What's it like to be the new girl? Just Wondering wants to know!

Just Wondering actually sent us two questions and we are answering them both. Why? Because her second question is wonderfully, deliciously kind.

Dear PLS,
Okay, I have two random questions that I want to ask.

#1: Is grade 7 harder than grade 6? (I know duh it's another level higher, But where I live, after grade 6, we have to start running from class to class and we have to play instruments and stuff like that. My school goes from kindergarten-grade 8.

#2: This question is more important to me. I want to know what it feels like to be the new girl. Not because I'm going to be the new girl, but I know that there will be some new girls (and boys) next year and I want to do all that I can to make them feel welcome and comfortable. All I know is that it must feel awkward and you may feel nervous and scared. But I want to REALLY know how it feels so I can help.

Sorry this comment is so long, but thanks for reading it.
Just Wondering

#1: I would say yes, grade 7 will be a little harder, but not incredibly so. Do you agree, Pink Locker girls?

#2: Can I just say that is a beautiful question? If I was going to be the new girl at your school, I would be so happy to know you were thinking of me and wondering how to make me feel welcome and comfortable.

I would say kids who are new will worry about who they'll talk to in those in-between times, like before school, at break times, lunch, on the bus etc. And for a while, I bet you really miss your old school and your old friends. What else, girls? Have you ever been the new girl? What's it like?

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Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Icygirl said...

I always wonder what it would be like if I was the new kid because Ive been at my school all my life. I love it so much when new people come to my school because i can make them feel welcome. And next year I will be nervous for changing in the locker room. Any tips girls?

May 24, 2012 at 1:38 AM  
Anonymous Emma said...

Gr8 idea. Ur so kind. Try 2 make them feel welcome. Offer 2 show them round and tell them 2 let u know if they need anything. Give them space 2 though. If u c them alone in the yard, call them over.

May 24, 2012 at 8:33 AM  
Anonymous Emma said...

Hav u eva been 2 a new place, like a new sports club, a place with people from ur parents work, some of your moms old skool friends kids come over? If so, how did u feel? Awkward and shy. Hav u eva been 2 a sleepover, camping with a friend, gone on a long holiday? Did u miss ur parents, feel homesick or miss ur friends. Hav u eva had a friend move away, gone on a holiday, been sick or ur friends been sick and u have missed ur friend? Hav u eva gone 2 a new fun place, like the new shopping centre or an adventure park or gone on a holiday and excitedly awaited 2 see wot itd b like? Imagine all of these fellings but a lot stronger all at once.

May 24, 2012 at 8:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

guys this is off topic, but... HELP!!!

ok, so my worst enemy (who is stealing my friends and my life but pretends to b my friend) was new last year. Me and my BFF's decided to hang out with her. everything was great but then she just turned nasty, stole my life, and left us to go play with other friends.

My BFF's and i had a discussion yesterday abt why she is so nasty. Today my BFF came and said it wasnt my enemy's fault, but the person shes been playing with, and she influenced her.

Now i think she is going to start playing with us (she did this break) and i dont know what to do. shell start stealing my life again. But my friends like her now.

They dont know i feel this way!!! What to dooooooooo???!!!

Sorry for the long comment, but jemma or anyone else, HEELLLP!

May 24, 2012 at 10:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ icygirl

why are you nervous about changing? If you feel awkward, just face the wall and take your shirt off from under your gym shirt.

May 24, 2012 at 5:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@ Anonymous
She might have been going through a rough time. I have had this happen to a friend before, and it's not fun. Try being as nice as possible to her, because if she's mean, it will make you look like the better person. If she insults you, say, "Thank you. Helping with self-esteem here, aren't we?" and just give her a huge smile.

May 24, 2012 at 5:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

to be honest for me, as a new girl, it wasn't hard at all. everyone welcomed me in with open arms, i didn't think that much about my old friends because, well i didn't really have any. I am also a very social person. so yeah...

May 24, 2012 at 6:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

IcyGirl- changing in the locker room isnt that bad when u get used to it. I remember in 6th grade when i was scared to change in the locker room so i wore a tanktop so nobody could see my top half of my body and then i wore spandex so nobody would see my bottom half of my body.

