to young to date him but all my friends already had boyfriends. But I think it is fine.

September 1, 2010 at 6:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

age is just a number! your only 1 year apart from each other! in my opinion its fine!

September 2, 2010 at 4:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a question. I like this guy. But he doesn't kno I exist. I decided the smart move will be to be friends but he is more interested in other girls and just his guy friends. I guess he's like maybe 10 steps higher in the popularity scale from me! And so are the girls he hangs out with. They are really mean and I admit they are cool. But they are mean to people and I know one of them really doesn't like it's impossible to be friends with him if his other friends don't like me. And
plus I just want to be friends!! But he doesn't know I excist. Literally the
only time he actually talks to me is to ask me for a pencil, a sharpener,
or paper. HELP! Not to meantion he likes one of the girls that's his friend. But shes told him they just want to be friends.

September 8, 2010 at 11:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Liking older boys is fine!Just natural.
Its all good, and really, its your choice in how much you want to tell him, I mean they are your feelings- but if you do tell him, because he's older, I'm sure he'll understand.
Best wishes! Remember to stand up for yourself, no matter what happens!

September 14, 2010 at 7:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it's alright if he's your bestie. If you tell him you like him, then he could possibly like you back. It could also ruin everything you already have with him. I would wait until he's in the 14-15-16 range...that's when boys start falling for their friends.

September 26, 2010 at 12:01 PM  
Anonymous Zoe said...

OMG me too! I've been, like, best friends with a boy since 2nd grade, and now I'm in 6th and were in the same class. I'm starin' to crush on him, but I don't think it's enough for us to go out yet. Sorry, that didn't help you much. Just sharin' a personal story!!! :D

October 7, 2010 at 5:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I really appreciate it and i will take ur advice and wait a couple of years. Yes he is my best friend and even though i want to be bold and brave and tell him our friendship isnt worth losing. THANK U GUYS 4 ALL THE HELP THANK U THANK U THANK U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Question Gal xoxo


October 8, 2010 at 3:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Not everyone likes someone of the same age. Its fine to like him, you have 4 main options,
1.Tell him you like him see what he says.
2.Wait until your friendship develops.
3.Casually mention the subject to him eg "have you ever really liked someone"
4. Wait till your older.
Hope this helps,
Agony Aunt

October 8, 2010 at 4:15 PM  
Anonymous soph said...

YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!IT'S okay! I like an older boy.

October 17, 2010 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its okay trust me. I used to like an older boy. But I do have to say older guys have a much more interest in girls their own age. this might make you sad

October 18, 2010 at 8:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was in this situation too. Once I told him I realized it wasn't a big deal.Hope I help

October 30, 2010 at 12:29 PM  
Anonymous Ann said...

i like a guy who's in 8th grade.i'm in 7th grade.

October 31, 2010 at 9:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its fine in my opinion because i use to like an older boy. My friends thought it was weird but i just ignored their thoughts. It is your decision to tell him or not and if you dont it is fine. It can be your little secret. I hope this helped. =]

November 13, 2010 at 11:17 AM  
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November 15, 2010 at 7:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, I guess it OKAY, to like a older boy, but maybe you should just be friends. You should angle more to guys in your grade, cause if the older dude gets a girlfriend who is his age, you'll be heartbroken.

December 5, 2010 at 6:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i like a boy two years oder than me! it really is ok. my friend likes a boy a year younger than her.if he were five years older i would steer clear. but he isn't so good luck!

December 13, 2010 at 11:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have that same pro. i think he hates me though :(

December 26, 2010 at 10:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think that okay. boys mature slower than girl so your than so your actually better off liking a slightly older boy. i like boy a grade headed me.

January 3, 2011 at 6:22 PM  
Anonymous texaschickwhosnotacowgirl said...

its ok as long as yall r comfortable wit it

December 19, 2011 at 8:35 AM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

hey is it ok to like a guy whos a year younger cuz most of the guys n my grade r 11 and im 12

December 31, 2011 at 10:42 AM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

oh and i reeeeeeeeeally like this guy whos 11

January 2, 2012 at 9:10 PM  
Anonymous Tana said...

I'm glad you told us how much older the guy is than you. The thing is as long as he isn't involved in to much older guy stuff then your fine. I dated a guy who was in seventh and I was in sixth it's only a year! But if he acts like a total high school guy then he is not for but he he's normal and you like wats on the inside not the outside (think about that) than be courageous and go for the gold sister

June 26, 2012 at 11:42 AM  
Anonymous TeamPeetaPercyPotter said...

Toatlly fine! 1-2 yrs isn't bad. but 3 or more is a lil bit creepy. my crush is 2 yrs older, but we r in high school.

September 3, 2012 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous Ihascrushonhim said...

I like an 11 year old to but I really don't think he likes me back. He likes a girl called Freya and she's nice but note I just don't like her anymore. Please tell me how to get him to like me. And if you read this Freya I'm really sorry but it's Alfie who likes you. Don't tell him someone likes him please!!!!!!!! This is so embarrassing, Ihascrushonhim

January 1, 2016 at 2:48 PM  

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