What do boys like to talk about?

Today's question is FABULOUS. I completely get M.O.'s dilemma: What in the heck are you supposed to talk to boys about?

Dear PLS,
I really like this one guy. He's really nice and always sits next to me in English class. But the only things I ever hear him talk about is football and video games (typical guy stuff). I can't really talk to him because I have no interest in football and/or video games. I think he might start to like my friend (like all the other boys do) because she's super into video games. What should I do? Help please!!!
M.O., 12

I firmly believe that you need "topics" or the conversation with the guy will fall flat. Dead silence, crickets chirping, the whole uncomfortable scene. I even sometimes pick my topics in advance. But even that doesn't always work. What are YOUR best ideas on making conversation with a guy you like?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Josie said...

You could ask him about video games and/or football, and PRETEND to show interest, or keep thinking, there HAS to be something you both like!

September 15, 2010 at 11:38 PM  
Anonymous megan said...

open up,talk to him get a good friendship then tell him how u feel.if he rejects just say okay thats fine.lets the tears run later.Girls rule!keep your head up high

September 16, 2010 at 6:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well if he likes footy and ur an outdoor kinda girl ask him 2 teach u how 2 play it!!!That way u get 2 learn more about him and score extra points with him 2!!!!

Question Gal xoxo

September 17, 2010 at 7:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

interesting ... no idea what to do, though!

September 18, 2010 at 11:29 AM  
Anonymous Jane said...

You should really just be yourself, because that's all you can really be without things backfiring. Try hanging out with him and doing the things he does, so you get to know him better. Good luck, all in all!

September 18, 2010 at 11:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Talk about football and girls and basketball and video games and OTHER subjects trust me im in a class full of them

September 19, 2010 at 7:21 PM  
Anonymous air101 :P said...

bad delimma
you should get around with him

September 19, 2010 at 7:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi i maybe i can spread info boys talk about
sports or video game or how they get nervous
around girls

September 19, 2010 at 7:56 PM  
Anonymous abbie said...

you could always just simply ask him how his day was... or you could ask him how he likes football and what kind od video games he likes to play.. then you could get to talk about somemore stuff simply off those topics :)

September 20, 2010 at 1:50 PM  
Blogger Fashionista said...

Hey. You will need help. Boys usually like to talk about sports, or themselves. HAHAHA!! :-D

September 20, 2010 at 5:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

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September 22, 2010 at 8:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

some boys like you but sometimes they tell there friends to set up a plane to ask you to go out with you but also he might be talking to your friend to set up a plain if you get what i am talking about.

September 23, 2010 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what i think u should do is u should go to a football game ask him about how the game works then make your move(stumbe on the bleachers also he should catch u if he is a gentilmen)he will probobly ask if u r ok then u bust another move(say yes but it hurts bad and act lke your hurt bad@that timepretend to go to the bathroom) and limp then he should wrap his arm around you and walk u down and pretend to have a cold thats how to get 2 him

September 23, 2010 at 7:32 PM  
Anonymous Chloe said...

Try playing Mario video games. It's fun, and boys like it for a reason!!! Also, if he doesn't like you for the way you are, then don't change for him. Even it sounds like he likes you already.... ;)

Good luck out there,

September 24, 2010 at 6:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

guys like to talk about themselves so i suggust to ask him about how his game was and ask him lots of questions about him and how well he plays football (wat position so on)...and NEVER LIE it can just ruin a relationship! :) good luck GIRL!!!

September 24, 2010 at 8:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

omg dont pretend to be something your not, you have to be yourself, not pretty....but beutiful. maybe you should get to know him better... like maybe hes on an extra school activity that you like and can join.... remember if he doesnt like you for who you are, hes not worth it.

zara :)

September 24, 2010 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Most boys like a girl who can be herself, so just talk about your interests & ask him questions. For someone to like you you don't have to be the same. You might even find things about you two that are the same. Be yourself is all I can say.

September 25, 2010 at 2:39 PM  
Anonymous Star in everyones world said...

asks him questions find more out about there has to be something you have in common with him.

