Can you be less shy?

I wouldn't say I'm shy, but I'm shy in certain situations. Sounds like cutiecake123 is a little like this. She's at ease online, but in real life - supershy.

Hi gurlz! I need some help! Ok so I know it might not sound like it online, but i'm EXTREMELY shy!!!! I can't even share a picture of myself for my profile pics online because I never feel pretty and I'm extremely terrified of what people will think! I haven't had high confidence since 4th grade!

I can fake it online and pretend I'm completely different person, but if someone, even if its my close friend asks for a picture of me, i get all anxious and i crack and I'm too scared to do it, which ends up making my friends think I don't trust them. Also, I never want to join activities out side of school unless it's with one of my friends because I never have the confidence. Same with parties. I can't make new friends easily and I always end up standing with the adults and I get all awkward.

Please help! How do I overcome this extreme shyness and low confidence?
cutiecake123

First off, here's something to read about being shy.


I think cutiecake123 should make a plan to be less shy because it sounds like it's keeping her from doing stuff she would like to do - like sharing photos with friends. It's always good to remember that lots of people worry that they don't look perfect in photos. If your best friend told you she had no good photos of herself, you'd say, "That's not true. You look great in this one!" So why not be kind to yourself. Choose the best photo, take a deep breath, and share it.

The same with activities and parties. It's easier when you're with a friend, but it's a good personal challenge to be able to do some things alone. Start small and work up to bigger challenges, like walking into a party alone. It won't be long before you find a friend!

What else Pink Locker girls? Have you ever conquered shyness?

Think pink!
Jemma

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Anonymous littlebuzzybee said...

I am exactly like this, but we all just need to remember to be ourselves and it doesn't matter what other people think of us. Nobody is going to laugh at you, and if they do they are not your friends and pretty mean. I am slowly becoming less shy, at school my grades suffer because I am too scared to put my hand up in class and I blush a lot during speeches and presentations.

December 18, 2012 at 2:14 AM  
Anonymous flying elephants! said...

Here is something I remember: You wouldn't treat a friend the way you are, so why do you treat yourself badly?
You would tell a friend that she looks awesome so do the same for yourself. Just remember that you are a great, kind and awesome person :)

December 18, 2012 at 2:16 AM  
Anonymous confuzzled said...

As an extremely extroverted person (though I can be shy when I'm with a crush. Like if I were standing next to Eddie Vedder. *swoon* lol), my opinion may not be very credible, but I don't think you should try to 'change' yourself too much, but I think you should try to overcome this much shyness since it's keeping you from doing several things (basically what Jemma said). Being shy is totally okay though (my brother is). Just remember that it doesn't matter at all what other people think--you're you and they can either like you or deal. :D
xoxo
confuzzled

December 18, 2012 at 12:04 PM  
Anonymous cutiepie4eversophie said...

Dont worry try to be confident in urself. Everyone has flaws and is pretty. Dont worry about wat others think. Try to let loose and be ourself. People love others who r out going. Dont worry. Its ok to show ppl pics of urself, everyone is beatiful

December 18, 2012 at 4:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This is just like me! Remember the song Born This Way buy the faboo Lady Gaga? Remember, no matter what anyone says, you are beautiful the way you are! I'm just like this, so don't worry! Also, try hard to look your best and be confident! That and standing up straight will make you look even more beautiful than you really are (If that's even possibly :D) You'll be fine. Just be yourself, babycakes! :)

December 18, 2012 at 5:01 PM  
Anonymous aoilbheshamrox said...

Dont be shy everybody finds their confidence at some point but you really have to push your self .................

December 18, 2012 at 5:04 PM  
Anonymous doo wop said...

When you take a look at yourself in the mirror, stare hard and find your "hidden" beauty. When you see a possible friend, just try to walk up to them and say, "Hi! My name is cutiecake123!" No matter how awkward you feel, you are you and you are beautiful even if you don't notice it!

