Question 24: Is it OK to meet guys online?

Amy doesn't give us too much information, but it sounds like she has a boyfriend she met online. This can happen very easily today with Facebook, texting etc. But it isn't a good idea to get super close to someone you've never met in person.

Dear PLS,
i have a boyfriend and we both love each other alot. But the problem is i have never met him face to face, i mean i know how he looks and all but i'm afraid he won't like me back the way i look!! and we are like meeting each other tomorrow!! what should i do?? please help me because i can't stop freaking out!
Amy, 14

OK, Amy, Here are my rules for staying safe:

1)Don't start relationships - even friendships - just through the computer or texting. Someone could pretend to be a nice 14-year-old guy, but could really be a creepy 40-year-old guy. Not good.

2)Only have online or texting conversations with people you know well and have met in person. Do not share info like your phone number, address, or where you go to school with strangers.

3)NEVER agree to meet a stranger in person, even if they seem nice online or have a cute photo.

Sorry this post is a bit of a downer, but better safe than sorry! Can you back me up here, Pink Locker girls?

Think pink!
Jemma


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you were planning to meet him, then you can either cancel or you could go with a parent.

January 6, 2012 at 11:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Amy!
I think that Jemma is right you shouldn't make a relationship online. I suggest that you don't go meet the boy. Or ask your parents to come with you or something. Hope I helped. Ps it doesn't matter if he thinks your pretty it is your personality that counts :)

January 6, 2012 at 12:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well it's probably best that you don't meet him in person. Who knows you might get kidnapped or I might just be a joke. It's pretty dangerous and I'm actually making a short film about it You should probably tell your mom or a teacher.

January 6, 2012 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

guys she sent this is on valentines day! she must have met him ages ago!i wonder if shes ok...

January 6, 2012 at 6:54 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

GO with a parent. It is the probaly the best thing to do if you don't want to cancel meeting him.

January 6, 2012 at 8:32 PM  
Anonymous Love Pink said...

Lots of things like this end badly. U don't want 2 end up kidnapped, so just cancel ur date. Nobody wants u 2 get hurt, so just stay away. Many people think its funny to joke with someone by being their "boyfriend/girlfriend". Sorry to crush ur love life, but it's better to b safe than sorry!!

January 6, 2012 at 8:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ya its true! I hope shes ok too!!!!!!!!!!!!

January 6, 2012 at 9:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If I were you I'd tell an adult and stay away from whom ever "he" is because online people post fake pictures all the time for all you know it could be a woman that's old enough to be your grandma...

January 8, 2012 at 5:02 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

I totally agree with Jemma. I will never ever give away personal information to anyone unless I know him/her well and have met them in person. And if you did give away some info that u r not supposed to, I suggest u talk with a parent.

January 9, 2012 at 8:56 AM  
Anonymous FluffyBunnySocks said...

I go to an online public school (sounds kinda weird) But its true. I have a BFF there and we really wanna meet. I have a few friends really. We know what each other looks like. And I know what yall are saying but my mom says I cant meet her till a "meet" Her. PLz help and seriously HELP I dont really want all the same sorta stuff like dont meet. Sorry but please "help!"

January 9, 2012 at 10:44 AM  
Anonymous KK Ravenclaw said...

Ok so I don't want to sound like one of those snobby nerds who say they are really smart but, I took and SRI test to see what level I read at. Reading is my life and i've read millions of them but I looked up my grade on their site and I got 1278. I'm in 6th grade. I read at an 11th grader's level. I can't read those books though because they are "inaproproite" I mean, seriously, What girl doesn't KNOW about all of those things at my age unless you are homeschooled or something. I have read a few books with "inapropoite" things but I kinda ignored them and it wasn't even that bad. I love being the "smart one" except I always read below my level in lit circles and kids have to read a book higher than their level because I'm in their group. I know this is totally off topic but I just had to say it. One other bad thing is that boys are always intimadated by me. I've never had a "real" bf. Did I mention what grade i'm in? I also get mostly A's and I'm a "goody-Goody" When our class got detention cuz a few kids were talking I completly lost it and was crying. I couldn't help it. I was made fun of for overeacting just cuz all of the other kids don't care about school. Trust me I'm not about to change. It just kinda annoys me I am new and...blonde I am glad to prove that I'm not a bubbly blonde. I missed the gifted program by 3 points...3 POINTS!! Any advice or people in the same situation?

January 9, 2012 at 7:34 PM  
Anonymous hopeful helper said...