May 24, 2012 at 6:45 PM  
Anonymous cheerleadingleigh13 said...

We recently got a new girl at our school its hard for her because no one knows her and thinks she's weird. But I am always nice to her so be nice to her/him.

May 24, 2012 at 6:57 PM  
Anonymous Gracer said...

7th grade isn't too much harder than sixth. I am good in most subjects so it wasn't too difficult, but to all girls, don't put anything embarrassing on your beginning of the year sheets. This sounds like common sense, but tell that to my 12 year old self. Gosh, I'm still scared of that teacher. Good luck in seventh grade!

May 24, 2012 at 8:18 PM  
Anonymous Sage said...

I have two questions :)
1. What happens if I get my period at camp? I'm going to a week long music camp this summer and I don't want to bring it up to my mom to pack pads.
2. When will I get my period? My sister said she got hers in seventh grade, but it's the end of seventh grade for me! My breasts are developing, I have discharge, I have hair down there...and under my arms. Where is it?!

May 24, 2012 at 8:24 PM  
Anonymous Carina said...

Hi Icygirl,

If you are really nervous to change in the locker room in front of other girls, I would change inside a bathroom stall. For me, I change with a tank top over my bra, so nobody can see it. I feel much more secure that way. Also, I try to not think about the weirdness of changing in front of my friends. Instead, I try having a contest with my friends by seeing who can change the fastest. By changing faster, it may make you feel better.
I hope this helps, and good luck next year!

May 24, 2012 at 10:10 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl said...

Thankyou to the two anonymouses wo helped me, and Carina. These tips really helped me!

May 25, 2012 at 1:33 AM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

what if i get my period @ camp
im gonig 2 camp this summer 2 and i dont want 2 have 2 wear a tampon but i dont want 2 miss swimming
(my camp is a week long and on the beach)
(and its 8 hours from home so its not like last year when it was just 45 min)

May 25, 2012 at 1:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey guys, how did u guys tell ur moms about ur "."??? I can't figure out how to bring it up.

May 25, 2012 at 2:52 PM  
Anonymous Gracer said...

Hi Ashley!
My friend got her period the day before camp last year and she had to wear a tampon. It's okay :) and chances are if it's your first period it won't be that long. You can also say you don't feel good for a day or something.
Hope i helped!
Gracer

May 25, 2012 at 3:22 PM  
Anonymous guitar gurl said...

I was the new girl once how are 2 girls in the class that whe re really nice to me, they introduced me do new people and played for at recess they were my b f fs the point is t heyl want people to be their friend so they don't feel left out if you want them to feel welcome try being there friend

May 26, 2012 at 11:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell ur friends how u rly feel. If they r truly ur fiends they will understand and try to help

May 26, 2012 at 2:19 PM  
Anonymous dolphin 00 said...

i was the new girl in grade one, and now im in gr. 6. when i was the new girl, everyone hated me. they were still very harsh even in grade one and two. i had no friends! they told me to go away, and i was told in my face i was ugly because i had short hair. this gone on for 2 years. hope it doesnt because its very upsetting but if they dont like you, think, since when did they really sit down and try to know you?

May 26, 2012 at 2:40 PM  
Anonymous ccmay said...

so when i was the new girl, i was absoloutley not one of theose girls who keep thier heads down. i was loud, crazy and one hundred percent me!! but, still, i t was one hundred percent terrifying! make sure you include her in games at lunch, or give her a hand with her work, to show her the new school is fuoll of nice people, so she isn't scared.
hope i helped!

May 26, 2012 at 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

anonymous,i was scared 2 tell my mom about my "." too. u just have to pick a moment when its just u and your mom in the room, no one else,take a couple of deep breaths relax and just say "mom id like to talk to you about something...". dont be scared to tell her, ur mom went through this exact same moment when she was a girl so she will totally understand how u feel.alternatively there are these notes u can print off from www.beinggirl.co.uk, leave one somewhere only she will find it like her underwear drawer,then u wont have to think about how to start the conversation cos your mom will aproach you. be proud when u get it and dont be worried. hope i helped.