December 18, 2012 at 5:27 PM  
Anonymous pinkieback rib said...

i am like that to and i cant even look someone in the face and talk but your not alone

December 18, 2012 at 5:47 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

Dont worry! Everyone is pretty and great in their own way!
REAL GIRLS ARENT PERFECT
PERFECT GIRLS ARENT REAL!!!!!

December 18, 2012 at 6:56 PM  
Anonymous cutepiggyjj99 said...

OMG thats exatly lik me but im to afraid to make new friends but my best firend is lik the most liked girl in school

December 18, 2012 at 7:14 PM  
Anonymous cutepiggyjj99 said...

ok can some one please help so my best firend is nice but he always beats me at everything like for example i get all As she will get all A+ on hers and everyone luvs her so much and I'm jeolus of everything she does but if someone else does something like that it dosent bother me at all I want 2 mak new firends but im to shy lik literly i only say 2 words throughout the whole day what should i do please help

December 19, 2012 at 3:25 PM  
Anonymous Pinkadink said...

@cutepiggyjj99
LOL!!!

December 19, 2012 at 5:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Confidence is key. Sometimes when you get shy you need to think of calming and things that make you happy. When ever I get shy I count to ten and believe in my self. I hope I helped.

December 19, 2012 at 6:18 PM  
Anonymous watermelonpuppy said...

I am very similar. If you look at me at home and with some of my close friends I am a completely different person in the outside world. One thing that helps me is to name some of the good qualities in myself. For example, I'm smart, sweet, kind, funny and sensitive. It's ok to be a little shy, just don't let it get out of hand! Think pink!!! :)

December 19, 2012 at 8:54 PM  
Anonymous awesomeness said...

I think that being shy really has something 2 do with ur confidence, because if u r confident then u can say whatever u want.
I feel the same way especially about low confidence. When I meet someone new I don't open up to them until months later. Even my friend Sydney I don't consider a bff and I've known her 4 a year. The only thing she knows about me that's personal is that I like Chase. I just don't feel like I'm confident enough to open up 2 people.
I wish I was like her... confident enough 2 say anything I feel like and not feel embarrassed if I say something stupid. She just makes a joke out of it. I think most of us r scared of not being accepted by a particular group, that we make a pattern of not talking and when we do want 2 talk we don't. So, basically we scare ourselves in2 being shy and when we do want 2 talk we aren't confident enough 2.

December 20, 2012 at 9:44 AM  
Anonymous That's what she said...

I used to be SO SHY! But I took this class thing where we learner how to perform live improv onstage and it boosted my confidence to the point where I can talk to anyone now.

December 20, 2012 at 4:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

people are always shy about stuff to be honest i was always shy but ive over came is

December 20, 2012 at 6:02 PM  
Anonymous Sassy Cassie said...

OMG I have LITERALLY the EXACT problem. My BFF and close friend Maddie r both nice but when my BFF is around Maddie she acts like a 5 yr. Old and gets rly annoying to the point where I rly just want to slap her in the face and yell PLZ NOCK IT OFF!! (srry if its a little harsh)

December 20, 2012 at 6:32 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

Oh i used to be uber duber shy! i just decided that i wanted to make A LOT of friends, so i just gathered up all my boldness and hid my shyness...yes i am still shy, but i let myself go....and it got better
:D

December 21, 2012 at 1:52 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

actually...i felt the same like 2 months ago until my friend left school.:D

December 21, 2012 at 4:41 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

oh and...cutiecake123....why are you shy?

December 21, 2012 at 4:54 PM  
Anonymous judogirl said...

cutiecupcake123 everyone is beautiful and no mater what you have beuty on the inside.

December 21, 2012 at 7:51 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Not everyone has flaws. Oh wait, lack of self criticism might be a flaw! Aaaah! Lol smiles everyone, believe in yourself!

December 23, 2012 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@pinkadink, so true! But wait, does that make me unreal? Lol smile everyone!