@KK Ravenclaw i am like the smartest person in my 3 grade split class and im in the middle grade. Everyone says i am smart and i am not made fun of it. Sometimes its kinda hard though and i was also tested for the gifted program. I was determined not gifted but below the level i should be in school, meaning i should be in a higher grade. My teachers didnt take the advice though and i got mad and still do sometimes considering i am usually done before everybody. My advice for you is just shrug of the mean comments and dont change. someday a special guy will come around and fall in love with you. if you are lucky enough to be different dont ever change no matter how hard it seems to be who you are. :)

January 9, 2012 at 11:29 PM  
Anonymous KK Ravenclaw said...

@Fluffybunnysocks
maybe you should set up a time for your parents and her parents to meet and make sure that niether familes are crazy. I would talk it out with your mom and/or dad. I would think since it's a school there wouldn't be any creeps but I would find out for sure. Don't ask them any personal info though cuz her parents could be thinking exactly what your parents are and personal info is well...personal.

January 10, 2012 at 8:01 AM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

Ok first the there is no need to say anything bad about homeschooling.
I'm homeschooled. But I think I can relate to you. My mom said I read at like a 12th grade level and I am an A student too. I haven't done anything really bad like lieing since I was like 3. And I don't have anything against blondes. My best friend is blonde.
I know it's hard to be the new kid but you just have to stand up for your self. I hope this helped.

January 10, 2012 at 1:23 PM  
Anonymous FluffyBunnySocks said...

@KK Ravenclaw,

Thanks ill try that :)

January 11, 2012 at 1:33 PM  
Anonymous kk Ravenclaw said...

I didn't mean to say there was anything wrong with homeschooling I just couldn't think of any reason a kid doesn't know those things when they are in 6-7th grade. I did know that is usaully happenes that you find out from a school video or from your friends at school. People who are homeschooled are less likely to kow that stuff but still do most of the time because they aren't exposed to the school atmosphere. Anyways, Thanks for the help and advice from Ashley and hopeful helper.

January 11, 2012 at 5:26 PM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

I know this has nothing to do with this but all my friends say the guy i like likes me. He does stuff like joke around with me and yesterday he said " If you need brain surgery can i be your brain surgeon? " Im friends with him and we have the same guitar teacher but what do i do? And also the other day another one of my guy friends was talking about the three C's. He says thats how guys know who is a good person to crush on. But thats when i tuned out to him and listened to my ipod. So anyways do you think he likes me?

January 11, 2012 at 7:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what r the three c's?

and kk ravenclaw I totally am a lot like u, but I don't get made fun of... the kids probably make fun of u because they r actually jealous of you! make a new friend by joining a class or going to a camp

January 11, 2012 at 11:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ib be bummed if i were you. you could always have your parent come and check him out and see if he really is who he says he is.

January 12, 2012 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, if he says he is like 10, 11 or 12 he might even be 40 or 50. A lot of people do that. Don't trust everyone!

January 12, 2012 at 7:51 PM  
Anonymous Jem said...

So my dad found out I was using my real name for this forum website, and he freaked out. I didn't understand why, but then he told me how people get kidnapped over the internet and killed... Then I changed my username. Really, better safe than sorry. Or dead.

January 12, 2012 at 9:16 PM  
Anonymous zoey said...

Well I thinck Jemma is right.You shouldn't date anyone until you see hm face to face to get his real image.They might text you a photo of them,and it's not really them. Even if you see a photo of them it might be a 50 year old man or a kidnaper.My advice is to cancel your date.

January 14, 2012 at 8:02 PM  
Anonymous Kathy said...

Maybe, you can have relationships by meeting people face-to-face. Like someone you knew for a long time. You can find relationships through your school. Then you can have closer and safer relationships.

January 15, 2012 at 12:08 PM  
Anonymous Lena said...

I agree with Jemma, don't go and meet him by yourself, go with your mom or dad.

January 18, 2012 at 5:28 PM  
Anonymous Anna said...

I would be worried too, but not about if he will like me about my looks. Just like they said, he guy could be pretending to be a 14 year old but be a 40 year old. Just be careful and have an older sibling or a parent with you just to be sure.

January 18, 2012 at 5:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont do it you will end up getting hurt

January 19, 2012 at 5:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do NOT meet gus online for these reasons
stalker
crreep
lier or older
it shows desperation

January 20, 2012 at 7:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ KK Ravenclaw
I read a lot and y freinds call me a goody goody and goody two shoes. It happens to everyone.

January 21, 2012 at 5:45 PM  
Anonymous Estera said...

