Grace's big city blues

Oh my, I really love big cities. I love the buildings that soar into the clouds and I love that it's hard to get bored when there's so much to look at - especially the people. I say I'd love to move to a big city, but I know I'd miss my friends. That's what Grace is going through.

Dear PLS,
One year ago I moved from a small town to the BIG city. I have made friends in the big city but I miss my friends back home. I CRY way to much. I don't really like the big city. My parents think that I love it here but I don't. I have started having to hide in my closet crying so that no one will see me cry. I don't know what to do. I am confused, stressed, sad, and mad because my parents made me move. Please help me.

Grace, 10

P.S. This is the third time I have asked this question.

I think, first off, Grace needs to tell her parents how she feels. Who else has good advice about MOVING for Grace?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey there Grace. WOW I feel 4 U girl. Moving is a hard thing to deal with and I totally understand what ur feeling. Have u tried talking to ur parents about the way u feel? Maybe talking or seeing ur old friends will make u feel betta, so why not give them a call.Or ask ur parents if they could come visit? I pray that u feel betta and I hope I helped. PS hang in there girl. :)

September 8, 2010 at 2:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

tell ur famly how u feel

September 8, 2010 at 7:13 PM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

Keep in touch with your friends back at home. Have you gone to your new school yet? Make new friends. Also, tell your parents how you're feeling. Ask your brothers and sisters how they feel about the move. I can't give you too good advice cuz I've never moved.
PS. My name is Grace too!

September 8, 2010 at 7:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know moving is REALLY Hard, but the best thing to do is to look at the GOOD SIDE of things.
Try to make as many new friends as you can, and maybe even join some school groups (or ask your new friends what after-school clubs they are in and see if you would like to join- also you can ask your teachers). This way you will be able to connect with more friends- FASTER!!!
You can also volunteer at some nearby place.


I hope that you adapt to your new town fast!

September 8, 2010 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous Megan said...

I think you need to find something new that you like a lot so you won't have to keep on thinking about your other friends

Hang in there

Try to make it work out and if you feel like you can talk to your parents about they might let you go for a visit to your other friends' houses.

September 10, 2010 at 6:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just take a deep breath and say something to ur mom!

September 10, 2010 at 6:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont hide in ur closet BAD IDEA!!! the was real bad and i think u should tell ur rents cos if u dont u might become depressed (if u arnt) and tell them how much u cry and why and if ur crying ( NOT IN THE CLOSET!!!) go to ur parents and dont tell them to move back cos (probable not but from experience) they may have new freinds an a new school oh nd i hope eventully youll get over it

September 10, 2010 at 11:01 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Tell someone how you feel, it's not good to stay bottled up like that. If you do, you might end up "over flowing," (bawling) some where other than your closet. Hang in there and try and find the up side of things! :)

September 11, 2010 at 8:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey Grace,
I know exactly how you feel. Just 2 years ago, I moved from a suburban area to an overly crowded city. Not only that, but it was a completely different country! I had to get to school by 7:10A.M every morning... and i couldnt understand most things everyone was saying! a lot of people made fun of me. Luckily, I only had to spend a year there. Even so, I cried A LOT. I didnt have any friends either, due to the cultural gap. So grace, hang in there. Talk to your friends about it. Email your old pals, call them if you want, tell them about your daily life in the new city, and maybe you could hint to your parents that you miss your old town. I'm sure they feel just as much sorrow as you do, even if you dont think so. Perhaps you could even ask your mom or dad to drive you there one weekend to visit old friends, and catch up with each other. Eventually, you'll get used to the city's hustle and bustle. Until then, you just have to find your own little happy place, smile and say,
"I can do this."
And dont forget to smile! :) Hope I helped ^^

September 12, 2010 at 9:17 PM  
Anonymous larainajsb said...

hey grace i Noe how u feel my mom made me move to Canada with my step dad and Lil bro i cry a lot to ask Ur mom in the summer time if u can visit for like few weeks at a time. don't worry and listen to lots of music that usually helps me i put on a little music i recommend "girls just wanna have fun" remake by M cyrus.
good luck.

September 16, 2010 at 4:31 PM  
Anonymous californiagurl76 said...

grace i agree that you should talk to your parents.also maybe for your bday u could have a slumber party with ur friends from back home.maybe u could also try alking to ur new friends.
you'll get through this, dont worry.;)

September 19, 2010 at 7:39 PM  
Anonymous Grace said...

Hey guys this is me Grace, the one who asked the question. I am sooooooooooo using your advice and I am extremly thankful that people who don't even know me want to help me! Thanks a TON THANKS A BILLION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-)

September 29, 2010 at 4:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel when I was 8 the best friend I ever had and have moved to New Zealand. I cried quite a bit but its okay now because we email,phone and write to each other. We also send each other bithday presents that don't always get there on time.Try to keep in touch with your old friends but remember, change is a GOOD thing.
Hope this helps,
Agony Aunt

October 8, 2010 at 3:51 PM  
Anonymous soph said...

I think you should tell your parents how you feel because my cousin went to collage in Florida and I miss her to much! So I think you tell both your friend and your parents and they will understand. You never now, your family might of moved because one of them got offord a better job.

October 16, 2010 at 11:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know moving is hard, but try to hang in there and look on the bright side! you should tell your parents that you dont really like the big city. i know it sounds crazy, but i really think that if you tell them how you feel they will understand. maybe they will at least take you to your old town to visit for a few weeks or so every few months! wouldn't that be cool? Good luck and hang in there!
Smile On!- G

October 20, 2010 at 11:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey! U know, when I moved schools, I cried and cried. I know its not nearly as close as moving citys, but I wanted to tell you its okay! I moved three years ago, and I still miss my BFF from my old school! You should totally tell ur parents how you feel. They have probably been through this a million times.

November 17, 2010 at 12:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Grace, I think you should talk to your parents about the way you are feeling. Say I know you think im happy here but im not. Also you can try to call your old friends or ask your parents to go back and visit sometime. Hope that helped.

November 26, 2010 at 3:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dudedett I feel ur pain my mom and dad have such a baaaadddddd memory my dad and mom said that we would stay in Illinois for like 8 years and now we are moving to south Carolina leaving my friends boyfriend and parties every weekend and we have only been here 4 3 years total shock to me Jenna desperate for help advice greatly needed

June 29, 2011 at 8:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel your pain, Grace. If I moved to a big city, I wouldn't like it either. I's miss my friends, old house, neighborhood... Try talking it out with a friend you might try to make. True friends always understand. You could ask your parents if you could visit your old town sometime. I hope I helped!

September 3, 2011 at 5:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Imagine it as an adventure! You are in a new place where all the possibilities are endless. Try new things and meet new people. Go sightseeing or take up photography and take pictures of the skyscrapers. Give yourself a brand new look for this brand new place. Talk to your old friends about your new friends and vice versa. Paint what you see or write a story that takes place in your new neighborhood. Turn your closet into a fantastic place where you wont want to cry!!!

July 30, 2012 at 1:02 PM  

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