X-rated search results - what should she do?

Did you ever search for something online and the search results were, let's say, more than you bargained for? I'm talking about inappropriate stuff and naked people. It's called porn and there's a lot of it on the Internet. Anonymous is worried about it. Here's her question:

i've been seeing a lot of porn as my recent searches. i think it is my dad who is watching all of this. what should i do
Anonymous

Before I could respond, Jessie was on it and posted this terrific reply:

@ Anonymous
Oh, this is a tough one. I know what you're thinking... Do I tell my mom? Do I ask him?... No wait that would be too awkward! Do I just leave it? AH WHAT DO I DO? Well hopefully the professional Jemma will see this comment and work her advice magic. But for now, here's what I suggest. First just act cool like nothing happened. Wait a while. Keep checking your recent searches. Think of something. Are there any other males in your family? Older brother? Uncle visiting? Anyone? Don't automatically turn it on your dad because you never know.

Ok. This is the hard part. Go to a trusted female adult/older person (like your mom or and older sister or grandmother) and tell them what you saw. Be honest. Be open and tell them what you saw. Tell them how you feel. Whether it's scared, worried or just plain weirded out. Then ask them to talk to the other males in the house privately one by one (if she hasn't already suggested that she'd do that.) Also remind her not to mention your name (she probably wouldn't anyways but just clarify.) Hopefully the truth comes out and they sort out a solution. Don't be ashamed that a family member would do that. I was visiting my aunt and uncle, and my brother and I were in their basement, about to watch a movie. My brother opened the DVD player and said Ummm... Jess? And I walked over and he showed me the DVD that read "Porn". We were weirded out and just left it there. Ewwww.

Anyways, good luck and be brave! If something happens, just remember to tell a trusted adult or come back here to this awesome, helpful website.

Jessie is absolutely right. Anonymous should tell someone. If she's feeling nervous, here's an easy way to let a grownup know that something's up: Just say, "I think our computer has a virus or something because when I search the Internet, I keep getting inappropriate stuff."

And, the truth is, the computer could have a virus. A grownup can help install a kind of software that will filter out that kind of stuff. I wouldn't blame her Dad or anyone else because she doesn't know if they had anything to do with it. And I wouldn't assume it had to be a boy. Lots of kids are curious and will seek out this kind of stuff. But I don't recommend it! It's gross and not good for anyone - kids or adults!

Any other advice out there?

Think pink!
Jemma









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Anonymous Love Pink said...

That is a tough problem... I know it can be awkward talking to an adult about it but there's no other way to stop it. Try talking about it to your mom when you and her are the only ones around. That will definately help make it less nerve-wrecking. Try telling her on your way to school or an event that your dad isnt going to be at. This might help you cool off a bit and forget about what you have told your mom. And, make sure to tell your mom that you don't want your dad to know you found out because that could be even more embarrassing.


Hope I helped!! :-)

July 18, 2012 at 7:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I feel u girl. My dad has been doing that too. I dont see that pop up but sometimes i walk in the office to get something and i see him trying to minzine it so i cant look.

July 18, 2012 at 11:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I get that stuff too, but I have a safty filter to not show it. If something innaproprait comes up just exit the site or if it's an add and your doing something important just cover it with your hand or a sticky note.

July 19, 2012 at 6:23 PM  
Anonymous Xtra Xtra said...

y do pple watch rubbish?

July 20, 2012 at 5:47 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh that what porn was! I didn't want to search cause i knew it was bad

July 20, 2012 at 5:31 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Jemma's right so is Jessie

July 21, 2012 at 11:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i luv u in the books! it's sad forrest was moving away and did. i hope u and jake will get togther.

July 22, 2012 at 4:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

u r so awesome!!! did forrest ever move away?if he did boooo!! if he didn't yay! hope u and jake get togther!
later! ttylxox ;)

July 22, 2012 at 5:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You can use Google Safe Search. (just for images though) When you search a picture, there will be a tab saying "Safe Search On". Click it, and you can turn it off, moderate or strict. Hope I helped!

July 22, 2012 at 8:39 PM  
Anonymous cutie23 said...

first of all, you shouldn't ask him. second of all, tell someone whom you REALLY trust, and third of all, DON'T TELL YOUR DAD!

July 23, 2012 at 3:19 PM  
Anonymous Sophia said...

What to do if your mother keeps talking to you about puberty??????? Like 24/7. Help plz!

July 29, 2012 at 7:54 AM  
Anonymous Sophia said...

