Birthday slumber party emergency!

Today's Pink Locker girl wants to pick two girls for her birthday slumber party. Decisions, decisions. What would you do?

Dear PLS,
Sorry this is gonna be long but,PLEASE,PLEASE,PLEASE i need an answer by next week. ok so, i am having a birthday sleepover party on july 19th and i need ur honest opinion who i should invite of these girls.

girl 1: she is nice and popular and bff's with 3 other girls i am inviting but she creates a lot of drama and im afraid if I dont invite her people will be like where is she? I am also friends with this girl but she creates sooo much drama.
girl 2: she is 1 of my friends but she is kinda rude 2 some of my other friends, she can get annoying and she is wild at partys (my parents don't really like wild kids running around in r house).
girl 3: this girl was my bestie in the beginning of the skool year but she dislikes some girls I am inviting, is a bully to my friend and she whispers in the corner about people at partys. she is besties with most of the girls i am inviting so if i don't invite her people will be like ???. and r moms r friends! please help me!

just say which 2 girls you would want 2 come to ur party i only can pick 2 of the 3. thank u soo much if u help! sorry this was so long.

- a very frustrated birthday girl

I think this is a very good question. Our birthday girl has really thought a lot about it and has analyzed it well. But here's the thing to remember: Even if it's your party, you aren't responsible for anybody's behavior except your own. So if girl 1 creates drama or girl 3 starts trash talking other people, it's not the birthday girl's fault.

But why not invite girls who will make the party fun? So feel free to cross girls off the list if you think you won't like having them there. It's YOUR birthday after all. Don't worry about what people will say. You can always keep it polite and just tell people you could only invite two girls. Be kind even if you feel justified because it still hurts when you are the girl left out.

Another approach would be to talk to all three girls, in a gentle way, about the stuff that's bothering you. You could say, "Hey girl 1, I think we'll have a great time at my party. But one thing that bothers me is drama, so would you help me keep that under control?"

What else, Pink Locker girls? What makes a great birthday party guest? And what makes you NOT want to invite someone to your party?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yikes, this is a hard one. I'd say girl 1 and 3. I am definitely not wild at parties.

June 22, 2012 at 12:00 PM  
Anonymous Big friendly giant said...

Id say girl 1 and 3 they sound okay tha 2nd girl sound all mean.

June 22, 2012 at 1:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i will say girl 2 and 3 i girl 2 gits to wild tell her to settle down because girl one is dramma i would not pick her i do not like dramma

June 23, 2012 at 10:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

1 and 3 if they get rude and create drama just tell them to stop its not u who's making the problem anyways ;)

June 23, 2012 at 12:54 PM  
Anonymous Bunnygurl16 said...


Ok, so theres this girl in my class and ,up until around a year ago, she was just another girl in my class,no big deal. But then she started hanging out with my friends. at first she seemed ok, then she started to get a bit mean and pretty soon after my friends did too. at first she just said the occasional mean thing or a mean name, but then she kept trying to push me out of the group. there are five of us in the group:Mel,Joleyne, Mandy, me and the mean girl,rochelle(names have been changed for privacy reasons).and five isnt an even number so when it comes to pairing up in class someone is always left out. Guess who? Me. I am sick,sick,sick of it!
Until rochelle came along me and mandy always paired up and so did joleyne and mel. now rochelle pairs up with mandy. she could go with her other friend bryony(again name changed for privacy reasons)and they have been friends for ages but she goes with mandy just to push me out.AND she knows i know what she is doing.AND she knows it hurts.And next year bryony is leaving to move to singapore or somwhere so she will have an excuse to pair up with mandy. It makes me so ANGRY! who does she think she is???!!!

What do i do?! i dont have any other friends outside of this friendship group as i am bullied at school, i am too shy to confront her and i cant tell a teacher as i will be called a snitch and bullied all the more.


P.S. sorry for the long post.

June 24, 2012 at 3:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Bunnygurl16: I know you dont want to,and yes,it will be hard, but u NEED to talk to her. Dont worry about being called a "snitch". I have felt like this before to. I used to have a friend that whenever I made a new friend she would come steal her away. I was very mad, but one day i told her,and she admited that yes,thats wat she was doing. Then she stopped.So basically, the point is, you need to talk to that mean girl

June 24, 2012 at 9:25 PM  
Anonymous Kelsey ;) said...

I would honestly say 2 and 3.
Even though you say Girl 1 is nice, if she creates drama, she isn't very nice, and she might start drama at your sleepover, you don't want that. If Girl 2 gets too wild, tell her to calm down, I'm sure she will. And if Girl 3 gets quiet and starts whispering, have her do some games with everyone, so she won't have time to whisper about anyone.

I hope this helps!
-Kelsey ;)

June 25, 2012 at 2:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

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June 25, 2012 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous FeelingPinkish said...