September 25, 2010 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Daniella said...

well say hi first and see wat happens then continue

September 26, 2010 at 1:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i had that same feeling and when i just intruduced myself i noticed that he doesn't just like video games. and now we are going out so just start a convesation maybe you'll find something in commen.

September 28, 2010 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know what you mean i never know what to talk about when it comes to boy i think like 20/100 girls knows what to talk about and me and you are not one of the girls

October 3, 2010 at 10:15 PM  
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October 5, 2010 at 5:41 PM  
Anonymous Diana said...

Ah, it can be hard to talk to guys sometimes. I'm friends with one of my guy classmates and we bonded over coming from the same country even if we like different things.

If you want to talk to him, find something you like about his personality and compliment it.Just don't be too obvious! Then, you could ask him to give you more info and techniques on football and video games. Guys secretly love to help out girls, trust me! Then just ask him if he likes anything else. Who knows, maybe you two are more alike than you thought!

October 8, 2010 at 1:05 AM  
Anonymous ikay said...

ask him some of his other interest's and maybe he like's singing or other thing's that you like to do but don't be to obvius !!

October 9, 2010 at 5:52 AM  
Anonymous Bekah said...

Guys like to talk about themselves more than anything, just like us girls do. If u wanna talk 2 him, say something like, "So I heard u play football." Sure, it'll bore the crap outta u, but at least u can stare into his blue (or green, or brown, or hazel, or multi) eyes for a long, droning story's worth.

October 10, 2010 at 10:59 PM  
Anonymous lyssie said...

i kinda have the same prombel but he stares at me and make funny faces at me and simle at me. like today he turned around(cause he sits in front of me)and just looked at me i looked at him and looked away then i looked back and he he was still looking at me and then he turned a confused face to smile but tird to hide it and then i started to smile to what should i do????

October 13, 2010 at 10:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry!I have tons of guy friends and none of them talk about video games at all!We just have fun!But if the dude you like is a video game football type of person just try to learn how to play!Or you can make small talk with him everyday for about a week and then start talking into longer conversations.And to tell the truth i don't think your crush will like your friend because I have this friend who is kind of tom-boyish and guys don't really care.Good lucks~

October 15, 2010 at 8:39 PM  
Anonymous soph said...

Don't worry! I have tons of guy friends. And I got the Wii so now I always have something to talk about with guys. My point is get a video game that you enjoy and that most guys enjoy too.

October 16, 2010 at 11:31 AM  
Anonymous VV guinea pig said...

OMG!! I can't even talk to a guy anymore! Just be yourself find other topics and maybe you'll find something you both have in common, like y crush and I both love swimming,music, and other stuff just from 1 conversation (that's all I could take bfor I would faint)!

October 17, 2010 at 2:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

depends of what kind of guy he is !!!!!

October 18, 2010 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Try to stay interested in the conversation. If it gets boring, ask him if you could talk about something else for a change. Don't worry, I'm sure if you try, it'll work someday!!
Anonymous Girl
:] :] :]

October 30, 2010 at 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

1. boys in my class i think like me cause they ALWAYS talk too me so not that hard for me 2 im a tomboy

November 4, 2010 at 9:25 PM  
Anonymous Maynamay said...

The boys in my class only talk about weird things I have absolutely no intest in, there is nothing good to talk about!

November 14, 2010 at 1:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im goin out wid a boy but i dont know how to get closer to him

November 14, 2010 at 2:55 PM  
Anonymous lyssie said...

In my science class i am surrounded and cornered by BOYS. I usally act quiet and act like i dont know or care about wat they are saying but i usally do.(i am a total tomboy.i am babyed ny my awesome dad.)and once in awhile i buttand and they act like they didnt know i was there at first and start talking to me. Im sorry but that is all i have to say. Also try askinghim to teach u.

November 15, 2010 at 2:34 AM  
Anonymous Alice said...

