What does it mean to be "more romantic?"

Ah, it's such a good feeling to like someone - especially if your crush likes you back. But what happens next? That's what Tia wants to know.

Hi pls,
The guy that I like asked me out a couple days ago. Now we are going out. Today he told me that he wanted to be more like romantic cause we are still treating each other like friends. But the thing is I'm 12 and so is he so we are still young. When is a good age to start going out for real? Anyway I haven't told my mum yet how can i. Please answer.
Tia, 12

I know exactly how you feel. It's so exciting to be "going out" with someone, but sometimes I think I like the idea of it more than actually spending time with that person. 'Cause, truth is, it makes me a little uncomfortable and I'm not sure what to do around them. Tia's guy says they're treating each other like friends. But I think that's fine. You don't want to act completely differently and start staring all lovey dovey into his eyes, right?

And a wise person once told me that crushes are a way to try out what it feels like to be part of a couple. So we're all just testing it out and seeing what it's like. No need to do more than that, I say!

What else Pink Locker girls? Have you ever felt pressure to be romantic with someone? Or has it ever felt right to you to hold someone's hand, or have someone put their arm around you?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

No one is too young to feel love.

November 2, 2012 at 7:53 PM  
Anonymous Fight4WhatULove said...

if he makes you feel uncomfortable, dump him!

November 2, 2012 at 8:01 PM  
Anonymous Icygirl;) said...

I think that you are fine just the way you are! But your could always hug!!!

November 2, 2012 at 9:02 PM  
Anonymous Bluetiful Blossom said...

If you are up for it ( you totally don't have to if you're not ready )
You could start by telling your parents. Don't be afraid. Just start the conversation by saying someone asked you out. If she hopefully let's you, you can maybe meet his parents ( make a good impression!) You can go to the movies with him or maybe, just maybe, give a kiss. Start with the cheek. Remember, if your parents are okay with it, you're okay with it and your guy, it's never to late to start the love basics! ( dates, kissing, dances, and all that gooey stuff ) It is okay if you have a bad breakup, you can stay friends!
Hope I helped! =)

November 2, 2012 at 11:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

And hold hands.. So cute.

November 2, 2012 at 11:39 PM  
Anonymous littlebuzzybee said...

Hooray!
Don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Take it as slowly as you want, and tell someone if he makes you feel uncomfortable.

November 3, 2012 at 1:09 AM  
Anonymous SmileyShyGirl said...

I think that your dealing with it fine, because if you don't really want to do something... dont do it! Cause f you feel like he's forcing you to do something you dont want to then you shouldn't do it.... or you could just ask him what he means exactly when he says to be more romantic...

Anyways, I hope that helped in anyway.. in some sort of weird twisted way... but remember:

Keep that SMILE on your face :) (I heard it prevent wrinkles when your older...)

~SmileyShyGirl~

November 3, 2012 at 3:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You could hug or kiss him but of course you don't have to do that and don't let him pressure you into doing so.

November 3, 2012 at 7:26 AM  
Anonymous Vanessa said...

I once had a boyfriend and felt pressured to act "in love" and be romantic all the time. But in reality, boyfriends are for comforting you and making you feel special. If you think that he is going out with you just for reputation, break up with him before it turns into something big.
Oh, and the way my mom found out was actually pretty embarrassing. My brother brought it up during dinner, and I felt really weird talking about it. Another great way to bring it up is PRIVATELY. I wouldn't want to talk when siblings or my dad were around. You could also give her a note. :)
Think Pink! Hugs!

November 3, 2012 at 8:49 AM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

I'm in gr.7 and I have a "boyfriend" who asked me to the halloween dance a month ago and asked me out, like, an hour later. People are always pressuring us to be all romantic and spend more time together and all that, but if it makes you feel uncomfortable, don't do it! and if your boyfriend doesn't understand that, he obviously needs to be a more understanding boyfriend.
God bless you guys!!!

November 3, 2012 at 8:51 AM  
Anonymous cutekitty2000 ( a.k.a Tia) said...