May 27, 2012 at 9:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it's hard to be a new girl, because you don't know anyone. It makes it a bit better if people don't stare at you and follow you around everywhere you go. Make sure you are friendly to new people and make friends with them. Hope it helps
<3 ;)

May 27, 2012 at 9:31 AM  
Anonymous Carina said...

Hi Icygirl,

Wow! I am so happy that my advice helped you! It is so rare at my school to find people who actually thank others for tips, so I thank YOU for being so appreciative.

May 27, 2012 at 11:33 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl said...

Lol Carina thanks. :)

May 28, 2012 at 11:57 AM  
Anonymous Carina said...

Haha, you're welcome, Icygirl... ;)

May 28, 2012 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Emma said...

Do any of u girls hav a really popular mean girl at skool who wears tons of makeup, all the guys like, is rude to anyone but her popular friends and seems to have so much money? U know mean to all the 'unpopulars' and innocently kind to the teachers and boys? How do you cope with her 'bullying' more or less

May 29, 2012 at 8:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Emma, I don't have any of those girls at my school, because I go to a charter, but I know what your talkin about. I have a friend who is REALLY scared of them. I say ignore them. If they make fun of you, come up with a snappy comeback. Example: If they say Nice backpack. Cough cough Not. You say: Nice smile. Wait, your frowning!

May 29, 2012 at 9:33 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Sage~
If u get your period during camp you can use toilet paper usually first periods are not that heavy, but if u do have a heavy folw you can always ask your friends for some pads ( i got mine in grade five so they probably have some with them )
You would probably get your period soon, periods usually come 2 years after your breast have developed. Periods can come after you had discharge, and hair growing down there...

May 30, 2012 at 7:29 PM  
Anonymous Caroline135 said...

d just like to say what a sweet question. I've been the new girl at school a couple times in my life, including being new in 5th 6th and 7th grade. Being the new girl is hard, but what makes it easier is people like yourself. People were really nice to me, so that made it easier, but it was still really hard. It was confusing and scarey at first, but eventually I got used to it.

May 30, 2012 at 9:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey peeps,
my mum simply disallows me from wearing shorts. (As in the one that's fashionable nowadays.) Practically all my friends have them, and i'm not saying they tease me or call me names because I don't have shorts, but I kinda feel left out, so... what should I do?

May 30, 2012 at 11:50 PM  
Anonymous foreverwaiting:( said...

pls,why dont you answer me................eeeeeeeeeeeeeee

May 31, 2012 at 6:25 AM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

thx
i just hope it doesnt happen

May 31, 2012 at 1:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anonymous, are you talking about short shorts? AS in, you lay your hand a little below your waist, and the shorts your taking about are shorter? Because if those are what your talking about your mom is smart. Girls usually wear shorts that shorts too get a guy's attention. And those are the the bad dude's. (As in, they will get you in trouble.)

May 31, 2012 at 4:27 PM  
Anonymous bunnygurl16 said...

@foreverwaiting:(

what was your question? if you want to post it here i will try to answer it for you.

June 1, 2012 at 2:15 PM  
Anonymous mooo said...

@ anonymous with the shorts
i don't like it when girls wear those shorts that are so tiny you can see the inside of the pocket thingys and when they bend over you can see their bum. It makes them seem... well yeah its just bad. i wear short shorts but not that short.

@ the people with the question about being new...
i find it hard being the new girl. i've always been shy my whole life and i blush so bad when im embarrased so im always so scared.

@ the person with the period question.
you can usually tell when you're about to get your period. discharge starts getting rly heavy and you feel a bit sick. ask ur mom when she gots hers and it will be around then but take pads/tampons everywhere with you just in case.

oh and im a late bloomer, im not getting my period until im 15! thats when my mom and sis got theirs.
i even had a dream last night that i was at school and the teacher said, "Everyone who has their period put their hands up!" And i was the only one without my hand up. lol strange dream but probably true...

June 1, 2012 at 7:32 PM  
Anonymous Iceyjulianne said...

Look, I love my school.I feel really bad for you,and this is what my mom says :if people new come to your class,they make you feel welcoming!
So it could turn out BAD OR GOOD BUT LET'S HOPE for good,ok? Tell me how it goes!

