What if all your friends are in the OTHER class?

Jenna is already thinking about school. Maybe you are, too? Here's her question:

Dear PLS,
I am going into fifth grade and in my new class none of my friends are in it. How do I solve that problem?
Jenna, 10

Darn! It is disappointing when you know your friends will be in another class. But I do have a few ideas:
1)It's a good opportunity to make new friends or become closer friends with people that you already know.
2)There's still before school, after school, lunch, sports and other activities where you can be together.
 
Give it a few weeks and I bet you'll be feeling more comfortable. What else, Pink Locker girls? Has this ever happened to you?
 
Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

This exact same thing happened to me in 6 and 7th grade. Don't worry, I'm sure you will make new friends like I did.

July 14, 2012 at 1:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Jenna
Like Jemma said this gives you a chance to meet new friends and weekends you can spend some time with your "old" friends
Hope i helpt«Sonja

July 14, 2012 at 6:54 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that once happened 2 me.......... but i made new friends bcus my long time friend was in dat class........... n of course i was still best friends with my other friends

July 14, 2012 at 7:22 AM  
Anonymous Rebecca said...

It can be hard at first but if I hadn't of been split from my only best friend 4 times, I never would have made the 5 other friends that make up the great friendship group I have today!

July 14, 2012 at 8:59 AM  
Anonymous Maddie said...

It isn't cool when you find out that your best friends aren't in the same class as you. I speak from personal experiance,but i had a great year! Just try and hang out with your friends when you can but don't be shy, be you and you will make a bunch of friends. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!1

July 14, 2012 at 1:08 PM  
Anonymous *Owl* said...

Well, you are only in fifth grade so, you will probably see them at lunch or recess. I on the other hand, have TEAMS at my school so if my friends aren't on my team next year, I'm not going to see them AT ALL during school hours. -_- But 7th grade is my first year with electives and lockers!

July 14, 2012 at 1:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

good luck, I'm sure u will make other friends. I remember it was hard 4 my friend when me and my other friend were in a different class than her, but she made friends with some girls in her class and it worked out fine.

July 14, 2012 at 10:06 PM  
Anonymous Big friendly giant said...

I'm going into sixth grade but in first grade all of my friend that were girls were in a different class. So I became really close friends with all the guys. And now i really just hang out with the guys and boys keep your secrets and there alot more fun to be around.

July 14, 2012 at 10:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you have to learn how to make new friends too. like how did you and your friends became friends? you cant be stuck with your friends forever. its also like trying something new. try it first before you say something.

July 15, 2012 at 4:12 AM  
Anonymous "Shy, awkward and desperate for love" said...

I'm really nervous about this happening because I'm so shy and I can never think of something to say. :(

July 16, 2012 at 6:19 AM  
Anonymous ChocolatePandas said...

I dont want this to happen to me. I hope that it doesnt happen because I am going to sixth grade next year. But if it does happen do any of you guys have suggestions on how to make new friends, if you havent really talked to them for the whole time in school? I usually only become friends with the people who are new, because some of the other people I have been with in the same school since pre-school and um we sorta had some problems when we were younger. So suggestions to patch things up would really help me.
PS: All of the Pink Locker Society ( club I guess) are my friends. :)

July 16, 2012 at 4:15 PM  
Anonymous Twigs said...

@ChocolatePandas... 1st off cool username. If it does happen to you then can make new friends. To make new friends(the people from pre-school) then you can just talk to them. Like if you sit next to them just say like how 6th grade with be a cool or boring year. You can also talk to your friends friends and make them your friends too. Hope i can help!

July 17, 2012 at 9:49 AM  
Anonymous Love Pink said...

@ChocolatePandas

Even if you have problems with some of the people you need to put that behind you. If your in 6th grade that was 7 years ago... Do u really need to hold a grudge for seven years?? Just start talking to those people I promise you will find someone to hang out with, the same thing happened to me and I turned out just fine!! :-)


AND...


Jenna- don't worry you will find out who your true friends are thought this split. Some of your friends might float away and this will give you a new chance to make new friends. You cant just have one group of friends I also made that mistake... And I was so wrong! Make sure to branch out and don't worry about it, just have fun!!

July 17, 2012 at 12:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well, try to communicate with those people who you think are kind and polite rather than making friends which are arrogant. Try to be nice to them and talk some interesting things which make them get closer to you and also make them think that you are kinda interesting person to talk to. You will be fine if you do all this.