December 23, 2012 at 12:54 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Cutepiggyjj, take a deep breath and introduce yourself. Im an extrovert so my opinion may not be so valid though. Also, i have to agree with the better results thing, it is really annoying

December 23, 2012 at 12:57 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Hey peeps! To boost your self esteem you can try listening to one of these songs, born this way by lady gaga, what makes you beautiful bu 1d, just the way you are by bruno mars and if you were sent this song by bryant oden. Remember we are all unique! Oh and if someone calls you a nobody just say; nobody is perfect, therefore i am perfect! Also, dont be afraid to speak your mind, as people dont generally have time to judge every little thing everybody does lol. Smile and be confident!

December 23, 2012 at 1:03 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

SMILE YOUR BIGGEST SMILE AND EVERYTHING WILL BE ALRIGHT...follow your heart......

December 23, 2012 at 5:27 PM  
Anonymous judogirl said...

do some sports i use to be shy beacasue of lace of confadine than when i stared judo i stared to have confdines and alos look in the miore and think of thing that yuo like about your self or make a wall in your room that sais good thing abot you

December 23, 2012 at 7:01 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

what sports do you do judogirl?

December 23, 2012 at 10:20 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@love? So true!

December 25, 2012 at 3:54 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@judogirl, thats such a sweet idea!

December 25, 2012 at 3:55 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

@love? Maybe judo?

December 25, 2012 at 3:56 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

OH yeah!hee hee...sssssmmmmmmmmmaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrttttttttt:D (@hugsandsmiles)

December 25, 2012 at 7:08 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

cutepiggyjj99 : First of all, try not to dump your friend. If she's nice to you, don't be mean to her because you feel jealous. If it's really bothering you, talk to her. Tell her about how you feel jealous sometimes because she is very good at most things. If she's your true friend, she wont get mad at you or start crying. Maybe you guys can do something together, like study, or play a sport you both have never played. Next, if you want to make a new friend, ask to do something with them. For example, at lunch, say "Hi, I'm ________ and I was wondering if maybe i could sit here?" If they say No or maybe another day, don't get discouraged, there is a lot more people at the school. Hope this helps!

December 28, 2012 at 4:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when your in 6th grade your life starts to get harder like,my friend melanie she is popular in school and im only her back-up friend.when i go to her house she goes out and knocks for her friends,i used to talk to everybody's friends at their houses now i am as quiet as a mouse and she also hangs out with boys.,i used to always hang out with boys.i hate it im getting more shy cause i think people talk about me,behind my back and beleive me it is not fun.i started being my proper-self and boosted up my confidence,so yeah now im actually being talked to.

December 30, 2012 at 5:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do not feel shy to be who you are you are one of a kind be who you are because if you do not think your pretty then you will not seem pretty. So believe that you are pretty because you probably are and I learn from experience I used to fight with my friends about being pretty and now after a couple of weeks after friends and family love and encouragement I am a self confindent young lady.hope my advice works.

December 30, 2012 at 9:08 PM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

Hidden? My beauty is perfectly visible, thank you very much haha!

December 31, 2012 at 5:34 AM  
Anonymous Hugsandsmiles said...

So true!

December 31, 2012 at 5:37 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm the same with speeches and presentations, can't help blushing!

December 31, 2012 at 11:10 PM  
Anonymous love? said...

if i'm shy i smile:D

January 3, 2013 at 1:26 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

yep

January 3, 2013 at 3:29 AM  
Anonymous Natie said...

I am shy as well. Well I'm scared to show who I really am. I just take a deep breath and keep going.
You are never as young as you are today. Enjoy the ride that life brings never look back, no regrets.

January 3, 2013 at 7:40 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't be shy especially around your friends because if they are your true friends they don't care what you look like. I'm shy sometimes to but if I hang out with my friends and talk to other people with them then I'm comfortable.
Have fun being young and don't care what people think about your looks!

January 4, 2013 at 12:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It is okay to be shy. Just so you know shy you might not get to see interesting things around the world. Not shy people know everything and sometime it is kind if boring. Being shy is just who u r, and that is not a problem!!

January 6, 2013 at 4:11 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't be shy, look around you with a strong courage girl/boy.