June 1, 2012 at 7:34 PM  
Anonymous tippytoespink said...

what should i do when i get really angry?
this morning i was really tired and my dad came in and started annoying me and he and mum were laughing at me. i went to the bathroom because i was really embarrased and i wanted to calm down but dad followed me and tried to push open the door but i slammed it shut and locked it.
he really embarrased me and i started crying in the bathroom. what should i do when i get really angry/embarrased around my family?

June 1, 2012 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous Emma said...

@ anonymous who replied to me
Thnx so much! I'll try that next time.

June 2, 2012 at 9:52 AM  
Anonymous bunnygurl16 said...

Ugh, period cramps are really getting me down. Does anyone know how to get rid of them and does it have anything to do with wearing tampons?

June 3, 2012 at 1:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

please post jemma! its been a long time!!

June 3, 2012 at 9:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Being the new kid is really hard (trust me I was a new girl this year AND I was going into 7th grade) but really the thing most new kids are worried about is friends. If you are nice to them and include them at lunch and over all just help them, thats the best thing you can do.

Also going into 7th grade isn't that bad, its really just the thought. I recommend making a list of all the homework you have and all the tests you have coming up so you can get on top of everything, have time to hang out with friends and study for tests. Its really helped me. Oh and keep your locker clean so you can find your books easily and get to class on time so you don't get detention.

Question Gal xoxo

June 4, 2012 at 3:30 AM  
Anonymous Ashley said...

im home schooled and going in2 7th grade butim going 2 go 2 a public school im kinda scared (i guess i'll b the new girl and going in2 7th grade 2) oh! btw ive never been 2 publicschool in my life

June 5, 2012 at 3:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please can you post something gemma because its been nearly two weeks. Girls are depending on you and it really helps us when u post advice.

June 6, 2012 at 12:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please post something Jemma. It's been a long time!!! We're desperate!!!

June 6, 2012 at 3:53 PM  
Anonymous Emma said...

It's truly kind what you're doing! More people should be like you. Be kind to them, call them over during break if they're alone, offer to show them round, still give them space and remember that even though you say tell me if you need anything, they'll probably be too shy to ask. If they look lost, direct them. By asking this question, you're obviously a very nice person, so just be yourself. <3 Emma

June 7, 2012 at 7:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's really hard being the new girl. Usually I was the one showing people around. I know my old school like the back of my hand. So after a few days (if you start in like the middle of the year) you recover from sadness and get to know people better. I started with people that are nothing like me. I'm still friends with them they're nice, but I also found friends more like me. My best friend though was exactly like my old best friend (btw we are still friends I just moved a couple of busy streets away) but she was more like me. But anyways depending on how you act and how schoolmates act you could become the most popular or just have a few good friends. TO SUMMERIZE I THOUGHT MY LIFE WAS OVER BUT ENDED UP WITH A LOT OF GOOD FRIENDS BUT A FEW REALLY GOOD FRIENDS.

June 17, 2012 at 6:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You walk into your new class and it feels awkward. It happens to me loads of times because I'm a shy type of person. If you're a shy person like me I usually get to know the girls first at Lunch or when you're eating with the girls. I ask some questions for example: Where were you born? Do you have any sisters or brothers? But before you ask simple questions, I start off with shy like "hi" But when you go to school and you've been hanging out, you'll get used to having your classmates around and become good friends. Good luck!

June 20, 2012 at 8:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have to be a expert on being the new girl! In my lifetime I've lived in places like Netherlands Africa Florida and Arizona. And if it weren't for those few really nice girls who were my friends from the beginning (you know who you are!) I would be a very lonely girl. So if you see a new kid sitting alone go sit with them cause you never know what that means to them!

"to the world you might be a person but to a person you might be the world"

June 26, 2012 at 12:59 AM  
Anonymous Kassidy said...

Being the new girl is so fun! You make friends so quickly because everyone surrounds you ALL THE TIME!! People will instantly want to buddy up and become friends with you.

June 26, 2012 at 9:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Being the new girls is prety hard at first but after a few weeks you get "in the flow" of things and find new friends
i know that it was easy for me in 3rd grade cause i knew some people at my new scool
hope this helps

July 1, 2012 at 8:32 PM  
Anonymous Alyson said...

