Question 17: What if a guy looks at your butt?

OK, so after a looooong break, we're back to answering the 76 questions we received on Valentine's Day. We promised to answer them ALL, so we're going to get to it before it's Valentine's Day 2012!

Today, we'll take on two questions - both about guys touching you or looking at you. Both can make you feel kinda weird.

Dear PLS,
It's sorta happening to me, but I witness it all the time. What do you do if a boy looks at your butt..?
Just A Thought, 12

First off, your body is yours - all yours. So if someone is looking at you in a way that feels uncomfortable, you can say, "Please stop staring. It's not polite." And you can always talk with a parent, teacher, or school counselor about something like this. You don't have to put up with someone looking at private parts of you, like your butt. Obsessive staring of any kind is creepy, even if the person is looking at your face.

Sometimes someone looks at you a lot because they're curious or they think you're pretty. So it can be a sort of compliment. It's part of the job of growing up to figure out what's OK and what's not. That goes for boys and girls. And I think it's fair to say that both guys and girls can be clueless about stuff like this.

All right, Pink Locker girls - what's your advice about boys who look at butts? And tell the truth: Have you ever stared at a guy, secretly or not-so-secretly?

Think pink!


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Anonymous annarose19 said...

Well i agree with jemma. The guy is either curious or likes you.

November 30, 2011 at 9:23 AM  
Anonymous scared hes mad age:11 said...

i stare at this boy at church but i think he likes me we are always hanging out doing funny stuff when we go out in the gym like walking around people randomly:) his name is brandon:) uhhhh he is so cute:) but he also stares at me but i take it a complament we first started hanging out one time on a feild trip with my church we were eating (i was sitting next to him) i had my hand sorta on my leg he then like he touches my hand pushing it over i scooted over though because it didnt feel right but he hasnt really talked to me what should i do?? does he still like me or scared i dont like him??

November 30, 2011 at 12:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well I think you should just say something like this:" Eyes up here bub."
And then point to your eyes. And my older brother has alot of friends in my grade... And he has some hot friends too. So yeah while they are playing x-box or airsoft, I sometimes take a liiiitttlle peak. But never at the butt, that would be scary. Sometimes I even get to know these guys, or even become good friends. But it's my little secret that I like them. TEEEHEEE:)

November 30, 2011 at 9:32 PM  
Anonymous curly33 said...

Yah, this is happening to me, too and a lot of other girls. This might sound a little mean, but sometimes you just have to give them a little glare.

November 30, 2011 at 10:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Happy December:)

December 1, 2011 at 8:45 AM  
Anonymous Allie said...

its easy to just ignore it and maybe wear a long shirt or something maybe less revealing?

December 1, 2011 at 3:49 PM  
Anonymous Fairythunder said...

I agree with Jemma. Say something like, I don't really like it when you do that. Then again, I've never dealt with boys...

December 2, 2011 at 3:32 PM  
Anonymous KK said...

I agree with curly33 because they might get embarrassed but it's a lot easier than saying anything. It also depends on the boy if you think that it's too harsh to glare, then don't but if they are like some boys that I know, they won't listen if you just talk.

December 3, 2011 at 9:57 PM  
Anonymous fizzle1999 said...

well maybe the kid just likes you or your but!!! he is paying attention to you and likes what he see's and hey he ovisley likes something about it or he wouldnt be looking at it... maybe you should look at him and give a cheeky grin :)

December 5, 2011 at 3:08 PM  
Anonymous Christeen said...

Today I wore a v neak and I think my friends boyfriend was staring at me and it was weird and I think my parter for this thing that our teacher is making us do was staring at me 2 it really didnt bug me but still

December 5, 2011 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

Yup it has happened to me before. I think you should just tell him to stop staring, that way he will feel embarrassed and stop staring at you. I'm not being mean or anything but if you feel uncomfortable, you should just do that.

