Should you tell your mom about your crush?

Oh my, this one gives me shudders. Ordinarily, we answer questions posted to Ask the PLS. But today, I'm pulling a question from the talking to your mom post below. Here it is...

Should I tell my mom about my crush?

OK, I have mixed feelings here. One part of me says NO! I don't want that strange, weird feelings when she starts talking about something that feels too personal. But another part of me says YES! She's a former girl, after all, and she might know something about crushes that I don't know.

I say it depends on your mom. Is she the type to tease you about stuff - or is she the type who can keep a secret? What about the rest of you pink locker girls? What's your advice?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

i feel the same way but i live with my grandma and i see my mom every other week

October 7, 2010 at 4:42 PM  
Anonymous Zia said...

Hmmm...Yeah. That works. But my mom kinda figures it out on her own. But she hasn't found out about the one I have now because she doesn't know him.

October 7, 2010 at 5:10 PM  
Anonymous Zekerya said...

I wouldn't tell my crush to my mom, but it depends. If you and your mom have a close relationship, then you could tell her. i wouldn't tell my mom though.

October 7, 2010 at 8:16 PM  
Anonymous Toko said...

Wow!! I've thougut dozens about the same things too. It's just soooooooooo hard!!

October 7, 2010 at 8:17 PM  
Anonymous Cassandra said...

my mom never tells secrets so i wil trust her and tell her

October 7, 2010 at 8:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I tell my mom my crushes, we are both girls she probably went through the same thing at this age so why not havve one more thing to talk about with your mom?

October 8, 2010 at 12:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Me and my mum have a close relationship but not that close! But I no 4 a fact that she is the kind of girl to tell her bff's so i probably wont. But who knows? I might end up telling her 1 day!

Question Gal xoxo

October 8, 2010 at 3:27 AM  
Anonymous Annabeth said...

My mom is the type is always joking around sooooooooo If I told her i would be scared if she told my dad............ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh that would be bad...............

October 8, 2010 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All of you that are saying that maybe your mom would tell, I promise you that I am almost 100% sure that your mom won't tell. I don't know your moms but I think that even parents wouldn't want to embarass their daughters that way.

October 8, 2010 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous Ginnny said...

I would maybe tell her. It could be embarassing, but break the ice by asking her about her preteen/teen crushes.

October 8, 2010 at 10:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have never told my mum about my crush because its too ambarrasing for me. Your mum maybe easier to talk to.
Hope this helps,
Agony Aunt

October 9, 2010 at 5:49 AM  
Anonymous Talka said...

Really depends on the mom. If you've talked about that stuff before with her, it may be easier, but if not, try to take little steps at a time to telling her, and see how she's reacting to this, then you can decide.
Maybe you could ask your aunt or some other relative/woman you trust that knows your mom how they think she would react.

October 9, 2010 at 10:11 PM  
Anonymous juz strted TEENAGE said...

noway...i will never say her abt my crush...she will kill me!!!n my crush also doesnt noe whether i lyk him....i just tell my close frnds abt my crushes dey keep changing....

October 10, 2010 at 7:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is kind of random but has me worried. I read a chapter of the book and it says even if your flat you wear a bra. Well I'm In 7th grade and flat and DON'T wear a bra. Should I?

October 10, 2010 at 11:07 AM  
Anonymous Guinea Pig VGM said...

OMG my mom asked me the other day, I wanted to but.... It would be HORRID if my dad found out. Or... ugh.... If my brother found out. I would keep it a secret and stick with trusting my friends with that stuff. When my mom asked me, I said I'm not even interested into that stuff, we're close, but I would never tell her about actual inside very personal stuff like that.

October 10, 2010 at 4:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i hate telling my mom. she ussualy makes fun of me

October 10, 2010 at 5:18 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

It depends on what kind of relationship you have with her and the kind of mom she is.

October 10, 2010 at 9:23 PM  
Anonymous blogmegirl said...

i know my mom would never give me a reason to not trust her....depending and your mothers relationship tell or not to tell

October 10, 2010 at 10:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear anonymous girl who wonders if she should wear a bra,

I think that it is up to you. If you are flat then you don't have to wear a bra, it might make you a little more comfortable if you are a late bloomer, but trust me they are annyoying, escpecially if you don't need them!

October 10, 2010 at 11:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It depend on how deep is realtionship. If you are actaully dating you should tell her.

If you just kind like him then you don't have to tell but parent are pretty and if you mention him more than 2 times a week then she figure out. So it better if you tell her

October 11, 2010 at 7:03 PM  
Anonymous Elle said...

