Question 22: Sarah's got a crush problem

Friends like to share lots of things but they don't like sharing crushes very much. Check out Sarah's question.

Dear PLS,
My friend is convinced I like her crush, but I don't. She won't believe me + my other friend is getting her period soon and she's worried. What do I say?
Sarah, 10

Sarah has two questions here, but let's take on the first one. It sounds to me like you've already told your friend you're not crushing on her crush. Keep acting normal and try to move on. If you do like the same guy, that's OK. It happens. But maybe it's best to keep it a quiet crush. In time, you and your friend may move on and have a different crush.

Any other advice about friends and crushes? Have you ever liked your friend's crush?

Think pink!



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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell her that you don't lie him. If you like someone else give the message to her. Maybe she'll lighten up and see that you don't have a crush on her crush but someone else!

January 6, 2012 at 1:11 PM  
Anonymous Love Pink said...

Just try ignoring (in a nice way) ur friends crush. Don't go out of ur way to talk to him and help her in her quest 4 him 2 b her boyfriend (if that's what she wants)

Hope I helped!!

January 6, 2012 at 8:37 PM  
Anonymous Angel Cake said...

Yes, I've crushed on the same person as my friend, one of the best ways to deal with it (I think) is never bring it up or admit that you like them.

January 6, 2012 at 9:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the same problem, except I like both of my friend's crushes! She- or anyone else doesn't know! So ya I'm using Angel Cake's method! ( My friend is the type who would get mad over that sort of stuff- especially if she knew I liked both of them!)LOL

January 6, 2012 at 9:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I sure hope you girls read these comments because I need help advice anything! I sort of have a crush on a guy im friends with but he acts like a guy around me so how do I know how he feels about me? Everytime I bring around the subject of crushes he gets a little shy.

January 7, 2012 at 4:19 PM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

When i ask the guy i like who he likes he just says My Mommy.

January 7, 2012 at 4:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, just remember that it is completely normal to like a boy who is your friend. But has he ever kept eye contact with you for a little longer than anyone else would? Has he tried showing off to you? Those are some signs that he DOES like you. Also maybe one reason why he gets all shy when you bring up the subject is a sign because if you two are good friends, he might be more open aboutit to you, so maybe he has a crush on you and does'nt want you to know so he gets shy. Just keep being a good friend and if your feeling really brave, you could try getting a friend to ask him for you. Good luck! :)

January 7, 2012 at 6:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I really like my friend's crush, but he likes her. I feel really crushed when I see them together and I feel like dirt. She doesn't know that I like him though. But I have never had a guy crush on me ( where she had tons crush on her)so I'm really unconfident and have low self esteem. I'm always jealous of this friend and I don't know how to stop! Help! :(

January 7, 2012 at 6:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't feel bad :D. I've had the same thing happen to me, and I just decided to let it go. I know it's hard, and will take a while, but you have to try. Your other option is to tell your friend you like him and apologize to her and ask what she thinks you should do. Warning: She may get a little angry, but if she helps you, she's a good friend, and if she doesn't and hates you, she is not a worthy friend. A good friend would understand. ;) Good Luck!

January 8, 2012 at 10:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks! I'll stick with option 1 :) i NEED TO BE STRONG!

January 8, 2012 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just a few days ago i invited my friend up to stay at my house for a while the first day she came up she KISSED my crush!!! I was so upset and i had to pretend nothing was wrong. The worst thing was she knew i liked him :( My advice wait untill she gets over him or your friendship could be in trouble.....

January 9, 2012 at 8:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Help! My mom won't let me get Facetime! All my friends have it and I know that I'm mature enough to know who and who not to talk to. How do I convince her?
P.S. Jemma please post this

January 9, 2012 at 8:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ anonymous january 9 2012 8:06 pm,
I feel so sorry for you and you so called "friend" obviously doesn't deserve to be your friend. Thanks for the advice though!

January 10, 2012 at 5:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

2. If your friend is starting her period then tell her to let her mom know and she will provide her with the right equipment. If she is still scared of it, tell her not to worry as lots of girls are afraid of starting there periods, and just keep reasuring her!

January 11, 2012 at 2:11 PM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

Is it normal to have a crush on a boy is 2 years older than me?
( I'm in 6th grade)

January 12, 2012 at 3:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I did what Jenna said "keep it a quiet crush and maybe she'll move on to a different crush." It actually works. She likes someone else now so I don't feel bad about it. YAY!

