A little love for Jordana

This question popped into our e-mailbox today and we just had to answer. When you read it, I think you'll understand why.

dear pls,
the boy I like likes me.He is cute funny and nice. He’s not insecure or self centered. I’m insecure, ugly, and definitely not funny. Why does he like me?????????

Why does this fine boy like you? Why not you?

Jordana's question is a good example of how each one of us can get locked into this very narrow view of ourselves. We see the glass half-empty, that one feature or body part that isn't perfect. Or we think everyone is so much funnier or smarter than us.

But chances are other people hardly notice these "problems." They are too busy worrying about what's wrong with them!

So Jordana, enjoy that this boy likes you. Even more importantly, take it as a hint that there's lots to like about YOU.

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

So true Jemma! You just made me feel good about myself!

Question Gal xoxo

May 20, 2011 at 7:37 AM  
Anonymous Josie said...

Ya our "faults" seem a lot bigger than they really are, it's important to remember that. BTW Jemma, can you please answer question 60? pweez...

May 21, 2011 at 9:13 PM  
Anonymous Cantcontian!! said...

OMG the next 4th book is called Girls in Charge coming out in September!!!! and Jemma your becoming a big sister!!!and Forrest maby likes you!!! omg can't wait!!

May 21, 2011 at 11:01 PM  
Anonymous Hillfilly said...

i have long skinny legs....


May 22, 2011 at 7:07 AM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

hillfilly i want to tell you something, even though you might hate your legs or your hair or anything like that remeber something; God made you and if you are the way you are He must've done a good job. and to all those girls worried about looking like a model the only reason companies use models is to make us feel ugly so that we want to look like them. something else; only 3% of the entire world population is supermodel skinny, and that's the models and a few small boned girls. so hillfilly even if you hate your legs I have a friend who is DYING to lose the weight on her thighs so think about it. ps if you have long legs try track and field or swimming. that's what I did and I have great friends.

May 22, 2011 at 9:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im covered in acne and my eyes are too far apart and my nose is seven sizes too big and i love myself. its no fun if you blend in. i don't want to be "that popular girl who every boy has a crush on" I'm "that weird kid that is constantly laughing".

May 22, 2011 at 12:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok God made you the way you are so don't say you are ugly you are pretty to him!

May 22, 2011 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous Kerri said...

Can you guys PLEASE HELP?!!
I'm in 7th grade (well for a few more days) and a bunch of my friends are getting their eyebrows done. I really want/need mine done, but my mom won't let me. Do you have any tips on making my brows look better?!

May 22, 2011 at 7:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

OK so one of my friends gets her brows waxed, teeth whited, has an amazing wordrobe, we are both great singer and actresses but i feel smaller than her plus shes tall, skinny perfect hair, the only thing dont like about her is that she getts moody, dosent treat boys well and it always has to be her way!!! heres a list: my friend: cute, smart, whitend teeth, waxed brows, cute abrocrobie close, talent, cinter of attention, and hates my crush!! now me: little shorter like 4'11", strate teeth, wears bigger bra, some acne, sholder lenth wavy hair, curves, ugly ( in my eyes) can't wear cute tiny close, loves food:(..., and sad inside

May 22, 2011 at 10:53 PM  
Anonymous Hillfilly said...

Anonymous who likes to eat....
First things first,your friends wont like all your crushes so i wouldnt stress on that.If shes a good friend she'll respect you no matter who you like.Wavy hair is a GREAT thing.I have it and love it.You can straighten it temporarily and still have it natural.If your friend wanted her hair wavy itd take forever to do but straightening takes all of 5 mins.For shortness im shorter too but not by much.Some guys like the shorter girl.Easier to snuggle :D.Overall your friend doesnt seem to be happy being moody all the time.Be glad of what you have.

Haha!hear me preach to others than be whiny of my skinny legs :P well thats me

May 23, 2011 at 9:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Kerri try eyebrow liner.It might help

May 23, 2011 at 9:52 AM  
Anonymous hillfilly said...


Dont worry about WHY he likes you just enjoy your love.It seems hard to get these days.

May 23, 2011 at 9:57 AM  
Anonymous 2cool said...

well i liked a guy once but he did not like me... - sigh - well there are three guys in my class two are cute and the other is not.. :) always a time for love :)

May 23, 2011 at 11:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I want to be skinnier but still i dont really care because my mom says im just the right size

May 23, 2011 at 5:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

THANKS alot Hillfilly... i mean it thank you <3

May 23, 2011 at 10:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok i need major help from u guyz.... im the girl that ppl tthink im ulgy, heres y: big mouth, small eyes, big nose, and i have an accent....(im from africa). u wont believe this but almost all the buyz in my class likes me... heres the problem... i like the cute guy and he likes me.... he keeps tellin my friends that he donst like me when he shows all the sighs.... is he embarresed of the way i look? answer my qeustion!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

May 24, 2011 at 7:25 AM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

hillfilly i need ur help. i have the biggest crush on this guy and its turing into LOVE ♥ yeah and my bff hates him wat do i do? ps im 99.99% sure he likes me back. whenever i say im ugly hes says; ur so pretty when i say; i stutter too much he says; but you sing perfect hes always nice to me and super funny but if i date him my best friend goes i know EVERYONE says; friends first guys second but shes not being the best friend. so who do i choose; bf or bff?

