Back to School Bras?

Lots of girls (like Erin No Bra, for instance) have been writing to us about bras. I think that probably has a lot to do with back to school time. You want to look your best, right? And you don't want to feel mega-awkward in the locker room.

Erin No Bra is worried because her mom has only supplied a bra-like item, not a real bra. She feels she needs a REAL bra and doesn't know how to bring this up. Here's my advice:

1)Find a time when the two of you are alone.
2)Say something like, "I've been talking to people and I'm worried I'll be the only one who doesn't have a bra at school."
3)Hopefully, she'll understand and help you out. If she says, "But you don't really NEED a bra," agree with her that you know you're not really developed yet, but that it would make you feel more comfortable to have the same kind of bras as other girls, especially in the locker room etc.

Any other brilliant advice for Erin?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous EMMY said...

When you go to a store you probly see bras and panties. Say mom when will i get a bra? Maybe see will get you a a paded almost there bra. There is 4 stages .

STAGE ONE.training bra GRADE 4TH 9-10 YEARS OLD
STAGE TWO. SPORTS BRA eND OF 4TH GRADE
STAGE 3 . PADED BRA MIDDLE OF 5TH GRADE 10-11
STAGE 4 . CUT BRA 11-AND UP END OF FITH GRADE

HOPED I HELPED
EMMY

August 17, 2012 at 11:17 PM  
Anonymous Erin No Bra said...

oh my goodness... thats me!! im erin no bra! oh my goodness! this is the one site that actually answered me!

August 18, 2012 at 12:03 AM  
Anonymous Erin No Bra said...

dear emmy- thanks for the advice. maybe i will use that! :)

August 18, 2012 at 12:05 AM  
Anonymous Mia said...

Hey PLS girls. At the moment I am 10, and I only wear a 'crop top'. My friend has a real one,and I feel I need a little more of a bra too. What should I do?

August 18, 2012 at 12:17 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra said...

please give me more advice! i just dont know what to do! and lately one of my friends, (not naming names) my bffev (best friend for ever and ever) came over and we wanted to go play with mud outside (dont judge me but we made a mud pie the made mud meatballs then threw em at eachother) and she didnt bring a bathing suit so i gave her one of mine. we were in my room getting into the bikinis (well she had my tankini i had a bikini) and she said "my mom gave me bras to wear. do you wear a bra? you should, you look like you r gunna need one soon" she di9dnt say it meanly. but that just made me relize i needed one even more!

August 18, 2012 at 2:04 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Wears-Bras-Now age 10 said...

EEP!!! i found my own solution! i was reading going into cupped bras and i kinda changed up/mixed up and smashed a couple choices together! what i did whas i took my light pink crop top tht my mom got me to wear incase a shirt's neckline hung too low. anywayz i went up to her when she was cleaning our upstairs bathroom and held up it and said: "Hey mom why do i have this???" she said "i thought u wore it under shirts when theyre see throo" i said no cuz then u just see the bra, and its worse. she sed "oh well u should start wearing something something anyway. so when ur comfortable with it u can wear it." i sed" but i dont like these tht much cuz then the top of it might show above a shirt" she then told me "ok well what kinds do u like?" i sed to her then "the ones like..triangle ones" i cant beleive it but she said "ok well we'll try to get you that as soon as i can" ii said ok, then walked into my room and screamed silently: YEEEESSS!!!!!! WOOH!!!!!!

- Erin-No-Bra-Wears-Bras-Now

August 18, 2012 at 8:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The charts not true for all girls maybe for u but I'm going into 6th grade and most of my friends and I still wear training bras

August 18, 2012 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Thats sooooo great!!!!

August 19, 2012 at 11:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My mom wants me to get a bra but I just don't feel comfortable shopping for them. I'm always nervous someone will see me. Help!

August 19, 2012 at 5:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That chart is not for all girls cuz I didn't start wearing a traing bra till the middle of fifth grade and I wore them all thru six grade and I asked my mOm at the beginning of summer of seventh grade if I could start wearing padded bras. The chart made me feel kind of embarrassed of the bras I wore! I know your trying to help but every girl is different! And I think u should wear the type of bra you want when u feel comfortable not by the grade your in!

August 19, 2012 at 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

Lol nice Erin-No-Bra-wWears-Bras-Now LOL

August 19, 2012 at 8:44 PM  
Anonymous ccmay said...

I have the EXACT SAME PROBLEM!! I said, can i get a bra? which took enough courage as it was, but she only got me a flimsy scrap of fabric that doesnt help with the show-through-the-shirt problem.

Now, I cant say "can i get a padded bra?" even when were alone, because I know she doesnt think im ready for that, and it makes me think im the only one who notices my (still small, but growing) breast in my shirt.

August 20, 2012 at 12:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I want to get a bra. My boobs are still smallish but a good size for me because I'm really skinny naturally. So does anyone have any suggestions as to which brand or type of bra I should get? And j want them in white because I don't want anyone to see it under my shirt.

August 20, 2012 at 10:39 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

that chart is incorrect! it may be right for you, but i didn't start to wear any kind of bra until the beginning on 6th grade, and then the end of 6th i got a padded bra. im going into 7th, and i usually wear padded bras, one cup bra that is a bit big.

August 20, 2012 at 11:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I dont get it EMMY i start 5th grade tomorrow and i dont wear a bra help me!!!

