Getting along better with Mom & Dad

Life gets more complicated as you get older. Think about this: Your parents knew you when you were just a teeny tiny baby. Awwww, you were sooooooo cute! You grew up little by little and now you have ideas of your own. Maybe you don't always agree with your parents. No one loves to be reminded to Do this/Don't do that! But that's what parents do and it's their job.

It's normal to disagree with parents sometimes. Do you ever feel like you're not as close with your Mom or Dad as you once were? That's how jaedyn and PopcornMunch are feeling today. Let's see if we can help!

Dear PLS,
I really am a fan of you web. I am so thankful you are doing these things for teen girls around the world p.s me and my mom use to be really close til i turned 9. Now we fight. I want to be close again. Give me some help please.
jaedyn, 11

Dear PLS,
My dad and I have just had a big falling out, and we refuse to talk to each other. I have bought him a Christmas present, because I love him, but I'm not sure he'd appreciate it. I don't know what to do because my dad is my best friend, he always makes me laugh, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't care. Please help me work this out.
PopcornMunch. X

I love these two questions because it's clear how much jaedyn and PopcornMunch love their Mom and Dad. Even better, they both want to have better relationships with them. And here is the great news: It's the perfect time of year for starting over.

I think jaedyn and PopcornMunch should do this:

1. Say "Happy New Year!" to their Mom and Dad
2. Give them a big hug or smooch.
3. Say I want us to get along better in 2013 and I'm willing to work at it.

Any other advice for getting along better with the parents?

Think pink!


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Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Tell your parents that you love them every 5 minutes and give them lots of hugs (you need a minimum of 4 hugs a day to be healthy, and parents love hugs!) And kisses. Everytime one of you leaves the house. My dad and i dont always see eye to eye (my mum says its cause we are too similar) but i love him anyway and tell him all the time. Daddy's girls rock! Smile and love everyone!

December 23, 2012 at 1:11 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Try to be as nice as possible and if they tell u to do something, do it because u want to be on their good side. Try to talk to ur parents more. Deep down u know they will always love u and care about u.

December 23, 2012 at 1:41 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

I think that is absolutely precious! It is great that you feel this way about your parents! I personally love my parents, they are my best friends (besides my twin sister). I know that God will do something great for both of your families becauase of the love you have for your parents. Happy holidays!!!!

December 23, 2012 at 1:48 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

Ditto what Hugsandsmiles said :)
Indeed Pinkadink, happy holidays to all!!! <3

December 23, 2012 at 4:51 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

be super nice and helpful...and don't always argue...just accept some of your mom's/dad's decisions...and try seeing things their way..if you know you are right for a fact, then just gently/nicely tell them that you think you are right be more open..:D

December 23, 2012 at 5:21 PM  
Anonymous Forget Me said...

Sometimes I feel like I'm taking care of my family more than they are of me. I turn off my parents lights when they stay up too late and fall asleep, I babysit my little brother and sister practically every night, and for free. I'm constantly waiting on my dad. I've literally raised myself.

December 24, 2012 at 11:31 AM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Omg" forget me"!!! U must be very responsible!!

December 24, 2012 at 2:51 PM  
Anonymous watermelonpuppy said...

Hey PLS gals- I need some advice. Every piece of clothing that my mom gets me is at least a size too big. How would I tell her that I'm not an XL?

December 24, 2012 at 3:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

just tell your mom the truth . she will understand . she might be a little angry that you did not tell her before because she wasted so much money on clothes that were to big. dont worry she will be happy you told her .

good luck!!!!!! :)

December 25, 2012 at 5:10 AM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Well usually when u get clothes, u try them on. When u try it on, show her and tell it its to big and that u need a smaller size. Tell her the truth.

December 25, 2012 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

i agree wouldn't be ok to walk around wearing too big clothes...sorry...bad grammar. :D

December 25, 2012 at 4:30 PM  
Anonymous CrazyCookie=D said...

Yeah I have problems with both of my parents cause I sometimes think they don't trust me enough but we had worked it out!:D♥

December 25, 2012 at 5:00 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Just explain to your mom that your clothes are too big. She'll understand. :/

December 25, 2012 at 8:48 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my parents dont know that someone asked me out should tell them because i said yes to that guy ? i need help pleasseeeeeee !!!!!!!

