Is her bra a REAL bra?
But today's questioner asks: Are all bras REAL bras? In other words, is a bra is a bra is a bra?
Dear PLS,
My mom gave me padded bras. Are they training bras or real bras?
Anonymous
I say, yes. A padded bra is a real bra. A training bra is just a name for a smaller bra for girls who are just beginning to wear bras. Get it? You're in training as a bra wearer. Just like you can be in training as a soccer player or basketball player.
I think "training bra" is kind of a silly term. I mean it's not like bras are so very complicated that it takes a long time to learn how to use one. You just snap or click or slip it on and there you go.
But the bottom line is that a bra IS a bra is a bra. Your bra isn't imaginary is it? And grownup women often choose to wear sports bras, or camisole bras, or bras that don't have cups. So ignore all the blah-blah-blah about bras!
Think pink!
Jemma
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Thanks! I was really confused about it before! I wear sports bras but was kinda jelous of my friends who wore "real bras" but I don't feel that way anymore! P.S. I'm 11.
OMG can I pllleeeaaassseeee be the first to comment?
Anyway, I wanted to know that too. My bras are soft and when I getting my first bra I'm like, I thought bras were suposed to make you feel comfortable. Why are there HARD bras??????
HOw do I tell my mom I need a bra? I can't just go like "hey mom I need a bra so can we go buy one?" she'd probably say no or why or what for or something. There is. A 2.65% shell say sure ok. And it's embarrassing to ask overt n over I'd she does say no? Ugh. What do I do u really think I need one I think I'm a 32a since I tried measuring myself. Instead of bras I wear tank tops and camisoles and with son of my shirts you can see my nipples through them. So what should I do? I can't email her either because If she says no, she'll ask me why I want to buy one and I can't do that. It's too hard ;for me. But my real real bffffff since I knew since we were 3 now were 11 She got one when she was nine. Well she did develop faster than me, now she's wearing cup bras, but I'm kind of (not that much( jealous cuz she was like SOOO CONFIDENT i don't know how she said it but she told me she just asked and she got it. I wish I could be like that. Just ask and not be nervous or anything. Whenever I try to do what she did, I chicken out at the last second and change the subject as fast as I can and ask about something else! My life is terrible!!!!!!!! Even my cousin who is flatty Mcflat flat flat flat flat flat has ONE. Oh well, this is what my life is like............
Isabel! You should really just ask
The worst thing that could happen is your mom says no
If she does it's not a big deal
if anyone ever bullies you just dont let it get to you and stand up for yourself then walk away./
does getting your period mean you are a woman?
hey Isabel
just say: 'Mom, I've been feeling kind of uncomfortable and self conscious wearing just tank tops and camisoles, so would it be ok if I got some kind of bra now?"
It's really hard for almost everyone to ask this question, but just take a deep breath when you guys are alone together (maybe in the car) and ask the question. if you can't ask it to her maybe ask another close adult. (Aunt, Mom's friend, etc...)
Think Pink!
Dear Girls,
I was wondering about this topic too. I just got a bra that is padded and has an under wire. But the best thing is, it is convertible, so it can be strapless also. My mom says under wire bras are uncomfortable, but mine is the most comfortable I have, because the fabric doesn't fall over the "under the bust elastic"! I like it, so if you see one in the store, ask your parent or guardian if you can use it.
To anonymous who said: does getting your period mean you are a woman?
The truth is... no. It doesn't. It only a step of puberty that makes you more mature and is a step closer to "womenhood". But getting your period doesn't automatically make you a woman.
And to Isabel: You totally should wear a bra! Your a 32a you shouldn't just be wearing camisoles. Start dropping little notes like saying: "Mom, my camisoles are getting kinda small" or "This is kinda see-through don't you think?" Or you can try asking if you two can go shopping and in the mall or wherever you go, say I need some pajamas. (there are usually bras and stuff there) and sorta walk slowly past them.
Some of you guys are freaking out over bras and periods. There not a big deal, just another part of life. Us girls have to be strong for the world!
all bras r real but the padded bra is 4 realz girl congrats....n a way...
