She's not a girly-girl, she's Miss Understood

It's not easy being a girl sometimes. Miss Understood needs some help. She's had some trouble with bullying and feels like her body is changing too fast.

Dear PLS,
I'm not your girly kind of girl and other kids like that make fun of me because i listen to rock and i dont dress in pink and flowery what ever. I've been through the whole bullying faze because of how i dressed and how short my hair was. I also need help because My body is growing too fast and guys are starting to notice...older guys...i hang out with guys and now they're staring...creeper?much.
Miss Understood

First things first. If you're being bullied, tell an adult. Second, there's lots of room in the world for different types of girls. I was just at a talent show where plenty of girls sang sweet, sad Taylor Swift songs, but other girls dressed up in silly costumes and did a skit. One really great act featured a girl who did a karate routine to her favorite song. Hi-yaaa!

We've had other Pink Locker girls write in to say they didn't want to grow up so fast. You can't stop your body from growing and changing. But you can tell boys - or anyone else - if they are making you uncomfortable. Sometimes, when you're growing, you might need larger clothes - shirts that don't cling so much, looser pants, a bigger bra. That can help you feel more comfortable and confident. If you don't have a big budget for new clothes, try hand-me-downs from older siblings, cousins, or friends.

Any other advice for Miss Understood?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Be yourself. Don't let other peoples words get to your mind and be happy about your unique self. As you are getting deeper in puberty you can make yoirself more comfortable but you can not stop yourself from growing. So dont sweat it! - Icygirl;)

March 17, 2012 at 1:32 AM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

You sound like an AWSOME gal! Be yourself and don't let ANYONE tell you to be someone you're not. And trust me, there are a WHOLE lot of different girls in this world so you go out there and be bold!

March 17, 2012 at 9:19 AM  
Anonymous monkeyrose said...

Im sooo totally like you Miss Understood. Im into rock and I'm in the middle of puberty. I also LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE to tell jokes. Its just who I am. So be STRONG and PROUD of who you are. And if boys stare just say " Um....Hello??" And wave your hand in front of their face to get their attention. But anyways Im soooo not girly. I hate dresses and dolls and all that junk. I just wear jeans and a graphic shirt that has some thing funny on it like popeye characters taking place in a beetles album cover. So just be yourself and you will be just fine. And if someone is mean to you cause of that then just say " Well I dont like to follow trends or any of that. Sticking out is who I am and who I will always be. "

March 17, 2012 at 6:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't be afraid to be yourself! If someone insults you, reply with "thank you" or "I try". For example, if a girl says your ugly and fat, reply with something different like, "You may think that, but I love who I am." If they say something like you're weird, reply cleverly, "I try." This will show the bully that you don't care what they think and that you love who you are. As for puberty, every girl goes through it and you just have to look for what is comfortable and not let the boys have anything to look at. As for them, boys will be boys!

March 17, 2012 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You sound awesome! Everyone is different. Everyone is special. If people make fun of you they may be lacking the attention they crave. Ignore them. If it gets to where it's really bugging you tell an adult. Congratulations on being yourself. Some people fake to be popular or to attract boys and they are just missing out on the wonderful feeling of expressing themself. So please. Keep being yourself. Even if people make fun of you. Don't lose who you really are. :)

March 18, 2012 at 10:54 PM  
Anonymous Starz said...

I am a lot like you. Be unique is what I've always told myself. Ignore the bullies because it's best to enjoy being you. Please keep being you. As for pubertym Everyone goes through it. Tell someone that the boys are making you feel uncomfortable- but boys cant help being boys!

March 19, 2012 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous dancegirl22 said...

i wish i could get guys to notice me, aka my crush. but most guys r interested in other girls, or the guys that usually like me, they like every girl they see, and its just weird. idk why my crush wont notcie me. can anyone give me tips on flirting.

March 21, 2012 at 1:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just try and find that one nice person there has to be some one?

March 21, 2012 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Kelsey ;) said...

I am so much like you! I have a black, messy pixie-cut hair-style, like to wear graphic tees (my fav has the batman signal on it) and I love my converse sneakers, when I hit puberty, people said I was gorgeous, but I was still me, and guys stared at me, so I just waved at them and said, "Dude, my eyes are up here" and that usually embarrassed them a little.
If you need advice, take my story into account, hopefully that will help!
Kelsey ;)

March 21, 2012 at 8:13 PM  
Anonymous IsaacLover said...

Well, I have some advice for you about the boys-staring-issue. If your body is growing and you don't like it, get a sports bra. They tend to minimize your chest size. And, stay away from tight shirts. They tend to show off your chest size. So, wear loose fitting shirts. And keep hanging out with the guys! Guys tend to be more understanding, and they won't dump you for something silly, as girls tend to do!

March 24, 2012 at 10:28 AM  
Anonymous Bubz said...

