Did a friend ever break up with you?:(

We talk about romantic breakups, but less about when friends break up. It can hurt when close relationships fall apart. Can this friendship be saved?

Dear PLS,

I said something stupid and made one of my friends really mad. I tried to apologize to him but he said he never forgive me and he didn't want to be friends with me anymore. I know how to get over your boyfriend breaking up with you but how do you get over a friend breaking up with you? Does anyone have any ideas? I'm really depressed about it and i don't know how to let it go
thanks for your help
dani

Have you ever heard the expression "Time heals all wounds?" I know it's not true EVERY single time, but maybe give it a little time and then try another apology. Tempers will probably be cooler when time passes.

Here's some help with making apologies, so you're ready to give it another try.

Saying You're Sorry

Any other advice for Dani?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

This recently just happened with my whole group of friends, we got into a dumb fight.mafter talking about it and laying everything out on the table, I felt it was much easier to let it go. I would suggest a calm sit down and go from there. If things don't go well, you can always wait till the time is right. Hopefully eventually you both will get over it.

June 19, 2012 at 1:15 AM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

Maybe you should give him some time to steam of you know? Give him about one week then try to talk to him again and explain how you didnt mean to hurt him. But if he stays sad for a little longer, dont snap at him and just have patience with him until he is ready. I hope I helped Dani!

June 19, 2012 at 1:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry, you'll become friends again!

June 19, 2012 at 2:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't worry, you'll become friends again!

June 19, 2012 at 2:34 AM  
Anonymous Emma said...

2 years ago, my group of friends all turned against me. I had been sick from school for one day, but when I got back the next day, they basically said they didn't want me to "play" with them. They were acting really immature about the whole thing and they only didn't want me hanging out with them cause they thought I'd make fun of their game that they had made up the previous day. The whole thing went on for almost a year, with them playing this unknown game for all that time. While they were excluding me, I made 2 new friends that I did everything with thought that time. We all made up after almost a year and then my 2 new friends became a part of the friendship group with the people that were previously excluding me. The point of this is that over time, you will make up. It probably won't be anywhere near as long as a year, at most maybe a month. But also, your fight with him may lead to opportunities that you might not have ever imagined. If I hadn't had a fall out with my friends, I never would have become friends with those 2 girls and my friendship group wouldn't be at all the same as it is now. <3 Emma (sorry this is so long!)

June 19, 2012 at 8:27 AM  
Anonymous Isabella said...

Yes, I have had a friend break up with me. It was about 2 years ago. Her name is Abigail... her mom used to watch me after school and we would always get in fights when we would play together. Did I mention we used to be best friends???? So now she is trying to "make up with me!!!!" I said "Well maybe but you are actually going to have to be nice." Truly I was thinking far off from that with just so much anger and all this madness in me. After I wanted to take back all that fighting and everything we said, because she was actually trying her best to be nice!!

June 19, 2012 at 10:22 PM  
Anonymous Warrior Fireheart said...

When 4th grade came around, I didn't really have any friends. Then halfway through lunch, a girl named Kristen invited me to come chill with her and her friends. Being friendless, I couldn't refuse. We soon became best friends, but in 5th grade, she found out about my love for mythology, and she hated me. She turned her entire group against me, and I still is mean to me.
I know what that is like, to have a saced trust broken. It won't just take time, sometimes there's just too much that time cannot erase. You need to apologize to him, and try to be nice to him. May starclan light your path, and when you apologize to him, be nice about it...even if he is a pain in the tail. :)

June 20, 2012 at 4:04 PM  
Anonymous Pinklollilolli said...

I feel ya! I did some stupid things and my friend got mad. After that, we fought a lot, and it all led up to the big fight when we didn't talk to each other for weeks. That whole thing was about 7 months, but know we are closer than ever! :)

June 21, 2012 at 7:34 AM  
Anonymous Taylor said...

Don't be upset me and my BEST FRIEND got into a huge fight, and we stopped being friends.ngive him/her time and then soon you will start talking give them time and they will come around.... Sad to say we still arent friends but dont worry we talk and are becoming more like friends everyday!!