August 20, 2012 at 1:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have that problem too!! My training bras are like see through now since my boobs are now bigger and i can see through my own bra and I can see that circle of my boob and the color of it even comes through!!! but nooooo, my mom thinks otherwise!! imma feel sooo embarassed in the change room because all the girls will see my boobs!!! I NEED A REAL BRA MOM, CAN YOU NOT UNDERSTAND?!?!?

August 20, 2012 at 3:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey girlies!

Seriously the best thing you can do to get your first bra is talk to your mum about it honestly!! :D I didn't need to though my Mum said my nipples were sticking out(lol) and that I needed a bra. A couple of weeks later we went shopping and bought two training bras. I'd been wearing them for almost a year. Then we went shopping in Primark and there was a sale. She wanted to get some bras herself so my mum went to look. She dragged me along. I was just looking at other things while she was doing that. By the way the bras were in sets so it was like a bra and knickers that matched. She then said "Do you want some? They are on sale?" I said ok and was soooo happy inside that I was getting my first padded bra!! At the end of it all she ended up buying me 4 sets of them!! I love them soooo much!! They are super cute and have lace and bows and buttons on them!! :D

yay!!

P.S. I was 11 when I started wearing trainings bra's! I am 12 now and literally got the 4 sets yesterday!! LOL!! :D Hope I helped a bit!!

August 20, 2012 at 4:36 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra (10 yrs old) said...

HELP!!! MY MOM IS TRYING TO BUY ME TRAINING BRA AND IM SUPA DUPA EXCITED BUT WE CANT FIND THE TRIANGLE/V-NECK BRAS THAT ARE SMALL (LIKE TRAINING BRAS YES I NEED A TRAINING BRA) I NEED A WHITE, 1 OR 2 COLOR/PATTERN AND MAYBE A BLACK WHERE CAN I GET UN EXPENSIVE, COMFY TRAINING BRAS WITH NO BOW!!!! HELP!! I WANNA WEAR A BRA BEFORE I START 5TH GRADE BUT THTS SEPTEMBER 5TH THIS YEAR!!!!!!! WHERE CAN I BUY A BRA LIKE THT?!?!?!?! SRRY FOR CAPS BUT I NEED UBER ADVICE!

August 21, 2012 at 12:31 AM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

I really want to ask my mom for a padded bra. Likeone of those soft cups from justice, that are one step under those thick padded bras but they have a little padding so its more support then the flimsy unsupoortive piece of fabric that my mom calls a bra. (Its really one of those training bras that my nipples show through!)
Embarrasing first day of school story! Under this:
So i was starting middle school today and I took my sports bra, and my padded justice swimsuit, and took out the pads in the swimsuit. When i put on my bra, i slipped the pads under my bra and my nipples didnt show! I was so happy until about fourth period. My pads started slipping all over the place! Thewould slip high unto my shirt, then slip low. So i bent down and reached into my shirt and pulled the things out! I hope no one saw meh..

August 21, 2012 at 12:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

 Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra (10 yrs old)
I would trya tjmaxx or Marshall's if u have one near you. That's where I get all my bras and they're good brands. For a two pack it costs like $3 and I got seven soft cup bras and underwire bras for like twenty bucks. They are really cheap but good quality!!! Hope I helped!

August 21, 2012 at 9:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Omg I did the same thing with the justice bathing suit and my traing bra! After a while I figured out it worked better if u pinned the pad in your bra! Now however I realized that was stupid and should have just asked my mom for a padded bra. Lol!

August 21, 2012 at 9:06 AM  
Anonymous Shorty mc short shorts said...

PLEASE HELP!

Srry for the caps but school is starting next week and I need advice fast!
So one day i was looking in the mirror with my sports bra and tank top, and it looked lumpy and gross. So I finally worked up the courage to ask my mom for a real bra so we went to target and we were near the bras so i said, "mom, when will i wear real bras" and she said, oh you dont need them yet" and i was really sad. So i know "mother knows best" but i dont want people making fun of me AGAIN for not wearing padded bras. Should i just tell her i need them? What should i do???? Thx

August 21, 2012 at 10:06 AM  
Anonymous emmy said...

A good place to get our age bras our at jc penny. Look in the girls secton. They have all bras.
Where do you live?
Emmy

August 21, 2012 at 11:20 AM  
Anonymous Cutiecake123 said...

@ Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra

Good places to check out are, (shockingly) Target, Walmart, Sears, Macy's or a big place like that. They usually have sales and the bras are already a good price in the first place. Some may have bows but that's all I know.

Hope I helped!

August 21, 2012 at 11:56 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Yeah thats true. I got my first bra in 7th grade. It had B cups.

August 22, 2012 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't worry about anyone seeing you while you're shopping for bras because i've gone twice and nobody sees me and if anyone you know happens to be there don't worry they'll probably be scared too of anyone seeing them. They won't tell anyone about it. There's not really a chance of seeing anyone there anyway. Don't be afraid.

p.s. JCPenney's has good bras for good prices.

August 22, 2012 at 6:41 PM  
Anonymous Verytinyandalittlejealous said...

The chart is way off for me. I'm in eighth grade and still wearing tank tops or sports bras. It's not like I really need one. All you girls are talking about not being able to get a bra... I have AAA cup. You guys have B cups in 7th grade. Be thankful for what you got and just own up and grab a bra in the store, then slip it into your cart.

August 22, 2012 at 9:37 PM  
Anonymous emmy said...