December 26, 2012 at 2:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi guys. I'm having a bit of trouble. So I'll get right to it. I consider myself a bit of a wallflower. I try to put myself out there but its just not me. I really like art; it's where I get most of my confidence from. And I'm also really trying to except comments instead of turning them down. But now, my mom wants me to open a blog with me sharing all my art, but she just doesn't get it! I don't want attention now. Don't get me wrong though, I really hope that one day I'll be discovered, it's just well I don't like spotlight... at all. I have it hard enough trying to look someone in the eyes when I'm talking to them, this is just to big of a step. So anyways, she's already taking pictures and stuff! How do I explain that I don't really want to do it yet. I can already hear her now saying "Well you can't get into that art school if you don't do something like this!" But I just dunno. It's not me. Help?

December 26, 2012 at 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hey guys. I was just wondering. Does anyone know how to be yourself? I know I must sound absolutely ridiculous right now, but I'm dead serious. People always say, be yourself! But I think we all know its not that easy. Personally, I feel like I have a billion different versions of myself, but lately I just feel like I modelled myself into a completely different person. I've been acting like preppyMc.preppyson! And I know this will probably sound like some obnoxious fake cheesy movie, but I literally forgot who I am! What I'm like and I wanna go back to being me! That changed in the 5th grade and I wanted the boys attention, but it never happens so I just realized, why am I trying? I feel so stupid! I should just except it shouldn't I? I feel like I have only one friend who really sees who I am and I really am grateful for him, but I wish the world could see that person too, if I wasn't so shy and knew how to show it!

Btw, I'm the same anonymous with the blog problem and I'm in the 7th grade. Thanks guys.

December 26, 2012 at 5:30 PM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

This is what FAMILY stands for:


God bless you guys!!!

December 26, 2012 at 5:49 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Lol superbunny that is cool i never thought about that

December 26, 2012 at 10:16 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Also for anonymous
When people say to be urself, u just have to be natural. Just say the first thing that comes to ur head if u have to answer a question, or if u had to do something, do it exactly how u would d it. Let lose and show ur personality, not someone elses.

December 26, 2012 at 10:22 PM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

superbunny that's awesome!!!

December 27, 2012 at 1:38 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

@Anonymous w/the blog problem
Tell your mother before she starts the blog. If you wait, it may be too late. She should understand that it is too much for you to handle and you are not ready for something like this yet. Explain to her your feelings. After all, she is doing it for you, not her so if you don't like it, what's the point of doing it?
Also being you is natural like cutiepie4eversophie said. But doesn't everyone say that? It could be pretty hard to understand sometimes. Being you is just being independent. Do, be, feel, and think how you wnat to and don't let anyone change that. Especially not boys!!! Be you and you will shine! I promise! Your personality is what makes you you! Why change it?! IT IS THE ONE OF THE ONLY THINGS THAT MAKES YOU PERFECT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

December 27, 2012 at 3:09 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thanks Pinkadink and cutiepie4eversophie. I really understand a lot better and you made me realize what I couldn't see before. Thanks!

December 28, 2012 at 7:28 AM  
Anonymous superbunny said...

You go, girl!

December 28, 2012 at 7:47 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

No problem!!!!
LOL!!!!!! :D

December 28, 2012 at 9:16 AM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Np anonymous anytime :)

December 28, 2012 at 12:19 PM  
Anonymous Kacey said...

@anonymous ; It's ok. I had this problem myself. You may not realize this, but with all of the things you described, you actually might be bieng yourself. Sometimes, people change, and you might be. Otherwise, just act natural. Try to just remember that you are you, and nobody can change that. If your friends or classmates notice and ask you about your change, tell them "This is how I am, and if you don't like it, I can't do anything about it!" I hope this helps:)

December 28, 2012 at 4:26 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

CrazyCookie=D How? Smiles!

December 29, 2012 at 4:56 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Talk to her about it! But remember you can still remain anonymous through a blog. Good luck! Smile!

December 29, 2012 at 4:59 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

I dont hink that is stupid! Especially since so many people say, "be yourself" and then dont do it themselves lol! I have never had this problem since i hav been myself all my life (once a guyfriend told me i was weird, cause i was myself, seriously! How about before you say or do something you ask yourself, why? Is it cause i want to or like it, or is it what everyone else is xpecting me to do? Try to find yourself and your confidence again, forget about what everyone else thinks, just be yourself, but dont be mean! ( this migh also help with starting a blog) For now try to Smile and Be Confident!

December 29, 2012 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

That is so sweet and true!

December 29, 2012 at 5:07 PM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

It is fine because I fight with my parents quite a bit! I think that is normal. Just try to talk it out with them and everything will be okay. Tell them how you feel and it will be alright. I will bet you my bottom dollar!

December 30, 2012 at 7:41 PM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

I hope it all works out! I will always use this name so you know who I am and no other name unless by accident or can not use it but I will say who I am!! If I change it I will post it but I doubt it will! I really hope this helps! That is what I do and it always works unless you do it wrong in a demanding way. Say it nicely. Say it mean.... Just don't go mean!

