She's not a dork

A few posts ago, Trini was worried about being called a nerd. Today, someone is worried about being called a dork. Worse than that, she's starting to believe it. Someone explained self-esteem to me this way: It's what you tell yourself ABOUT yourself. So it's kind of what you say inside your own head. That's what our friend needs help changing.

Here's her question.

Hey guys,
I have been really emotional lately.I know it's just hormones, but....I have the strictest teacher in the school. I don't have a close relationship with my mom, and everyone calls me a dork. And it's so often that now I sometimes believe it. I even wrote dork on 1 of my papers and when the teacher asked who's it was I had to tell the whole class it was mine and I cried.

So, the teacher yells a lot and makes me cry more, then I get in trouble for it! I can't tell my mom stuff cause it always ends up bad.And I only have 2 friends... My BFF who has the same problem, and PLS. Please help!
-Dork


My advice is look at the previous posting about what to do in a serious situation. There are other options if you feel like your mom can't help. I think the school counselor is a good choice since you are having teacher issues.

Also, try this with your BFF. Write down three things that you like about yourself and three things you like about her. Then she does it for you, writing down three things she likes about herself and three things she likes about you. Try reminding yourself of those good things about you and let those mean words fade away.

Any other good advice out there?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just ignore them and try to talk 2 ur mum

November 14, 2010 at 2:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey there, well I can't say I got better advice, but know that it's just a stage. I might live an hour away from you, or maybe halfway around the world, but I feel for you. I don't know who you are, but I know your beautiful, talented, and special. And now you just made one more friend. Stay strong, hold on, and this phase will soon be over. You are loved. Remember that.

November 14, 2010 at 5:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi! I can totally put myself in your position. Being called a dork or a nerd can really hurt you! Don't worry. There are lots of girls out there that have that problem. Just stay strong!!

November 14, 2010 at 6:30 PM  
Anonymous Monee' said...

I think that Trini is beautiful even if I can't see her. Nobody is a dork. Just because of the way you look. If people make fun of you, just ignore them. Everyone is GORGEOUS! Believe in yourself.

November 14, 2010 at 9:01 PM  
Anonymous Josie said...

It's okay to cry, it makes you feel better, most times, and NO one is a dork, ESPECIALLY you!

November 14, 2010 at 9:09 PM  
Anonymous Smile said...

Trini,
I agree with Josie, it's okay to cry. I have a journal dedicated to expressing my feelings, maybe start one if you haven't already. I think that maybe having some more friends would help you. Good friends (note how I said good) are there for you no matter what. They stand by you and help you through tough situations.

Here are some ways to make friends:
1.Smile and try to introduce yourself to someone new.

2. Join an afterschool/extracuriculum activity.

3.Be yourself.

Maybe you and your friend could introduce yourselves to someone new. You might be able to make a new friend!

If making a new friend won't help you try to tell a school counselor the situation in, not only will the counselor listen to you but he or she will help you, it is a win win!
-Smile

November 15, 2010 at 6:33 PM  
Anonymous Smile said...

On my last post, I meant to say Trini and others in her situation.
-Smile :)

November 15, 2010 at 6:34 PM  
Anonymous Grace 12 said...

Talk to your friend. If she has the same problem, go to the school social worker. It will be easier to do if a friend is with you. (If you and the social worker aren't already acquainted.) Tell her(/him). Every time someone calls you that, keep your head held high and think about the nicest thing anyone's ever done for you. Think about how much your friends and your family love you. Think about your favorite family occasion. Good luck. (I've been in your shoes and it's not easy. Keep your head held high. You're not a dork. The next person who calls you that, tell them your friends (us, the Pink Locker girls) are going to come and put you right.)

November 15, 2010 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, you are NOT a dork. my brother calls me that, but i either make a joke out of it or ignore it. Even though i can't see you, you are beautiful inside and out!

November 15, 2010 at 9:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have never been named a dork and if i did i tell the teacher

November 16, 2010 at 4:01 PM  
Anonymous Grace :) said...

I feel for you. I used to be in your situation! I used to make fun of myself and cry when I looked at myself in the mirror, and I would call myself fat. But I have changed. It is a tough journey but you have to think, God made me the way he wanted me to look, he made me unique and he loves me. You are special! No one else in the entire world is like you! In my opinion nobody has the right to call YOU a dork! I know that I dont know you. But I already know that you are the coolest girl in school and that u r awesome! You are talented! Good luck!

November 16, 2010 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Meggie said...

If you hate yourself, then you'll never get anywhere. Love yourself. Whenever someone calls you a dork, imagine a bubble of your favorite color surrounding you, and imagine the word 'dork' coming at you, but it's being deflected off by your bubble.

November 17, 2010 at 9:37 PM  
Anonymous Nerdy Cool girl said...

OK, to me, being a dork is nothing. Trust me.I am in the math oylimpad,robot club,book club, and trusut me, my PARENTS even call me a nerd! But, those are things I like. I don't care that I'm a nerd or dork, I don't like the things 'cool' kids do. It's alright. Everyone is different. Just trust yourself and go on with life.

