Emergency Valentine help for ViolinGirl!

To give a Valentine or not give a Valentine? That's the big question as we get closer and closer to February 14.

What's your opinion? ViolinGirl doesn't know what to do.

Dear PLS,
I need help now!!!!! I have this crush I really, really, really like. He is cute and funny and nice. We talk and I need to know whether I should give him a valentine??? I have ways I could give it without him seeing or I could just hand it to him. What should I do????!!!!!

It depends on how daring ViolinGirl is feeling. If you give it to him secretly, and he says nothing about it, you will never know if he liked it or was embarrassed by it or whatever. If you give it to him in person, he may be so surprised and embarrassed that you may get embarrassed, too. He may be thrilled, but you have to prepare for something less than thrilled.

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What other Valentine's Day advice or questions do you have?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why don't you give him an anonymous valentine which leads to a scavenger hunt that ends at a flower. It's romantic and if he follows the hunt he might actually like you.

January 30, 2012 at 10:20 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think you should get to know him, like say hi, ask about homework, you know, stuff like that. Then when you become closer to him give a few hints about how you feel. Then you can send him a valentine.

January 30, 2012 at 4:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just calm down and give him a valentine

January 30, 2012 at 5:14 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

I think you should. From then on Follow Your Heart.

January 30, 2012 at 7:03 PM  
Anonymous Scarlett said...

If you're shy you could text or email him a valentine.

January 30, 2012 at 10:05 PM  
Anonymous Girl HH ND said...

Guys...nothing to do with this but please answer....

OK, i have been accepted at college A, but college B (which i wanna go to) hasnt announced the results yet. College A is asking for money to hold the place, and my parents dont wanna pay it. They wanna ask College B. BUT College B KNOWS that college A sends results before them. People dont go and ask if they have a chance! BTW my parents think i do have a chance. All my friends say that their parents are gonna pay it. How do i persuade my parents to not go to College B and just pay some money?!

January 31, 2012 at 7:13 AM  
Anonymous gebth6 said...

talk to your parents, and calm down. You might want to talk to your parents one at a time, it depends. Maybe offer to donate some of your money? (Only a suggestion.) Hope this helped!

January 31, 2012 at 7:45 PM  
Anonymous ~~DolphinGirl~~ said...

I have the same question! My five year crush(I've liked him since the beginning of first grade and up to now which is the middle of sixth... So more like a five and a half year crush) finally broke up with his GF and I'm soo happy. But I don't know what step to take next...

January 31, 2012 at 9:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear PLS,

I like this Holland guy but I don't really know if I will give him a valentine or not.



February 1, 2012 at 5:25 AM  
Anonymous bookkworm said...

i'm homeschooled so i don't know that much about valentines, but i say ou should.
you could say things like " i think you're nice, i like your jokes"-
something like that.whatever you say, don't get a heart-shaped, or covered in hearts card and don't gush.

February 1, 2012 at 5:31 PM  
Anonymous ria said...

i think you should as, if you do,you'll get to know if the person likes you back or not!

February 2, 2012 at 5:50 AM  
Anonymous La said...

hi DolphinGirl
maybe you shouldn't talk to hime RIGHT away, because he might still be getting over her. wait two weeks, the maybe tell him you like him. also, you might not want to tell him how LONG, in case he would be overwhelmed!

February 2, 2012 at 12:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yeah, I have this problemo too! I have a crush that I am soooo in love with!!! I MIGHT give him a valentine. Or maybe when I see him alone I can say something. How romantic is that? <3

February 2, 2012 at 2:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm exactly the same as you! I think that if you really, really truly like hime then you should send him an annonymous Valentine, like i am gonna do. I have never sent a Valentine before. Good Luck!!!x

February 2, 2012 at 3:13 PM  
Anonymous Kenziegurl!!8 said...

You should tell him how you feeltrust your heart mainly though if you feel stonglyfor him give it to him you could always give it to him just as a friend and get to know him more and make a bigger immpression

February 2, 2012 at 10:33 PM  
Anonymous Frustrated! said...