I agree with Jemma. It's SO not safe! I think you shouldn't even BE on social networking 'till you're 16.

January 23, 2012 at 3:42 PM  
Anonymous ViolinGirl said...

@Ashley Thanks so much for standing up for homeschoolers!!! I homeschool to and I don't think it's right for people to think we aren't exposed to stuff just because we homeschool!! Great job sticking up for us. Thank you soooooo much!!!!
ViolinGirl

January 29, 2012 at 1:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma is correct.

February 5, 2012 at 2:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

okay I'm 10 and almost 11 and im not even allowed to date and most of the girls at school date but i bet that maybe 50% dont even know what they wanna be when they grow up so for me dating is no to prove it what is a nicu nurse ? yeah thought so

February 6, 2012 at 4:57 PM  
Anonymous Bewie said...

well at school we learn about this and if you REAAALLLLYY want to meet this guy sooo badly then do it but GO WITH A PARENT OR ADULT YOU TRUST!

February 12, 2012 at 4:50 AM  
Anonymous cece said...

Amy, you should really listen to Jemma and everyone else.I'm 8, so I'm still learning. But take this advice to not start a relationship online.

February 12, 2012 at 6:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amy i agree with Jemma! i have friends online but i don't give out anything or even show them a pic of me! K good luck PS i would delfenitly not want to meet someone i met online! take our advice

February 15, 2012 at 9:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At my school we watched a video about that. It explained how hackers get on, online abuse, and meeting someone online. It told true stories about people who had friends online, and they ended up being 40 years old! Gross!

March 9, 2012 at 7:25 PM  
Anonymous cuti2 said...

My teacher had a talk with all of the girls in my class, without the boys!! She told us that more than once she had heard that a girl was posting provocotive pictures of herself on facebook. She told us to be more careful about what we put on the internet and that there are a lot of crazy people out there. So glad I dont have a facebook

March 9, 2012 at 8:34 PM  
Anonymous plumsinginghamster said...

Amy i'm 9 and i read a lot of love stories.

i read one and a girl met a guy online and they met and he was
90!

BTW he lied that he was 19

March 10, 2012 at 3:55 PM  
Anonymous cupckake luhver said...

Dont go! Next time he responds to you online do not say anything back. Its true that he could be the age he is claiming to be but better be safe than sorry, right?

March 17, 2012 at 9:54 PM  
Anonymous cupckake luhver said...

@monkeyrose
What are the three cs?

March 17, 2012 at 10:01 PM  
Anonymous person B-) said...

MONKEYROSE!!!!

What are the 3 'C's????

first anonymous asked, then cupcake luhver (loooovvveee the name, hon!) and now me. so, luckily, i am not the only one whod doesnt no.

@Anonymous girl who says she is 10 and not allowed to date- i have a simple reply...

OF COURSE YOU CANT DATE AT TEN!!!!! people dont even think of talking to boys at that age. I am in year 6 (british way) and, literally, a conversation with a boy is BANNED. everyone assumes u like that guy!!!

March 24, 2012 at 11:50 AM  
Anonymous Duckie said...

I'm homeschooled. You learn JUST as much as you do at school at homeschool. Homeschooling is AWESOME, since I can sleep in as late as I want to and go to bed late. And, I don't have to worry about getting dressed for school, doing my hair, or confronting bullies (although there are bullies at my church...)

Smile, Jesus loves you!

March 29, 2012 at 2:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wonder if this girl is ok??? She never replied.... :(

April 21, 2012 at 3:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In skool a woman came and talked about internet saftey last year. I was in 4th grade and the 2nd to 4th graders didn't get a deep video but my friend who was in 6th grade said they got a video about a 13 year old girl who had an online bf and went 2 meet him at a mall but it was not a cute 13 year old boy, it was a 40 year old man! the 40 year old kidnapped her and she was never seen again. this video was fake but, each day stuff like this happens. if u r wondering about how a 6th grader and a 4th grader go 2 the same skool i, go 2 catholic skool which runs from kindergarten 2 8th grade. so i don't think a online bf is a great choice.

May 18, 2012 at 4:47 PM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

Yea an online bf is not a great choice at all lots of people get kidnapped because of online dating. He or she could post a fake picture on their fb account and they could really be like, 50 yrs old.

August 14, 2012 at 2:50 PM  
Anonymous kayjay06 said...

No way first of all my dad is a state Police so he barely lets me on the internet... and you don't know anyone can be disguised online! ( true chiz)

October 25, 2012 at 6:40 PM  

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