What to do about hair "down there"

OK, we're getting this question a lot so it's time for an answer.

What should you do about hair "down there?"

First off, it's NORMAL to start growing pubic hair when you're in puberty. If you have a few sparse hairs, you're probably early in the process of puberty. If you have more hairs than you can count, you're farther along in your journey toward looking like a grown up woman.

Secondly, you DO NOT have to do anything about the hair. There seems to be a trend toward removing pubic hair. And it may be one of those things where everyone assumes that everyone else removes theirs and no one wants to be different. But it isn't necessary or required. You don't have to and you shouldn't feel pressure to.

Thirdly, there are some good reasons to leave that part of your body alone. Learning to shave is tricky enough on underarms and legs. Shaving your private parts is trickier still. You could cut yourself - OUCH! Some girls have written in asking about hair removal creams. But I looked at one of the most popular products and it said not to use the cream on that particular area.

Fourthly, your body naturally grows pubic hair. So it may be QUITE A BOTHER to keep on removing something that your body is going to be growing for years to come. Yes, lots of women decide to shave their underarms and legs, but do you really need another hassle?

With summer getting closer, some of the concerns I'm hearing have to do with how girls look in bathing suits. Though it's possible for pubic hair to also creep into the inner thigh area, it's not very common in younger girls. If that is a problem for you, talk to your mom about how to safely remove the hair from your inner thighs for bathing suit season.

What do you think Pink Locker girls? Any thoughts on this, ahem, private topic?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma u are so right!!!!!!!!

April 15, 2012 at 1:38 AM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

I have a bunch of hairs 'down there' but I ignore them. Even tough sometimes they drive me crazy! So far, I think that people who arent growing hairs that go your thighs should NOT try to hassle with them. Its just easier and would avoid an awkward conversation!

April 15, 2012 at 2:39 AM  
Anonymous Gracer said...

If you're worried about creeping hair, they sell bathing suits with skirts, or shorts. :)

April 15, 2012 at 10:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i was wondering if it is normal to grow tiny hairs on your belly and chest, cuz i have that and its really worrying me.

April 15, 2012 at 3:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ Anonymous
Don't worry I have that too its normal. Also I hate the hair "down there" It's so embarrassing! Thanks for the advice though Jemma!

April 15, 2012 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

can you grow small hairs on your breast?

April 15, 2012 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous you said...

i have small hairs on my breast too. don't worry its normal. its better to leave these alone because if you pluck or pick at them it may cause an infection. not fun.

is it normal to have little bumps on your breasts? kindof like pimples?

April 16, 2012 at 1:39 AM  
Anonymous helpneededgirl said...

i have lots of hair 'down there'. It is black and curly (embarrassing). I am only 11. Is that normal?

April 16, 2012 at 1:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is it normal for it to be itchy a lot down there?

April 16, 2012 at 2:45 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

Yes it is very normal! When you hit puberty it is usually black and curly and you might even start getting them at age 9! I have them at age10 going to 11.

April 17, 2012 at 12:25 AM  
Anonymous I love Isaac said...

I have been developing in my chest area for a few months now. I'm pretty large up there. My mom and I are not close at all, so I have been kinda hiding that from her. So im sure that I will need a padded bathing suit or something. And I just don't want her to know I'm going through puberty but she will notice when I wear a bathing suit this summer. What do I do?

April 17, 2012 at 8:53 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

@ I love Isaac
I know how you feel. my mom noticed right away and had "the talk" and all. My mom and I aren't close but she sorta understands even if it's akward go for it.

April 18, 2012 at 8:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Help!!! I started my period but I've never used tampons before. Now that summer's coming, I wanna go swimming but I don't have a "set date" for aunt flow to come yet. What do I do? I know that you're not supposed to wear tampons untill you've started your period again but how am I supposed to know when it comes this summer? I just really don't want it to happen when I'm out with my friends! :(

April 18, 2012 at 9:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To anonymous.
I always have a similar problem to u but the best thing to do is to keep tampons with u wherever u go.Especially when u hangout with your friends :)

April 19, 2012 at 7:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I dont have "hair down there", people say im lucky.

April 20, 2012 at 11:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you dont have any, maybe u havnt started puberty

April 21, 2012 at 1:17 AM  
Anonymous I love Isaac said...

I had the talk last year....im 12 now. I really don't even know if my boobs are big it if I just think they are.

April 21, 2012 at 8:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i know that this is kinda off topic, but i'm 14 but i'm only 4'11 is that too short?

April 21, 2012 at 12:24 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

I don't believe in too short or too tall for your age. Everyone grows at their own pace and grows as tall as their body wants to. One of my friends is about that short (or shorter) and I'm 5'3. Everyone's different, but I say you're fine.

