Question 21: Jenny's parents say she can't paint her fingernails red

Don't you just love a good manicure? Jenny sure does, but there's a problem. She wants red nails and her mom and dad say NO.

Dear PLS,
What should I dooo ??????????? I want to wear red nail polish. My parents won't let me? Please help me! And pleeeasee don't tell anyone.
Jenny, 10

I think red nail polish is fun, but I understand Jenny's situation. I think she should talk more to her parents about it. Can they agree on a not-too-bright shade of red? What if she agrees to wear it only the weekend and take it off for school? Is there another color, like purple or pink, that they would say yes to? Or, as a last resort, when will they think she's old enough for red polish?
 
You have to be calm and reasonable because parents really like that.
 
Any other nail polish ideas out there?
 
Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Trust me! Your parents are just trying to protect you (believe it or not)It may not make any sense from your view, but maybe from their view they think it gives off a bad message. My parents don't care about red nail polish, But my mom didn't let me wear this one purple emerald ring because she said it gave off a "bad vibe" I didn't understand at first but just try to reason with them, or atleast ask them why they don't want you to so you can atleast understand their point of view. :)

January 5, 2012 at 12:47 AM  
Anonymous Its a problem-ish said...

Hi jenny

This isn't so much a 'problem'.i think it is more like an...'annoying rule' However, if you really want to, i guess it could be a bit frustrating. I'm 11 and i don't really wear nail polish, unless its a nail party or a big function. I have an idea, but it is kind of 'long term', and may not work. So, you wear light pink, and slowly move towards red. By doing this, and not mentioning red again, your parents will believe that you are old enough to wear red nail polish, as you didn't pester them like: Mum i want red nail polish. Why can't i have it?! WHY??!! YOur the worst parents in the whole world!!!', or something like that. Just be gradual and grown up. P.S- they may have a point...Bright red- and you are only 10! Do like Jemma said, or like i said.

Think Pink(not red!) :-D

January 5, 2012 at 5:56 AM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

I dont like red nail polish because it leaves this pink stuff on my nails. Plus your parents might think its too mature for you. So I just dont like red nail polish. But its up to your parents.

January 5, 2012 at 9:08 AM  
Anonymous 2cool said...

Maybe you can ask your parents why and when questions. The might say "because I said so" for the why question. Ask them WHEN you can were red nail polish. You might want to give them reasons why you want to were red. Like "Because it goes with my fave outfit" I dont think you should give the reason "because everyone else is" Thats never a great idea... Well hope I helped!

January 5, 2012 at 12:24 PM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

im 11
last Xmas my mom let me and my 8 year old sister wear red nail polish
i think sometimes red nail polish is a little 2 old 4 kids
especially if its a bright shade
if u pick a shade that isnt very bright it should be OK 4 weekends
but still ask your parents first
sorry this was so long

January 5, 2012 at 1:13 PM  
Anonymous IveLivedThroughIt said...

Well My Mom hated me wearing red for two reasons. They were both very valuable reasons and now I understand why she said what she said. Jenny,think about maybe putting on a lighter shade of red ( not so bright) and showing it to your parents. Ask what they think? If they dont mind listen to there rules and follow them. This helped me as after half a year I was allowed any red nail polish I wanted

January 5, 2012 at 3:01 PM  
Anonymous Mere said...

Jenny, I have never had that problem, but I understand your frustration. I love to fit in at school, wear what other people wear, and try to make people like me. I've realized that's not the best idea. You shoud try to be yourself. If you just want to wear red nail polish becuase others do and you want to be like them, try something unique. Maybe try a pink or another bright color to substitute for read until your parents let you. Ask your mom when she was allowed to wear nail polish or if she had that same problem. Probably, your mom will understand and maybe set an age you can wear read nail polish. I'll pray for what is best for you! Trust, me, I'm praying right now!

January 5, 2012 at 4:46 PM  
Anonymous I'mSureICanHelp! said...

Well you see some parents don't like when their kids grow up and want more things (e.g) nail polish IF U really want red pick a lighter shade and not too bright they could agree they don't want u to look like a hot chick right? so ur 10

January 5, 2012 at 4:46 PM  
Anonymous rootbeerfloat said...

hey, IveLivedThroughIt, why didn't your mom let u? my mom doesn't care. I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IS GOING ON!

January 5, 2012 at 8:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey guys!
Sorry but I'm going to ask a question, and please answers it if you can!
I went to the bathroom and I was wiping. And there was blood! not in my underwear, but once i wiped.Is this my first period, or something different!
Thanks

January 5, 2012 at 9:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma, I think what she meant by please don't let anyone see this is to just email the answer to her and not post it on your website.