@fight4whatUlove its not that I don't like him it's that I don't have any idea about going out and stuff like that. Anyway I feel natural when I'm around him ALONE. But when other people might be able to see I get embarrassed and I don't think he understands.


November 3, 2012 at 10:31 AM  
Anonymous music2myears said...

I say a good age would be 15 or 16. Tell him you feel uncomfertable and say not yet. You should also tell your mom what he said. Just remeber some people think when they have a crush on someone they "love" them. Remeber it's just a crush!

November 3, 2012 at 10:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

do u know f it's true love?

November 3, 2012 at 11:32 AM  
Anonymous Icestar said...

My ex boyfriend and I were together for three months, but it was hard because his parents didn't like me and his parents didn't like him, but we texted, called and wrote to each other. But he called me a week ago, saying was moving. He said that ii isn't going to work out if he never gets to kiss me. So he moved today, I cried for a long time. He probably forgot about me and has someone else now...

November 3, 2012 at 5:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

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November 3, 2012 at 7:38 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

I think you are just fine the way you are. Personally I think that twelve years old is too young for dating.

November 3, 2012 at 8:17 PM  
Anonymous Chocoolate said...

Well, it depends if you are really really going out.
I would die for a position like yours.

November 3, 2012 at 8:33 PM  
Anonymous cutekitty2000 said...

Guys what I am saying is that I love him he loves,me we like the same things. We are going to the same high school. And even have the same amount of letters in both names. It's not him who I'm worried about its other people. I use to like this boy in year 1 ( in a friend way.) And everyone use to tease me.

November 3, 2012 at 10:45 PM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

@cutekitty2000...
Yeah, my boyfriend is kinda like that too. But that's justthe thing about dating in elementary (or middle) school.
God bless you guys!!!

November 4, 2012 at 10:45 AM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

Personally, I think 12 is too young for dating too. It's just that, I've liked this guy since gr.5 (2 years ago) In gr.5, He said he liked me and asked me if I liked him but I said no because I was embarassed and was hiding my feelings. He asked me out in gr.6 but I said no because
my parents are very religious, so I had to read a book by the pope called, "Theology of the Body" before I could date. I hadn't read the book yet, and I wasn't ready to date. Sevral people asked me if I still liked him after that, but I lied and said no. In gr.7, he asked out other girls and that made me feel jealous and mad at myself for ignoring my feelings and turning him down. One day, before I got on the bus, they were discussing who he should ask to the dance. My friend decided to play matchmaker and suggested me. He said no, that it was over between us. But, my friend persisted, and he finally agreed to ask me to the dance. Then, my friend convinced me that I should say yes. So, one day when I was walking to the bus, he caught up with me asked me to the Halloween dance and I said yes. On the bus, he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend too, and I said yes. I was tired of running away from my feelings and lying to him. Gee, that was long. Well, I hope you enjoyed my love story.
God bless you guys!!!

November 4, 2012 at 2:20 PM  
Anonymous Fight4WhatULove said...

@cutekitty2000
Maybe your relationship shouldn't be as public then, not as much mushy stuff, (holding hands is ok) more talking and being friends, while "dating".

November 4, 2012 at 3:01 PM  
Anonymous nerd said...

Nobody's ever told me they liked me, so I wouldn't know. :(

November 4, 2012 at 3:10 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Oh lol well i think that at 12 yrs old u shouldnt be dating ur way to young in my opinon. U should start when ur 14 in h.s. personally

November 4, 2012 at 5:30 PM  
Anonymous Born2Bme said...

well. i personally think the age you should date is 13 in middle school, but as long as you wont let the boy treat u rudely, then congrats! to tell your mom, here is an example dialoge :)


SCENE ONE: IN THE CAR, JUST YOU AND MOM, DRIVING TO GROCERY STORE

YOU: Hey mom, some people in my grade are dating. when can i go out with someone?

MOM: hm, well as long as the boy is nice, you can start now but absolutely no kisses.

YOU: ok. i need to tell you something.

MOM: mhm?

YOU: well theres this nice boy in my class and he likes me so we are dating. we just started though. we arent kissing.