January 6, 2013 at 4:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was shy for a long time then I decided that if I was insane and crazy then I would have more fun

January 17, 2013 at 7:47 PM  
Anonymous giants girl said...

i was shy, i mean super shy, but my teacher told my mom that i was shy, and i made a poster about my dog, i made new friends, and i did nothing that said anything about me. now im screaming everyday and crazy and insane and im popualar now. but i think its awesome that you went on here and said you need help, not just be shy the rest of your life, your awesome, and i will say it again you, are, AWESOME!!!!!!!

January 20, 2013 at 4:29 PM  
Anonymous Chocoholic Jr. said...

Jemma i need to ask something. what shall i do if my period comes and the only adult i can turn to is my dad? please answer as soon as possible Jemma as my period could arrive any day now...

P.S. could i please have a logo??? i know your really busy but i would seriously appreciate it...:)

January 29, 2013 at 3:42 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I've NEVER been able to talk to new people befor I've seen them for like 3 days. I just can't get over it! I'm fine on a computer game but in real life I'll just run away :(
Thanks though. This has REALLY helped.

February 2, 2013 at 2:18 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

id recomend taking a risk and wearing your most sparkely shirt,bright colored jeans,best shoes and favorite perfume and lipgloss and make the other people say WOW! ive never seen you wear anything cooler! THen maybe you will be less shy. Go for it!

February 9, 2013 at 3:16 AM  
Anonymous Supercute Blue said...

I'm not really that bouncy and crazy like many of my friends, I may be even a little shy at times, but I don't really care because I have a nice group of friends.
The advice on this page is really good. Anyone who needs advice should definitely get it from these people. :)

February 23, 2013 at 2:39 PM  
Anonymous star555 said...

im very shy too

April 6, 2013 at 2:31 PM  
Anonymous kewlkatkitty said...

Well, being shy is how you are. You shouldn't change who you are, but at the same time you got to do what you got to do. So, maybe you can start small. Here is a plan:
Days 1 and 2- Make an effort to say Hi to people in the halls
Days 3 and 4- Keep saying hi. Also, raise your hand more in class
Days 5 and 6 and 7- Follow days 1,2,3,4, advice. Also, make small talk with people.
Example- 'accidentally' bump into another girl'. Say sorry and then say how clumsy you are. (even if you're not) trust me it makes good small talk.

April 13, 2013 at 3:36 PM  
Anonymous snufflethedawg said...

It's OK to be shy. This is how I got rid of my shyness, I started saying hi to people when you walk past them, On the bus on the way back from school (and to school) I see lot's of my primary school friends (girls and boys!) I try to think of topics to talk about!!! Hope it helped!

April 15, 2013 at 11:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

i wanna ask a guy out but i think he likes another girl and im afraid he'll say no and it'll ruin our frindship. too shy! what do I do???

April 28, 2013 at 9:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well you can always do it the easy way have a friend that you trsu do these steps
- Hey do you like (ur name) cuz you guys would be adorable together
- no i like (his crush)
-well keep (ur name) in mind cuz shes awsome THINK PINK

May 2, 2013 at 3:01 PM  
Anonymous coolgabs1216 said...

tips to be less shy
1. start small talk with people
2. find a person who may help you with your plan to be less shy
3. be involved in after-school activity you may find your niche.
Good luck :)

June 1, 2013 at 2:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

All gurlz are amazing. Be proud of who you are. Girl power. Also don't get too nervous about puberty because think of what girls can do and guys don't. Like wearing dresses, high heels, bras,period ( you know all those stuff )

YOLO girl power

June 11, 2013 at 2:42 AM  
Anonymous silly flower said...

So sorry. :( but b proud of who u r. I agree with anonymous. Girl power!

June 26, 2013 at 12:53 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Its okay I used to be shy too. But you can get plenty of advice to help you overcome shyness. Here are some tip from me that should help you. Hope it helps :)
1. Try practicing by talking to someone you know and pretend its someone else
2. Take a deep breath and relax when talking to people you can talk about anything like - "What did you do on weekend." - Or "What your favorite vacation spot"

3. Talk to a trusted adult or mentor to help.

August 3, 2013 at 5:39 PM  

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