Hey! I'm really upset because there's these three guys in my class who are bullying my friend. She's pretty short and they keep calling her shorty and stupid and idiotic and anything they can say that can bring her down! Today she ran out of the room in tears! My friends and I are SO mad at them! We felt so bad that one of my other friends started crying! They even denied it infront of the teacher! Please, please help!!!!!!!!! :'(

February 3, 2012 at 10:15 PM  
Anonymous Frustrated! said...

P.S Im in grade6

February 3, 2012 at 10:16 PM  
Anonymous *(onedirection)* said...

to frustrated:

has the teacher seen any of this? because if she hasn't you should tell her and if she doesn't believe you you should tell a parent, another teacher, principal or even a school counsellor (if you have one??) They will know what to do. In the meantime try to avoid them as much as possible, ignore them and just tell them to go away because they're being jerks. This might not work so you should definitly tell someone about whats happening and they can sort it out for you.

to everyone else:

if you really are in love with a person just tell them you like him. You will never never be able to find out what her really feels without asking, so if you are brave just take a chance and ask him! you never know he might be in love with you too but he's too shy to say!

February 4, 2012 at 2:06 AM  
Anonymous Frustrated said...

Thanks onedirection! No the teachers haven't seen any of it! Me and my friends will make sure they stay away from us and we stay away from them! This isn't the first time she's been bullied by them though! She never did anything to them but but for some reason they like picking on her! Weird huh?

February 4, 2012 at 9:35 AM  
Anonymous ellabella said...

how do you talk to boys? i always think what i say will be silly so i never really talk to them including my crush :(

February 4, 2012 at 6:41 PM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

hey slip a small heart with your locker # on it in his locker. its a pretty good idea if i say so myself. happy v-day from texas!
<3 -t-swizzle

February 5, 2012 at 10:51 PM  
Anonymous redpinkpurple girl said...

There is a boy in my martial arts class that I like. He always wants me as a partner when we pair up. Once, at the end of class when we are supposed to tell every one good job and shake their hand, I held out my hand to him and he said nah. Then, he spun me around and held out his hand and said good job! Also, at the Christmas party, he kept stealing my Santa hat. Do you think he likes me?

February 6, 2012 at 12:55 AM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

Yes redpinkpurple, it sounds like he likes you-or he just really likes you as a friend. But he probably has a crush on you! Congratz! If you're brave, just ask him. If your're not feeling too brave, look for the hints. (likw you listed above) and also if he tries to show off to you or if you find he sometimes stares at you. Good luck! :P

February 6, 2012 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm overweight and not comfortable in my body. Any tips? Please help! (BTW im 11)

February 7, 2012 at 9:31 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

@ ellabella
I wasn't comfartable talking to boys before too (and it didn't help that they would only talk to me if it was about homework or something like that) . I watched and learned from the girls who can do it like it's a piece of cake. Just be yourself and dont try to hard. its just like talking to a friend! It sounds scary, but it worked for me! Good luck :)

February 7, 2012 at 9:35 PM  
Anonymous ViolinGirl said...

Ok I'm gonna give him a valentine but should I give one to my whole class and make his a little different or should I just give one to him? And if I just give one to him should I just hand it him or put it where he can find it? Yes I'm the same person and I'm 12 by the way.

February 8, 2012 at 5:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Personally, I think you should give one to the entire class and give one that is a little more special(don't overdo it) and drop few hints. And I have the same problem, too, ViolenGirl. So don't feel alone. :)

February 8, 2012 at 8:38 PM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

Im right in the middle of that. Except, all my friends say he likes me back. He's funny, plays guitar like me, and a little weird ( but i like that ). Hes said a few weird things to me. Like one time he said " Ill give you twenty bucks to be my massage chair. " he also said, " Your the egg mcmuffin of weird people" and " If you ever need brain surgery, can i be your surgeon? " So Pls, Do you guys think he likes me?