Ya dont be scared if someone sees you. No boys are gonna be in the girls part. If you want go to the dressing room.
Emmy

August 22, 2012 at 9:56 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra said...

girls, u can calm down too. im not being mean, im just saying. i dont care who sees me!! if they see me im just turning the other way and talking a bit quieter cuz yes its awkward, but idc if some random person sees me. :D


age 10

August 23, 2012 at 10:54 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

I would like to recommend a bra type. I think that soft cup bras are the best and when you get your first bra, that is what you should use. Strapless bras can also be a pain sometimes. They slip or ride up... I think that underwire bras are mostly for people with bigger breasts so if you have smaller breasts, I would not recommend an underwire.
Hope I helped and think pink!!!

August 23, 2012 at 12:27 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Don't worry, love the way you are!!!!

August 23, 2012 at 12:28 PM  
Anonymous AnswerQueen said...

Guys, in fifth grade I didn't even wear a bra. My mom bought me a few even though I didn't ask and I never wore them to school. Then at the end of that year I actually started to. So unless you really need to wear one, like realllly, you don't have to, especially if it's just because your friend does by the way now I'm going into 8th

August 23, 2012 at 2:41 PM  
Anonymous AnswerQueen said...

I started getting my bras at Walmart hen I was in 5th grade. Then in 6th I got new ones and they were very slightly padded. Then 7th I got a few more that we're basically the same. Then at the end of 7th I realized I needed a different size. So me and my mom went to Victoria's secret for some. I know that may sound shocking, but it's actually a store the sizes that run small as it is, for some with small boobs. And now I think I need more because I only got one when we went to Victoria's secret lol

August 23, 2012 at 2:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The same thing happened to me! I'm 14 now and I only got a 'real' (cup bra) for the start of grade 8! If you're embarrassed about the changing room and don't feel comfortable wearing training bras around boys and your mom doesn't feel like your ready for a real bra, you can compromise! What I wore was a training bra with padding built in so it was a win-win situation! Hope this helps!

August 23, 2012 at 5:39 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

I really want a padded bra but I'm really scared to ask my mum because she bought me crop tops a couple of months ago and I'm afraid she'll say I don't need them. I'm going into high school and I really want them HELP!

August 23, 2012 at 6:21 PM  
Anonymous Shorty mc short shorts said...

Can someone help me?? Please?

August 23, 2012 at 8:59 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra said...

hannah- if ur in highschool, it is probably time. when ur passing the the bras say "oh, mom, i need new bras, can i try some on?" like u just remembered. when ur trying them on, try on small ones and say "ouch this is tight! lets try that one..." pick up a padded and try it on. if ur mom says no, just say "please mom, im going into highschool!!" if she still says no, ask for ONE


age 10

August 23, 2012 at 10:48 PM  
Anonymous Hannah said...

Thanks Erin I'll try that

August 24, 2012 at 7:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In the 4th-5th grade I wore training bras. In 6th I started wearing sports bras, and now I'm going into 8th and I still wear sports bras. I wanna get a padded bra tho, but my mom thinks I don't need one. People say "OH IF YOUR MOM SAYS YOU DON'T NEED ONE YOU DON'T NEED ONE YOU DON'T NEED ONE THEN!" no. Please heat me out. I've always been on the flat chested side, (which im okay with. Because I do some catalog modeling, but when I get older I wanna be a catwalk model. I'm tall for my age and requirements to be a catwalk model are your at least 5'6-5'8 and wear a A-B sized cup bras, but that's beside the point right now Kay? :P) but when were in the locker rooms, my friends wear size b cups and a cups and their about the same size :P my mom just think I'm flat chested Becus all she buys me are those damned sports bras that make me look like a little boy. I have pride in being flat chested (Alot of my friends are so were always like, "HIGH FIVE FOR FLAT CHESTED PEOPLE!" lol.) But I just think a padded bra would be more comfortable for me :( Any suggestions on how to ask her for one??? :/

August 24, 2012 at 7:10 AM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra said...

oh but also i forgot to add this- do u need one?? ask ur closest friend if u can try on her padded bra. does it fit??? if its a b cup and its big a bit, maybe u fit into an a cup!!!



THINK PINK

August 24, 2012 at 12:04 PM  
Anonymous Elanajane said...

I emailed my mom and said why I wanted one, all my friends had cup bras, and that it would make me feel more comfortable! I thought that my mom thought I wasn't ready either but I realized she wuz just waiting for me to ask! Then a got pictures of some bras u wanted and a couple of reviews fore the bras and then I said why I wanted that particular bra! I had 3 bras ranging from a soft cup bra with little padding to a bigger cup bra with a little more support! When you show and tell your mom why you want the bigger bra she will probably understand! You could also talk to your mom and tell her about the locker rooms and how you feel more comfortable with the cup bra then without! For added support you could show your mom pictures of the bras or stores you would like to check out! Hope I helped! :)

August 24, 2012 at 12:38 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

I know that this is off topic but for you tampon users, do you like tampons with or without applicators better? I just want to know so that if I ever use tampons I know what to buy. (I only use pads)

August 24, 2012 at 2:21 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

If your sports bras are too small you can tell her that and ask if you could trya different type of bra. I am sorry if this advice is not helpful but I have never been in this situation. (My first bra was already a soft cup bra.)

August 24, 2012 at 2:23 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

I think that if you are ready, ask for a different bra and tell her how ur bra shows under your shirts and that its embarresing. Im sorry if I am not much help, I have never worn a sports bra, only a soft cup. Sorry.

August 24, 2012 at 2:26 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

I think that for high school, you are ready for a padded bra. Ask your mother and explain to her your reasons.

August 24, 2012 at 2:27 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

You can also bump into the bra shelf by "accident" when you are at the mall with your mom. It worked for me and she bought me more bras!