June 21, 2012 at 4:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

sorry this is gonna be long but,PLEASE,PLEASE,PLEASE i need an answer by next week. ok so, i am having a birthday sleepover party on july 19th and i need ur honest opinion who i should invite of these girls. girl 1: she is nice and popular and bff's with 3 other girls i am inviting but she creates a lot of drama and im afraid if I dont invite her people will be like where is she? I am also friends with this girl but she creates sooo much drama. girl 2: she is 1 of my friends but she is kinda rude 2 some of my other friends, she can get annoying and she is wild at partys (my parents don't really like wild kids running around in r house). girl 3: this girl was my bestie in the begging of the skool year but she dislikes some girls I am inviting, is a bully to my friend and she whispers in the corner about people at partys. she is besties with most of the girls i am inviting so if i don't invite her people will be like ???. and r moms r friends! please help me! just say which 2 girls you would want 2 come to ur party i only can pick 2 of the 3. thank u soo much if u help! sorry this was so long.
- a very frustrated birthday girl

June 21, 2012 at 8:48 PM  
Anonymous Big friendly giant said...

My very best friend and I were walking in the hallway and this one girl was walking in front of us my BFF pushed me to the ground so she could walk with Hollis the girl that was in front of us. And since that day she gives me dirty looks and when I try to talk to her she runs away and acts like im invibible. And the worst part is that we like the same guy and she now made him a prize for her and I to fight over I just wish we were still friends cause we made some pretty special me
memories.

June 22, 2012 at 2:05 PM  
Anonymous pinklollilolli said...

Dani, I totally hear ya! The same thing happened to me. I said something stupid, my friend got super mad, we made up, but only for about a month because i was stupid AGAIN. then we didn't talk for over a week, then made up for real this time and now we are closer than ever. it will get better, don't worry!

June 25, 2012 at 2:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ok i know how hard it can be. ive been there. ive spent two years with people who let on theyre your friend and then turn there backs on u. its so hard. i know. the only advice id give is dont say anything!!! i know it can be tough but the thing is if ur being bullied ur friends wil have probably joined in only to SAVE THEMSELVES!!! mine did for a while. i just let on in school that i was really happy on my own but when i got my friends on theyre own i told them how i really felt. as soon as they knew how much it botherd me they immediately left the bullys. dont b afraid to tell ur friends how u feel!!!!

June 25, 2012 at 5:04 PM  
Anonymous Lexi said...

Hey if he was so stubborn not to listen to you apoligize, and if you said like one thing and he JUST BLLEW UP ABOUT IT. well my guy friends do that to me all the time. I am sry that you guys arent friends anymore. if you have an iphone or ipod touch i would get a new texting app. And then if you have his number txt him then when you guys are done with the chat and her understands why ur sry and he might see it to, then tell him that you are you. (Dont let him find out that you are Dani until the very end) Good Luck!

June 27, 2012 at 11:17 PM  
Anonymous Ash said...

Hey Dani,

Well I have gone through a lot of this stuff n I leave the fight and try to solve it.. If he is stubborn then just forget him and move on.

June 29, 2012 at 1:15 PM  
Anonymous rednpink said...

well is depends on what you said some people fogive alot give your friend some time maybe if you take back what you said and yor friend wont forgive you the their not a good/real friend so if they dont forgive you find a new friend

July 11, 2012 at 11:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Say you are sorry for what you did and then explain how it made you feel that he broke up with you. Tell him you wish you could be friends again and if he still doesn't forgive you then go find a new friend and forget about him. Time passed and you gave a sincere apology, so if that is not enough for him then it now becomes his problem. It is time to find a new friend.

July 12, 2012 at 12:38 PM  
Anonymous Juliett said...