December 7, 2011 at 2:35 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its happened to me before too. this cute guy at my church kept on staring at me. i guess i got used to the feeling because once i said hi to him and when i turned around i caught him looking at me. though if a guy likes you or not, don't ever let him look at or touch any part of your body.

December 10, 2011 at 5:31 PM  
Anonymous ems said...

Ick If a guy likes you seriously he shouldn't stare at your butt it's pretty creepy. I mean if a guy stared at my butt I'd be tempted to slap him there are other ways for him to show u he likes u. I've been accused of butt-staring but I'd never stare at a butt. ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

December 11, 2011 at 2:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ya I suggest you tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable when he does it. Chances are he wasn't doing it on purpose (Sometimes I find my gaze landing on something random like on someone's face or any random object but I don't do it on purpose) and he might be a little embarrassed. But ya I suggest telling him.

December 11, 2011 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ya I've been in that situation and I felt weird
but I told him my eyes are up here not down there I also had experienced a boy staring at other private parts of me (awkward!?!)

December 13, 2011 at 7:58 PM  
Anonymous Bridgitte said...

i suggest you tell him to stop,
i'm only 9 so i have never dealt with boys.

December 16, 2011 at 3:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If he was staring at your butt, he's a creep, if he was staring at your face he probably just likes you.

December 18, 2011 at 12:31 PM  
Anonymous kickboxergal said...

yes i have stared at a guy before . that is really weird but dont be worried it happens all the time its happened to me

December 19, 2011 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had been stared at by a guy abt 40 years of age when I was 10 . But I stopped going to the route he always stays. You can actually ignore him. Girl , we know it is creepy

December 20, 2011 at 11:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hes got to be a jerk

December 21, 2011 at 2:49 AM  
Blogger Jemma said...

@Anonymous It isn't OK if a 40 year old guy is staring at you, so please let an adult know. It's good that you're avoiding him, but he could be bothering other girls.
Think pink!

December 21, 2011 at 11:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Omgosh, what do I do????
I can't stop thinking about this one guy! Usually my crushes come and go, but this one is different. For a while he liked me too but idk if he still likes me or not. I'm not allowed to date but I can't stop thinking about him! It's crazy! HELP ME!!!!

December 26, 2011 at 10:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

scared hes mad, you should look for a little sign called mirroring. Is he sorta copying you NOT on purpose? Example: If you touch your ear, is Mr. Perfect touching his ear at the same time?? I know, it sounds crazy but it's true. Try it

December 26, 2011 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

tell the creeper that ur face is far more interesting than ur butt.

December 27, 2011 at 2:57 PM  
Anonymous Briana said...

say my eyes are up here

December 27, 2011 at 9:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was sitting next to the hottest guy and we were doing projects were u had to get up and show and when it got to me I got up and he was looking at my butt. It was not the first time.

December 28, 2011 at 8:00 AM  
Anonymous DesperateDork said...

A guy stared at my legs... he stopped when i kept moving them... so embarrassing

January 4, 2012 at 10:25 PM  
Anonymous Mere said...

Dear scared hes mad, Don't lose hope yet! Probably the guy likes you and thinks you don't like him back becuase you moved your hand away. Maybe you can write him a letter and slip it into his locker at school if you are to scared to talk to him face-to-face.

January 5, 2012 at 9:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anonymous said...
Omgosh, what do I do????
I can't stop thinking about this one guy! Usually my crushes come and go, but this one is different. For a while he liked me too but idk if he still likes me or not. I'm not allowed to date but I can't stop thinking about him! It's crazy! HELP ME!!!!
Don't worry! I keep thinking about my crush all the time too! I keep daydreaming about us going on incredible dates and all this random stuff (even though im not aloud to date either)and im only 11! its just hormones trust me! and yes its a weird thought lol

January 6, 2012 at 10:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I looked at a hot 18 year old guy.This creep at mcdonalds was staring at me and my boobs. Weird right?

January 10, 2012 at 11:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am and in the same excat sutation. Except the guy is 18!