Hi!! I think the reason boys talk about football and gaming and weird stuff like that is because they dont know HOW to talk to girls. Maybe you could ask him to teach you football, or maybe you could think of something you would both be interested in.If you open up to him, maybe you could find some cool stuff. Who knows? Maybe he likes you back and can't admit it. And don't worry about your friend. If he starts liking her, that doesn't mean you can stop liking him! Maybe you should tell your friend how you feel about all the boys liking her and she will definatly understand. If she doesn't, that means she isn't the best friend you could have. If he doesn't start liking her in the first place, then your set to go! AFTER you become good friends with him, then maybe you can tell him how you feel. Remember, don't change yourself for some boy! You are amazing being just you. I bet that he actually likes you, and is afraid to admit it!! ;)

Good Luck! XD

November 15, 2010 at 9:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Start asking him about his hobbies and maybe you will find something you have in common! If you fake that you like it then he doesn't know anything really about you. When my crush asked me do I like something and I didn't he didn't care. Maybe he will be the same.

November 25, 2010 at 3:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its always weird when a guy is one of ur bffs but u get used to it

December 28, 2010 at 10:48 PM  
Anonymous I KNOW!!! said...

it has happened with me many a time!! all i do is pretend to care to some of the things because i dont really understand but somethings like sports like soccer and swimming i am good at cars also because my dad is a car maniac!!!! when u see him next say hi and then talk about how skool is goin and that then ask him about it. next ask what r his many interests other than football and video games. or u can go online if u have a comp. and seach football and learn about it. if none of those work just be your self and nothing else. wishing u luck!!

January 1, 2011 at 11:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this has happened 2 me dont chase the boy either u can tlk 2 him about wut he did ovr the summer

February 5, 2011 at 7:14 PM  
Anonymous Roc Royal Wifey said...

All boy stuff isn't naturally the case @ my school. So you can be (sorta) open with most things..!

February 6, 2011 at 4:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


March 6, 2011 at 4:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My crush and I used to sit beside each other in class and one day,he we were talking about wrestling (I hate it) he was explaining John Cena and The Undertaker and stuff and he told me he liked me!I was like OMG!!!He gave me a valentine's day card a year after that.Just make polite conversation with him and (Hopefully) it will work out!

April 12, 2011 at 1:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My crush also used to sit beside me and once he was talking to me about football.i srsly hate soccer!! and i got over him!!

April 17, 2011 at 2:32 AM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

football! music! video games! 3 of my least fav things well i like to LISTEN to music but i cant PRODUCE music from an intsrument or my mouth :)

January 2, 2012 at 6:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its not that hard at all to know wut boys like to talk about. It all depends on what kind of boy it is . Heres a list of wut popular boys like to talk about. 1.football 2.girls they have dated(by expierience) 3.gross or inappropiate stuf(not going to say) 4.stuf on youtube or tv 5.how much other boys in other class suck at sports Hope this is of use to you girls. And i say all this cuz of expierience!Also my crush sits next to me on bus! ! !

February 19, 2012 at 12:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if i was in ur place i would have made a conversation about some famous video game (coz every1 know the top famous 1z)

February 28, 2012 at 9:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont pretend. just be you!! if he doesnt like the way you are than its his lose. if he does then you wont be living a lie the whole time that you're with him.

June 29, 2012 at 11:58 PM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

If you like a boy and you want to talk to him, you need to study him for a while. What do he and his friends talk about? say for example, he is on the football team. Ask him how the team is doing are they winning games? are they losing? if you see him and his friends talk about the new movie that's coming out ask him what movies he's into. Or if you always see him at the library ask him what books he's into. Believe it or not that really works it shows him that you are into the kinds of stuff that he's into so he will start talking to you more often ;)

August 6, 2012 at 2:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know this might sound funny but boys are much of as nervous as you girls talking to them but some don't. Don't rush things in life you might find him nice but if he doesn't like you just the way you are, then don't fool yourself and find someone worth your time, cause its always best to keep your door open to anyone who loves you back!

March 29, 2013 at 11:35 AM  
Anonymous I_Luv_My_Pitbull said...

This is interesting Im a cheerleader and my big bro plays football. But you can watch sports center for a day and then talk to him about sports.

April 22, 2013 at 1:58 PM  

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