In the modern world, porn is not unusual. Not that it's right, but it is more common now than ever. For some reason, lots of people like porn. But it's not just men, who, just like men do, often like porn to do with females. Ladies are almost as equally guiltY of looking up porn, maybe not of women so much though. And teens and even kids, some very young, are getting into this. Whether they are influenced by parents or other role models or, especially with older kids, are rebelliously doing this. And with the amount of sexual content in movies, TV shows and even books, not to mention music videos and the way celebrities act, talk, dance and the clothes they wear, it's not surprising so many young people are taking on porn searching. I personally think such content is inappropriate for people of our age and porn should be off limits until we turn 20. Even then, I don't think people should look up porn anyway. But people have their own rights to look up that if they wish, even if others, including myself think it's disguising, bad, gross, wrong, stupid, scary, yuck and inappropriate. Not that I've ever seen any, but by the descriptions of what it's like, it's real gross.

July 29, 2012 at 8:13 AM  
Anonymous Isabella said...

Please post Jemma!!!!!!!!!

August 1, 2012 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous Post please! said...

Jenna post! It's been forever!

August 2, 2012 at 4:57 PM  
Anonymous hi. said...

what does porn mean?

August 2, 2012 at 8:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Porn is pictures/videos/images of completely or nearly naked people. No one needs to see that kind of stuff.

August 3, 2012 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous PLSBlogger said...

@Sophia,
If your mom keeps talking to you about puberty, she probably just wants you to be ready when each change comes. If you're getting too overwhelmed with it, then you could ask her if she could talk about it a little less or get you a book about it so you can read it only when you want to hear about it.
Think Pink!
PLSBlogger

August 3, 2012 at 7:05 PM  
Anonymous Onedirectionfreak(L) said...

When I was very young, about 7 or 8 years old, i saw that my brother had saved a bunch of porn links. I didn't know what porn was at the time, but i saw a swear word on one of the links. i told my parents a few months later and then they talked to him. I've been keeping a close eye on him ever since. I know it's rude but sometimes I even checked his phone for anything bad. It's just that I love him and I don't want to lose him. And in his own way, he tries to assure me that nothing bad is going on. Should I keep on doing this or should I believe him?

August 6, 2012 at 7:25 AM  
Anonymous Zezezozo said...

Is porn always visual? Could it be written or spoken? Or would that be considered something else?

August 6, 2012 at 8:02 PM  
Anonymous Zezezozo said...

Can someone PLEASE answer my question???

August 14, 2012 at 5:30 PM  
Anonymous Katelyn said...

IDK zezezozo. Probably, but most don't think about it that way. i suggest you ask on one of Jenna's most recent posts.

August 16, 2012 at 10:23 PM  
Anonymous zezezozo said...

@Katelyn, thanks!

August 20, 2012 at 10:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell an adult and make sure your dad gets help he can possibly have an addiction

August 26, 2012 at 11:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

When I was a few years younger I stumbled across some inappropriate content on the Internet. The problem was that once I saw it I couldn't stop wanton to see more. I know I made a mistake and I don't do that anymore but I'm worried that my parents will somehow find out and think that I still do it. But I don't. And what if hey DO find out? What if they hats me? I am a nervous wreck. Can someone help?

August 27, 2012 at 1:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@Anonyomus,
I had your same problem at first! Then I made a decision. I decided to put that behind me, delete the history on my computer, and start fresh. That way, nobody would find out and the problem would stop.
Hope this helped!

September 2, 2012 at 7:59 AM  
Anonymous Warrior Fireheart said...

Okay, I KNOW this may sound a little dumb, but hey i like science, i am trying to make a image search engine that will filter out this junk.

September 8, 2012 at 6:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear anonymous

i had the same pron. i dont do it any more, and im glad. just delete the content and forget about it. if u find urself ever going back to it, just force yourself to stop and get off the computer. go watch a funny and appropriete show like icarly or spongebob or victorious ect. hope i helped

September 12, 2012 at 4:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HELP ME!!! I am addictided to this and sometimes i am just like "eww"!! I can't move away and i have tried everything!!! It always plays in my mind!! It's gross!! But i can't stop! I'll just be playing a game, then i'll exit out my game, and find myself SEARCHING porn on GOOGLE IMAGES!!!! Please help me! I have never told anyone and i refuse to!!! It is a naughty thing and i can't stop it!!!

September 23, 2012 at 7:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

@anonymous , you should probably either tell a trusted adult about your problem. It's hard, but it will pay off in the end. You could also switch your google to safe search so that if you are still searching it it won't come up, best of luck!

September 28, 2012 at 12:34 AM  
Anonymous big sister godess said...

im new and im only ten and a half so i don't know much but i think you so tell your mom about it, its happend to me before but nobody was watching so i just tryed to forget about it and never serech that ever again

December 27, 2012 at 9:57 PM  
Anonymous Catgal89 said...

Yeah. Me too

December 23, 2014 at 10:26 AM  

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