MOM: ok, but i wanna meet him. maybe he can come over for dinner with you, me, and your dad on saturday.

YOU: :D ok great! ill call him when we get hone.





or, if she says not yet, just tell him you cant date yet, but if you still like eachother when im alowed to date, then we can. :)


hope i helped :D THINK PINK!!!


-Born2Bme

November 4, 2012 at 8:03 PM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

@nerd...
I love your screen name! Don't be sad... you don't need a guy to be happy. Seriously, you don't, and having a boyfriend can become really dramatic when other people find out. I'm a nerd too...
God bless you guys!!!

November 5, 2012 at 6:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is layladolphin everyone but i am in the ipad where it gets all crazy if i put my name/URL.

@nerd-don't feel bad no one ever told u they like u sometimes they are just to shy and anyway no guy ever told me they like me.look at it this way one of my best friends(who is a nerd) told me that last year one of the most popular guys told her that she liked him.there is still hope. Also i am a nerd to and proud of it.

Hope i helped,
Layladolphin

November 5, 2012 at 9:17 AM  
Anonymous nerd said...

@superbunny

Thanks! I actually really think that it is crazy to be dating in middle school! Especially early years.

Why does everyone think people are nerds if they have glasses?

November 5, 2012 at 3:48 PM  
Anonymous Aimeestars said...

Theres this boy that I like but.i dont think he likes me, I once had a dream about him. The dream was about me and him watching a movie with our friends. We had our arms round each other. I wish it was true! Plzz help me find a way og talking to him! Keep smiling! Xx :)

November 5, 2012 at 5:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey,i`ve felt like this to because it`s hard to mom`s and dads so I just told my parents at dinner when my mom asked us if we had anything planned for the weekend she sail alright and then I felt better

November 5, 2012 at 6:37 PM  
Anonymous Big Friendly Giant said...

Actually 12 is to young. It's just a crush and no one that age will ever LOVE a guy friend.

November 5, 2012 at 6:43 PM  
Anonymous Lucy said...

Hey girls! I just wanted to tell you to not be afraid to tell the person you like that you like them! I told this boy that I like him and he was totally cool with it. We're still friends and he doesn't treat me any differently. My friend told her crush and it didn't change anything! So don't be scared!

November 5, 2012 at 7:02 PM  
Anonymous layladolphin said...

lucy-maybe on your case nothing happens but once in second grade my so-called friend told my crush i liked him in my face plus we were i third grade together too and in art class he kept saying a lot of things like ''u liked me'' and stuff like that.So girls it is up to you.

November 6, 2012 at 9:38 AM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

@nerd... I don't know! I'm a nerd, and I don't have glasses. I know alot of people that wear glasses but aren't nerds. Wearing glasses is because of a medical condition, not an IQ level!
God bless you guys!!!

November 8, 2012 at 6:31 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey i get u as well thts wat happened to me buh i solved it

November 8, 2012 at 2:50 PM  
Anonymous Asj said...

i realy understand im 12 however im not going out with anyone theres a boy i realy like but were just friends you could just talk to your mum in privet im shure shell understand my mum told me to ask the boy i like out soooooooooo it hopefully wont be that hard i hope this helps! p.s im sorry about my spellings.

November 9, 2012 at 3:14 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's ok if you're good friends with him, but if he makes you feel uncomfortable tell a parent or some you trust, and get away from him.

November 9, 2012 at 8:51 PM  
Anonymous DoubleHeart said...

sometimes,it's complicated to talk about love and friendship..Tia,I know that You felt that you accidentally met a guy that suddenly ask you to build a new relationship and it is complicated isn't it? I mean...it's hard to make a decision but I think you should told him everything that kept in your heart and brain.Let the feelings go and you will feel like...FREEDOM!! exactly :)

November 11, 2012 at 3:43 AM  
Anonymous abbie said...

I have a friend who is a guy, and I'm not sure if I like him or not. Because the truth is that it doesn't really make a different when you're still young,right?
I mean, even if we go out, which we are planning to soon, it is just having fun together, just like friends...
I think things really does get complicated when you grow up, but as long as you figure some things out slowly, I think you get the answer:)

November 12, 2012 at 5:39 PM  
Anonymous Glittergirl said...