Im not exactly your average girly girl either but thats okay because its good to be different because well normal is boring. Embrace the fact that your different and enjoy it! You are who you are and that is the best you can be

March 26, 2012 at 1:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

cool facts about a descent girl i need to start wearing a bra

March 27, 2012 at 4:50 PM  
Anonymous Hope I helped said...


Ok, it depends on the guy. Does he like girly girls, sporty girls, smart girls... Not all of your crushes are going to want to date you, and you should definitely not change yourself for a guy. But, start being friends with him, then he'll notice you. Be there for him when he needs it. Then... maybe he'll like you.

Think pink!

March 27, 2012 at 9:37 PM  
Anonymous Young At Heart said...

I'm also NOT a girly girl! I hang with boys a lot. I get uncomfortable near girls. I wonder how they will act when I get my period...

March 28, 2012 at 8:50 AM  
Anonymous Princess Dragirl said...

Every girl has her own style. So if you like to look like a guy, its okay!!!!!
And you actually feel uncomfortable with the boys b'cos you are growing! This happens with every girl in the whole wide world so its completely alright. But one thing is that, you should never ever lose your confidence or else this behavior can become your habit and that can become your personality!!!!!
And it is very very bad!!!!!
Best of luck!!!!

March 29, 2012 at 7:08 AM  
Anonymous Duckie said...

You are free 2b! Don't let anyone push you around or tell you who you are! If you're happy with yourself, you are FINE! It doesn't matter what others think! You are FREE2B sister!

March 29, 2012 at 12:59 PM  
Anonymous Puppylover555 said...

I am a total girly girl, glitter, sparkles, jewels the whole nine yards yet I am a straight A - person. Be unique. Let your quaiattini shine through the rest of your beautiful, gorgeous body. Don't change for other people. If I could give you only five words that would help you they would be ''Be yourself no matter what.''

April 5, 2012 at 8:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey I know how you feel about the bully's because I've been through it too. So to teach them that they don't want to mess with you when they say something like " OMG, you're clothes are pathetic!" say something like " What did I ever do to you and why do you spend your recess being mean and making people feel bad about themselves. How would you feel if I said your clothes are pathetic."
Sincerely , NYgrl101

April 6, 2012 at 12:22 PM  
Anonymous petlover2000 said...

It does not mattter if other's think about you so long as you think it's what you like!Even though i have long hair,I AM NOT A GIRLY GIRL!

April 8, 2012 at 6:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm quite like you I were t shirts and jeans . And what my friends say a lot of black but even though rock out this style doesn't I'm not happy . And plus I'm in fifth grade and barely 4 foot tall I've teased for that since 2nd grade. So just rock your style and be who you are .
-PS every pair of shoes I own are converse !

April 13, 2012 at 11:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm like you. I hate pink! Just say, I'm not girly and I make the world go round!

May 14, 2012 at 10:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I personally wouldn't consider myself a girly-girl on the inside (totally on the outside for some reason) but I can understand where you're going with this. It doesn't matter if you're not a girly-girl; you're a woman, that's something to be proud of! I don't think it should matter who you are, as long as you love yourself and your proud of it! And to those bullies, just ignore them. They only bully to make themself feel better. If anything, I feel bad for them. Imagine what they had to go through to start bullying (not just because they're "mean" they might have family problems, low self-esteem, etc.) So it's okay if you're not a girly-girl! Be proud of who you are and rock on!
P.S. about the boys...they're probably in shock of how much of a amazing girl you're becoming. But I bet they already thought you were amazing! I do!

June 13, 2012 at 5:48 PM  
Anonymous Vampire said...

People think i'm weird because i only wear black and gray. Right now i'm wearing black converse, a black shirt, black shorts and a gray sweater. I try to tell people that i'm just being me but almost every person that passes by me at school says look at goth girl!!! Or they call me emo girl since i have really pale skin. Why don't people understand that it can really hurt my feelings when they call me names?

July 18, 2012 at 12:49 PM  
Anonymous MeMe said...

To Vampire:

That is VERY rude of them! The bullying needs to stop. Talk to a trusted adult about it, and maybe they can help. If it doesn't stop, say "Everybody's different." and just walk away. Good luck!

July 24, 2012 at 2:27 PM  
Anonymous Vampire said...

Thank you MeMe, i WILL talk to an adult your edvice helped a lot:) And you know what? you are right everybody IS different:)

July 27, 2012 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous MeMe said...

To Vampire:
You're welcome:) anytime

August 8, 2012 at 12:16 AM  
Anonymous Vampire said...


August 14, 2012 at 2:42 PM  
Anonymous Erin said...

i heard this answer from jemma and i would go along with it. even if ur shy, just say this "AY! my eyes are up here!"

August 17, 2012 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

How do I get my mom to buy me more clothes? We r not rich but we r not poor... I just want some more cute clothes... I get lots of hand me downs...

September 2, 2012 at 1:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To anonymous just start by asking her for one shirt. What I did is my older sisters best friend gave me some of her old cloths and wow Thayer are hot.

July 9, 2013 at 9:44 PM  

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