Invite 1 and 2 because one of the people that I invited to my party was a gossiper and she started gossiping about my little sis, (the she went to the bathroom in the pool) and my sis was SO sad. Hope this helped!
Or you could as one of your friends that you are inviting who they like better?????

June 25, 2012 at 8:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

why don't you just invite them all but when they get wild or rude or SOMETHING, just tell them to stop and you want to have as much fun as you can or something.
hope i helped

June 25, 2012 at 9:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

One of my friends is like that. but I told all my other friends and they paired up with me. or u can ask the teacher if you can be in groups of 3???

June 25, 2012 at 9:01 PM  
Anonymous gleekyme77 said...

1+2, because you said girl 3 is a bully, and bullying can be serious. It can get really ugly really fast.

June 25, 2012 at 9:22 PM  
Anonymous Katelyn said...

Yeah........ I would say girl 2 and 3. For SURE girl 3. She seems the best option out of all of the girls. But if she is being a bully to someone, ask her whatcha talkin' about? That will shut her right up. If girl 2 gets wild, bring her aside and ask her to tone it down a little. She'll probably listen to you, cause that will probably embarrass her.

June 25, 2012 at 9:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi evey1, im the birthday girl. thank u guys for posting all the coments of who would u pick 2 come 2 ur party. I am inviting girl 2 and girl 3. if girl 3 starts 2 bully people i will say what katelyn said 2 say (see above). i am inviting girl 2 cuz if she starts 2 be wild i will say look i luv having u here put please settle down cuz my parents will get angry. i think she will understand. 1 reason i didn't pick girl 1: i really can't stand drama. thank u all 4 ur help. i appreciate it.

June 25, 2012 at 10:21 PM  
Anonymous Emma said...

I know what it feels like to be left out. Firstly, you need to talk to your freinds about it. Maybe the one you feel closest to or all of them if you chose. If they defend her or tell her that you don't like her, you might need to move on. They might not realize how she's treating you. If they still don't understand or try to see from your point of view, it might be time to find new friends. If they're true friends, they'll miss you and want you back, if they don't, they don't deserve you.
<3 Emma
Ps if you do find new friends who appreciate you, you might feel like you've let her win by leaving the group. But, of you make sure she sees you having fun with your new friends, she'll find that you found someone better.

June 26, 2012 at 9:25 AM  
Anonymous Kassidy said...

2 and three. If three is a bully, send her home and have fun with girl two. In the end you'll see if they should really be your BFF in the end. If girl two is wild, give her two chances. If she gets to strike three, she's out.

June 26, 2012 at 9:43 PM  
Anonymous Bunnygurl16 said...

Thanks for the help anonymous. Still trying to pluck up the courage to talk to her...

June 27, 2012 at 2:29 PM  
Anonymous Lexi said...

So this is really revalent i just had to get some things of my mind:
1. I would toatlly love to help but when i have parties i only invite my closest BFF'S.

2. This is the irevalent part, (Its also why i am only invited to like 3 parties every year) When i was little the mean popular girls know, and their moms knew me and my mom. None of them really liked me to begin with, they all thought that i was not like them cause i didnt care about lip gloss and stuff. Anyway. So over 2 years my neighbor (a popular girl) Had like 16 parties, 8 in one year. Well i and the rest of the possy (Its what i call the popular mean girls) Were invited to ever one of those parties. I didnt have much fun but they all got really mad when i wanted to leave and keep asking me, Why are you leaving? I would usaually reply with a: Beacuse you guys are being mean. They didnt really like that and thought i was being mean. (Oh and BTW, they would pull tricks on me, like in Winter, they'd lock me out, or theyd steal my stuff and make me look for it when they were having fun, or they would bounce on me cause i am a late sleeper and everyone else got up at like the crack of dawn) Well one party everyone was fighting and it was like 3 in the morning. and i go "Why dont we all just STOP being dumbpoos and go to bed, please" That was the last party i ever was invited to. So know im the unsocial nerd that the possy loves to try and play pranks on. So they are the reason i dont talk to much of humanity.

Thxs for listening to my unrevalent story :D

June 27, 2012 at 11:19 PM  
Anonymous Sis said...

Woah. tough decision i hope u can wrk it out.
i say that just invite the ones you WANT to come and don't mind what the others think... afterall it is YOUR birthday, right?

i hope i helped, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

June 29, 2012 at 1:01 PM  
Anonymous To Lexi -luv the name btw! said...

ust cus they think u r it don't mean u r a nerd.u just need a break and the possy really need 2 pack it in.

ps. popularity is outta the question, sum people can get on really fine without it.
just hav fun and enjoy ur world. THEY r irrelevant not u...

June 29, 2012 at 1:08 PM  
Anonymous bunnygurl16 said...

Aww lexi, those girls were so mean , u did the right thing though. i totally understand how u feel though cos its happened to me before.