April 22, 2012 at 8:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have like tons of hair down there and I really wanna wear a bikini but, I'm afraid a few hairs from my inner thighs might stick out which would be embarrassing but, my mom says that I shouldn't remove the hair down there. I really want to cause it feels uncomfortable and itchy at times.

April 24, 2012 at 11:16 PM  
Anonymous Isabella said...


I think you should find a bikini that has shorts as bottoms, instead of the regular bikini bottoms. I tried that once, and not only did it help hide the hairs, but I got one guys attention by being different. Not having a normal bikini made me not seem like a girly girl, and he liked that. :D

April 27, 2012 at 1:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

say all dat is true but is still embarrasing. is it normal to hav ... but no period???

May 2, 2012 at 2:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have hair down there too and it's itchy. Whatshould I do?

May 2, 2012 at 6:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ Both anonymous's

Anonymous 1:
I stared getting "hair down there" when I was like 9. I got my period last december and Im 11. Yes it's normal. In fact, most girls get hair down there before they get their period.

Anonymous 2:
If you don't shower regularly, try showering more often and it may help. If you do shower regularly, try just doing it a bit more often. P.S, don't be embarrassed, it's like that for most girls!

May 4, 2012 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have bleached the hairs on my thighs and now they dont show up at all

May 8, 2012 at 3:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have hair down there and when i shower it's weird.But i don't have my period. I have every thing else ecept my period.

May 12, 2012 at 9:04 PM  
Anonymous Eve said...

yeah. hair is so annoying.
i am 12 and i am just getting my armpit hair. in gym everyone says im so lucky and they have been shaving 4 like 4ever
is that normal?
and i havent started shaving anywhere yet but some of my friends have. i wont even raise my arms if i am waring a tank top or a bathing suit anymore and i wear long pants in gym now because im self consious of my legs and arms what should i do??

May 14, 2012 at 9:58 PM  
Anonymous Crazygirl said...

helpneededgirl, same here. I'm 11 too, and its soo embarrasing! I am embarresed to get changed in front of my mum, or even a mirror!

May 16, 2012 at 4:48 PM  
Anonymous Annabanana said...

I have hair down there and I really want to shave down there- is it a good idea? Cause it's embarrassing to be in a bathing suit cause some hairs Stick out of the bottoms... Should I or shouldn't I??

May 22, 2012 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have had hair down there for as long as I can remember. When I was 9 I thought I was the only one in the world! I was soooooooo releived when I saw 2 other girls in the change room with hair down there too!

May 22, 2012 at 11:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think it's gross not to shave it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

May 31, 2012 at 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 16 - I feel a little old to be on this website since I know most of this stuff but I was curious about what y'all said about the hair 'down there.' A lot of girls my age say its disgusting if you don't shave down there. I disagree.. It is awkward to have it but its normal right? If its sticking out of your bathing suit and you don't have the hair on your inner thighs, maybe try trimming it down there CAREFULLY with scissors? I'unno but that's what I do when it bothers me. But other than that I wouldn't worry about it since its normal. :)

June 2, 2012 at 12:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have hair "down there" and my mom knows it (cuz when i was 9 (11 now ) it was growing and felt knitty or jumbled together she saw me squirming.)i have boobs,hair down there,i have slight mood swings,and most likely discharge but she has NOT given' me any kind if femmine body advice! That is why do research and so lucky to find kidshealth.org & pls.I barely get anything out my sister and cousins.exspecily if im suppose to be going to middle school next year. What if might need pads but if i even say talk about puberty other than emotions she says im to young.
Do i need to just talk to my sister and then mom?and do you think my period could be coming soon enough that i should carry a pad just in case for me or others?
Help,need answers!
Think pink q:

June 14, 2012 at 12:43 PM  
Anonymous Big friendly giant said...

It hurts to move the hair down there plus some times it pricley I want it to go away but I can shave it because its to long to use a razor on what do I do pink locker girls?

June 21, 2012 at 11:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Write her a little note on a piece of paper and either leave it somewhere you know she'll find it, or hand it to her. I found doing that much easier than talking about it :)

June 30, 2012 at 7:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ask your mum especially if you're going into midle school next year! :)

June 30, 2012 at 7:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's ok I has hair there when I was 8

July 1, 2012 at 12:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Someone should invent a mini razor that gently removes the hair. If that was real and it got rid of hair for good I would so buy. Anyone else?

July 9, 2012 at 1:42 PM  
Anonymous kitkat222 said...

It's okay to have hair 'there'. It's all part of puberty! Some people get it early, others a little later. So don't worry, everyone gets it. BTW, I think wearing bathing suits are just fine. I don't think it'll show any hairs. Good luck! :)

July 9, 2012 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

Ha ha someone should invent a mini razor :)

July 13, 2012 at 12:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

same prob....and i agree bout the mini razor, anonyous- its a good idea!