May 24, 2011 at 5:34 PM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

for those of you that hate your body (or anybody just wanting to feel better or bold) try this;
take a piece of paper and write down all of the "bad things" about yourself then on another piece write down twice as many good things about yourself (if you can come up with more great!) then for the bad things try to write down something good about them.
example; acne= you get it now, you don't get it later! skinny legs= great swimmer! you get the idea. then hang the pieces of paper in your room where you can see them everyday to remind yourself that you are beautiful

May 24, 2011 at 6:06 PM  
Anonymous Haley said...

I have the same problem as Jordana. I am in 8th grade. There is a really cute guy (think Taylor Lautner), all the teachers adore him, makes the whole class laugh, TONS of friends, all the girls adore him (including me). Yesterday I found out from a friend of his that he likes me. Y ME?! I'm not pretty (shoulder length reddish-blond hair, acne, some freckles, not fat but not skinny, super red face) I get shy around the class and not everyone likes me! WHY DOES HE LIKE ME?! (i <3 it tho)

May 24, 2011 at 7:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

haley he likes u becuase theres something about u that he adores... he may like everything about u... love is hard to explain, but when u and someone r ment to be together looks doesnt even matter all wat matters is that u were ment to be together.... i hope that helped.... can u ppl answer mind, its the one that says im from africa.. plllzzzzzz

May 25, 2011 at 7:56 AM  
Anonymous HillFilly said...

Dear phoebe,
First of all im so happy you asked me your question :D *HAPPINESS*
Ok now that ive got that outta the way time for business O.o
Your friend doesnt really sound like a good friend if shes gonna be so mean.Id talk to her about it.Its gonna be tough but if shes a true fiend you'll both survive this stronger.

May 25, 2011 at 6:31 PM  
Anonymous HillFilly said...

Like Anonymous said love is hard to explain and sometimes hard to understand.This is a time where you need to go with the flow.And BTW reddish blonde hair is AMAZING :D be very happy.Freckles hide acne well.

May 25, 2011 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

thanx sooooooo much HillFilly i think i have courage now. im gonna talk to my friend 2morrow. ill give you an update then. WISH ME LUCK!!!!! ♣♣♣ (good luck comes in threes right????)

May 26, 2011 at 7:52 PM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

so anonymous (from africa) if hes telling everyone that he doesnt like you but he really does he is doing one of two things;
a) he doesnt want people to know that he likes you so he makes it seem like he hates you (that happened to me once and the guy almost kissed me!!! But I ran away!! hahaha ;D)
b( he is just being a jerk and hes immiture ask him in private why hes doing this or ask a guidance councler)

May 26, 2011 at 7:58 PM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

me again! LAST TIME!!! maybe...;) so i have a complitaced face. im not saying im ugly cuz i know im not! its just that im 1/8 French 1/8 Scandinavian 1/4 German (Dad's side) and 1/2 Mexican (Mom's side) unlike my 8 yr old sister (perfect skin, warm brown eyes, thick brown hair meant for shampoo commercials, can eat all she wants but still stays skinny, and tall so pretty much a tiny super model) I look like my dad. Blonde hair, blue eyes, pale skin, some pimples, lots of beauty marks (i call them angel kisses), and kinda tall, kinda skinny. When I was little I almays wanted to dye my hair brown and get colored contacts but now even if I could wouldn NEVER dye my hair! I love being able to say; "I'm half Mexican and I'm blonde." I love watching poeple's faces go all weird when they look at me and think "There's no way she's Mexican." so ill sing it loud and sing it proud! IM HALF MEXICAN AND IM BLONDE!!!

May 26, 2011 at 8:08 PM  
Anonymous Bryn said...

God made u the way u r and he loves you. God makes no mistakes so u r always beautiful in his eyes no matter what u think.

May 28, 2011 at 10:46 AM  
Anonymous Cassie said...

PLEASE HELP!!! I wood REALLY appreciate it!!!!
So everyone sez my crush. He always talks to me and flirts, but I think he may like my friend. He doesn't flirt w/ her, but he always talks to her and he sed that she s the most mature person in the grade and that he thinks that's cool... does that mean anything? he sed I was the coolest person in the school tho..... wut should i do?!!

May 28, 2011 at 1:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why not?

May 30, 2011 at 10:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't let people be mean to you like I did. See I am going to middle school next year and they have a rule about bully{meaning you can't do it}. So don't lets people bring you down. Who knows you could be President and they could be a bagger at Koger!!