February 9, 2012 at 8:40 AM  
Anonymous ViolinGirl said...

Yes it sounds like he likes you a lot.

February 9, 2012 at 5:18 PM  
Anonymous Mermaid Girl said...

Hey guys... I need help with my Valentines Day checklist..
1. Make acne go away at least a little bit.
All my parents give me are baby wipes to clean my face and it isn't working well... Can I just use regular soap or do I need special soap?
2. Cute hairstyles.
I have long, curly blonde hair and I need some hair styles. It looks really good straight, but I'm not sure if I should wear it down but straightened or curly and up or something like that.
3. Tips to get my crush to notice me.
Just any tips would do;)

February 9, 2012 at 7:59 PM  
Anonymous CutieCake said...

It's true what ViolinGirl said monkeyrose. sounds like he likes you!

February 9, 2012 at 9:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had a time like that but i just gave him a card and chocolate and he liked my idea,maybe that will help i dont know it depends on what he likes

February 10, 2012 at 10:32 PM  
Anonymous ballerinagirl said...

can anyone help me? can you think of any ideas to start a conversation with my crush? by the way im really shy, and ive never talked to him. but i really want to get to know him.
he usually hangs out with the popular group and im not really in that group.

February 11, 2012 at 1:35 AM  
Anonymous ViolinGirl said...

How do you know him? If he is in the same class ask him if he got the homework. Or if you share a interest ask him about that. My crush and I both take violin lessons from the same teacher and for me it started out as asking him what song he was playing. Since he is a little bit farther then me I then asked him for some tips. And after we talked about our upcoming performance. You can check his facebook for ideas too. And if nothing else make small talk about anything. Just act like he is one of your friends. Hope I helped!

February 11, 2012 at 2:30 PM  
Anonymous Millymoo said...

To mermaid girl

1. I use a facial scrub which works well. Maybe even try some pimple cream from the chemist? Also look for moisturisers and suncream that have no oil in them. Don't bombard your face with different lotions and creams though it might make acne worse. If your acne is very bad you can ask your doctor for stronger creams.

2. Try a different hairstyle everyday. Examples: Ponytail, pigtails, braid, i really love fishtail braids, sometimes leave it out and natural, sometimes straighten it. You can experiment with different styles and see which ones you like the best. You could also use diffferent clips, headbands and other cute hair accessories sometimes as well.
If you want to you could even go for a completely new haircut only if you're brave though. Maybe you could try different coloured hair extensions or streaks if you are allowed to?

3. When he walks past make eye contact and smile and say hi. Maybe give him a valentines card but put an extra special message in his or even a chocolate.
Sit next to him in a class and start a conversation. Or even ask him if he feels like going somewhere with his and your friends together after school. Pool maybe?

I hope this helped you. Goodluck in your Valentines day checklist.

February 11, 2012 at 6:19 PM  
Anonymous wolfgurl said...

to ballerinagirl, hmmm well maybe you can go up to him and talk about some sports or somethings he likes to do. my crush and i are both in orchestra, and whenever i have the chance to talk to him we talk about orchestra. hope it helped!

February 12, 2012 at 9:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey mermaiid girl! I use facial cleansers and lotions to keep my face nice and clean. I also use toners. Never scrub ur face hard or tht could give u flare ups and give u scars. Do not keep on switching products. Ur face does not need fancy lotions, just some good care. On ur hair. It sounds nice so u can straiten ur hair once and leave it curled the next. If u straiten ur hair to much itwill damage ur natural curls. Try different accesories and wear it different. Now to make himm notice u be yourself. Say hi "Todd "and give him a beautiful smile when u see him in the hallways. Try to be his friend and wave to him casually wen u see him. On valentines day give everyone in ur class a valentine and give him one slightly more decorated. - Icygirl:)

February 12, 2012 at 12:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear PLS girls,
I am only in 5th grade, and I am already thinking of the middle school dances next year! I tell people I don't like to dance, but secretly, I do. Some sixth graders tell me that they slow danced with some boys. How do I have the nerve to do that, or even GO to the dance? Can I have some suggestions?