HELP!i am the biggest size in training bras and they are starting to get a little small on me but my mom doesnt let me wear cup bras or sport bras what do i do?
To Isabel,
I know how you feel! I was sooooooo nervous every time I thought I could ask my mom to get me my first bra. I kept trying to say it but I just couldn't force the words out, it was so embarrassing! Finally one day I just said it without thinking! My mom asked why, of course, so I said I felt I needed one and all the other girls in my class had one. (I'm 11 and that was only a few months ago). Then my mom said that she was already planning to go to the mall tomorow so we could get a few then!
I hope that helped!
To Isabel:
Work up to asking your mom. First, one Saterday u could ask "um, hey mom, can we go to the mall today?" If she asks why just tell her that u want to get something. Then, when u are at the mall, u ask your mom if u can get a bra. It will be a bit harder for her to say no because u r already there. Plus, you can recite what u r going to say in your head on the car ride over.
I agree with Anonymous who said: [Some of you guys are freaking out over bras and periods. There not a big deal, just another part of life. Us girls have to be strong for the world!]
Even though I am freaking out about these things too, we can't all focuss on this or we'll miss all the fun the world has to offer! I'm still sorta freaking out about this stuff (especially periods cuz this is only my second month with it) but theres no reason to go crazy!
Girls, I personally think it should be only our opinion not our moms! I mean like no one knows your body like you do! I think you could ask your mom her opinion like if SHE thinks its a good idea to move up to a cup bra, but really it should be your decision. If U are think u r ready than go 4 it. :)
But just keep in mind, your mom went through it too! :D
Thanks for the comments girls. I couldn't decide if it was a real bra. BY the way my name is Hannah, not anonymous.
lol :D I know the comments that girls right here are really helpful and I actually feel comfortable wrigting stuff here
Thanks!
I think all bras are real bras. They are just meant for different purposes. Training bras are for when you just start developing whereas padded bras are for when you are more developed. Choose what's right for you.
Thanks 4 understanding, Syd! Your just like me! I'll keep trying! And thank you to all of you! All of you helped a lot. I'm still making my plan... :)
I agree! A bra is a bra is a bra :)
Girls, this is off topic but what is wrong with naturally curly hair? since grade 5, my friends keep tellimg me to straigten it! I'm in grade 6 now and they still say the same! But the thing is, I LOVE my curls, but how am I supposed to stay the same when their is so much tween pressure? I hate getting all these other questions like "how do you brush it?" and "why don't you straigten it?" And my friend with naturally curly hair PAYS to get it straigtened,(aka burned, damaged) while I sit here and think theres something wrong with me! Help!!! :(
A bra is a bra. Just choosing the right one for you. Once you get used to them your be confortable promise :)
all bras are bras! and that wont change, TRAINING BRAS, SPORTS BRAS ALL BRAS ARE BRAS ARE BRAS! np Zora
To the girl with the curly hair question: I have naturally curly hair, I straightend it one day even though I LOVE,LOVE,LOVE having curls. Now I switch beetween curly and straight hair every week or so.
to anonymous with the hair question, I Have strait hair, but some girls in my class have curly hair. they don't straiten it. besides, it is your desision. next time they ask you, you could say, "Why do you keep bugging me about this? I wanted curly hair last week, why do you think I dont want it now? It's my desision, not yours." Hope I helped!
Thanks Hannah! You gave me hope! Atleast someone else likes curls!
Hi, i'm gemma and i am almost twelve and about to go nto year six my mum bought me my first padded bras at the start of year five but my ther friends have got tem at different times. My friend emma tgot hers at the same time as me. Sheri has just started wearing them and she turns thirteen this year, monique still wears crop tops but that's fine just remeber dont feel pressured into anything wear whateves comfortale for you. oxox gemma
I was pretending to look at some socks n pj's then I saw my mom looking @ bras then I thought that nxt time we go shopping alone well get one cuzn bro was there but not there like he was at the toys
hey, this is a easy one.Your mom is just buying the best for you! keep that in mind.And other advice is to just ask your mom.