Hi I was just wondering im 12 and i really like this guy. Should i tell anybody or just him?

November 16, 2012 at 7:30 AM  
Anonymous christina said...

I think twelve is a little young to really get in a relationship but if you really like him it's fine. You should tell your parents if you guys get serious though

November 19, 2012 at 11:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey girls, im new.. ok : theres this guy that i like in school but we only have one class together, then he goes somewhere else to do homework after, while i stay in the same place to do mine. I want to tell him that i like him, but i sit next to one of my guy friends, and next to my crush sits one of my other friends. (a girl) i dont want anyone else at school to know that i like him but my best friend and him!! help!

November 21, 2012 at 4:54 PM  
Anonymous cutekitty2000 said...

Thanks guys. You have helped a lot. I feel more comfortable now with the whole thing. We hug and hold hands all the time now. He understands me better and he said mabey sometime soon we will kiss. I love him so much and he loves me. He always says nice things like about my eyes and stuff and I can tell he means it. Anyway I still have two problems 1. I don't know how to kiss a boy ( well on the lips) 2. What do I say back to him when he says such nice things about me. One time he was like I have always liked you from the moment you first looked at me with those beautiful eyes of yours. I didnt know what to say.( I felt like hugging him but this was in an email.

November 23, 2012 at 9:06 AM  
Anonymous x_hugskisses_x said...

wow reallynice comments i like this boy but i dont want to tell hime that i like hims so at my school u dont tall ppl that you like them its a popularity thing if u do u get down graded so dumb but im used to it plz comment on thisplzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

November 29, 2012 at 10:27 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't be scared to tell ur mom it's not like shell kill u

December 1, 2012 at 9:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hey this is megan her,
i liked this boy in my class fro 2 years and he liked me.... in the end we r together, but the thing is i am 14. but even though i am 14 doesn't mean i have to do all that kissing stuff... him and i still just acted like friends just talk about things a little more deeper.... to tell ur parents all u have to say is what age can i have a bf at and wait for there answer and if they ask if u have one say the truth and just say it is nothing big it is just like we r friends with a tile of bf and gf
hope i could help!!!!

December 2, 2012 at 1:38 AM  
Anonymous Hallie said...

@Tia,
I'm 12 too, and I don't think our age is ready yet. Maybe around 14 would be good? If your BF is pressuring you, tell him that your not ready yet.
Hope it works! :)

December 5, 2012 at 5:08 PM  
Anonymous Loving Peaches said...

I think around 15 would be best to acualy date someone.Tell your mom your going out with a guy you like. Think Pink!!! ;)

December 6, 2012 at 6:32 PM  
Anonymous judogirl said...

Tia, you don't need a man in your life at 12.I have friends that are guys like my friend thomas and wher just friends and he is 12 and i'm 11 and i treat him like a friend when my grade douse manhunt or soccer but you have to understand that when your older you can have a man in your life. And just say hey i just when to be friends and when where older we can date

December 10, 2012 at 12:43 AM  
Anonymous bifffffffffffffffy said...

i'm eleven and i like some boys. however i don't go out with them. i think i'm too young! besides i have boy friends. we r just friends.just like judogirl said he is twelve but if he would ever ask me out i'd say 'ask me in three years'. but if u wanna be more romantic u could just well do wat comes in2 ur mind. if u feel like u should hug him good bye then do it.

December 18, 2012 at 9:15 PM  
Anonymous sup said...

y dont u ask him wat he likes to do? then if he plays a sport u could watch him play. plus u could well go to the movies together. plus u can just give him a quick hug. my friend does it all the time to her boyfriend.

December 19, 2012 at 4:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

rlly? a quick hug? nvr a long one?

December 21, 2012 at 2:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

after watching sonny with a chance on youtube, i wish i had a boyfriend like chad dylan cooper! :p

December 28, 2012 at 1:12 PM  
Anonymous kkrocks said...