February 12, 2012 at 5:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey u should just be urself. Enjoy ur rest of thhe year. As 4 next year just have fun at the dance! If a boy asks u to dance its ur choice to dance with him and if u do dont worry about wat hes thinking about you just concentrate on dancing. You will be grateful when ur done and have a good experience. I hoped I helped. Think pink! -Icygirl:)

February 12, 2012 at 10:43 PM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

hey anonymous no big deal. Those 6th graders might have been lying. And you dont have to slow dance if you dont want to. If your like me you will probably end up making fun of the people slow dance by doing the moon walk in slow motion or something. And if you want to dance with a boy, let him make the move. If he doesnt want to, or just isn't ready, then just have fun. Just go if you want to, and have FUN. : ID

February 13, 2012 at 6:15 PM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

Im giving out valentines to my class and my crush is in my class. Should i make his a little different? Like putting a TOTALLY different candy on there?

February 13, 2012 at 6:18 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

Ya totally monkeyrose! you'll get him interessted!Go 4 it!!!!! Good luck!

February 13, 2012 at 8:30 PM  
Anonymous ViolinGirl said...

Thanks for the help pink locker girls! Now just one more question. Any help for a girl whose crush quit violin before she could give him his valentine and now she'll probably never see him again. Thanks soooooo much!!

February 13, 2012 at 11:39 PM  
Anonymous Maribel said...


February 14, 2012 at 12:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I need help do boys like you the way you are or do they like you by how you look or both?

February 14, 2012 at 7:08 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

@ Marbel
Omg I feel for you! Love hurts! But he is OBVIOUSLY not worth it! You need to gather your friends and forget about him! If u 2 have any pics together, cut him out of it and throw it away! Also, writing your hurt feelings down on a paper, crumpling it up, stomping on it then ripping it up helps!
P.S, be STRONG around him! Show him that you can't care less that he's gone (even if it just on the inside) and then you will soon get over him! Dont worry! Theres plenty of fish in the sea!

@ Anonymous
To tell you the truth, it depends on the guy! If he's really sweet, then he'll be able to see your inner beauty and not just your outer beauty! Although A LOT of guys look for outer beauty ( THEY aren't mature enough to see the inner!). But if he only likes you for your looks- NOT WORTH IT!

Good luck to you both!

February 14, 2012 at 9:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


to: ViolinGirl

does anyone at violin know the boy u like and see him often AND is trustworthy?? If so, give it to them to give it to him. if not, I'm sorrrrry that's sad:(

February 14, 2012 at 10:42 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

For the my last comment, I meant to say "(... on the outside.)" Not on the inside! Sorry guys!

February 15, 2012 at 7:41 AM  
Anonymous Unknown said...

ok my bff is a boy and i think i am in love with him. should i tell him?

February 26, 2012 at 8:22 PM  
Anonymous *Owl*8 said...

I REALLY like this one guy. we are good friends. he was dating this girl,she lost interest in him and he never really showed any interest in her. She broke up with him and now I really want to tell him how I feel. What's a 6th grade girl to do? Btw I'm changing from kkravenclaw8 to *Owl*8

February 27, 2012 at 4:49 PM  
Anonymous Maribel said...

It depends If you think your strong to handle this and if your ready for this. Just follow what your heart wants. Only do it if your daring yourslef kind of girl. :)
Think pink!

February 28, 2012 at 11:23 PM  
Anonymous erie24 said...

ok so i have this crush and he told me he likes me back. i got him something for vday and and i asked him if he likes itand he never told me!! is it a yes or no ps i texted it to him.

March 2, 2012 at 6:27 PM  
Anonymous erie24 said...

i was at spirit night for my school and i was sitting next to my crush. i bought him a choclate rose from the bake sale and my friends tried to give it to him from me but he said he wouldnt accept it unless i gave it to him. they got him into the hallway and i was so nervous, i thew it at him. he said thanks and walked away! what should i do please help me!!