Hey Dani,
i don't know what you said but he couldn't be that upset about it he should forgive you soon and he is taking what you said way to seriously and he is just over reacting. If he doesn't forgive you don't worry about it because you have so much more friends than him and they don't over react over a little sentence that you said. Confusing? sorry (The bottom line is that you should just forget about him because you have better friends :)

July 12, 2012 at 2:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u should find a time alone with nobody around and explain everything and APOLOGISE girl.

July 13, 2012 at 1:38 PM  
Anonymous Kaelah said...

Say to him," You were an awesome friend and you have a right to be mad. One stupid thing I said could ruin and entire friendship. I am so sorry and I miss being your friend. Please think about it. I do not want this to be the end of our friendship."
Hope this helps Dani! :)

July 15, 2012 at 11:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im sorry he probly misses you he just doesnt want you to know

July 17, 2012 at 11:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

He is hurt about what you did, and he either just wants to avoid you forever to learn your lesson, or just fix it somehow. Say something really nice to him, and take back what you said before. If you gad huge drama with other people involved in this fight, it may be a bit too late. I would also bring up good memories, and maybe a peace offering. Just an idea. Hope i helped!

July 19, 2012 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

well, first of all dani, try to make new friends, forget about your old friend. i k now it's hard, but saying your sorry just makes she or he more irritated. just do things that impress him or her. if he wants you back, tell HIM to say sorry first! i hope i helped!

July 23, 2012 at 5:17 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

try to be nice, try to make him happy, try to help him with his problems. if that actually hurt him, try to avoid saying thing outa no where. hope i helped

July 23, 2012 at 6:37 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

you should try every single thing to make it up too hm! boy friends are a girl's charm! hope i helped!

July 23, 2012 at 9:42 PM  
Anonymous mackkkkk. said...

i know it may seem bad but you may need to let him go. i had a friend for about two years and then another girl come along and then we slowly drifted a part it was the hardest thing to deal with. we got in a little disagreement a few days ago and then we were okay. then the new friend jumped in and she got 10 times as mad! ialways said we would stay friends forver but forever came short.

August 6, 2012 at 12:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know what your going through I just went through it.it just depends on how good of a friend she is if she's really a good friend she won't be mad for two long.

August 8, 2012 at 1:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i used to have a friend who was too sensative to everything i said. she was always ignoring me one day and my bff the next. eventually i broke up with her. belive me if your friend isnt worth it, its not a bad idea to break away

August 10, 2012 at 1:53 PM  
Anonymous Warrior Fireheart said...

My friends and I started a band, and this is the topic of the new song we are writing. The song is called nothing to me.

August 10, 2012 at 5:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Me and my friend used to be so perfect but as we hit year 6 we argued a lot. The advantage of being friends since year 1 is that we can always say sorry by the end of the day or the next day at the most. Some of our arguements are pretty stupid...trust me...but we are still BFF's. We all learn from mistakes. So make the first move, if your feiling guilty say sorry no doubt she will be sorry too. All that will do is reunite you and your friend, it's not like she can get angry from you saying sorry. Give it a go, you'll feel a lot better.
GOOD LUCK :)

August 14, 2012 at 6:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, it is kinda hard to predict how boys will react to this kind of stuff. Most boys arent into mushy apologies or ooey gooey feelings. I read over your concerns and I think it would be a good thing to apologize, but do it in a non-chalante way, easy-breezy way. If he doesnt accept it then that is his problem,YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL EITHER WAY!

August 22, 2012 at 7:08 PM  
Anonymous Rachel said...

just remember to be cool and patient :D

August 24, 2012 at 11:47 AM  
Anonymous MeMe said...

Warrior Firehart:
Your band sounds cool. I like that song title!

September 28, 2012 at 1:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I once got dumped by a freind. To get over it i cried with another freind that she dumped. I never really liked her anyway




By the way happy thanksgiving who ever lives in america!

November 18, 2012 at 10:53 PM  
Anonymous kewlkittykat said...

yeah, plenty of friends dumped me. i was really sad but i got over it. here is what i think, if they dump you then they weren't meant to be your best friend for life. if they were they would stick by you forever.

December 19, 2012 at 4:41 PM  

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