I feel you

December 30, 2012 at 1:57 PM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

I feel what you feel! I want to go out with this boy "My Super Man Crush" I think he is awesome!! On March 11th I will be 11. (LOL) I am too young. I am positive 99.9 percent that he likes me. My mom says not until "16" or when she thinks I am ready. Just go with what you truly think. Do you think you are too young? If you do tell him "I don't think I am ready for dating yet. We are young and I feel like we should enjoy being kids. Maybe when we are older." If you think it is fine just continue. Don't listen to your mind, listen to your heart!

December 30, 2012 at 8:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I think having a boyfriend is fun, but you guys shouldn't be more than just friends. Dates are fine but kissing will ruin it when you get married to your true love.Don't become to emotionally involved because it is likely he is not ready for that.

January 2, 2013 at 2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey, I think maybe a hug and holding hands is Fine but don't ruin your relationship 'cause if you break-up you will have a ruied friendship and it will be totally akward btween you! Don't worry just say you want to take it slow.

January 14, 2013 at 2:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I understand exactly where you are coming from he best thing you can do is just talk to him and see what he says and if you are ready to tell your parents tell them the best way to do this is to just ask to talk more likely your mom would be best and explain and see what she has to say you really shouldnt think of him as a boyfriend its more like a boy thats your friend but you guys are closer

January 19, 2013 at 5:25 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

hi i like a boy i dont know if he likes me he was asking like it how do i tell him i like him like how to flirt i really like him

January 22, 2013 at 6:45 PM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

hi plz say im awesome, i am, but i need it from someone.

January 22, 2013 at 6:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi,
YESTEDAY THIS GUY/BOY PUT HIS ARM AROUND ME AND IM ONLY TEN BUT LIKE ALL THE 4TH GRADE BOYS LIKE ME WHAT SHOULD I DO
-MERCEDES

January 24, 2013 at 9:11 AM  
Anonymous Giants Girl said...

just say back off bro

January 25, 2013 at 5:45 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

just act cool like i do:
* he puts his arm around you*
you: ooh! you think i come that easy? no way!
him: yeah? what i gotta do? *winks*
you: nope. i'm a single woman!

March 5, 2013 at 7:17 PM  
Anonymous I_Luv_My_Pitbull said...

I have a boyfriend already but i prefer to hang with guys cuz they dont <3 drama like girls do :)

May 6, 2013 at 2:01 PM  
Anonymous Lovestory said...

Well here is my story:
I likes this guy in 4th grade and it had been 2 years and he still did not notice me or so I taught. In 6th grade my friend had party and my crush asked me to.come with him I said " sure why not." He looked serious and said I really like you since the day we met in 4th grade which made me reamember he was my friend till the new kid showed up and made me stop hanging with the guys which hurt me and I forgot about I was suprised and I told him when he said he liked me I told him I had a big crush on him and I saw him smile then I gave him a hug a gave me his number and we texted called video chated went out for dates I had so much fun I hugged him often then during summer after we left 6th grade I had went to the park with him and we were listening to his favorite song which I never heard and he put his arm around and I thought " this is the time kiss him maybe he will kiss me back" but before I could rhink longer he gave me a light kiss on the cheek I jumped a little at that then gave him a kiss on the cheek in return then we hugged then we walked home and before I was going up to my porch I stoped turned around ran to him and gave him a hug then he leaned in and slowly kissed my lips and then I walked to my house and waved goodbye. And I am in 8 going into 9th and still with him and I always reamember my 1st kiss!

June 5, 2013 at 2:48 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you don't think you are ready tell him. If he backs of he was not worth you're time.

July 8, 2013 at 10:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi , I had the same problem and im the same age, I would tell him how u feel, if he doesn't like tht he doesnt deserve u or, pace urself maybe in like 1-2 months or a few weeks start giving him quick hugs wen u say hi and bye, then go from there!

December 30, 2013 at 12:14 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just tell him that you don't feel comfortable doing that and if he pushes you on the subject, Dump him. Just be friends

February 8, 2014 at 10:55 PM  

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