January 6, 2012 at 11:13 AM  
Anonymous taylor said...

dear anoymous it may be the start of your period but no not yet you are getting there though

January 6, 2012 at 5:27 PM  
Anonymous I was the one who was anonymous said...

Thanx taylor

January 6, 2012 at 6:14 PM  
Anonymous Love Pink said...

Jenny

There could b many reasons ur parents don't want u 2 wear red nail polish. Red nail polish turns ur nails yellow very quickly if u wear it alot, and a good tip 4 that is if u soak ur nails in lemon juice. If this is the reason ur mom doesn't want u wearing red nail polish then tell her this tip. It might help pursuade her into letting u wear red nail polish.

January 6, 2012 at 8:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am REALLY scared! When I wipe there is blood and blood on my underwear BUT I have discharge still.. What is this?

January 7, 2012 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To be honest, if your parents think it gives off a bad message, then it probably does in there eyes and perhaps to their peers. Sometimes you think your old enough for stuff but you actually aren't. Like an 8 yr old with a phone. But it's more that you don't look old enough to wear a
Mature colour. One thought. My mum hates it if I have chipping off
Nail polish which happens soooo easily and looks gross and she is also worried about my nail turning weak which is unhealthy when ur young. mebbs opt for a clear with glitter or pink or green.
Hope this helps

January 7, 2012 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Okay. Parents HATE when their kids grow up. A red nail polish is a mature color. That's why parents don't like it. If you have a dark shade, ask your parents if you could wear a light shade. Or even a dark pink! I never been through this problem, but I can tell you, it would be frustraiting. Ask your parents why you can't wear red nail polish. Then ask them how old you have to be in order to wear red nail polish. (:

January 8, 2012 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

I know how u feel. My parents won't allow me to do nail art like all the other girls in my class. It is sooooo unfair! :(

January 9, 2012 at 8:52 AM  
Anonymous Polka Stripes said...

Jenny, try to think of the reasons why your parents might not want you to wear red nail polish. One is that dark colors such as red (also black, purple, and blue) generally tend to leave a pinkish tint on your nails after wearing it. That is not healthy for your nails because of the acid remnants sitting on your nail. Secondly, when you think of red, you may think of mature business women racing to their work! Maybe they think it's not really a color that fits you. If you REALLY want to wear red nail polish, discuss with your parents the terms of letting you wear it. My advice is to start wearing a base coat, which will prevent that tint. ☺ I really hope this helps! ♥

January 10, 2012 at 2:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you should ask them why and when u are going to be allowd if u dont hear what u want try and be mature about it ps. my favorite nail polish colour is electric blue and u should always wear a base coat whenwearing nail polis:•)

January 10, 2012 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my perants let me were nail art and i think u should go with a darker pink lighter red i personally do the same thing or u could just talk to them and tell them that there is not a promblem with red nail polish

January 10, 2012 at 6:40 PM  
Anonymous UNICORNS said...

Dear Jenny,
My mom and dad will not let me wear red nail polish either. I asked and asked and asked and they decided to let me wear a HOT pink and a dark red. See if you can make a compermise.

January 10, 2012 at 7:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

They might be saying that because you are not allowed to wear it at school???!!!!!

January 11, 2012 at 2:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

maybe you guys could talk about it?
my mom lets me wear nail polish in any color, but she always asks "why?"
maybe you could promise to wear it only on weekends or maybe just do a lighter color or glitter polish.
I'm afraid I can't help any more than this.
good luck!

January 14, 2012 at 3:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

nail polish has a few acids in it but maybe you could ask if you could do it in another color(lighter)?

January 14, 2012 at 3:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Perhaps, you could try another colour you may like. And btw, maybe ask your parents and tell them why you want to wear red nail polish.

January 15, 2012 at 11:57 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Since you really like red on your nails,try a lighter red,like a soft red.

January 16, 2012 at 10:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ask your parents why you cant.

January 17, 2012 at 4:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well
1)Relax, stay calm it's not that big deal.
2)it's not good to convince your parents about something they been dreaming about to not let them do something untill 18 or then.
3)just stick with your parents rules.Don't make them madd it's badd to make them mad since there old.
Good Luck! & Think Pink!

January 18, 2012 at 10:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Jenny,
I wanted to wear red nail polish too
Mom said I could wear Pink or maroon.
Ask ur mom whether u can use another colour

January 19, 2012 at 4:27 AM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

How do I ask my mom if I can wear red nail polish?

January 25, 2012 at 10:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just ask which colors can you wear and wear those. then ask why you cant wear red

January 27, 2012 at 4:17 PM  
Anonymous Camryn said...

Well, I don't usually wear red nail polish. There are tons of other colours! Try purple or pink!