July 13, 2012 at 3:22 PM  
Anonymous Sophie said...

I only cut the hair down there with scissors when it bothers me and is getting long. So that I can wear bikinis and swimsuits, I remove the hair under my armpits and on my bikini line with hair removal cream. What do you girls use to remove the hair????

Think Pink,

July 14, 2012 at 8:42 AM  
Anonymous Felene said...

im afraid to talk to my mum about this. even though i share everything with her. it's just this one topic. i don't know what to do. BTW i shave my legs and my armpits should i start shaving down there????

July 18, 2012 at 4:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the same problem I am 11 too and it drives me crazy! When I go to dance I can't wear booty shorts cuz it shows, I am still looking for a solution.

July 21, 2012 at 3:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

How do you blech them?

July 21, 2012 at 3:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I do, it's ichy at first but then when you do it more often it goes away

July 21, 2012 at 3:38 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When did you all start shaving your legs and such? I started when I was around eleven because my mom said I need to.
I use scissors to trim my down there hair. When it gets too long it itches.

July 24, 2012 at 10:17 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I first shaved my legs in fourth grade.

July 27, 2012 at 8:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I haven't started shaving and i'm 15!

July 27, 2012 at 12:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What's Hair Removal Cream?

July 27, 2012 at 12:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know it feels itchy xx

July 29, 2012 at 7:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its cream that is supposed to remove hair on your face or legs not your pubic area that would just be weird

August 5, 2012 at 3:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

jemma im just going to say this not to be mean but i was at a book club and my boyfriend was there and my bathing suit bottom fell of while jumping of the diving board and he saw all of it. school is about to start what if he breaks up with me. HELPPP!!!1

August 6, 2012 at 11:36 AM  
Anonymous Erin said...

um yes i do have a question- how the heck do u even remove down there hair? i dont use a razor yet, but i've seen my sister's and my mom's- they look a little dangerous and wide to be doin that! and waxing, EXTREME PAIN! probably close to the same pain as delivering a baby naturally! (i didnt have a baby im just guessing!) please tell me! i dont have hair down there yet, just wondering. any answers?

August 17, 2012 at 10:56 AM  
Anonymous Erin said...

to eve: ok calm down. its ok. just remember: everyone has problems at least a little similar to that!i suggest when u and ur mom are both sitting 2on the couch watching tv, wait for a shaving commercial to come on, and say calmly: hey mom, when i take a shower tomorrow, could i please shave my legs? (underarms, ect.) im 10 and i dont shave, but i think that might help. :)

August 17, 2012 at 11:05 AM  
Anonymous Erin said...

ok now HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! im 10 (almost said 100 oops!)and i think i might be ready for a bra.i dont know if they're big or if i just think it. i want to wear a bra because they look a bit pointyish. and i think wearing a bra would boost my confidence. i know 2 of my friends wear one and might even 2 other but idk if they were lying. I even think i might fit into the smallest size cup. my mom hasnet even gaven me "The talk" i also wanna shave my legs cuz from my knee down there are these black hairs and even on my toes! i dont wanna tell my mom these things cuz im afraid how she'll react. u can see the leg hair espessially when im outside or wet. how should i hint smally to my mom or make her notice that i need a bra. i dont wanna learn the puberty talk from my friends or online or a book but i learned some of the smaller stuff like bras and shaving and periods from a book already! i want HER to explain all that to me and the rest! any of the advice???????? please help me! this is the only situation where i dont know how to think pink!

August 17, 2012 at 11:17 AM  
Anonymous Mia said...

To CutieCake123, yes. It is ok to have hairs 'down there' at 11. I'm only 10 and have loads of hairs down there! don't worry.

August 18, 2012 at 12:33 PM  
Anonymous Mia said...

Dear Erin, if you don't think your breasts are big enough don't worry. I'm 10 to and I wear crop tops with no padding. And don't be scared to tell your mum! I asked her about a bra and she was fine with it. Just say something like: Mum, I think I wanna know about puberty now. Don't worry about shaving yet either. you only need to do that when your like 12. I haven't started yet either. Hope I helped, Mia

August 18, 2012 at 12:40 PM  
Anonymous Mia said...

I'm 10. when do I need to start shaving my legs?

August 18, 2012 at 12:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ Mia
You don't have to shave your legs. there are other options aswell. like waxing. either way,talk to your mom first before doing anything.

August 23, 2012 at 2:57 PM  
Anonymous GhostTown said...

Like @Anonymous said waxing is an option. The truth is... start whenever you feel comfortable! Lots of girls start at your age and some might wait for a while. That's fine too.