January 10, 2012 at 11:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

um... ignore him?

January 14, 2012 at 4:56 PM  
Anonymous bookworm said...

maybe he likes you but i say try to skirt around him and if he looks at you again glare straight at his eyes.

January 15, 2012 at 3:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well most guys ust act like that. if it makes you uncomfortable, u could wear loose pants so they cant see your butt as good. Or glare at him if he does that again.

January 16, 2012 at 2:42 PM  
Anonymous Lena said...

I have had guys stare at my butt before, and my response is always along the lines of "My face is up here, bub." It scares them off really easily. Anyway, a guy in my church class touched my hand very briefly. It was a little creepy 'cause he's been my friend forever.

January 17, 2012 at 8:58 PM  
Anonymous Maribel said...

well all guys do that to me and they EVEN touch it! can you beilieve thatt? well what i do is i say,''Umm...exuse me but is this your body?is this your body to stare or touch?'' they say,''no, but it's gunna belong to me right now though'' so just say,''Not unless you ask permission'' they say,''so could it be mine now?!'' we say,''No Thank You i love my body and it will ALWAYS belong to me''
Good Luck! & Think Pink!

January 18, 2012 at 11:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

FARTTT! that wil get them to stop and they might even pass out!

January 20, 2012 at 12:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

well your problem is not as bad as my problem 3 guys have actully TOUCHED my butt?the guys already told me they like like me but there is no excuse that they are TOUCHING my butt help me

January 21, 2012 at 2:08 AM  
Anonymous Zoe age 14 said...

This is a very common thing these at school when a girl gets up from a seat guys will look at her also doesnt help how tight girls wear there jeans these days..But unless a guy is touching you, then i would just ignore staing bc it happens to me and my friends all the time.

January 21, 2012 at 4:25 PM  
Anonymous wierdsk8trchick300 said...

i have had guys that have stared at my boobs so ive just said my eyes are up here dude

January 22, 2012 at 4:29 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

iv had guys check me out... and iv looked at that bad?

January 24, 2012 at 10:58 PM  
Anonymous Jessie said...

Yes I have secretly stared at a boy ( my mager all time crush ). He's so cute!!!!! He was actruly in the nutcracker as the understudy snow prince, arabein ( I Think that's how you spell that ) ,and sugar plumb fairy's cavelere. Ps if my mom is reading this I am dead !!!!!!!

January 25, 2012 at 10:52 PM  
Anonymous Jessie said...

I Am only nine yet had my first crush when I was 7 !!!

January 25, 2012 at 10:57 PM  
Anonymous Jessie said...

Unfortunately He does ballet and the only time I go near the dance stodeo is when we have to pick Ashley up. And unfortunately again HE'S 13. four years older than me. Do the math get back to me.

January 25, 2012 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous rockchalkjayhawk said...

well if he is doing something that you feel is innapropriate talk to a trusted adult but if he is just staring at you he probably likes you eeek!!!

January 26, 2012 at 7:45 PM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...


its normal 2 hav crushes on guys dat r older than u. but dont take it 2 seriously. i met this really cute 12 yr old when i was 9...turned out he was veryyy annoying. it really stinks when a guy u like is older than u...bleive me i kno. it breaks my heart sometimes. u cant expect 2 much. i made that mistake last yr. im 12 now and i just hope a 12 yr old guy likes me.

@everyone who luv pls

my friend's bros r always checkin me out what do i do. i dont like them like that. i dont even like them as friends! :D

February 5, 2012 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Shizmonetrsly said...

If he looks at your bum maybe it is just really cute! As long as your not self-conscious about ur bum u should be fine and if it starts to be really weird tell a parent or adult

February 15, 2012 at 1:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Been there done that, i say if youre not interested, tell him. Iwasnt afraid to.:)

February 25, 2012 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i thinnk i can relate to this. at church there was this guy i had met. during praise and worship, we were all having fun. my friend did somthing funny with his hair. and when i started laughing, he turned and smiled at me. after that, during the service, i'd always feel someone staring at me. and when i looked in his direction, i saw that it was him staring at me. from that day on, he stared at me like he liked me. but to answer your question, dont let anyone look at you that way. it's impolite, rude, and you need to tell him to stop.