February 3, 2012 at 10:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

seeing tho as it is almost valentines day... maybe your parents will make an acception for he hollidays

February 6, 2012 at 2:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey jenny , forget red how about a transparent nail paint with heart stickers maybe ur parents will allow u as its almost valentines day !

February 11, 2012 at 3:06 AM  
Anonymous Snipper said...

You could wear a coating over it. I'm not a fan of polish, but couln't you were a red-ish-orange with a coating of clear nail polish to make the colour pop? Hey, my best friend's a fashion freak.

February 11, 2012 at 2:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry my parents dont let me wear blck some times you just have to accept what your parents say and move on
hope i helped love rebekah <3

February 13, 2012 at 12:11 AM  
Anonymous Shizmonetrsly said...

You could ask for a lighter color like, a nice pink or purple or even blue, then when they get used to the idea of painting your nails they will prob let you wear red :). Plus, nail polish isn't a very good thing!! Nail polish has bad chemicals so, it's not all bad to not wear nail polish just remember to always trust your parents :)

February 15, 2012 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You should ask why you can't wear red nail polish. Maybe they have a good reason. Then ask if you can wear colors like pink.Then they might start letting you wear red after a little while. Or you could ask to wear red for a day and then take it off.

February 24, 2012 at 2:53 PM  
Anonymous thatz so sad said...

just try by being sweet (u know like plz plz plz pretty plz with sugar on the top)

February 28, 2012 at 8:28 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Talk to your parents at a time when they are comfortable (not after a bad day at work). Ask them politely WHY you can't wear red nail polish. Do not whine. Be calm and reasonable, but try to think of ways to reassure them and sort of downplay their arguments. Do not pressure them to say yes right away. Again, DO NO WHINE. My parents hate that.

March 2, 2012 at 10:54 PM  
Anonymous Warrior Fireheart said...

Here's an idea, paint it something close to radlike dark orange(the same color as fireheart's pelt).

March 7, 2012 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad. :(:(:(:( I think red is pretty.

March 8, 2012 at 9:03 PM  
Anonymous I LOVE NAIL POLISH!!! said...

TOOO BAD!!!!

March 8, 2012 at 9:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

do you know that is totally not fair?so who CARES?just stand up to your parents and try to be reasonable with them and explain the reasons why you want red nail polish and who knows maybe they give in? and anoher tip never ever scream at your parents if they refuse again because that hurt your dream of having rad nail polishand worse you can really hurt your parents feelings. so good luck!

March 9, 2012 at 4:32 AM  
Anonymous Hannah - comp dancer said...

Alot of grown ups see this as sexy and grown up maybe you should try dark pink or burgende this is like red

March 16, 2012 at 6:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My mom let me play with her make up when I was 3. Then when I turned 8 she let me do my own nails. Ask them why you cant when you can what's the problem with red nail polish it's just like green nail polish but it red!

June 17, 2012 at 6:52 AM  
Anonymous Country girl said...

Try a light shade of red. :)

June 30, 2012 at 12:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree, you should try lighter shades of red and gradually change to red. Your parents might realize how much you want it then. Good luck! :)

July 1, 2012 at 7:16 PM  
Anonymous Vlad ;) said...

Your parents should let you paint your nails i don't know why they don't let you:( I have been painting my nails for as long as i can remember but i only paint them black. I don't know about you but pink is the last color i would paint me nails.

July 27, 2012 at 1:41 PM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

You know what Jenny? maybe your parents think that red is a way to mature color for you and maybe the nail painting is not a problem , maybe the color is a problem so i suggest picking another color like green or blue those are fun colors, or if you are really into red then paint your nails a color similar to red like hot pink or red orange? that's just my opinion and something that i would do if i was in your situation. :)

August 1, 2012 at 2:33 PM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

My mum likes to get creative and she mixes the nail polish colors:) but most of the time they turn out brown or gray :D Do any of your mom's do that or is my mom just weird?

August 1, 2012 at 2:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u dont like red.... its my opinion... id ont like it cuz in 3rd grade i pulled the fire alarm and got in trouble... i was grounded...i wanna forget that.... i cried..... im a good person tho...

September 17, 2012 at 8:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jenny , I kbow how it feels:l my.family always makes fun of me because I cant paint my nails and im in 8th grade already ! I had a talk with them and they said that I was there little girl and in my head I was like WHAT/??.litttle me? Im sord of nerdy cuz I have straight A's and it gets me mad cause I want to be a cosmetologist and my.dad gets furiois at me when I paint peoples nails :( sometimes I ju
st feel like they just want to control my life but.they just want to protect you be yourself :) dont folloe the poppualar girls there the mean ones be happy that your parents care

June 28, 2013 at 5:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

U started your period its a natural process it happened to every girl it comes once a month u can search it up online wear a pad or tampon

October 5, 2013 at 2:42 PM  

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