Good Luck & Think Pink!
Thnx!!
Yes, a padded bra is a real bra.
Thx Jemma! This really helps!
All bra's are bras,just some different than others. It's just that padded bra's give more protection than non-padded or training bras.If ur getting older,you might like padded or moulded bras.hope i help.
x
i wear a trainig bra and im not afraid to say it, but some times other girls my age look almost like they are 15!!!
ps im 11
Ok I got my first bra when I was at the mall.( Total shopping spree!) Anyway, I was trying on clothes when my brother was playing with his ds. I got out and my mom was looking at bras. Then my mom bought me 2 bras ( to start with) and the clothes I was trying on! I did not even have to ask. So that is PRETTY much it!
I'm ten and all of my friends wear bras should I I just love the books and this site plz help me braless
If you feel like you NEED a bra ask your mom about it Kacey. If you don't have signs of breast growth you probably don't need one.
I really want a bra because most of my friends have them and i need them well i got a lot of them in different shapes and stuff too but they are really uncomfortale and i dont wanna wearthem what shoulf i do>\?
Wish me luck! Going to the mall and going to ask for a cupped bra!
i hate the way that im a 32b but some bras fit some dont different styles mean different sizes for you sorry to break it too u girls x
well all i know is that a sports bra IS a REAL bra not just some five year old bra.
FYI. i am so excited because my mom bought me my FIRST BRA TODAY! YAY! :)
URGENT QS ok I've been wearing training bras for awhile nw and. Have grown a little -you know- busty. My moms afraid of me growing up so how do I tell her that I think I need cups. Ps what do you when you run into a guy you know while coming out of a bra store
Hey I'm 14 and I don't wear a bra and my breasts started growing when I was 10. You could always buy one on your own and wash it yourself or you could just tell your mom that you want one because you feel ready. Or if your mom is anything like my mom then you'll just have to patiently wait.
You probably should wear a bra for support && stuff if you've been growing for four years. Hope this helps!
I wear Camis. They protect my breasted when I move and also keep them from showing under my shirt.
Exactly!! They wouldn't be training BRAS or sports BRAS for no reason.
How often should you change your bra? I wear mine quite often in a row because I don't have many.
Hi tana well you have to be with your mom alone and say mom I think I need a bigger bra but the worse she can do is say no and you could ask another trusted adult to ask maybe aunt sister grandmom ect..and when you run in to a guy when your walking out of a bra store umm im not sure but that is really embarrassing
dear annonomous- ive heard my mom say to my older sister you can wear a bra for 3 days in a row, then wash it.
to tana- its really simple. YOU DONT TELL HER YOU NEED CUPS!!! lol, ok this sounds like bad advice but no its not. u dont say mom i need cups. you go and say "mom i need a bigger bra. i was thinking cups? maybe...?" or just say "mom i need a new bra i need a bigger one" then when your there and trying em on try on cups. when she sees u in it and sees that u fill it up, she'll know that u need one
i didnt get one till i was 11 now im 13 an i wear cups,my friend still doesnt wear one, lawl :)
All my friends wear different things.
Maya and Serena wear cups.
Jasmine wears a cami.
Emma sometimes wears a crop top
And me and Charlotte don't wear anything. (Although I should)
Maya, Serena, Emma and Charlotte are 12
Me and Jasmine are 11 (Nearly 12)
Names changed for privacy.
I wrote my mum telling her to read about bras. The book was called Girlology's: There's something new about you. I think I need a training bra with padding to hide my nipples.
I am 10years old. All of the others girls wear training bras in my class and I don't. :( how do I ask my mom since I'm really shy? What if she says no? I measured by breasts and I'm a 32a. Please answer soon.
Hi I'm ten years old. Should I get a training bra cause you can see tiny bumps under my shirts sometimes. But I don't know exactly how to ask my mom. What if she says no? Please answer soon!!!!!! :)
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