She feels "ugly"

Hi everyone,
Just as school is getting back in session for many of us, the first Pink Locker Society book is getting ready for its big day. On September 14th, the book will be available in bookstores and online. It's kind of like the book's birthday - and it's fast approaching.

We love the helpful, kind-hearted girls who visit this site. We're so happy you're here! I'm especially glad today because the question we'll tackle is a tough one.

Dear PLS,
hey i'm a 12 year old girl i have a problem. i cant stop saying that i'm ugly i say that because no boys like me please help me.
Ugly girl, 12

First off, it just breaks my heart that our writer calls herself ugly. Of course, we all have days when we're not happy with our hair, our skin, our clothes - or whatever. But we can and should get over it.

And definitely we should not talk about ourselves in mean ways. I mean, if you wouldn't say it to a friend, try not to say it to yourself! This article on self-esteem might help. What other advice do you have, Pink Locker girls?


Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

I totally know what you mean! I feel a lot like that but once you find a particular hairdo or what ever you are not happy with you will deny you ever said you were ugly! If it the hairdo department I recommend a bun and a ribbon!

August 25, 2010 at 4:11 AM  
Anonymous Buggin101 said...

Hey girl! Do not think that about yourself! You can't think you're ugly just because boys don't like you! The boys "that don't like you" probably don't like any girls! (okay, maybe one or two)! Some boys just aren't ready to have girlfriends yet! You know what I mean?
You are pretty in your own way!
Love,
Me

(hope I helped)

August 25, 2010 at 8:24 AM  
Anonymous Josie said...

First off, just because guys don't "like" you, doesn't mean your ugly. Guys don't get crushes and stuff like that as fast as girls do. Just keep your hygiene up, be friendly, and you'll feel pretty on the inside and out!

August 25, 2010 at 1:46 PM  
Anonymous cupcakes=) said...

aww, u r not ugly, God made u , and u should be happy with what he gave u, so what boys don't like u, u r only twelve anyways, and boys don't even know the definition of beauty, infact no ones, anything can be pretty, so yeah don't let boys make u think u r ugly because thye don't like u, maybe they just don't like ur personality, and thats fine , but u'll meet a boy who does, don't hate urself and call urself ugly because of some STUPID boys!!!!!!!!!

August 25, 2010 at 5:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nobody is ugly everyone is beautifully unique kind of like a snowflake none of them are the same just as noone is the same as you.You are special no matter what you think.Never think anything different than you are beautiful!!

August 25, 2010 at 6:45 PM  
Anonymous Sofa said...

Well here are some ways to make yourself happeir about your appearence.
1. Go on a shopping trip! New clothes always makes me think I look better.
2. Get a cool haircut or style your hair diffrently.
3. If its a certian thing you don't like about your apearence for example you might have freckles that you don't want then try to find a natural way to get rid of it like put lemon juice on it or something
4. Remmember this: everyone is unique and beautiful in there own way no one else in the world looks like you, unless you have a twin.
5. Your only twelve you still have a year or more before you will probably start dating so don't think about that now, k?
-Sofa
Hope this helped

August 26, 2010 at 12:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your just like my friend Jada! don;t worry, your bound to get a cute guy, and smile! your beautiful
from: Judy

August 26, 2010 at 10:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

noone looks the same...everyone grows differently and looks different...even twins dont look "exlactly" the same and who cares if boys dont like you yet? you cant just go ask random guys out that you think are cute...its more then that because all they are looking at is the outside not in inside....dont try to change your look either, keep your hyjean up and fitness, youll be fine as you get older, trust me :)

sarah

August 26, 2010 at 5:39 PM  
Anonymous Sara said...

NO ONE SHOULD EVER SAY THEY ARE UGLY!!!!! There is no normal, so there can't be an abnormal. Therefore, there is no beautiful; so there's no ugly. If someone calls you ugly, they are *some words*. You are beautiful.

August 26, 2010 at 8:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

nobodys ugly i bet boys like they just dont want to show you so dont feel bad they do like you hope i helped

from katy

August 26, 2010 at 8:40 PM  
Blogger Jemma said...

Just a quick thought about Sofa's suggestion about freckles. Lemon juice won't make freckles fade. We think freckles are cool, anyway. Just ask Piper - she's a freckly, red-headed girl!

For more on freckles, read this: http://kidshealth.org/kid/talk/qa/freckles.html

August 26, 2010 at 10:47 PM  
Anonymous Sofa said...