August 24, 2012 at 2:29 PM  
Anonymous Onedirectionfreak said...

I used to wear something over my bra last year because the ones I had at the time were really bright and my school uniform is cream coloured. This year, I talked to my mom about it and she's happy to buy me dark ones. And she's fine with me having friends who are boys and going to their houses too.

August 24, 2012 at 2:42 PM  
Anonymous Michelle said...

You should tell her I don't feel comfortable I would like to wear bras with padding because I would feel better about my self.
Tell her how you feel about sports bras too.
I felt the same way.
Hope it helps!
I am tall For my age to and want to be a model
guess that started when some one told my mom I should be a model I don't Know random person i feel like am bragging

August 24, 2012 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I run a lot and do things like push ups that require me to lay on my stomach. I have learned that it hurts to lay on the ground on my stomach without a bra. Is that normal?

August 24, 2012 at 5:36 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra said...

anonoumous- yes it is!!! thats just your breast buds. i have that too. try wearing a sports bra when u do tht. say "mom can i get liek 1 or 2 sports bras for when i excersize?" the sports bra probably wont rise up or dig into your skin as much as a cup, padded, soft cup or training ect. bra.



age 10

August 24, 2012 at 9:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its fine i used to feel that way but now i dont

August 24, 2012 at 10:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am tots NOT trying to be mean, but i just need someone to explain to me....why is it embarrassing to ask for more bras? yes its embarrassing to ask to start wearing a bra, or a new kind of bra but your mom already knows you wear a bra! in my opinion, when i relize thht im gonna need a new/bigger bra im just gonna go to my mom when its ust me & her and say "mom can we go to the store i need to get more bras" its not THAT embarrassing!! in this one place i went to the men's sports section was next to the women's undergarnments, the shelf facing the mens part had 2 huge bras, a thong (yuck!) and a bunch of socks. be glad that ur mom doesnt have ur crush or a man attatched to her whenever u need to ask or go bra shpping(lol)

August 25, 2012 at 9:49 AM  
Anonymous Thepaduser said...

To pinkadink, it all depends on you, applicatorless ones take up less space in your purse, but you also need to stick a finger up there which you might find icky, and the ones with applicator take up more space in your purse but you might find them easier to get inside you. Where i live it is virtually impossible to get ones with an applicator, and i have still not managed to get one inside me, but im hoping that i will have achieved this by my next period so that i dont miss swimming practice

August 26, 2012 at 11:58 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I didn't know they made bras that small..

August 26, 2012 at 5:38 PM  
Anonymous Erin-No-Bra-Is-Getting-Her-First-Bra said...

i dont think im gonna wear a sports bra for non-athletic purposes before i started going on this blog. i didnt know that girls wore them under shirts everyday before they got into cups/soft cups. even if my mom tells me, im gonna ask for a different kind because some of my shirt have an oval shaped neck hole so it might show some parts. hope i didnt sound mean to some of ya's. if i did sorry!!



THINK PINK

August 26, 2012 at 9:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i think that chart is not right for everyone cause each girl is different.BUT that chart is right for ME cause its exactly what happened to me!im in that last stage.im 11 and i just finished 5th grade.

August 26, 2012 at 11:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ahhh! My mom has been practically BEGGING me to get a bra but every time she brings me to the store to get one I freak out and don't buy any. And what if someone sees me?? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help!

August 27, 2012 at 1:01 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Me either.

August 27, 2012 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Thanks! I think from your answer, I like the ones with applicators better. (Less icky) lol!!!!! :) thx!!!!

August 27, 2012 at 4:21 PM  
Anonymous Erin No Bra Is Getting Her First Bra said...

to annonomous- who cares if someone sees u? pretty much every1 in that section would be a girl. and i think every1 knos girls wear bras so dont worry. if someone sees you just pretend their not there. if u kno them dont look at em' and avoid them. try out bras. do u like v neck? crop top? sport bras? cups? padded? soft cup? give them all a couple days to get used to. if u dont like them, start wearing tanktops with built-in shelf bras. then moves to crop top. then sport bra. then v-neck. then soft cup. padded. cups. or switch tht around. i would go with this, but not wear sport bras. i really hope i helped.

August 27, 2012 at 8:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Target or Kohls!

August 28, 2012 at 7:13 AM  
Anonymous RiddleGurl said...

I wore a very tight bra today and then it cut my chest!

OUCH :(

August 28, 2012 at 10:06 AM  
Anonymous Erin No Bra Is Getting Her First Bra said...

thank you anonoumous above. im going to target for boots later this week so maybe my mom will look at the bras and we will buy some. if i dont find any boots we'll go to khols for boots, but also look at bras!!!! thank you!!!!!!!

August 28, 2012 at 12:03 PM  
Anonymous erin no bra is getting her first bra! i mean... Born2Bme said...

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August 28, 2012 at 12:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Help! ok so im 11 but i look like im 14! Sometimes its fun 2 look older but it makes me feel bad about myself. like my parents and grandparents wont let me wear shortish shorts or v neck tops cuz not so much they are inapropriate its just that they want to keep all the boyz away! im not a boy crazy girl! my grandmother dosent trust me to go to the bathroom in stores alone. even with my sister! cuz she says im to dizzy (it means not paying atention to stuff) and im to friendly ( which means ill talk to any1) yeah im a friendly person but i know about stranger danger and stuff like that. im not a bad kid etheir, im respectful and make good grades at skool! i also am an early bloomer so my boobs are bigger than most girls my age. so my grandmother always says 2 her friends she is very and holds her hands in front of her chest. its terrible! then i tell her to plz stop and she does not! plz help me!