March 1, 2012 at 6:55 PM  
Anonymous cuti2 said...

Everyday in fifth grade at breakfast this guy would stare at me and my friends. Then one day I was all alone and he told me some nasty things, I didnt know what to do. Then out of nowhere my crush came over and started yelling at the guy. He saved my life. Now that my crush left the school any time that guy looks at me I know what to do.

March 4, 2012 at 3:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think that i can relate to this, i was on the bus on the way home from school with my coisin and boy mates nd this girl had a party and so loads of her boy mates got on the bus< and one boy started touching me up i didnt know what to do, i laughed about it and told him to stop but he kept on going and asked if he could sign my boob, by now everyone was looking at me and this carrys on but to answer your question dont let any1 touch you if you dont want to be touched its up to you.

March 13, 2012 at 3:38 PM  
Anonymous Duckie said...

I think boys are gross! I was taking in the trash once and this boy who was walking by started staring me oddly, so I told him to stop staring at me and look at the trees. I was hoping he'd get mad and run away, or yell at me or something, but instead, he obediently stared at the trees. I was fuming! I wished my best friend Marissa was there, since she ALWAYS takes care of problems like that. She can just glare at a bully and they'll freak out. She's awesome!!! Scared hes mad, I LOVE your story! That is sooooo cute and romantic! Brandon totally likes you

Good look, scared hes mad and Brandon!

March 29, 2012 at 2:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah I totally get it! There's this boy in my class that repeatedly stares at me and when ever I catch him staring I just stare at him until he stops but he doesn't then I just say "can I help you with something!?" and once my friend caught him looking at m butt during soccer training for school!

July 20, 2012 at 7:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Boys are just like puppies. Honestly. All clueless and obedient. But when they see a girl they start to pant because it is in their nature. Weird right?

August 20, 2012 at 11:05 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Been there. Tell a adult

January 24, 2013 at 5:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Trust me I'm going through the same thing! I have a crush on this guy and he likes me so the other day I was walking and I saw him staring at my butt and smiling when I turned around. I had a major freak out!

March 29, 2013 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous I_Luv_My_Pitbull said...

Well I asked my older brother (junior year-football player) and he said its because boys especially middle-high school are curious about girls or theyre really into you and think about bad stuff what I do is stare at them like they have a green head or somthing, then they get embaressed. :)

April 22, 2013 at 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Taleah said...

So once I was getting changed into leggings in the locker room at my school cause one of our electives are dance and when I came out everyone looked at me but most of them turned bac around thankfully but the boys just started and I heard some make a comment like dang and bruh like they were trying to get the boys to look and they like they were looking at my butt. But one of those boys was my crush😐 I don't know what to say about this.😐

September 7, 2015 at 11:50 AM  
Anonymous Terrifiedteen said...

So in 5th grade there were these 2 boys that would always look at my butt since they were in line order behind me they would always say " left right left right " when I would start walking. On my dads side of my family the women all have big breasts so I was growing there and plus I started my period early so I was growing a lot so I had pretty much the biggest butt in my class and to me I was not happy about it but then they started slapping my
Butt I just ignored it cause I didn't really care then would tell my crush to do it and he would and they would press there other friends into my butt without them choosing to of course. I was about to tell but the teacher moved one of the boys in the front and the other like 2 or 3 people behind and I knew he wouldn't because he only did it when he was with his friends but I'm scared next year (I'm going into middle school) that they will do it again and get caught and for some reason I get in trouble or they tell everyone a lie that I don't care if they spank my butt.

August 6, 2017 at 7:18 AM  

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