Question No. 4: The runaway friend

I love having a close group of friends, but the truth is there's one person I consider by best friend. (For those of you who have read the books, you know that's Kate.) But what happens if the person you think of as your BFF doesn't think of you the same way? That's the problem for Chlzyz. Let's try to help.

Dear PLS,
Ok, my "so called friend" always sits with me but then her other friend sits somewere else so she moves. The she moves again, and again, and again. All i want her to do is to sit with me, how do i tell her?
Chlzyz, 10

OK, I think it's time for Chlzyz to play it cool. You know what I mean? Like not be so into this one particular friend. Chlzyz, if you start hanging out with other girls and having a good time, I bet this wayward friend will find her way back to you. And if not, you will have moved on and you won't feel like the left-behind friend anymore.

What else Pink Locker girls? What's your best advice?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think you should hang out with some of your other friends if your one friend wont hang out with you. in first grade my only friend wouldn't play with me but its ok now i have new friends and im happy.

March 13, 2011 at 8:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Find some new friends. Dont get really upset when your friend hangs with someone else.(I know how you feel though) Ive been on both sides of that situation and neither side is very nice.Things can turn downright UGLY.

March 14, 2011 at 1:02 PM  
Anonymous HillFilly said...

i totally agree.dont hang around her so much if she doesnt want you near her.especially if she knows your secrets and is known to gossip

March 15, 2011 at 8:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think that you should talk with her becuause thats your bff then you should be cool that she hanging with other people (you dont have to sit by her everyday give the girl some space) you should hang with different people once in a while to

March 16, 2011 at 10:48 PM  
Anonymous steph said...

You should find some other friends to hang out with when she doesent sit next to you and maybe you could meet some of her friends.

March 18, 2011 at 12:06 PM  
Anonymous Maika said...

maybe u should find a private time just to ask, in case theres some iffy biffyness between u and her :(

March 19, 2011 at 10:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey my friend is kinda like this problaemo. OK, she has a bladder thing so she can't hold it and she told me and she had asked if she could go to the bathroom and the teacher said no and i blurted about the bladder. how can i fix it because whenever she looks at me she frowns. this is extra bad because she is in both of my classes. how can i fix this?

March 23, 2011 at 8:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think that you should say sorry.And if she cant except the fact that you apoligized then you should let her go becuse she is not a true friend. True friends dont let things like that get in the way of there friendship.

March 29, 2011 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Andrea said...

Just let it go. Ask her if you can sit with her or if she could just stay in one spot. If that doesn't work, go sit with her and invite your other friends to go too. That way, everyone is happy.

March 30, 2011 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I find myself doing this even though I really shouldn't. I don't think you should take it too personally if she hangs out with you outside of this. She probably knows that either way one group of her friends are ging to get mad at her and she just may want to keep peace.

April 2, 2011 at 11:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hangout with new girls and stay happy soon she will come back to you believe me because the same thing happens to me and i do this and it works

April 9, 2011 at 12:30 PM  
Anonymous advicegiver said...

find a new friend i mean u will want to have a friend who is reliable and kind right?
make sure that this girl is not going back and forth to send messages around. another solution would be to make arrangements with her so the other friend and you will get to spend time with her! i might even try to become a threesome with your friend and the other girl. maybe u could even be like the girls in the pink locker society books:) good luck!

April 13, 2011 at 9:10 PM  
Anonymous advicegiver(Bryn) said...

I am kinda having that same thing going on at school and i have learned to just ignore people who think they r my friend but dont want to dedicate their friendship to me good luck again:)

April 22, 2011 at 11:32 AM  
Anonymous Easterbunnygirl18311 said...

Know how you feel buddy!! YOU SOUND LOVELY SO YOUR BOUND TO HAVE OTHER FRIENDS!!Just stick with some others and slip your mate a chill pill!!xx lol!!xx
Take it from me Xx!! Xx

April 23, 2011 at 5:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i had the same problem, but i found other friends and now have the most immense bff's and am still friends with the old best

May 1, 2011 at 5:10 PM  
Anonymous Chlzyz said...

thx guys, your so helpfull, its me Chlzyz! thx again

May 2, 2011 at 7:40 AM  
Anonymous Chlzyz said...

WOW Easterbunnygirl18311 you are so cool i am so happy now i took all of your advise and it works she sits with me, WOHHOO!

Can you help me with this aswell ok i have a boy that i like but i dont know if he likes me back, he is taken but i think he still likes me its just that his girfriend is pulling him back, helpp how can i be me around him,HELP!!

May 16, 2011 at 12:57 PM  
Anonymous Toni said...

i have had the same thing happen 2 me because i wanted to hang out with these girls but they said i want 2 sit with somebody else and they told me don't sit there if they ever say that again jus say i have more friends 2 sit with and have fun with the none jerks but those girls are jerks the one who keep on moving. u just need 2 follow my rules
1.go hang out with girlzs that are nice to u
2.make it look like ur having a good time but dont make them TOOO jelous because u will look at drama
3.leave the jerks alone until they start being nice 2 u but, dont trust them , they can beat u up, make threats about u , and they can use u. so make sure U DONT TRUST THE JERKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

October 23, 2011 at 11:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

this happend to me. My best friend left me for another girl in our group. And now I want her back!!!
people say you should move on because they don't sound like a good friend but i love her so much and i want her back!

October 28, 2011 at 6:19 AM  
Anonymous ♥Immy♥ said...

Ignore the fact that if she moves away from you, she probably is confused on wich friend she wants to be with that day. but if she does it alot, then just find other friends to get your mind off of it if it bothers you. Ive been in your shoes, i just made better friends that actually sit with me when they sit down next to me.

April 16, 2012 at 6:07 PM  
Anonymous ♥Immy♥ said...

Dear Anonymous,
I understand you. I am one of the girls a girl left a girl for. But its not the "new girls" fault, its not your friends fualt, its not your fault, its nobodys fault. If you REALLY love her, you wouldnt care. You'd go with the flow, and soon you 2 with rejoin eventually. :^) i promise.

April 16, 2012 at 6:11 PM  

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