I was the new kid one year.. New faces, new school, and most of all, new everything. You get use to it after a while. Whatever you do, don't be too shy. Or else you won't make friends. Or get use to the school at all. Raise your hand. Make friends. Ask your teacher maybe. I know it might not seem easy to you but, School keeps getting easier and easier!

July 11, 2012 at 4:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

There's a possibility you could get it earlier. My mom got hers at 15 too but I got mine at 13.

July 15, 2012 at 2:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What do period cramps feel like? I've gotten my period but I'm not sure how they feel.

July 15, 2012 at 2:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

they feel sorta like a sharp pang just on your lower stomach and is very uncomfortable especially when you move around. It isn't always like that though some are better than others. If you get that feeling drink hot water or tea. Trust me, it REALLY helps! I know from experience

July 16, 2012 at 12:58 AM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

you probably will feel nervous.

July 24, 2012 at 12:44 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's like walking on egg-shells... If you dont understand that term I'll put that in a diffrent phrase. If you start off on the wrong foot with a popular kid... yeah good luck. So it pretty much feels like er... well its hard being the new girl.

August 3, 2012 at 3:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so if your the new girl just try hagn out with people and after 2 or 3 days of gettng to know them you can finally ask them to be your friend

August 8, 2012 at 4:45 PM  
Anonymous purpleROCKZ! said...

@ anonymous with nasty frienimy: i hav a nasty frienimy too!! shs is sooo nasty'-' mayB some of ur other buds r pretenting 2 B her friend!! hope i helped:) :) :) :)

August 13, 2012 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Kittykakes said...

I am a new kid myself. It really depends on your age. If youre in elementary school, no problem. You'll make friends right away! But middle school is a different story. Alot of girls already belong to a clique or group. Most not open to new members. So it is harder. But dont forget friends or no friends ( and of course you'll make friends eventually because youre awesome), YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!

August 22, 2012 at 7:18 PM  
Anonymous Nia said...

Oh God I am a new girl this year I transferred schools and I am in 7th grade. It is true you do miss your old school and friends a lot it takes a lot of strength to not cry in the middle of class. Bur it can be exciting and nervous at the same time. But here is my advice to you make them feel very welcome talk to them and try to see what you guys. Have in common it helps a lot and introduce them to your friends aswell.

September 2, 2012 at 2:28 PM  
Anonymous kewlkittykat said...

well i have always wondered what it would be like to be the new girl. but now i might find out. i might move and i'm really nervous.

December 19, 2012 at 4:53 PM  
Anonymous kewlkittykat said...

i love my school i wouldn't wanna leave it ever.

December 20, 2012 at 5:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, if you have had a taster day at the new school, the real first day will be people saying 'hi' and stuff. Then someone will show you around. That person might not be your friend (when you have completely fitted in), keep that in mind. Then someone else will be friends with you, and you could be friends with her friends.

December 28, 2012 at 2:17 PM  
Anonymous Chocoholic Jr. said...

Jemma would you please answer the questions i posted? one i posted as anoymus...

January 28, 2013 at 12:40 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

i may move! boo hoo! :( i do not want to leave!!!

March 4, 2013 at 4:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The best thing to do is be yourself and try and find people who like you for who you are. maybe try joining a group or club in your area

July 28, 2016 at 7:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

1. Introduce yourself
2. Don't be shy
3. Answer questions
4. Avoid weird people
5. Meet someone that gets you
6. Remember, you influence them, they don't influence you
7. BE YOURSELF!
8. (If that doesn't work, follow my steps)

August 6, 2016 at 11:04 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey!

#1 No. As a 7th grader, it's not hard. Just pay attention in class, study hard and it will as easy as pie(or any baked treat!)

#2 A Serian refuge came to our school and she was new. I just welcomed her with open arms and soon, we became best friends.

I hope this helps!
Think Pink!

December 8, 2016 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's always hard just dont be shy ask the girls around you if you can hangout and if they say yes introduce tourself.

December 20, 2016 at 9:03 AM  
Anonymous Angel said...

1 be calm
2 don't be atfaid to say hi
3 BE HAPPY

January 8, 2017 at 6:43 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was once a new girl and everyone was so nice and welcoming to me!

June 14, 2017 at 8:26 PM  

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