Birthday Party Problem

Katie has a questiton about who to invite to her birthday party. It's always tricky, especially when you can only have a small number of people.

Whats up PLS
My b-day is coming up and me and my neighbor are good friends and she does not go to the same school as me, so its always awkward at my birthday parties because she doesn't know anyone and this year I don't want to invite her. How do I let her down easy?
You rock PLS
Kate, 9

This is a hard one. There are two choices:
1)Simply don't invite her but try to keep it quiet that you're having a party. No balloons on the mailbox!
2)Invite her and keep up tradition of being neighborly to your neighbor. What is your neighbor good at? What makes you like to hang out with her? Tell your other friends why you like her and maybe she'll become more a part of the group.

I have to say I'm rooting for choice 2 and here's why. I try to think about how I would feel if I was her. Maybe she loves coming to your party and being your friend. Or maybe she wishes you wouldn't invite her because she doesn't like being the odd girl out. It could be that talking to her would clear up how she feels.

What about all of you Pink Locker girls? Any advice for Katie?

Think pink (and happy birthday)!


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Anonymous Josie said...

You should ask her! I'm sure she wouldn't be mad as long as you do what she prefers, she'll think you really care about her feelings!

February 13, 2011 at 5:28 PM  
Anonymous Ezie said...

Why dont you invite her around for a play date or a sleepover seperatly to all your school buddies that way there's smile all around!

February 18, 2011 at 2:43 PM  
Anonymous miz bunee said...

Well you should ask her if shes ok with coming to the party with people she doesnt kno or you could just tell her straight up (i like the nice one!)

February 27, 2011 at 8:16 AM  
Anonymous Jules said...

u could hav a regular school friendz bday party, and maybe the next day, u could recreate a bday party or do something else special with ur neighbor!hope this helps:)

February 28, 2011 at 7:12 PM  
Anonymous Isabella said...

Maybe you can invite your school friends for one b-day party. Then invite her for a small sleepover.

March 12, 2011 at 1:42 PM  
Anonymous californaigurl22 said...

Hey there,
I think you should invite your neighbour friend to your party-it's ok if she isn't comftorable being around people she doesn't know, or just invite her to a sleepover or a little get together-- Just the 2 of you. Then maybe she won't feel left out,and you won't feel bad about breaking the tradition and leaving her out!!
X0 Love, CaliforniaGurl22

April 13, 2011 at 6:52 PM  
Anonymous Estera said...

I think you should invite her. Just introduce her to some of the other friends.

April 14, 2011 at 3:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Maybe you should do something else special with her like see a movie and have cake or something and then say that you are having a party and that she dosent have to come if she doesnt want to but that way she still feels kinda special to you.

April 17, 2011 at 12:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, I think if she invited you to her bday parties, I think you should invite her. And if it gets awkward between your friends, just like have them get to know each other more.:)

June 25, 2011 at 1:27 AM  
Anonymous Birthday Adviser said...

Dear Kate,

I think you should talk to her.Just mention casually that your birthday was coming up and you are going to have a party. Then ask her if she would like to come this year,and say that you hope she doesn't feel uncomfortable. If she admits she feels out of place, call her and any other super friends along the street to a small sleepover, or get together. If she doesn't feel uncomfortable, that's your problem solved!
Hope it all works out and you have a super birthday bash!

Birthday Adviser

December 13, 2011 at 9:32 AM  

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