August 27, 2012 at 1:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi girls, I'm 12, but my hair still shows in bathing suits... what can I do?

August 30, 2012 at 9:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wear board shorts... All my friends wear them...

September 4, 2012 at 1:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok i have hair down there but im not in my period

September 10, 2012 at 8:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To anonymous: Thanks! I'll try board shorts.

September 11, 2012 at 1:35 AM  
Anonymous pinkalicious♥ said...

Waxing hurts! Shaving grows back super quick and prickly! Not enough bleach cream to bleach legs! I am in such a dilemma!!! But don't worry, it is winter and I'm wearing long pants (I hope no indoor swimming trips!) To people who can't decide weather to shave or wax, pick shave. I always wax my legs, looks nice but hurts a lot and doesn't stay for long! Also you have more chance of getting ingrown hairs and they hurt a lot!!!

October 16, 2012 at 7:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yes, it's normal to have small hairs on your stomach and chest; I have very pale skin, fair hair and still have these hairs, even though I am only 12 years of age, I have natural black, thick, bushy hair 'down there' but I shave around the bikini line once every fortnight and trim the rest weekly.

December 3, 2012 at 4:38 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Same here:/

December 3, 2012 at 4:50 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I got it when I was 6...I'm 12 now and some of my friends still havent.. I was an early bloomer I suppose;)

December 3, 2012 at 4:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hm...Yeah,I think so cos I have them too

December 5, 2012 at 6:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why not text her when shea at work or leave her a note?

December 5, 2012 at 6:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Me too,Im 12 and the hait "down there" are driving me crazy

December 5, 2012 at 6:47 AM  
Anonymous Super cool super hot super worried said...

Ok please help please please!!!!!!!! Mum and I were watching TV on the couch one day and out of the blue she says "lift up your arm". I do and she says... well, it would be easier to write a script...

Mum: Lift up your am.
Me: Ok.....
Mum: Sweetie I think that is hair!
Me: So?
Mum: Do you have hair down there yet?
Me: Mum that is a stupid question. NO!

When in reality the answer is yes. My dad is home until like next month so how do I tell mum without letting dad find out?

December 22, 2012 at 11:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@Super cool super hot super worried

You can tell your dad. Dads usually understand pretty well. I know that I can tell my dad anything. If you want, tell your mom not to tell your dad.

March 16, 2013 at 11:17 AM  
Anonymous impatient girl said...

Hey so I'm 13 I have lots of black hair down there and often at times my mom asks me if I need pass or new bras (I havnt started my period yet) I have already developed my breast, I have been for almost 2 years I'm a 33B . And sometimes I'm outside and I feel wetness under there and its a white discharge. I get it alot and think I'm getting my period soon but not sure . Sister and mother got theirs when 13 my birthday is in June. Just need to get rbis off my chest, and also I've been having stomach pains out of nowhere . Thanks

May 14, 2013 at 1:17 PM  
Anonymous Catgal89 said...

I have a little hair "down there" but it makes me feel weird. What will happen when it becomes too much? Will I have to shave?

June 29, 2014 at 11:22 AM  
Anonymous Help and thanks said...

So I'm about to be 17 And have never shaved down there. I asked my mom about it once and she got defensive and said "you don't need to be doing that!" I think she thinks I'm sexually active but that's not the case at all. Like Jemma said I know many girls who do it and it just seems normal. I want to ask my mom again but I don't even know how to bring it up. I don't like having all this hair also when I'm on my period like I am right now it's a mess! And when I try to wear my bathing suit the two piece and and one piece my hair always shows! Help please!

June 30, 2014 at 4:38 PM  
Anonymous courtney said...

ok.. so im an early bloomer and i gained my dad's super hairy gene AND my hair grows super fast and thick. so i grow pubic hair on my inner thighs and also on the sides. i can't even wear a bathing suit or a pair of shorts without it sticking out. i will sometimes use a depilatory cream, which will sort of work, but when it grows back stubbly that night it will not. shaving leaves a stubble an hour after and irritates me. waxing hurts horribly, is very expensive, is uncomfortable because there is still a period of time between waxes where you are hairy, and waxing only last for 2 weeks for me :(. (ps all of those opinions on hair removal were from experience) I am a dancer and i end up having to wear super long shorts when i dance or else my pubic hair will stick through/show through my tights. the answer from most would be "just keep wearing the long shorts". yea i wish. i'm going to a 3 week ballet intensive and no shorts are allowed in class. what can i do? i cannot have stubble through my tights. it is so embarrassing. even after camp, i need some sort of solution. do you think i should consider laser hair removal? i know there are at home kits, but i hear it is painful. please..someone..anyone help me:(

July 9, 2014 at 11:57 PM  

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