I haven't told my mom about my crush and I've liked him for 2 years. But, whenever I complain about a boy and how stupid they are, my mom asks me if there are any boys I don't think are stupid and irritating, I just say no.

October 12, 2010 at 8:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i like someone alot. i dont think you should tell anyone but your bff

October 12, 2010 at 4:12 PM  
Anonymous Maria said...

No. enough said

October 12, 2010 at 7:05 PM  
Anonymous sispereces9 said...

it depends on you and your mothers relationship.....

October 12, 2010 at 7:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It definitely depends on the relationship that you have with your Mom. Once, a few years ago, I told my mom about my crush. Big mistake! She told everyone in the family, and every relative of mine was teasing me about it until Mom and I moved to a different state. Now I have another crush, but I'm definitely not going to tell my Mom! It's different with every family, though. Some Moms are pretty easy-going about those matters. Like I said, it just depends.

October 14, 2010 at 12:26 PM  
Anonymous GiGi said...

I would have to say tell her because she could help you to get him to ask you out.

October 14, 2010 at 6:52 PM  
Anonymous lyssie said...

im 13 and my mom still thinks im not into boy but im boy crazy

October 15, 2010 at 3:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well little crushes don't really matter, but if you did tell your mom it might improve your realtionship. But if your dating someone, she should know because it's a milestone in your life! Like when you got your period or start(ed) shaving! Having a boyfriend is something your mum should know for sure!

October 17, 2010 at 12:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my mom always teases me about these things she teases me evn during my periods and though i dont have a crush i will nnnnnnnnnnever tell her even when i have one

October 19, 2010 at 7:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well your all girls so she had a husband so shes been throught the same

October 19, 2010 at 7:39 PM  
Anonymous MissMichelle said...

well shes going to know

October 21, 2010 at 9:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You have to think about two sides of this. Why do you want to tell your mom? Are you going to feel embarrassed, when the conversation of "a crush" is brought up. What do you think she will say? Will it make you feel bad, or good..?
In my shoes:I told my mom once about my crush. She constantly disscused him with me. It started to annoy me, and I forced myself to answer her questions, and be quiet.
Please give us feedback :)

October 24, 2010 at 10:41 PM  
Anonymous Dawn said...

When I was sick my mom said that I was allergic to boys.

October 27, 2010 at 12:34 AM  
Anonymous Dawn said...

Yes you are right. I'm just still scaird thats it.

October 27, 2010 at 12:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my that must b some preasure for u!! BUT DON'T TELL HER. THE FIRST TIME I TOLD HER SHE FREAKED OUT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

October 31, 2010 at 7:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ikrr...
i want to tell my mum too , but am scared thaat she will shout on me.. because your not alod to have crushes or boyfriends in my religiion... soo sad D:

November 1, 2010 at 11:21 PM  
Anonymous izza said...

i wouldnt. toooooooooo embaressing

November 10, 2010 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You know whats funny? I was just asking myself that question yesterday. I came up with this. It really, really, REALLY depends on what kind of person your mom is. If she is the "Oh, come sit on my lap" tipe, sure! Go ahead. But if she is the "Umm, stop crying please" kind of stiff type, my advice is NO. It generally up to you to decide. Seriously. Last year, I had friendship issues, and my mom really helped.

November 17, 2010 at 12:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i would tell my mom. But one thing you DONT do if hes not the cutest boy in the school, give your mom a picture of him

November 24, 2010 at 7:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think it's a good idea to tell your mom. I did the same with mine, I told her about my crush. That way if anybody teases you about it. You can let her know. And she will know what it's about.

November 25, 2010 at 2:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thats hard if you really want to get it off your chest just tell her butif you dont it might be the right desion

November 27, 2010 at 9:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my mom and i have good relationship but like its to embarrassing

December 11, 2010 at 5:18 PM  
Anonymous PainterPink said...

well... if your mom is very helpful about 'girl stuff' then i'd say yes. but if its too embarrassing, then maybe ask a close friend?

December 21, 2010 at 10:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if u just kinda like him then dont tell ur mom but if ur super into him and u think he mite ask u out, then definitely tell ur mom

December 29, 2010 at 12:33 PM  
Anonymous I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT!!!! said...

ya i know what ur going through i ma having the same problem! me and my mom aren't that close so i have decided not to tell her yet. i have told my BFFL and i even asked for advice from my BFF who has been though boys and stuff like that many times so if u have a friend who has been though crushes and that then ask her for advice. you might be scared at first i was but after a while i felt good because i knew more and i am able to handle that stuff a lot better now.

December 30, 2010 at 12:47 PM  
Anonymous AMP54 said...