July 17, 2012 at 4:37 PM  
Anonymous TyKara said...

It's going to be okay. I have gone through this situation before. Try to make friends. Try making friends with someone who looks cool, and nice. Don't be friends with the Drama Queen. You don't want to get in the middle of Drama.


And...

If you are shy, try to slowly try to make friends, and don't force yourself.

And have fun with whoever you meet/become friends with, and don't give in to peer pressure. :)

Love, TyKara

July 17, 2012 at 7:13 PM  
Anonymous LittleBee said...

I find it hard to talk to the "cool group" people though. I always think I will make a fool of myself and they will think I am weird. Some of the girls in that group are not very nice

July 18, 2012 at 4:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree exactly with littlebee. I am going into eith grade next year, and there is this giant group of really mean popular girls. I agree that I always feel stupid and awkward around them.

July 18, 2012 at 12:45 PM  
Anonymous Skylar said...

With what technology is growing to nowadays, it will be simple to stay in touch with your besties other than just seeing them at lunch. Facebook, texting, emailing, twitter, and tons of other social networks and ways to keep in touch.

July 18, 2012 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous Lola said...

I know that would be SO annoying if all your friends are in another class but you can always keep in touch! Anyways if that DOES happen you WILL have a good chance of making new friends! If your shy, like me, you don't have to push yourself so hard to make friends, slowly start a little conversation or something.
:)

July 18, 2012 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous chocolatepandas said...

Thanks so much everone! :) Ill try all of the suggestions. Thankyou;)

July 18, 2012 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous a mad icygirl;( said...

My sister is being a jerk right now! I had the idea of making a cool 1920s locker like broadway with music pages and like make it look vintage. I told my sister, and she took my idea! Shes one of those people who are really mean for unnessasary reasons. So mad. And shes being really mean and rude about it. And when my parents cant hear her she will say stuff like, Ha now Im going to look up ideas for MY locker idea, or stop being such a stupid baby. And my sister is 13. I really cant believe that she would stoop so low! Im not talking to her right now. Dissapointed and mad at the same time! I really hope that she would stop and let me keep my idea for my middle school locker! Please help by giving me suggestions that would help me cool down a bit. Thanks girls, you are all very good friends:) going on this website makes me feel a little better.

July 18, 2012 at 8:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To A mad icygirl:
First of all I LOVE your locker idea. It sounds very cool and fun (don't worry I won't take your idea too). Now for your sister problem, have you talked to her and explained that you are frustrated that she took your idea, or are you just trying to ignore her and not worry about it. Of course I dont know your sister and how she can react, but I do think no matter what talking to her could help. Next if talking to her doesnt work, have you talked to your parents? Maybe you can explain what happened to them and they and talk to her (sisters often listen better to parents then siblings). If none of that works I'm sorry, but remember there are always plenty of other fun locker ideas!

July 19, 2012 at 12:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jenna,
I just got out of fifth grade. I also had no one in most of my classes! There were people like this one girl who I knew just never said anything! But in the end I've made a bunch of new friends! It wasn't that bad actually because it gives you a chance to express yourself!

July 19, 2012 at 4:52 PM  
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July 20, 2012 at 2:24 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

thanks so much! I wouldnt mind if you took my idea for a locker, because then it could be your locker at school! ( we probably dont go to the same school)My sister wont take my idea i think for now:)
Thanks again!

July 20, 2012 at 3:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when I went into 5th grade I went to a special class. I knew no one in it. I made tons of new friends and hung out with old friends. Don't worry.

July 21, 2012 at 4:21 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

aww! that sounds sad! it's ok to go hang with them in your free-time. just go to their class and you guys can go to the cafe~ or something

July 22, 2012 at 6:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jenna,
Don't worry if your friends aren't in your class. Take the time to talk to some other
girls and soon, I'm sure you'll have lots of friends. If there aren't many times you
and your friends can be together at school then you guys can meet at eachothers houses
once in a while or go home together. Be brave and as the PLS say, Think Pink!

July 23, 2012 at 1:29 PM  
Anonymous Samreen said...

This thing happened to me. I was terribly upset by it, because in my last class I was bullied and had some friends who would support me. Then when I stepped into the new class, after a few weeks, I found that these friends were even friendlier and nicer than my other friends!

July 24, 2012 at 3:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I starteda new middle school, I had not many friends.. They were in a few of my classes, but only paid attention to their own friends. So, I decided to make my own. And before I knew it, I had so many friends I couldn't Count!