June 29, 2012 at 2:00 PM  
Anonymous xx_YOLOliver_xx123 said...

WOW tuff. First of all, choose your friends wisely. Only ur true friends would stick around you even if theres some1 else in the picture. Second, join a club or a hobby group to make new friends outside of schoo lthey will give u more advice than what i can say 2 u at this moment. The point is ur so called "friends" r not ur freidns at all but honestly not to be mean but they sound lik wannabes- anyway give her a peice of ur mind. but not literately. tell her waht she is REALLY doing and how its affecting u and how it makes u feel. and report after u did this. if shes still not listening 2 u...well....fin a friend in ur skool that will help u thru all this.

about the party problem ill pick girls 1 and 3

June 29, 2012 at 2:49 PM  
Anonymous Gracie said...

I say invite them all. My friends each have their quirks that can make or break the party. 2 birthdays in a row were ruined by two girls, but they were two of my best friends and I wanted them there. My advice is that next year you shouldn't have a sleepover. It's too long for some girls to be with a lot of people. HOPE I HELPED!!!

June 29, 2012 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Bella said...

Help plz girls! Ok so my friend is having a birthday party at the end of the month but has no idea what to do for it. She has never been allowed to have a party before but her mom says she can for her 12th birthday. It has to be not too expensive and somewhere that about 7 people can go to. She needs to decide fast so help quickly plz! Thanks in advance!

July 2, 2012 at 9:59 AM  
Anonymous FeelingPinkish said...

@ Bella. Your friend could have a sleepover, pool party, minute-to-win-it games, or movies at the theater

July 4, 2012 at 2:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think you should pick all so you can ha a fun time and your party if they are getting wild for the first time you sould tell them or her to settle down. the tird time tell to go outside for a few minits and setle down.

July 6, 2012 at 11:19 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I would definetly not invite girl 3 because nobody likes someone who trash talks other people. I would talk to your mom about why you don't want to invite her if you choose not to since your mom is friends with hers.

July 12, 2012 at 12:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I love your name. ( hint my real name isn't anonymous) lol!

July 13, 2012 at 2:27 AM  
Anonymous Missy said...

She might have only been allowed 2 girls=those are my rules too

July 13, 2012 at 10:04 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

i think, for girl #1, do things that don't make her do drama, like, (i don't know if this can work, but) take the blame for her action, if she does that kind of drama. girl$#2:tell her she can't be to excited because your parents don't like people that arre TOO excited. girl#3: tell her if she's rood, she can't come. but if she's rude at the party, say: i'm sorry, but if your gonna be mean, your gonna have to GET. I hope you love my idea, frusrated birthday girl!

July 23, 2012 at 3:17 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

oh, and i forgot: happy birthday!

July 23, 2012 at 3:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That must be terrible! When my friends started ignoring me I found a new friend and then I got those girls to be friends with her too! After that no one was left out! Maybe you just need to invite a new person into the group

July 26, 2012 at 8:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Look at the situation in its fullness. Is he worth it, maybe not. Besides, guys do not really get those feelings at the same time as girls. So he might not not like you- or any girl yet. And if your friend told him, he might not know what to make of it. But that is not the kind of thing a true friend would do. Is she a good friend? Confront her about her actions. Set the record straight with her. If you really think hes worth it, then if you feel it is needed, share your feelings and set the record straight with him. Your 'friend' already did half the work for you. You will get a better response from him if he hetes it from you.

August 6, 2012 at 9:05 PM  
Anonymous JASMINE said...


August 13, 2012 at 8:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think u should invite girl 1 and 2

August 18, 2012 at 2:33 PM  
Anonymous teengirl said...

Definetly 1 and 3 ..cause these girls seem nice enough and dont seem pretty wierd ! It wont be awkward !! :) Have a blast

August 20, 2012 at 8:45 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I Would definetly invite 1 and 3 in my opinion.. They dont really seem to bad and 2 seems kinda awkward to be around ...

August 20, 2012 at 12:57 PM  
Anonymous Camille said...

Speaking of which... I don't really have much friends because they don't get me and know me. I would hang out with sixth graders but they would think I'm a lunatic! Help!

August 23, 2012 at 5:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

none! i would say none! if they all r trouble making, dont invite any

August 23, 2012 at 11:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't invite ANYONE but the girls that are nice to you and don't start drama. If they are hyper (but not mean), than I would invite them and just make sure that they aren't too crazy. But it's YOUR birthday party, so make sure that anyone you invite won't ruin it!
Hope this helped!!!

September 15, 2012 at 7:45 AM  
Anonymous Molly said...

If they ignore you don't invite them!!!!!!! If they don't seem interested in what you say don't invite them!!!!!!!!!!!!!

October 10, 2012 at 2:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

1 and 3

July 10, 2013 at 10:16 AM  

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