January 12, 2012 at 7:10 PM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

@ Anonymous
I have FaceTime
The way it works is you can only talk to people on your contact list
You have to know their email or phone #
Try telling your mom this

January 12, 2012 at 8:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

for your 1st problem,relax this might blow over.if not,tell them that if they can not believe what you say,then ask why.if this still does not work,talk to the school guidence conseler.they will know what to do

January 15, 2012 at 8:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't make this a big problem, this happened to me is 2010 with my friend, as her crush kept asking me to play basketball. I did and he developed a crush on me. I then decided to ask my friend if she wanted to join us, she did, then she decided I liked him aswell, every time she brought up the subject, I told her he was only my friend and that I wouldn't steal him off her, so she could become his girlfriend. After a while, he wasn't my friend and we had a big fight. Afterwards, my friend told me she was happy I told her the truth. Good Luck, don't worry if it takes a while, this took me 6 months!
You'll do it!

January 15, 2012 at 10:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

THANKS Ashley! I'll try it and I hope it works!

January 17, 2012 at 7:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i like this guy but where not allowed to date what should i do

January 17, 2012 at 7:36 PM  
Anonymous holly266 said...

i was on on messenger and i was talking to my friend and she had a friend over and her friend said that i was boring! It really hurt my feelings! All my other friends and family think that im funny and fun! :( what should i do?

January 21, 2012 at 5:04 PM  
Anonymous t-swizzle said...

@holly266 u shouldnt worry bout her opinon.
i need help i like jack (my guy friend) lea likes jack (my friend siince i was 4) jack like ea alo but he likes me 2. oh and this random kid colllin likes lea. what do i do

January 21, 2012 at 10:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just talk to her hopefully she will understand

January 22, 2012 at 2:42 AM  
Anonymous Christeen said...

I have the same problum exept different. my friend that is 2 years younger then me has the same crush that I do but the guy we're both crushing on is my age. she thinks she's his girl friend because he thinks she's like 5 or something and he dosn't care she likes him. what do I do???

January 25, 2012 at 9:42 PM  
Anonymous T-SWIZZLE said...

i really dunno if i like someone or not...sound crazy...u c the post about jack and not sure if i really like jack or not...hes my best friend from pre-skool. we didnt c each other after we went to all girl/boys skools. but our moms hav been trying 2 get us 2gether since we were little. now is the time 2 say something bcuz cottilion is coming up and i dunno if i should ask jack 2 dance. if i do will he b freaked out. wouldnt u if ur best bud asked u 2 dance. i cant ask my friends 4 advise bcuz were a group of 20-ish other words gossip travels. i cant ask my mom...i tried 2 and jack's mom and my mom started txting and giggling like they were 5. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

February 3, 2012 at 6:42 PM  
Anonymous inis said...

omg well tell your friend that you dont and if she is your friend she will believe you and as for your other friend tell her to keep calm she will get throw it all and every girl will get

February 3, 2012 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am having a crush problem right now. it seems as if everyone in the school likes the guy i like. im complelely invisible to him exept when he sais hi,hey or why did you have to do that! and im kinda worried that he might like one of the popular girls that like him. im sorta just some rock that gits in the way.

February 4, 2012 at 3:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

anonymous on 2-4-12

ooh don't feel bad! you are not a rock! One day you will meet a great guy who will love you and so it doesn't matterwho this guy likes. I can't say obviously, but he doesn't sound super kind.

February 6, 2012 at 11:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To: Christeen

You cant really do anything. It's actually best not to act because you and your friend might get into a fight about it.

I hope I helped...

February 6, 2012 at 11:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


Believe me I know how you feel. If you ask him to the dance (which I think you should... go for it!) then maybe he will say yes! And if he says no... atleast you've gotten that settled. As for your mom, tell her the texting hurt your feelings.

Hope I helped

February 7, 2012 at 12:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know it is hard but try to egnore the guy ur friend thinks u like and if u do then whatever egnore ur friend.then if she dont belive you dont be her friend what type of a friend says that??
hope this helped


February 9, 2012 at 4:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

first of all just tell ur friend tht u would like a guy who has ( qualities) and her crush doesent have it so he is not ur type. second is maybe u should surf the web find tips abt a first period and then advice ur friend on it! its simple and dont forget chill!!

February 11, 2012 at 5:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should tell your friend that u dont like her crush and if u do hav a crush on someone tell her

February 11, 2012 at 10:42 AM  
Anonymous hanna said...