June 3, 2011 at 10:56 AM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

here's my problem. every pretty girl has a boyfriend and I don't have a boyfriend and a lot of people call me pretty even though I don't think I am. Also I think there's a couple cute guys that like me but I don't know why bc I'm so ugly when I look at myself but sometimes in the mirror I look pretty. Reasons why I'm ugly- I hav a flat nose the shape of my face is a little on the square size I'm a little above the average weight I have a mole on my nose

June 7, 2011 at 10:59 PM  
Anonymous phoebe said...

so look on the bright side my friends can name 25 things i should change about myself but i can only name one; acne. but im working on getting rid of it. so focus on the good stuff. hey, a glass half empty is a glass half full

June 8, 2011 at 10:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Here's what I think - why worry about WHY he likes you? You already know. He likes everything that you hate - your skinny legs, bushy eyebrows, that annoying gap between your two front teeth (OK, that one's me) - everything. Personally, I think it's flattering that someone out there has the capabilities to love me for who I am. So why worry? Go for it, sister. ;)

June 8, 2011 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

why.... okay heres another reason he must think you have putentiall,beauty!!!he must see something in you or he wouldnt like you am i right...? i am sure you are amazing beautiful nice a little funny just keep hopes up he sees something in you or he wouldnt like you so think possitive not negetive :))

June 14, 2011 at 11:20 AM  
Anonymous Zoe said...

hey everybody im bored so i just read through all of the comments on here (lol) and i love how everyone is encouraging eachother. I don't always feel great about how i look but my freinds all say im pretty. I bet every single one of you is beautiful so dont worry!! (:

June 28, 2011 at 6:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I need help...my bff(kinda)gets all the guyz. AWAYS. But when one of the guyz she likes kinda likes me, she gets mad and sends me threw the guilt trip saying, "oh ill give up this guy for u like i do for every other guy i like" but im not over egsaderating that every guy i like likes her, its true! But when i tell her that the guy likes her, she says he doesent when he tells her he does! It makes me mad when she gets all these guys, but doesnt appreciaate what she has. How should i make more guys like me? P.s it sucks for me cuz i live in a tiny town and theres no guyz at al!

June 29, 2011 at 7:18 AM  
Anonymous cupcake3010 said...

what are you talking about why do you say your ugly your beautiful the way you are so why are you thinking your not trust me i found out a grade six boy liked me even though i had pimples im in grade five and im overweight im 42 kilograms but im working my butt off

July 5, 2011 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Zoe said...

Dear Anonymous whose friend gets all the guys,
I know where you're coming from because I know several girls like that, too. And if you're friend was really a true friend she would be happy for you and stick with the guys she knows like her and not you. It sounds to me like your freind isn't a very good friend isn't a very good friend and it would solve a lot of problems for you if
you hung out with her less, and hung with the friends who know how to treat you better, more.

July 6, 2011 at 9:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jordana: He dosnt have to think youre pretty to like you. He might think youre smart or nice or any other thing about you that is why your FRIENDS like you. And about you being insecure, HE might not think your insecure.

Cassie: I read once that a guy lasts longer if he is your friend instead of your boy friend. If he does decide to go out with your friend instead of you, try to be friends with him and then, if you want, you might be able to become his girlfriend later.

July 10, 2011 at 12:25 AM  
Anonymous hannah said...

i totally agree with phoebe. God made you: you. So don't worry and enjoy it!

September 5, 2011 at 1:07 AM  
Anonymous beth said...

your probably a GREAT person but mabye you just dont think so but anyway the good part is he likes you!

September 5, 2011 at 12:35 PM  
Anonymous C.C. said...

hi! hmmmmm hard to say why he likes you, when im not him and dont know you! maybe... if your not chicken... you could ask him! im sure he would tell you! and if its somthing mean, like you make him look good compared to you, than I would punch him! but don't!

September 12, 2011 at 10:15 AM  
Anonymous sammy (wish my name was that) said...

there are these two kids in my class and they both like each other and the girl is one of my bffs but she never hangs out with my other bff she is always with him i heard that there boyfriend and girlfriend and they kissed btw the boys age is 10 although he is the hottest kid in out class and the girl my bff is 11 i think there way to young
and about me im not the best looking
hariy legs
big ears
little fat
but i try not to complain its just that all the other gurls in my class are really pretty one of my other bffs 4 boys like her and she is always in her own world she doesnt even kno it but she is soo small and im soo tall its funny lolz

October 1, 2011 at 12:43 AM  
Anonymous Qaiyierra said...

this is to everyone that doesn't like the way they look: don't ever think bad about yourself because everyone is beautiful even if you don't think so. well i have a question too. my boyfriend broke up with me but he told me that he still likes me. i still like him too but i don't know if he wants to go back out. ps he broke up with me because he said that i'm fronting on him :(

November 8, 2011 at 7:46 PM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

girl dont ? it just go 4 it he likes u go get that guy :)

December 27, 2011 at 3:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know exactly how she feels. i feel the same way about myself. it sucks to feel this way.

January 8, 2012 at 10:47 PM  
Anonymous Pinker Bell said...

i dont know if the guy i like likes me because im so ugly. im chubby and everyone considers me cute and tiny, but im the same age as them. -.-

January 18, 2012 at 4:06 PM  
Anonymous Amanda said...

Pinker Bell, I doubt that you're ugly. I think that you'd be even prettier if you were confident. Confidence works. Standing up straight makes you look leaner, smiling makes you look prettier. . . you get the idea. Plus, guys who are really worth it don't just care about looks.

March 4, 2012 at 5:12 PM  

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