August 28, 2012 at 1:42 PM  
Anonymous Soph No Cup Bra said...

OMGG!! this is totally my PROBLEM!!!!Soooo, this is kinda embarrassing, but im still wearing a training bra even tho im going to high school.... Yeahh, this is really awkward for meehh. But most of the time when my mom goes shopping and buys me bras, she only buys the "training bras". I really dont understand the problem of me wearing a cup bra, but my mom acts like im not "old" enough or that i dont really need cup bras yet... Every time i try to start a conversation about cup bras, she immediately shoots it down :( so after few attempts i decided to not ask her directly. Sometimes i try to drop hints, telling her that we need to go shopping for bras, since im still growing and stuff. But every time i mention about cup bras, she tells me that its not good for me and that its only need for women with bigger chests... and i really dont know how to respond to that, so i just stay quiet. I know that i dont have the biggest chest, i'm only a 34 A, but i dont undestand. whats so bad about cup bras??? my cousin, who is younger than me by a few months never really wore "training bras" her mom just went straight and bought her cup bras. And i know that every parent is different, but i dont know what my mom has against me wearing cup bras!! Every single time i try to ask her if she could get me cup bras, my mom makes it sound like cup bras for me is the worst thing that could happen. so is there any advice on how i should approach my mom this time???

August 28, 2012 at 4:48 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to annonomous- bring that exact thing that u told us up to them! maybe itll help. with the store bathroom things promise them u wont talk to guys. maybe ur sister will back u up too. maybe compromise with wearing a white/black/color/pattern tanktop under v-necks. wear the sh0ort shorts to school, but make sure they arent scrunched up so they look TOO short. i am 10 i wear shorty shorts. ive benn wearing them since i was 7-8-9. tell them u dont like it when ur ghrandma tells her friends u r....busty. theres no shame in that. tell ur parents about ur grandma. maybe ur mom might talk to her. i hope i helped!

August 28, 2012 at 9:24 PM  
Anonymous CountryGurl said...

I'd say wear tank tops with bras in them,it'll make you feel like your really wearing a bra so you won't be embarassed. Or if your talking about wanting a padded bra,you might wanna start with a non-padded bra! Hope this helped!

August 29, 2012 at 8:41 AM  
Anonymous a small flower said...

my middle school starts at 7th grade, so near the end of 6th grade my mom told me that she got me a training bra to wear (so i wouldnt have no bra for the locker rooms). my mom bought it from justice. i got used to wearing it all the time so now Ill be ready when i start 7th grade this year. i currently have 4 white bras and 2 skin-colored ones.

August 29, 2012 at 12:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i have sports bras and wear them if i go swimming (for in the changing rooms)
or do sports day
i started wearing them when i was 9
but i feel more comfortable without personaly

August 29, 2012 at 4:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am ready for a padded bra now but my mom always says your to young to wear it help!!!

August 29, 2012 at 11:32 PM  
Anonymous Elanajane said...

When I lay down or press with a little bit of pressure on my breasts they hurt! Ecspecially in the middle. I don't have big breasts, I only wear a 30-32a cup bra and am 12 years old. Are these breast buds? Does it mean my breasts are growing? Please help! :)

August 30, 2012 at 6:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm almost twelve and still flatter than a pancake. This makes me thankful instead of worried because the later my breasts grow, the later my period will be, and they are a huge inconvenience. That will also mean I am growing up, and grown-ups are boring. I don't want to become boring! Also, I might start liking another species of human that I have hated since first grade: BOYS!

August 31, 2012 at 4:30 PM  
Anonymous Haley needs a bigger bra said...

I asked my friend if I needed a padded bra when we are the same size I'm almost a c cup but we are both b cups so I'm pretty much bigger than her I guess and she has a padded bra and she said I don't need one!!!!! And I have another friend says her boobs are bigger than mine when hers are a cups and I don't know if I need one or not because my mom won't take me to the store but I am to embarrassed to ask for one without being at the store because when I'm at the store I can say " mom can I have one of these kind instead of the other ones?" How do I get her to take me to the store.


Sorry it's so long:)

September 1, 2012 at 1:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why do u need padded bras? U get bras which are real but not padded. I have a big chest so duh I'm not gonna make it look bigger by wearing padded! U get ones without pads in marks and Spencer's. Sorry I just don't get why u all want ur boobs to look bigger by wearing padded ones. And does a bra have to b padded? Cuz once my friend said something abt padded bras and i said they didnt have to b padded. But then someone else says "uh they kinda DO!" so I just wanna no... Is unpadded a real bra???

September 1, 2012 at 4:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry about the bras u could ask mom and only mom to buy u som bras

September 1, 2012 at 4:47 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dont worry

September 1, 2012 at 4:47 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to anonomous on september 1st 4:22pm-

yes they are. but, people get padded because if they have smaller breasts, they may want a little more bust. but when i get cups im getting padded. many girls get padded to protect their breast buds. my sister is 13 and has cup bras with a small amount of padding. yet, they dont have to. if u dont want it, you dont have to have it!




age 10

September 1, 2012 at 9:19 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

dear haley needs a bigger bra-

here are a few choices

1: when ur at a store for clothes, or shoes ect., pass the bras. say "oh, mom, my bras are getting tight. can i get a bigger size please? i was wondering if i can get a light padded one cuz my breast is getting sensitive and i think the padding would like, help."