It happens. If you dont like your friends crush and she thinks you do tell her why doesnt she believe what your saying. Also tell your friend that she shouldnt worry about her period becuz it going to happen to every girl at some point in their life. Hope you take my advice!

February 18, 2012 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thats not very nice if she doesn't beleive you.If she asks you again tell her that you don't and if you do like somebody you should definitly tell her.Then she might stop bugging you about it.

February 24, 2012 at 2:48 PM  
Anonymous irock said...

my case is quite different - i have a crush on a boy in my class and it seems 2 me that my crush likes my friend.........but im not sure

February 28, 2012 at 6:59 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I had a crush on the same boy as my best friend. Fortunately, she was so nice and understanding about it. Since you don't like the same person, tell her that. Be honest and serious. And why would it matter if you did? You can work this out. If it really bothers you that she doesn't believe you, tell her that! It really helps to be honest.

If you have had your period reassure your friend and give her tips. If you haven't, say, "It won't be so bad. Just be prepared and you'll be fine." If you feel uncomfortable talking about this, change the subject.

March 2, 2012 at 10:49 PM  
Anonymous cuti2 said...

This year me and like 6 of my besties had a crush on the same guy. I wanted to tell them to back off but I didnt want to mess up our friendship. So I waited until the rest of them didnt have a crush on him even though I liked him first, sooooooooooooooooooooooo cccccccccccuuuuuuuuuuuuuttttttttttttteeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!! Trust me if you saw him you would know what I mean.

March 4, 2012 at 4:24 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

OMG @ cuti2
I know EXCACTLY how you feel! There's a boy in my class who like, ALL the girls have a crush on (inculding me) and he is SOOOOO cutteeeee! He's really sweet and funny and he's popular. He never really noticed me untill this year. I think I'm pretty ugly and I don't think he likes me, but my friends keep saying he does. Anyways, to describe his cuteness: Chocolate-brown hair, pale-ish skin, adorable freckles AND THE DREAMIEST EYES EVER!!!!!- sky/baby blue! I could stare into them all day! <3 :-o

March 11, 2012 at 11:26 PM  
Anonymous Thegirlwiththelaughingeyes said...

Ok, so every time my crush looks at me, I start laughing! And he's noticing! And I can't even control it he's just so cute! Please help I don't know what to do!

March 22, 2012 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous Emma said...

There are a lot of cute boys in my class and I crush on all of them!! My advice, Sarah, is to look your friend straight in her eye and say that u don't like her crush. If u know your going to smile then just think of something really sad like a dog being run over or someone dying, (I know that's totally gross and horrible) and then she'll believe you! hope this helped!

April 7, 2012 at 1:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell your friend how you feel.If she still doesnt belive you than just dont pay attention to her crush.

April 15, 2012 at 12:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Heyy i was just reading this saying to myself, wow im going through the SAME thing.
Like me and my best friend are close... But im kinda sorta crushing on the guy she's crushing on =(
So im like idk WHAT TO DO!
Plus, me & him have an awesome connection :)

June 3, 2012 at 10:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont let anyone ruin your life just dont tell any one you like someone or it can spread roumors.i sort of like the boy my friend is crushing on but i already like some one else

June 20, 2012 at 3:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dont let it get to you... My friend and me were crushing on the same guy but it made it so we could understand eachother better

July 12, 2012 at 3:53 PM  
Anonymous random152 said...

i have a crush on the same guy as my friend. i havent told her though. also i want 2 become friends with him without my mum thinking he is my boyfriend which she is totally against. we r in the same group for science, but so is my friend.

October 28, 2013 at 6:46 AM  
Anonymous random152 said...

My friend and I like the same guy. I havent told her though. we (my friend and my crush) r in the same group for science. I don't want it to be obvious that I like him but I want to be friends. any advice?

October 28, 2013 at 6:49 AM  
Anonymous cydnee7261 said...

I have a crush on this guy that I have known since the fourth grade and we are in seventh grade now. He has always been mean to everybody but he picks on me the most. On sixth grade winter break he got my number from a friend and we flirted and he was really nice. When school started up again he was a jerk. I think he is a jerk to gain popularity and have an ego-boost because he isnt tall or skinny (kind of like Theodore from Alvin and the Chipmunks). I think he likes me (which he has told me before) still. Please help!

November 6, 2013 at 11:59 PM  

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