July 24, 2012 at 10:03 AM  
Anonymous dolphin00 said...

i experienced that. and im still kind of angry at this one girl(girl 1) who got mad at another girl in the other class(girl 2). girl 1 broke all friendships with girl 2 leaving out girl 2. now everything is almost back to normal. girl 1 is still weirdly angry at girl 2 but claims to have forgotten the reason why. its weird because the fight was a year long. hopefully that wont happen. make new friends and you will have tons of fun.

July 24, 2012 at 5:36 PM  
Anonymous Ze PieLuvr said...

Same thing with me! I had moved to a new school and i only knew one girl that was in my Girl Scout troop. My plan was to have one friend on the first few days of school, then i would befriend her friends and by the end of the quarter, i would already have a big circle of friends. The key is to HAVE FUN. And as we always say, Think Pink!

July 26, 2012 at 6:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

last year I had to move to a new shool.it was right in the midel of a school year.i had to say good buy to 8 friends including my teacher.

July 27, 2012 at 7:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

it realy sucks.my bestfriend was at a totaly diferent wing

July 27, 2012 at 8:00 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

The same thing happened to me! Try to join the same clubs and stuff, sit together at lunch, play together at recess.... Keep in touch and make plans with your friend beforehand too.

July 28, 2012 at 7:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

its hard ! i love joesph

July 29, 2012 at 8:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im going into 6 grade IM nerves cause i moved 6 weeks ago new school . but it lest i live close to my crush ! the key is to have fun and think pink

July 29, 2012 at 8:26 PM  
Anonymous Mohika said...

No prob! this might not be so helpful but this year I went to camp for the first time without somebody I knew and it turned out being the best couple weeks ever! I made a goal to make as many friends as I could and I did! I made like 10 knew friends and got a crush there who I also became bff's with...and I got hi phone number...EEEEKKK!!...sorry..

July 31, 2012 at 2:51 PM  
Anonymous kristi said...

same thing happened to me but i slowly made new friends and i spent time with my old friends after school and during activities at first i was lonely but not anymore

August 3, 2012 at 10:23 AM  
Anonymous PLSBlogger said...

The same thing happened to me last school year, and I kept in touch with them at lunch and at my/their houses. I also made a TON of new friends! Plus, last year was my first year of middle school.

August 3, 2012 at 7:09 PM  
Anonymous PLSBlogger said...

Same here. But we live really close and bike to each other's houses sometimes!

August 3, 2012 at 7:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am afraid this is gonna happen to me when i start 6th grade
Karla

August 8, 2012 at 10:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That happend to me last year and I was really scared for school to start, but when school started, I made a lot of new
friends.What I figured out though was that
just because your friends aren't in your class,doesn't mean that you can't still be friends with them.

August 9, 2012 at 5:25 PM  
Anonymous yameen said...

i know write that happen to me i think for about two years my friend madison totakky forgot about me bcuase of her boyfriend ryan he tells her to say rude things but im sure it will be ok talk to them at lunch in stuff i do that with my friends taylor

August 10, 2012 at 1:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know how you feel. This year I am going to a new school and I am leaving my best friend behind.:( At least I know her address.

August 10, 2012 at 12:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know exactly how you feel! Here's some advice:

1) Call your friends the day before school! This is to make sure that they will be there for you no matter what!Meet them before or in between classes too:)

2)You should try your best to make a new friend!Sit beside her during first period or something, you two may share a deep bond after!

3)Never abandon your friends but don't be surprised if they do it to you! They may meet new friends along the way, so make an effort to talk and meet up!:)

REMEMBER!!!: Best friends are gold, Boyfriends are silver

TTFN!
Chloe:)

August 15, 2012 at 9:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have NO friends in any of my classes except for choir and gym. I don't even get to see them at lunch! So how do I make new friends?

August 19, 2012 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know what is like it happen to me but i found that i became close with a friend now we are bff's

August 21, 2012 at 6:23 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

jena im also going into 5th grade and none of my friends are in my class and i have a friend name jenna btw and i just met my teacher yesterday and saw my class and everybody whos in it. not one of my friends are in it! and theres this mean guy in my class and i keep thinking this is going to be the worst year ever! but i was also thinking theres new kids in my class and i could become friends with them. and think of this as a good thing i always got introuble with my friends now that there not in my class i prob wont get in troulble
TTLY
olivia

August 21, 2012 at 10:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have NO friends in any of my classes. Plus I'm so shy... making new friends is gonna be really hard.