March 2, 2012 at 6:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


just give him some time

March 6, 2012 at 1:05 AM  
Anonymous still in love??? said...


Help!!! When I first started at my new school, I think I had a crush on this boy. I had this tingley shy feeling whenever he looked at me, I came near him... But now I know him better, and that feeling doesn't come anymore. Do I still like this guy???
Please help!!!

March 6, 2012 at 9:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

still in love???

it's kind of hard to tell when you're a tween because our moods are constantly changing. Maybe you do, maybe you don't. Imagine you are dating him. Does that make you happy? If it does, you probably like him.
hope I helped!

March 8, 2012 at 9:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi pls please dont fell bad violin girl i have three bf and they always make me laugh a sign that like me ?????????????

March 15, 2012 at 9:45 AM  
Anonymous dont tell anybody i have crush said...

Hi pls please dont fell bad violin girl i have three bf and they always make me laugh a sign that like me ?????????????

March 15, 2012 at 9:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if u like someone either show how u feel or not by giving him a valentine or u could do it on a little small card and candy bcuz its simple and he wnt know anything

March 19, 2012 at 7:33 AM  
Anonymous *owl*8 said...

I have a crush and we talk a lot. We used to sit togther during math. He chose to sit near me! Everyone knows I like him (even him) because of my backstabbing ex-friend. My bff sits @ his table in homeroom. She called me over to talk and he ,apparently, said "omg did u know she likes me?" she said, covering for me, "no, why would she tell me that?" he said "Well I only like her as a friend." I am so glad she told me but now I don't know what to do! We talk all the time, I've caught him staring on a few occasions, and he chose to sit diagonally across from me. He only talkes around his friends, he turns red every time he gets in front of class, and he is so funny and sweet. What do I do!? BTW Hunger Games Rule. I saw the midnight premire!!!

March 24, 2012 at 9:03 PM  
Anonymous Bubz said...

If i have a huge crush on someone i always try to be their friend before girlfriend because you need to show him that u care and that u really are a great friend and then he might start seeing u as someone really special xx

March 26, 2012 at 1:46 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

I have two crushes!! I think that they like me back but i dont know 4 sure. My first crush is nice and funny and in the "popular" clique, and my second one is funny but sometimes a little mean, he is also in the"popular" clique. The number one is cute, with dark hair and with tan skin, and perfect teeth, and the second one has a tan with beach dirty blond hair. I just dont know who to pick and if I can tell one that I like them! I am in the "popular" clique but I am not mean. Before Ican do that I will just work harder on being there friends! Any advice girls? Thx!!!

March 27, 2012 at 12:52 AM  
Anonymous Duckie said...

I love Valentines Day! I like giving gifts to my girlfriends. I still think boys are icky and gross, so I don't gey involved with the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thingy. I do have a tip though, some guys don't like chocolate or sweets. If your crush is kinda mean, don't do chocolate. Almost all boys love sharks. If you can think of anything shark related and romantic, go for it!

Good luck! You're gonna need it if you use the shark idea!

March 29, 2012 at 1:30 PM  
Anonymous dont tell anybody that i have a crush said...

Maybe you should take the chance and ask would you be my boyfriend so good luck

March 30, 2012 at 4:29 AM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

OMG I <3 THE HUNGER GAMES SOOOOO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SO AWSOME AND EPIC!!!! But so sad and gory but still awsome!!!!!

April 6, 2012 at 10:04 PM  
Anonymous Adriana, 11 said...

I used to like this boy and I wanted to give him a valentine so what I did is I gave one to almost all my grade, but I made one extra special one for him. Then he ended up liking me. To get a boy to like you you have to be really, really nice to them and to everyone around them. (but don't stalk him. Boys hate that!)
Good Luck!

April 15, 2012 at 3:16 AM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

I agree 100% with Adriana.

July 27, 2012 at 1:36 PM  

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