2: say something like "mom can u take me to (insert store like target walmart k-mart ect) for some socks?" or any other item like jeans, panties, earrings ect.

3: when your folding/doing your laundry pick up a bra of yours and frown. go to your mom as long as shes alone and say mom i realised that my bras are getting REALLY small and tight on me! could we go to the store soon and get a bigger one? (if u want padded then while ur picking out bras get slightly padded ones and pretend u dont know their padded and try em on if ur mom realises it and says oh their padded say "oh, they are? well there really comfortable! could we still get em pleasw?)

4: if ur mom folds/does your laundry watch her and say "oh! mom, my bras are getting tight and leaving red marks on me. i need to get bigger ones. can we like, go to the store and buy bigger ones? (if u want padded do the same as i sed in option 3)

September 1, 2012 at 9:33 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Way to think positive!!!!!!!!

September 2, 2012 at 12:32 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

You could say you meed underwear or pajamas or something then when u get to the store ask her.

September 2, 2012 at 12:34 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If ur mom won't let you get a bra... Offer to pay for it.

September 2, 2012 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous a small flower said...

@elanajane
yes, those are breast buds, and its normal for them to hurt. most girls get achy breasts sometimes

September 2, 2012 at 7:32 PM  
Anonymous a small flower said...

also it does probably mean they are growing

September 2, 2012 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous knock-knock said...

My breasts get kind of itchy around the nipple sometimes. Normal? Or... not so much?

September 3, 2012 at 1:17 PM  
Anonymous Rosie said...

I feel the same way, Erin! My mom actually brought it up herself when she saw I always wore thick undershirts. We went shopping, and I asked for cupped bras, because I am really 'small' and most of the girls in my school are 'large'. I did not want to feel out of place.

September 3, 2012 at 2:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I agree with you. I am starting eighth grade and a still wear training bras! Wear what you are comfortable in. Btw emmy you can wear a sports bra at any age.
What's a cut bra?

September 3, 2012 at 10:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gap body has great ones! U should get the bralette it's so comfy and it comes in xs and colors!

September 3, 2012 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just explain to her your problem and I'm sure she'll understand :)

September 3, 2012 at 10:32 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to anonymous on september 3, 2012 10:25pm

thanks! my mom and my sister are going to the mall tomorrow to finish her school shopping (and ill probably get dragged along too! lol!!!!!) so if we go into gap, ill try to hint to my mom "hey, hey, mom! hey, hey mom! get me another bra! get me the bralette!" lol, thanks for all ur advice girls!

September 4, 2012 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Your breasts are growing.

September 5, 2012 at 6:25 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Yes. All bras are real bras.... Thats why they are all called bras. ;)

September 5, 2012 at 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm turning twelve12 in February and still don't wear a bra. All my friends do. I'm not flat or busty just in-between I went to marks and Spencer my mum asked me do I need a bra she said not yet before I could even answer I was like damn I should have said yes so now I'm turning twelve and still don't have a bra but next time I'm going shopping and we pass the bra section ill ask her lets hope its soon enough. Thanks.

September 6, 2012 at 1:28 PM  
Anonymous BerrySorbet said...

there are many kinds of bras! sport bras,casual bras,including school bras!Actually,there are many more kinds of bras... i hope your problem will be solved as soon as possible :) good luck,Erin!

September 7, 2012 at 4:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Off topic... How do you get your mom to let you get a variety of female sanitary products?

September 7, 2012 at 3:47 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to berrysorbet


first let me say your screen name is delisious!! lol! but whats a school bra? ive never heard of one before, and im interested to see what they are. could u please describe it? thanks girl!

THINK PINK

September 7, 2012 at 4:14 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to anonymous september 7, 2012 at 3:47 PM

if by "Female sanitary products" you mean things for your period, then when it comes say to ur mom (when she is alone or just with ur big sister) say "hey mom, can u and me go to the store for some pads/tampons?" if saying pads/tampons is too awkward or embarrassing u could say bathroom stuff. if u need panty liners say " hey mom? could you and i go to the store? my period is light so i was thinking we should buy panty liners for me so i dont waste pads/tampons" if theres anything else that u were reffering to that i didnt mention in this comment just tell me. id be happy to help!! :)

THINK PINK

September 8, 2012 at 10:00 AM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

can any more gals out there give us more advice? i said us because this isnt just MY question being acswered! this is every girl thats haveing the similar problem's, questions being answered. :D

September 9, 2012 at 5:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

no swearing aloud! (the d word included....)

September 11, 2012 at 8:27 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

I think that u should just try to so like " u know my friend waz talkin to me about her bra and then maybe that will remind ur mom that u will need to get s real bra soon
**ygg**

September 11, 2012 at 8:51 PM  
Anonymous Haleys mom keeps backing out said...

Im getting a cup bra this year it's just all of my bras are too small exept for 2 of them but my mom says she will take me to the store to get the cup ones instead but she always says we will go tomorrow then she says the same thing the day we are going and again and again and again it's so annoying!!!!!

September 13, 2012 at 8:02 PM  
Anonymous Bprn2Bme Age 10 said...

to haleys mom keeps backing out

well next time she says tomorrow say "u sed that yesterday! how bout we set a date and we HAVE to go that day!" then look at the calender and find a day thats completely blank. write down "mom and haley-shopping" make her pinky promise you will go that day, and tell her (maybe) if u back out u owe me 5 bux" (or any amount of money) if she still keeps putting it off, go shopping with your friends. say "mom me and (insert names of friend/s) are going shopping on saturday after school. her mom is gonna pick me up at (insert time; ex: 4:00pm) and drop me back at home around (insert time ex: 6)." make sure u set it up with your friends BEFORE you tell ur mom this info! lol! thenwhen u pass near the bras, say oh! girls, wait up. i need some bras. then go and try on bras. baboom! there you go! if ur mom asked why u got it say "because, u keep saying tomorrow tomorrow and so when i passed them i tried some on and got a few."