November 20, 2010 at 2:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey, i'm totally in your position. i'm always the first one done with stuff, like tests. for example,i was the only one who finished a 10 page test yesterday and people called me a dork. i just ignored it. i don't really care ifi'm a dork, because i know i'm smart and you are, too.

November 20, 2010 at 9:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just don't give them any attention. When they see that you don't care about how immature they are, eventually they'll leave you alone. don't ever beleive waht they say! They're dumb as a board if they're being intelligent by calling you names.

November 23, 2010 at 6:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just remember you are NOT a dork! Everyone is special! If you feel like you need help ask someone who you are very close with. Like a cousin, aunt, even your friends mom! Just remember you are very special!

November 25, 2010 at 2:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

those are insecure people all they want to do is bring you down just know that your not gonna let them beacause they dont run you remember its not abot ur hair nd skin its bout the beauty frm within chin up youll be aight :)
imani

December 5, 2010 at 12:25 PM  
Anonymous just smile said...

hey, some people might be called a dork once in their life times but most of the time the people calling you that is because they are jealous. maybe they are jealous because you get good grades and they don't, you are very pretty ( which you are), and because they just want to be like you. so don't believe them believe that you are a great person and you will not be a dork you are yourself and that's the best thing. :):):):):)

December 30, 2010 at 12:25 PM  
Anonymous olive101 said...

1. u r not a dork
2. if u believe u are a dork u r lowering ur selfesteeme
3. those people who call u a dork r just jelous of ur realtion with ur mum
4. or maby they r haveing atough time at home
5. BUT NO MATTER WHAT SOME ONE SAIS U HAVE THE FINAL SAY ON WAT U BELIEVE

January 1, 2011 at 6:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't believe that u r a dork just because they say u r . No 1 can make fun of u unless you let them. Try to ignore them. If it doesn't work, tell them that u don't like being called a dork because you definetely aren't 1. It may sound like a 1st grade method, but it will work!( if you don't show them that ur upset, they will stop. They r probaby doing this to get a reaction. And always remember-believe in ur self

January 12, 2011 at 10:24 AM  
Anonymous Emily said...

That is so sad ignore the people who call u dork and be happy with urself

February 5, 2011 at 6:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you are not a dork the people are just calling you a dork to see you cry and get your reaction talk to a school consler and when someone calls you a dork dont let it bother you. just say "thank you very much!" just dont worry

February 20, 2011 at 6:34 PM  
Anonymous mexicanluv said...

hey i feel ur pain but i learned that if people are being rude they r just jelous of you or they dont like themselfs and are taking there pain out on you. just be nice to them and eventually they will quit because they see that they are not hurting you anymore a guy in my school was rude to me and i foud he was just trying too find a way 2 flirt now we are bf gf!

March 12, 2011 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous steph said...

I dont think your a dork or a nerd but I have a mean teacher in music class and she points out all your mistakes in front of the whole class. And the girls probably have nothing better to do than sit there insulting people! you should hang out with your friend some more she knows how you feel and I know a phone number made specially for bullying. I wish i could tell you but i cant.:(

March 17, 2011 at 10:39 PM  
Anonymous a freind who deoesn't know you but would love to said...

trini,
dont hate yourself,think of your good points.we(pink locker girls)know you are special and unique,if they call you a dork remind them of who you are,be strong,have faith in yourself.i've had the same problem but trust me it goes away faster then it ever comes.
and look at even you name,trini,id give anything to have a name like that.swap?

April 14, 2011 at 9:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

trini,
my favorite teacher in the whole world calls me a dork.what makes me not worry about her calling me that is that she always says to me "if you've looked around you'll notice that dorks rule the world!"If that doesn't help,when someone calls you a dork act like you don't care say,"why thank you.I try to embrace my inner dork as much as possible."that'll put them in there place.and my teacher means the best when she calls me a dork.she just means that im different and way cooler than everybody else.so think of it like that

June 23, 2011 at 8:53 PM  
Anonymous Zoe said...

It doesn't matter what people say. I think Dorks are majorly funny and cute in their own quirky way!! Just go on being yourself and be proud of it! Everyone is a dork in their own way. The next time someone calls you a dork you should say something like "It takes one to know one!" But no matter what respond with confidence. Plus if you're just nice and kind to people all of the time you'll be different in all of the right ways. Who wants to be just like everyone else anyways?

June 28, 2011 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a nerd AND a dork, but I'm proud of it. Being dorky makes you unique! Even if the whole wide world sees you negatively dorkish, proclaim, I AM THE MOST FABULOUS DORK YOU WILL EVER KNOW!!!

August 1, 2011 at 3:13 PM  
Anonymous Prabhneet said...

Just try to ignore the people who call you dork. Report what is happening to a teacher you trust. And try to get closer to your mom and tell her that you need help going threw your life right now.

December 28, 2011 at 3:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whenever someone teases me I just say thank you. It confuses the bullies because they have low iq points.

July 30, 2012 at 12:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please help me. I am really good at spelling same as my bff. One day the teacher asked us to Check something because she forgot and now everyone is asking us if it's right. It's so annoying I'm 9

August 1, 2015 at 5:35 AM  

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