I read on yahoo that lemon juice works for freckles that's why I suggested that.
-Sofa
P.S. I also have freckles, I don't have anything against them but I have friends that don't like the freckles they have.

August 27, 2010 at 1:23 AM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

I have the same problem. I always think I'm ugly. I can't even get a guy to notice me. I always think I,m not good enough when I see a really cute guy. Your not alone.

August 27, 2010 at 5:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Some days I think I am ugly but other days I think I am super pretty, I guess it's just a girl thing.

August 27, 2010 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

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August 28, 2010 at 9:16 PM  
Anonymous MacKenzie : said...

Dear U.G.,

Why, oh, why would you call yourself ugly?? If you FEEL ugly though, maybe you should try a new hairstyle or put on some make-up. Maybe try out a new style of clothes, that might help you feel pretty. Remember, there is always somebody around you that thinks you're BEAUTIFUL.(NOT including your mom) I went through this feeling 1 year and everyday before and after school I looked in the mirror and said good things about myself out loud. I hope this helps!

LOVE AND HOPE-
Kenzie

August 31, 2010 at 12:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you should think positive if your telling your self your ugly your covincing your self your ugly start telling yourself your pretty instead of telling yourself your ugly you wil fell alot better.

memba:its not whats outside that makes you pretty its whats on the inside the ugliest girl can be pretty beacause shes sweet the prettiest girl can be ugly cause she mean an snotty and bratty think about it=)
Amirah

September 1, 2010 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My friend, consider me your "Back to the Future" pal. I remember thinking that I was NOT pretty and I even expressed that to my mom (this was after I had called her to come get me from a dance). It took so much courage for me to say, "I'm not pretty." I wanted her to say, "Yes, you are!!!" She didn't know what to say, though, and said nothing. Now here's the good news: boys don't define you. Other girls don't define you. Magazines don't define you. Only YOU define you... by your beliefs, your spirit and your heart. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Stand tall and know that you are perfect. Just as you are.

September 2, 2010 at 2:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im so sorry thats just mean dont down talk yourself what grade you in? these probable a lot of boys at your school if you r in middle or high school so maybe your new and they dont know you they could think ur totally cute but not have the guts to tell you.... so dont beat up on yourself just be nice and clean and youself and if boys dont like u SO WHAT!?!?!?! you have friends they theyll help you through it... =) ~~~~~M'lynn~~~~~

September 3, 2010 at 11:01 PM  
Anonymous OGO said...

Oh, trust me, some boy out there likes you, it might not be someone you pay attention to, but some boy likes you, don't worry, I'm 13 and haven't had a boyfriend yet, it is ok.

September 6, 2010 at 10:35 PM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

Your looks aren't really who you are. Ugly isn't really you. Your personality and your interests make up the real you. You don't need a boyfriend to feel pretty. All the girls I know who have had boyfriends weren't in the relationship for more than a month. It's not worth it. All boys care about at this age is video games. You are a beautiful person and don't forget it. Focus on what's inside, keep up with your hygiene and fitness, and you'll be ok. Every person is different, but every person is pretty in their own way. We all have days where we feel ugly, but remember the things that make you special, the things that set you apart from everyone else. I hope I helped you. :)


~Michelle

September 7, 2010 at 7:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thanks michelle its me amirah michelle is totally right

September 8, 2010 at 8:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey i really want to shave my legs like all my friends and im going into the 6th grade. i get embaressed when sun shines down on my hairy legs. how do i ask my mom??? PLEASE HELP

September 9, 2010 at 8:53 PM  
Anonymous alannah said...

your are totally not ugly evreyone is unique and pretty in diffrent ways so take it from me your pretty!!!!!!!!

September 10, 2010 at 7:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you shouldnt beacause ur hair will grow 10x worst from: AMIRAH

September 10, 2010 at 7:46 PM  
Anonymous MathMagician said...

Nobody is perfect, and just because there aren't any boys that like you doesn't mean your not pretty! Everyone is buetiful, just like you were made. If you are yourself and your not afraid, then you can feel like a better self. Everyone is unique in their own way. And don't go out changing EVERTHING on your body! That make it even harder.

Stay pretty!

September 11, 2010 at 4:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't think your ugly- everybody is beautiful in their own way!
And, just because you think that no boys like you, doesn't mean they don't- they could just be keeping it a secret! And also, if a boy doesn't like you, it does NOT mean that your ugly.....
Be and love yourself the way you are beautiful girl!