I hope i helped!!!!!



THINK PINK! <3

September 14, 2012 at 9:05 PM  
Anonymous Haley's mom keeps backing out said...

Thx born2bme

September 15, 2012 at 7:33 PM  
Anonymous MeMe said...

Hey girls can I please have some help? So I have some training bras, but I show through them really bad even when I'm wearing a tank top over them. I'm not very big but I think I should probably move up to padded bras. I have a one but it is very brightly colored so I can't wear it under most shirts without it showing through... how do I ask my mom?

September 16, 2012 at 12:39 AM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to MeMe

i can help! i would recommend doing this:

you: mom my bras are getting REALLY tight! can we pleeeeaasseee go to the store and get bigger ones? its blothering me so much i cant stand it!

your mom (hopefully she will say this): ok sweety we can go tomorrow.

you: ok. but can we get like a peach colored, 2 white, a black maybe and maybe one or two printed orcolored ones? i want the peach colored cuz then it wont show throo my shirt.

mom: ok fine...



hope i helped!!!!! THINK PINK

September 16, 2012 at 11:09 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Tell your mom ur problem. You can tell her that they are getting too tight for you and how they are getting a little see through. Ask your mom if she knows if there are any bras you can where that will not be see through and maybe she'll recommend a padded one! If not, when ur at the store with her, explain ur problem and ask her for one!

September 16, 2012 at 6:40 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

You can also tell her that you want to get some that are closer to the color of ur skin tone.

September 16, 2012 at 6:42 PM  
Anonymous Haley got a cup bra said...

Hey guys I got my first cup bra today but my mom Only got me 1 and I need to get at least 3 more one nude a black and one with a pattern on it I already have a white how do I get her to get me more soon. When we went last my little brother had to come!!! That sucks.


Vo




\/

September 16, 2012 at 7:21 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Im glad u finally got the cup bra!!!! If u were able to ask her for it then you have some courage. Why not tell her that u want more so that if one is dirty u will have a backup. You can also say that you think the designs are cute so u want one with designs. Be creative!
Think of Pink and Sparkles!!!

September 17, 2012 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Haley got a cup bra said...

Thanks Pinkadink

September 17, 2012 at 7:16 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Sure thing Haley!!! Anytime!!!

September 18, 2012 at 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Ana said...

These charts make me feel so bad! I'm in year nine and am a 28AA! Seriously. And you think you have a problem if you are 10 and nothing is happening!

September 19, 2012 at 1:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my mom refuses to get me anything if i want it b/c other pplhave it if your moms like that just tell her u wanna try it out or somthing

September 19, 2012 at 4:03 PM  
Anonymous MeMe said...

Thank you so much Born2Bme!!! I'll try that

September 19, 2012 at 10:04 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

Ana... That made me feel really bad! some girls just devolope slower than others. maybe in ur family girls get breasts when they are 8 or something, but i didnt get buds till i was 9 and a half or 10. i didnt start developing breast buds till i was 10. so please dont say that. theres NO problem with being flat! there are some girls with full grown breasts, and they can still wear the largest size in training bras.

September 20, 2012 at 4:09 PM  
Anonymous Haley said...

I agree with Born2Bme it doesn't matter if you are busty or flat so no saying flat isn't good!!!!!!!!!

September 21, 2012 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

thank you haley!! im not completely flat, but i still find that effensive to flat girls. :(

September 21, 2012 at 10:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi im 12 years old and in year 7 and still dont have a cup bra all the other girls in my class do i have have biger bobs then some of them dont know how no arks my mum because i my still flat chested a bit but i think its time for a cup bra can u helpp me how can i


HELP HELP

THX

COMENT SOON

September 24, 2012 at 10:04 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

well aninymous above...

i thought i needed one too....but i actually just need a treaining bra!!! look at urselof in the mirror. do u NEED or WANT the cupped bra? would u actually FIT into a cup bra? you need to set ur sights out of ur mind and get the serious one in ur noggin. :).maybe if u have a big sis when shes at her friends house try on her cupped bras. do they fit? if shes like 18 of course its gonna be big, but think of the cupped bras u've seen in stores. do any of them look like they'd fit? if so, its time for a cupped bra! yay! to ask ur mom, when ur wearing your training bra and shes alone (say....doing the dishes) come in adjust and pulling and squirming around in your bra. say: "Mom! these bras are too tight. can we please go to the store and get a biggersize? and are these bras supposed to be see-through? cuz i noticed they've been getting more and more see-through..." hopefully she will say "no...they shouldnt be see through... maybe its time for a cupped/padded bra...what do you think?" say like: "yeah me too. can we go shopping tomorrow or something? its bugging me soo much" if she says her payday isnt till the next week offer to pay her back, or pay for the bra.



HOPE I HELPED!!!!!!


THINK PINK!

September 25, 2012 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am 2 months to 11 and i think i need bra .i wear sports bra and camis but i need real ones.how do i convince my mom

October 1, 2012 at 5:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tommorrow im getting my first bra with my mother and I have a few important questions...
.Well how many bras should I get ?
.Ive measured my size at home, but should I also get measured at the lingerie store?
.Should I wash them before I wear them?
.What are some positives about wearing a bra
.Around about how much would a bra for a 12 year old cost?