ALL OF MY FRIENDS HAVE DONE THIS EXCEPT BOUT TWO. BUT THEY ALL CHANGED AND DONT TALK TO ME UNLESS WERE THE ONLY PEOPLE IN THE ROOM.

January 15, 2011 at 12:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i wood never tell my mom! she always asks me with a weird look on her face and says you dont have a crush, do u? but that is just me and my mom

January 17, 2011 at 10:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

remember: your mom has probably been there before. she's probably experienced what you're going through. i once decided to write my crush a love note, give it to him the same day, without showing my friend what i wrote. it may sound crazy to show your friend the deepest thoughts of your mind, but someone can't tell on their own if what they just wrote sounds stupid, even to some of the nicest of people. if you feel your mom is trusts your decisions, then tell her. it also depends on the guy. if you tell your mom you like a guy thats a straight A student, cleans up pretty well, nice to you, been friends to you for a while, she probably wont mind. but if you have a crush on a juvenile delinquent (troublemaker) than she's probably gonna do everything she can to change your mind.\

God Bless you! I hope my advice helps!

February 7, 2011 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Leslie purple said...

u should tell your mom if you think shes not gunnna get crazy

February 8, 2011 at 7:58 PM  
Anonymous Aaliyah said...

My mom never tells secrets. I luv and trust her

February 26, 2011 at 12:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should tell your mom, she can help you and give you some tips that you can use to get him to notice and like you.

March 27, 2011 at 2:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It depends on your mam.If she's the type of mam that would tell people then no but if she can keep a secret then yes.

April 12, 2011 at 1:39 PM  
Anonymous dev said...

my mom always lectures me when i tell her something. ANNOYING

April 27, 2011 at 6:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OMGi feel the same!

August 9, 2011 at 6:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My crush is someone I have known since i was BORN!!!! And im still scared to tell him. What do I do?!?!

September 11, 2011 at 2:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Last year I really liked this guy who was a year older. He graduated now and I'm in 8th grade. I want to call him... But the problem is I never tOld my mom about him. Now it's too awkward to tell my mom because he's graduated. If u want to call your crush and keep in touch with him and all that tell your mom. If u only kinda like him and stuff it's not really necessary espiecially if ur mom will tease u about it.

October 23, 2011 at 7:29 PM  
Anonymous Fairythunder said...

Definitely! I can talk to my mom about anything. You should be able to too!

November 21, 2011 at 6:08 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

No no no no no. WAY too awkward. What about if she's talking to your crush's parents sometime or something. Ughh. Who needs it?

March 4, 2012 at 5:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My family is best friends with another family. I like their son but would it be awkward to tell my mom? I mean they are on the same track team as us too......I know he likes me but.......should I tell my mom.......PLEASE HELP!!!!!

July 10, 2012 at 12:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That's not nice at all!

July 21, 2012 at 4:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I told my mom I had a crush on a boy at my school and I told her about him and all... I guess it was a bit awkward and she teased me a little but overall I guess it was ok-ish

August 9, 2012 at 3:57 PM  
Anonymous purpleROCKZ! said...

my mom can keep a secret, but she's kinda mean… she wants me 2 B just like her, perfect grades, perfect behaveor, perfect everything!!! so i dont really trust her.'-' '-' :( :0

August 10, 2012 at 11:35 AM  
Anonymous cariena said...

I agree butt sometimes theereess religouns thhattt don't allowed crushes , boyfriends and stuff welllll alsooo parents. Would not like to embarass theeree daughters what's sooo ever happens lol :')))

September 21, 2012 at 9:52 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You can all ways tell your grandma

December 4, 2012 at 9:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my mom i can't trust her because she will be asking all these question, on d other side she keeps secret but i'm afraid of she over reacting

December 13, 2012 at 5:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I dont trust my mom once i tell her she'll start teasing me and then she tells my dad and then they both tease me.

May 24, 2013 at 12:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

NEVER!

June 2, 2013 at 8:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have NO good time to tell her about it.

June 24, 2013 at 10:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I will never tell my mom

July 10, 2013 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think u should cuz she was once ur age and she knows what ur going though and might have advice.

July 12, 2013 at 10:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should because moms were once your age and they might have advice.

July 13, 2013 at 4:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would NEVER tell me momshe would tease me all the time....oh and if my dad found out...bye bye me....

January 3, 2014 at 10:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have mixed feelings as well! Sometimes, I feel that you should tell her, because she can help you. But I also think "Don't!" because you might be really embarrassed or nervous to tell them.

July 2, 2014 at 8:00 PM  

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