August 22, 2012 at 11:10 AM  
Anonymous Camila said...

Jemma don't be worried you can make new friends.

August 26, 2012 at 5:46 PM  
Anonymous Pubertymaddness said...

Aww..dear dont be sad ur PLS friends are right here :* ...Hey cheer up and i knw actually we all knw how hard it is to make new frnds and keep in touch with the old ones ! :) But on the brighter side you will have more friends and that might make you popular ! If you feel any better i had a lot of problem when thus happened to me but it just ended in m having 10 totally new friends ! Cheer up chickie !!!

August 28, 2012 at 9:02 AM  
Anonymous Katheryn said...

When I went to 6th grade, only one of my friends was in my class and she wasn't even talking to me. She was talking to her other friend who wasn't in her class last year so I sat next to my sort of friend and then we became best friends and it turned out that she moved to the street next to ours and then I felt all gutsyso i talked to a lot of people and we all became best friends and I'm gld my friends from 5th grade weren't in my class because they wouldn't have let me be friwnds with my new best friends




Remember everything happens for the best!

August 28, 2012 at 10:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

you'll be fine! It's a great chance to make new friends and you can always meet ur old friends after school or hang out after. Just keep a cool head and go with the flow :)
hope you have an awesome school year!

September 4, 2012 at 9:16 AM  
Anonymous Jenna said...

OMG! I DID NOT KNOW MY ANSWER WAS REPLIED ON THE BLOG!!! Well... it turns out that my bff was...REALLY MEAN!!! And one of my old friends is now my bff! So thx 4 everything u guys!

September 9, 2012 at 8:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That stinks! Some of my friends were in my class last year, but this year they're in the other class!!! But I still see them at recess.

January 23, 2014 at 4:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That happened to me too. Some of my freinds who were in my class last year are in the other one this year. But I still see them at recess!!!

January 24, 2014 at 7:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm thinking that my friend will be in another class too! I hate it.....happened to me last year.

August 18, 2014 at 6:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey JENNA Girl!

That happened to me too last year.😞 My best friend from Grade 4 was in the split class. Now this year, she's moving schools.😣 I'm sad, but I can still talk to her using Social Media!😉 I suggest you make up new friends. That's what I did. Now I have a group of friends and I'm also friends with the populars. Just don't forget your old friend too! I mean that you shouldn't just play with the new friends, you should play with your old friend too. Hope this helps! -Secret Anonymous

August 18, 2014 at 6:30 PM  
Anonymous superman2001+ironman said...

I am so mad at my principal for not putting me in the same class as my friend i worried and almost cried!!

June 18, 2015 at 11:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Make new friends

June 18, 2015 at 11:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What to do when your friends are gossiping about you

August 4, 2015 at 8:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The same thing is happening to me all my friends are not in my grade 6 class next year and I am so scared but this happened before and I wouldn't have met my best friend if I was not separated.

June 29, 2016 at 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the EXACT same problem! I'm in fifth grade,and NONE of my bestest friends is in my class. One of them is,but she recently stayed with her mom. We have a different schedule,and my class is the only class that has our regular fourth grade recess and lunch time. I spend time with another friend,but now she doesn't really talk to me. This happened today. So at recess,I went to a bench and read a book. It hurt my feelings because I only moved to this school a year ago,not knowing alot of people. I'm sensitive,so I cried on the second day of school. I managed to survive,and you will too. Recess and lunch is only a few minutes,besides the people who sit next to me are really nice and I know most of them from my fourth grade class. But I still want some advice :)

August 25, 2016 at 11:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am going into 6th grade and my schedule was just sent to me. I checked with my friends and two of them are in another class. There is one I don't know about yet and I'm scared if she isn't in my class. I know I will see them at lunch and in my advanced math class. I can also make new friends. Don't worry. You will do just fine.

August 9, 2017 at 9:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am going through the same exact thing, and when I looked up how to solve it this popped up. I'm in 5th grade too and my parents said the same thing. Still crying on the inside...

August 17, 2017 at 8:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All of my friends are in the other class, so I cried my eyes out ALL DAY! None of the people in my friend group are in my class and every other girl in my class already have their friend groups so I feel sort of left out. Okay I feel a lot left out. I'm too nervous to actually hang out with anyone else because I don't know how they'll react to it. My social life is like a roller coaster;I don't know what ups and downs lie ahead.

August 17, 2017 at 8:49 PM  

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