September 14, 2010 at 7:26 PM  
Anonymous CaliforniaGurl101 said...

to me it dosent matter how you look on the outside,as long as your beautiful on the inside(trust me ive gone through the same thing)

September 19, 2010 at 7:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you shouldn't think about that! it doesn't matter. it's personality that counts. and boys- well, they're unpredictable, they probably won't say anything if they like anyone.

September 23, 2010 at 6:20 PM  
Anonymous Daniella said...

those boys are just typical you'll see one day you'll find some1 who loves the way u r many ppl hav this problem if u think ur ugly then ask ur friends see wat dey say boys dnt no everything

September 26, 2010 at 1:51 PM  
Anonymous Kody said...

you are beautiful!
I have this problem and what i did was cut out words out of magazines like 'beautiful', 'Amazing and 'magical i bluetacked them to my mirror and say them to myself every day while im brushing my hair. I know this might sound wierd to some people but its starting to Really help me!
You are beautiful, I am beautiful we are all beautiful people

September 30, 2010 at 4:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have friends that are pretty and friends that are not pretty. But I value them all the same. Its not what you're like on the outside, its what you like on the inside that counts. I used to think I was ugly but then I realised I'm pretty in my own way. When my friends smile and chat to me it makes me happy and I remember that everyone's different and everyones pretty. Most boys at your age do not know wether they like a girl or not. I had a boyfriend but I broke up with him. I liked him for who he was rather than what he looked like.
Hope this helps,
Agony Aunt

October 8, 2010 at 3:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I tried the lemon juice thing to get rid of my freckles and it worked a little bit.

October 8, 2010 at 7:45 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

Omg I feel the same way :( also I think I'm fat sometimes

October 8, 2010 at 9:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Omg!!!!!!! I feel that way alot! I never no what to do.............to be honest I think I am fat sometimes. I am also super tall for my age I am the tallest girl in my grade. I am also a twin. What I am trying to say is everyone is beautiful in their own way. So who cares if boys don't 'like" u just enjoy the life god gave u. God made you and you look the way he wanted u to look. You are beautiful no matter what anyone says. It matters what is on the inside not out. Good Luck.

October 9, 2010 at 8:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

First all that probably isn't true. Boys have a didn't way of acting when they have crush. It might be talk you make fun you or even knocking into you,

Second it doesn't mean your ugly. Itjust mean your indepedent right. You have plenty time tell you are may even serios need to consider a boy. Plus you save your lot of sad night and embarassing moments

October 11, 2010 at 7:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel the same way. i know boys like me but they wount admit it. so i feel like im U-G-L-Y!

October 23, 2010 at 2:15 AM  
Anonymous Katie said...

You are beautiful in your own special way. There are plenty of guys out there, and I know there is someone for you. You should never feel ugly, because God made you so that makes you BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! I <3 you and so does everyone else! Remember that.

Peace, Love, Joy,
Katie

November 28, 2010 at 2:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont say your ugly because no boys like you. elementry school and middle school is no place for boyfriends! dont worry! your friend autumn

February 22, 2011 at 2:40 PM  
Anonymous steph said...

You are not ugly just because boys dont like you. Who knows? Their might just be a boy who likes you and you dont even know it! All the other girls look prettier than they really are because they wear nice clothes. And you who does not wear all that is prettier than you think you are.:)

March 18, 2011 at 1:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

listen,
I dot think ANYBODY's ugly. everyone in the whole world is beautiful in their own way. Say if I met someone with warts and moles everywhere, and they where nice. That's beutiful, kid! Okay, so I have one boy in my class like me. UNO! They're mean and a jerk and anoying. But that dosn't stop me from thinking I'm Beutiful. Except who you are. You're beutiful, kid! :-)

March 27, 2011 at 11:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Everybody is special in there own way make ur self feel proud for who u are

June 29, 2011 at 8:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm sorry you feel that way, but don't beat yourself up. You should look in the mirror every morning after you're all washed up and say to yourself what you see in the mirror that you like. It could be your hair, your eyes... anything! There's a little saying, if someone says bad things about you, don't let that go to your head. But if someone says something nice about you, don't let that go to your head either! So, just be careful and don't go overboard! Good luck!

February 3, 2012 at 11:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I used to think that I was ugly. But my new friends at my new school would tell me all the time that they loved my freckles. It boosted my confidence.
I don't think anyone can be ugly. Everyone is special and beautiful in their own way.
Plus guys can be shy. They probably just haven't mustered up the courage to ask you out yet.

July 24, 2012 at 6:02 PM  

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