Please answer I'll be so thankful! (: xxx

October 3, 2012 at 2:46 AM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

to annon. on oct. 1st

just tell her ur bras feel too tight,m and u wanna see if a cupped or soft cupped bra would fit. try righting her a note, throwing it to her, then quickly say "ill be in the bathroom" and run into the bathroom and lock urself in there, pretend to use bathroom. make sure it says in the note: "hi mom. my bras are way too tight. can we get cupped bras for me please? write ur response on back on this note, leave on my pillow before i go into my bed tonight. thnks!"

October 3, 2012 at 7:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm in sixth grade and I sometimes still wear training bras.But I do have padded ones but not as many as the training bras. My best friends (in the same grade as me) just started wearing a training bra or don't wear a bra yet.

October 24, 2012 at 7:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i am 12 and i have breasts but i dont were a bra

what should i do?????

October 25, 2012 at 3:03 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

If you think that you need support, ask for a bra. Test yourself by jumping /jogging or measure yourself. If you are not ready, do not ask for a bra.

October 27, 2012 at 8:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks!

November 22, 2012 at 7:00 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

No problem! Girls gotta stick together!

November 24, 2012 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi everyone!!! I am 12 years old and quite flat chested (in between stage 2 and 3). When do you change from a training bra to a padded bra? I have just noticed I have started to show through my shirts. Do I need padded bras. I have tried on some of my sisters bras but they are a bit big (I think shes a b or maybe an a). I have been wearing training bras for about 18 months and I think I'm trained.
How do I ask my mum for a soft cup bra?
Thankyou in advance!!!

December 20, 2012 at 5:57 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I told my mum when I needed a real bra and she brought me to target and I got two lovely bras! Just tell your mom and if your getting teased tell her about that too


Hope I helped!!

January 20, 2013 at 4:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

im 12 and am in seventh grade. the weird part is that i only have breast buds . mum makes me wear a vest or spencer and has never bought me a first bra yet -not even a training bra or a camisole !all the 20 girls in my class wear bras except for me. Its really embarassing especially when i am changing in front of them for gym class. Pls help me!!!

February 4, 2013 at 11:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 13 in 7th grade and I only wear a cami with a built in bra thing. I'm super flat and all my friends are always talking about their bras and breast sizes. It's really awkward for me. I haven't gotten the courage up to ask for a bra... I don't actually need one. =(

April 3, 2013 at 9:35 PM  
Anonymous PurplePuppy said...

Can some1 plz giv some sugestions on
a) You've strted puberty
b) You need a bra
Thx in advance (now u hav 2 hlp or u owe me ;)!

April 20, 2013 at 4:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 13 and in 8th grade right now, so in a month I'll be a highschooler. My mom still has not bought me a bra. I only have camis with built in shelf bra things. I've asked for bras before an been told no.

April 29, 2013 at 11:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Im 12 almost and still have no crop top/ trainer bra or any bra for that matter. She didnt get a bra for ages so I think I wont need one for ages but I'm pretty sure I do. But I just don't know how to drop it into conversation. :/ Please help me

May 5, 2013 at 1:09 PM  
Anonymous soulsurfer said...

What i did was everyday i wore a cami under my shirt even when the shirt didnt need it. Then one day my mom said why do you wear a cami under your shirt?is it supposed to be your bra layer?i said no in a way that sounds like youre lying and she said well before summer i can get you a bra. Best day ever!!!!!!

May 25, 2013 at 11:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

the type of bra that you wear isnt considered by how old you are. it is based on how developed you are. i used to just wear a training bra until 7th grade then i got a real bra

June 5, 2013 at 9:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I need help! My mom thinks I need to wear a bra but I don't know if she means real ones and I have real one. Just recently my mom started telling me all the time " you beef to put something on " looking at me. And I know this means bras because shes done this before. Its just all my friend are huge and they think I don't need one. And I'm a bit too embarresed to ask my mom to measure me?! Please please please help!?

July 1, 2013 at 1:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I asked my mom and she said YES here's what I said: "mom can I get some new bras because the band of my bra is really tight" and VOILA hope I helped

July 4, 2013 at 4:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have the same problem. I've measured myself and I'm a 28aa. I've tried asking but I get to nervous and in the end I say something completely different like 'what's for dinner tonight'. please please please help!?

July 28, 2013 at 4:20 PM  
Anonymous keilah said...

I'm elleven and I've been growing my boobies for like two and a half yearsam I ready for a soft cup

August 12, 2013 at 5:29 PM  
Anonymous keilah said...

G to roses there inexpensive Cody and make you feel like your wearing a real one

August 12, 2013 at 5:32 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anyone I need help. I'm 11 years old and I don't wear anything. No training bra, crop top etc. at the moment my best friend gave me to of hers but I really need to start wearing them. I feel so left out. I only need a crop top or something but I don't know how to ask my mum. We don't have the best relationship. I don't think she'll by them for me because once we were shopping for new pajamas and we walked past this singlet but it had a built-in-croptop and I said hey mum what about this one and she said no it would be uncomfortable and I said why? She said because it has the little bra thing inside. I was so furious. That's why I think she won't buy them for me. Please someone help me xx

April 26, 2014 at 4:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All my bras are see through and im going to the fiith grad help!!!!!!

July 17, 2014 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ask them and tell them how you feel about the issue and then hopefully shell reconsider

hope this helped

February 29, 2016 at 2:03 PM  

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