December 30, 2012 at 9:29 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

You go kutexkat!!

December 31, 2012 at 2:13 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

If you go somwhere with him you have to say, otherwise its your choice, smiles!

December 31, 2012 at 5:29 AM  
Anonymous jaedyn said...

thank you all so much with my problem , love you all

December 31, 2012 at 3:06 PM  
Anonymous KutexKat said...

Thanks for everything that you help me with

December 31, 2012 at 9:28 PM  
Anonymous RoyalPurple said...

Totally true

January 1, 2013 at 1:10 AM  
Anonymous ghost train said...

What do you do when your parents get drunk? I get very scared when I'm with them and they're intoxicated.

January 1, 2013 at 3:32 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

Wow I'm rly srry that's a serious problem. I'm very sure but if it happens often u could tell a trusted adult. And if it happens often and u don't like UR parents and what they do u can have maybe a grandparent call children protection serviced or whatever it's called. I'm rly sorry and hope everything works out ok.

January 1, 2013 at 6:21 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

gosh tht is a serious should really tell someone because that is not rite! tell ur grandparents or aunt or uncle! maybe they can help:D

January 3, 2013 at 1:21 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To PopcornMunchX I'm sure your dad will appreciate the gift you got hime because he wants this fight to end as much as you do! Good Luck with that situation!

January 4, 2013 at 12:36 AM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

@ ghost train
I am soooooo sorry to hear that! :(
If it really scares you, you have to tell someone you trust that won't make a huge deal out of it. Someone that would care enough to help. If you are brave enough, tell your parents your feelings. (obviously when they aren't drunk)

January 4, 2013 at 1:29 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

thanks 4 all the gr8 advice u r gr8!!

January 6, 2013 at 3:43 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...


January 19, 2013 at 11:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hug them and tell them how much you love them every night.

Think Pink,

January 19, 2013 at 9:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dear pls my mom is angry at me for who noes what.she wants me to lleave and live with my stupid uncle and my baby cousins. she wants me to leave this Monday !!!what should I do???I don't want to leave!!!also she plans to get rid of my dog because she hates dogs!!! what should I do??? please help its urgent!!! a matter of life and death !!!!!!!

January 26, 2013 at 4:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ps. I'm a totally different a anonymous from the otherd.

January 26, 2013 at 4:16 PM  
Anonymous Chocoholic Jr. said...

I randomly start shouting at my parents at the littlest of things, but that's only because I get mood swings a lot now. Any advice on how to handle them?

January 27, 2013 at 7:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a terrible procrastinating problem,and hardly ever do homework,but my parents still have faith in me.That is why i am the luckiest girl ever.

February 3, 2013 at 5:52 PM  
Anonymous torquoisegirl said...

hey guys i am new and stumbled around this topic any way it good if yoy have a wondeful relasionship with your parents because it means that you guys can have so much fun together but if your parents are getting diovoreced pray for them because they love eachother and no arugument and take them down if you parents are divorced dont be sad try to tell them about each other try to be happy about the new life that you living its not all that bad parents getting divorced is there descion if you love them you will aceept what ever they happens and rember dont be sad that your parents are getting divorced

February 5, 2013 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous imagineDragonsLover said...

My parents and I still fight sometimes, but it was mostly with my dad over stupid things. I found a way that improved our relationship, so now we don't immediately start fighting. I realized that I wasn't meeting my dad half way. He tried to do things with me that I liked, but I didn't do anything with him that he did. I felt misunderstood, then one day I decided to try something he liked, and I ended up really enjoying it! It made him really happy, and we immediately bonded

February 16, 2013 at 8:23 PM  
Anonymous Maddy said...

My mom and I are like best friends, but my dad and I lately have been distant and he comments on my insecurities. He is also distant with my brother and is at work a lot. It kind of upsets me, is anyone going through the same thing?

February 20, 2013 at 5:21 PM  
Anonymous Maddy said...

And anonymous, try talking to your mom about whats bothering her. Maybe she's been really stressed about work or even on her period. Try working out your problems because you absolutely do not want to have a strained relationship or no relationship with your mom. Moms rock! Hope I helped!

February 20, 2013 at 5:24 PM  
Anonymous IWillLive4eva...So think pink said...

Apologise.... i never win fights so i never get in em so i am clueless
And yes mum's rock

March 24, 2013 at 6:53 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tell your parents how you feel. It'll work out in the end. :)

May 17, 2013 at 1:02 AM  

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